I am going trough a moment in my life where I have been unable to study or work for about 6 months. I keep freezing, and just cannot get anything done. And I know I shouldn't but I feel guilty, embarrased and I feel weak.
Why do some people go trough childhood negligence and manage to turn 18 and leave? Why do they manage to work? Why don't I? Why can't I just get my ass up and do what I need to do to survive?
It's so infuriating. I am not depressed. I love life, I have so many passions but I just cannot fucking get up and do them. I've spent money in classes and I still don't go. I even put on clothes, get ready and when it's time to leave it's always the same. I get inside my bed and cover me with the blankets, and just freeze there for hours, until I have to walk my dog.
People tell me to be disciplined and I honestly want to rip their eyes out lol
I want a life so desperately. Why am I so weak? Why couldn't my trauma just manifested as being a workaholic or being extremely independent and a loner? I still live under my abusers roof and I've been trying to leave for years.
I also dwell on this frustration. It comes from toxic comparison, which I think is also a CPTSD thing. Feeling on the outside looking in and desiring to participate in normalcy so badly.
I just wanted to say you are not weak... This isn't about strength or discipline, it's about primitive self-preserving responses and hardcore conditioning development through years of abuse. It's a process that involves the recuperation of the nervous system, hormone levels, brain activity besides psychological reframing.
I think we achieve more when we strive to recognize our victories (even if we think they are small) because they serve as stabilizers so we can manage other tasks in the future. You said you walk your dog and I thought that's actually impressive because for me it gets hard even going outside my apartment when in a crisis, I can stay locked in for many days on end.