That interpretation of sex as the man being the “active” one and the woman being the “passive” one, is completely subjective and arbitrary.

Penetrating someone doesn’t make anyone the “active” party by default. Ask a person with their hand inside a lion’s mouth, who holds the power.

English is not my mother tongue, so when I first heard the term “assclown” I didn’t quite get it.

Thank your future ex for me, would you? For the English lesson.

YTA, even if it’s just for thinking you “own” your children.

Nunca sabes la situación de la otra persona. Yo por ejemplo, una vez me olvide mi cartera en un bondi con todo mi sueldo adentro, porque tenía 17 años y tengo TDAH y autismo, y no se me ocurrió que era una mala idea.

Me quede en la parada del bondi llorando, un tachero me ofreció llevarme a la terminal de bondis que justo estaba cerca, los colectiveros me dijeron cuál era el último bondi que había llegado, el colectivero del bondi en el que viajé no me robó nada, me devolvió la cartera íntegra.

No se que hubiera hecho sin toda esa gente de buena fe.

Las cosas están complicadas en el país, pero hay héroes sin capa que aportan su granito de arena para sostener lo que queda de nuestra dignidad como sociedad.

Vos fuiste una de esas personas el otro día, y creo que deberías sentirte orgulloso. Sobre todo porque en la situación en la que estás, fue particularmente difícil.

Lo que nos define no es lo que hacemos cuando las cosas están fáciles, sino las decisiones que tomamos en los peores momentos. Ese día, mostraste quien sos. Y lo que sos, es una persona que hace de nuestra sociedad, algo mejor.

NTA. Cut her off. Good on you for blurring the pictures, though. That was the right thing to do, and I’m impressed you were able to think about it going through such a hard time.

This has happened to me my whole life, to different degrees. I’m now in a particularly challenging moment with it. If anyone finds any way of coping with it, please let us know.

I don’t condone hitting kids, ever. Or so I thought. In this particular case, he needed to learn how it feels when someone stronger than you hits you, and there’s nothing you can do about it.

He needed to learn that because he won’t be 11 for ever, and once he grows, he’ll be stronger than most of the women he’ll come across. He’ll something get mad, and I think from this day onwards, he won’t consider reacting physically.

He should never be hit again, but he will always, more than likely, remember this particular lesson. In this case, I think the benefit might outweigh the damage.

Vos porque estás desinformado, tenés que leer más JumBot.

Me gustan particularmente.

That suffering is pain + resistance to what happened. We can’t avoid the pain, but by accepting what happened instead of resisting it, we can avoid suffering.

Impecable humaning, 10/10. If you’re ever at a low point, which we know they always come, please think back to this moment. I applaud you, kind stranger.

The ONLY way I can moisturise consistently is by using a shower cream. Some body wash brands come with shower cream included! So that’s a bonus, ‘cause I only have to remember one thing.

Also, the only way I can exfoliate is by using a loofah to apply the body wash.

So I’d recommend getting a loofah and a body wash with shower cream included, but take this advice with a grain of salt since I’m not a dermatologist, I’m simply an AUDHDer with chronically dry, itchy and flaky legs 🤷🏻‍♀️

I had a lovely dinner with my husband and my bestie. My husband has ADHD, my bestie has ADHD although we highly suspect AUDHD, I’m AUDHD.

We had some amazing food, exchanged gifts, and watch the Freakazoid Christmas episode, and the “Jingle all the way” movie.

We had Christmas lights everywhere but had no light excess, no loud noises, no mandatory pleasantries exchanged. No small talk. No creepy relatives, no awkward silence, no “pretending to like the gifts”. Just pure, unrestrained, neurodivergent joy.

It was awesome.

En Irlanda tienen un gobierno asistencialista, con planes y ayudas para la vivienda mucho más importantes que en Argentina, al punto de que nadie que no quiera vivir en la calle está obligado a hacerlo, pueda o no trabajar.

Lo sé porque viví ahí dos años y medio, y me fui hace menos de un año.

Estaría bueno que no repitamos cosas sin saber.

I’ll give those a go! Thank you so much for the recommendation 🙏

Anxiety toasty. I kinda like it.

I find the subject pretty interesting, if I’m being honest.

It always fascinated me, trying to understand how some people can reach such extreme levels of violence and lack of empathy. It’s extremely sad and reprehensible, but it’s also interesting from a behavioural standpoint.

I’ve been thinking about reading that one!

I’m a little put off by the idea of reading the same book Charles Manson studied so obsessively, but I guess I’ll have to get over it.

Not a problem.

I looked on the previous posts first and although there are a lot of amazing resources that have already been shared here, I haven’t found any that focus on this particular subject.

I’ve been through the frustrating experience of looking for some online, which inevitably lead me to infinite resources for children with autism, and scarcely any aimed for recently diagnosed adults.

This group is clearly filled with kindled spirits so, before burning myself up trying to fish actually useful advice on the net, I though I might instead ask here first.

You already know what you should be doing, so take this comment as a sign and go do it.

Yes, you. Yes, that. Yes, now.

I don’t know where you’re based but just in case you’re in Dublin, from E&S Doctors, are very understanding of ADHD folks in my experience.

I’d recommend trying your luck there. In any case, I agree with the general consensus of changing your GP, I simply don’t see any other way to resolve this issue.

Absolutely. And they’re FREE and accesible to all! These exercises sound strange, but I do hope someone on this thread tries them out. They were very helpful for me.

I’ve struggled with anxiety, depression and CPTSD my whole life, along with an unbelievable lack of energy. I’ve tried multiple things, I’ll tell you which were the most effective for me, and are either cheap or free.

1 - TRE exercises helped me a lot.

2 - I’m not sure what is it that you’re struggling with, but the school of life also helped me a lot and was recommended to me by another person with autism, back when I wasn’t diagnosed. It didn’t “make me feel better”, but it did help me see the automatic thoughts and error on my interpretation of certain situations, which in turn, made them less painful.

3 - Consuming at least 20g of proteins every day changed my life. It helps with both autism and ADHD, look it up. You don’t need to make a grand breakfast, a protein supplement does the trick.

4 - Drinking enough water. It’s hard. What I did was buy a water bottle I love, and have it always by my side. It might not work perfectly every time, but I sure drink a lot more water now than before.

5 - It turns out that light overstimulate me, makes me tired, anxious and depressed. Resting half and hour every 4 hours has been lifesaving. I simply close my eyes and listen to something entertaining, to rest my vision and keep my ADHD brain entertained.

6 - I’ve been recently told by a psychologist specialising in autism, that depression is not an emotion, is a behaviour pattern. The pattern of depression is neglecting 4 things: social interactions, things that are important for you, things that are important to get done, and pleasure-driven activities. The path out of depression for someone like you and me according to this doctor, is to pick one of those at a time and make it as frictionless as possible to include it into your daily life. Once you’ve managed to include and maintain one, add another.

7 - I had a B12 deficiency which is very common in people with ADHD. I’ve been taking supplements and it’s helped both my depression and overall energy.

8 - More than anything, there’s a vicious cycle between anxiety and depression. You can look it up, it’s clearly explained on YouTube. To nip depression in the but, you’ve gotta get your anxiety in check first. The thing that helps me with my anxiety is getting organised. Regarding this last point I gotta be honest with you, I wouldn’t be able to get organised without my ADHD meds. But maybe some combination of the above helps you enough to get you through to your own ADHD diagnosis.

Still, I would love to see her try.