you can always come back. you should go and explore and live in all the places you wanna try.

idk if this is a Canadian thing but dare showed us a video of a guy who shot himself (eta: in his face) on drugs and had a recovering drug addict come in and talk to us. i think like 6th or 7th grade. def convinced me to stay off hard drugs lol

thanks!

do you print your own?

a pattern is a pattern

i had a pisces streak and will not date them anymore. they are too good at manipulating me to do things by making me feel guilty

hey! i just quit my software engineering job at a big tech company to focus on art. i was there 5 yrs and looking to do some part time contract work if you want another hand. i can tell you more about my past projects + experience in dms but ive done lots of mvps as i worked on internal apps. hmu!

eta: im 33

where can you go tubing around there? preferably without getting shot at lol

you should do pet portrait commissions. your cat piece is absolutely amazing

Hired hands

totally agree on the point that the boring bits are necessary part of life, but life with 9-5 can be really fun too. just wanted to add that bc when i was in college i thought once i got a real job id have no time for fun. but i think having a job is even more fun bc no homework + money to fund hobbies/travel/fun activities.

idk why everyone hates it. i just got mine for $25 and i think it sounds amazing lol. reddit is so snobby sometimes

super easy one - just mix mayo (duke’s) and ketchup

가시고기 is a classic i also loved 괭이부리말 아이들 when i was growing up

i miss mezzo salads 💚

those are all the same thoughts on my mind. a part of me worries that it’s going to fast but a part of me recognizes all relationships are different and i should focus on how i feel (while still being cautious and mindful). thanks for bringing the last part up. i do think that’s something i can learn to do and ask for.

thanks! he is! i feel so lucky to have met him

im sorry it didn’t go well. did you get to try everything you wanted?

i feel you. nothing is forever tho and that’s not a bad thing. good days come and go but so do bad days! im at a better place now but when i was struggling a lot and questioning like you, i always gave myself a year to see if it would get better. doing that kinda made me try things that i thought would make things better or make me happy since i only got a year to try things. idk if it would work for everyone one but it’s worked for me

keep doing what works. healing isn’t linear. just bc you get triggered again doesn’t mean you’re not getting better

what have you tried to help with the self control issue?

you’re not an idiot. sometimes you just have to let the words out. you can write everything you want to say to her in a letter, walk away, and then come back and decide if you want/need to send it to her.

try texting them to yourself

i do this bc i don’t believe that anyone could love me. ive done it in past relationships and looking back, i think i made my exes feel like they weren’t doing a good enough job loving me. but the truth is that im like a black hole sometimes. when people tell me or show me they love me the words and actions get sucked into a black hole and no longer exist. i know this about myself and that this is caused by my traumatic experiences from my childhood including my mother telling me that men only would want me for sex, and asking me, why would anyone like you? i used to say to my exes all the time, you don’t love me, but i realized what i really wanted was to be reminded that they love me, so instead i started asking, do you love me? to receive that reassurance. im trying to turn my black hole into a library and when my bf does something or says something that makes me feel loved, i write it down and i reassure myself. i don’t want to make him feel like he’s not loving me well enough. but when i want reassurance from him, i just ask.

🤍 proud of you for walking away