#Discussion and advice on dating and the dating phase of relationships for people over the age of 30 

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| Rule 1 | Dating Over Thirty (DOT) is about dating and the pre-cohabitation phase of romantic relationships for people over the age of 30. This is not a place to post personals or R4R's. |
| Rule 2 | Posts must share a detailed experience and either pose a question or request advice. Questions lacking sufficient context may be removed. Update posts and profile reviews are allowed. Posters are expected to participate in the discussion on their posts. |
| Rule 3 | Posts by users who have little or no comment history on DOT will be removed.  Users can build history by commenting on other posts or in the [daily sticky threads](https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverthirty/about/sticky).  Members with sufficient comment history on DOT may request to use a throwaway by [messaging the mods](https://www.reddit.com/message/compose?to=%2Fr%2Fdatingoverthirty) from their main account first. |
| Rule 4 | Be excellent to one another! This is a place for all races, genders, sexual orientations, non-exploitive sexual preferences and humanity in general. Gendered/sexualized insults such as slut, fuckboy, manchild, and so on are not allowed even in jest. |
| Rule 5 | RedPill, incel, Femcel, FDS, PUA, MGTOW, etc... content is not allowed. Claiming ignorance of these hate groups and their ideologies is not an excuse. Do not dehumanize others. No gender generalizations. |
| Rule 6 | No doxxing or personally identifiable information. |
| Rule 7 | No low-effort posts, karma farming, memes, videos, screenshots, meta posts, shower thoughts or proselytizing. |
| Rule 8 | No spam, self-promotion, commercialization, announcements, blogging, recruitment or surveys. |
| Rule 9 | Rants, vents, forever-alone posts, validation-seeking and other posts that do not promote discussion will be removed. These should be directed to the [daily sticky threads](https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverthirty/about/sticky). |
| Rule 10 | Frequently posted topics removed at moderator discretion.  Including but not limited to: starting over, virgins, living with parents, dealbreakers, chemistry/spark, single parents, dating anxiety, sarcasm, texting issues, ghosting and moving on. Please use the [search function](https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverthirty/search?q=&restrict_sr=on&include_over_18=on&sort=relevance&t=all). |

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**Other Subreddits You May Find Helpful**

* r/sexover30

* r/40something 

* r/datingoverforty

* r/Relationshipsover35

* r/AskMenOver30

* r/AskWomenOver30

* r/OVER30REDDIT 

*  r/dating

* r/dating_advice

* r/longdistance

* r/survivorsofabuse

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<div class="md"><h1>Discussion and advice on dating and the dating phase of relationships for people over the age of 30</h1>

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<td align="center">Rule 1</td>
<td align="left">Dating Over Thirty (DOT) is about dating and the pre-cohabitation phase of romantic relationships for people over the age of 30. This is not a place to post personals or R4R&#39;s.</td>
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<td align="center">Rule 2</td>
<td align="left">Posts must share a detailed experience and either pose a question or request advice. Questions lacking sufficient context may be removed. Update posts and profile reviews are allowed. Posters are expected to participate in the discussion on their posts.</td>
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<td align="center">Rule 3</td>
<td align="left">Posts by users who have little or no comment history on DOT will be removed.  Users can build history by commenting on other posts or in the <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverthirty/about/sticky">daily sticky threads</a>.  Members with sufficient comment history on DOT may request to use a throwaway by <a href="https://www.reddit.com/message/compose?to=%2Fr%2Fdatingoverthirty">messaging the mods</a> from their main account first.</td>
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<td align="center">Rule 4</td>
<td align="left">Be excellent to one another! This is a place for all races, genders, sexual orientations, non-exploitive sexual preferences and humanity in general. Gendered/sexualized insults such as slut, fuckboy, manchild, and so on are not allowed even in jest.</td>
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<td align="center">Rule 5</td>
<td align="left">RedPill, incel, Femcel, FDS, PUA, MGTOW, etc... content is not allowed. Claiming ignorance of these hate groups and their ideologies is not an excuse. Do not dehumanize others. No gender generalizations.</td>
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<td align="center">Rule 6</td>
<td align="left">No doxxing or personally identifiable information.</td>
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<td align="center">Rule 7</td>
<td align="left">No low-effort posts, karma farming, memes, videos, screenshots, meta posts, shower thoughts or proselytizing.</td>
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<td align="center">Rule 8</td>
<td align="left">No spam, self-promotion, commercialization, announcements, blogging, recruitment or surveys.</td>
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<td align="center">Rule 9</td>
<td align="left">Rants, vents, forever-alone posts, validation-seeking and other posts that do not promote discussion will be removed. These should be directed to the <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverthirty/about/sticky">daily sticky threads</a>.</td>
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<td align="center">Rule 10</td>
<td align="left">Frequently posted topics removed at moderator discretion.  Including but not limited to: starting over, virgins, living with parents, dealbreakers, chemistry/spark, single parents, dating anxiety, sarcasm, texting issues, ghosting and moving on. Please use the <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverthirty/search?q=&amp;restrict_sr=on&amp;include_over_18=on&amp;sort=relevance&amp;t=all">search function</a>.</td>
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<p><strong><em>We reserve the right to ban users and/or remove content at our discretion. Private messages or direct Reddit Chat message to moderators about moderator actions will be ignored. If you have any questions about the moderation or the actions of moderators, you must send them to the mod team <a href="https://www.reddit.com/message/compose?to=%2Fr%2Fdatingoverthirty">via modmail</a>. No other forum is acceptable.</em></strong></p>

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<p><strong><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverthirty/wiki/index">Link to our Wiki</a></strong></p>

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<p>People who are happily partnered in relationships are also encouraged to participate. Just because you aren&#39;t currently dating doesn&#39;t mean you don&#39;t have wisdom to impart on those who are. Sometimes a different perspective is helpful. </p>

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<p>Members are encouraged to use flair to display their gender and age/age range. This can be done by clicking the edit button above, selecting one of the icons below, then editing in your age/age range.</p>

<p>♀ Female</p>

<p>♂ Male</p>

<p>☿ Trans</p>

<p>You are welcome to display additional information. Here are some icons you can copy/paste into your flair. Note that not all devices support these icons.</p>

<p>Gay: ⚣</p>

<p>Lesbian: ⚢</p>

<p>Bi-sexual: ⚤ </p>

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<p><strong>Other Subreddits You May Find Helpful</strong></p>

<ul>
<li><p><a href="/r/sexover30">r/sexover30</a></p></li>
<li><p><a href="/r/40something">r/40something</a> </p></li>
<li><p><a href="/r/datingoverforty">r/datingoverforty</a></p></li>
<li><p><a href="/r/Relationshipsover35">r/Relationshipsover35</a></p></li>
<li><p><a href="/r/AskMenOver30">r/AskMenOver30</a></p></li>
<li><p><a href="/r/AskWomenOver30">r/AskWomenOver30</a></p></li>
<li><p><a href="/r/OVER30REDDIT">r/OVER30REDDIT</a> </p></li>
<li><p><a href="/r/dating">r/dating</a></p></li>
<li><p><a href="/r/dating_advice">r/dating_advice</a></p></li>
<li><p><a href="/r/longdistance">r/longdistance</a></p></li>
<li><p><a href="/r/survivorsofabuse">r/survivorsofabuse</a></p></li>
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Dating Over Thirty

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A subreddit for folks nearing or over 30 who are looking for dating advice.

<div class="md"><p>A subreddit for folks nearing or over 30 who are looking for dating advice.</p>
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#Posts must share a story and either promote discussion or request advice.  Please review our [rules](https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverthirty/about/rules) before posting.

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