In relation to CPTSD, narcissistic parents, religious trauma, etc.
I'm not officially diagnosed with CPTSD, I don't know if I ever will (I currently live in a developing nation, where people don't really care about mental healthy), but these are some things I experience:
- Childhood physical abuse. I was regularly corporally punished. I blocked out the memory until I turned 29, where I, alongside my partner at the time, watched a scene of a father taking off his belt to beat his wife triggered me. Stripping my lower clothes was regularly involved. The worst thing I can recall is strangled by my female parent when she was raging one evening when I was in fourth grade. It was a weekday. I remember the room, the way the light trickled through the windows, and how she was raging outside the bedroom before coming to me. Threat of physical violence continued all the way until late teens.
- Emotional abuse and abandonment/neglect. My parents aren't emotionally aware or literate. But my female parent once responded to me feeling overwhelmed with "Oh, you feel suicidal? Let me help you die, then."
- Extreme rug-sweeping of every possible challenging situation, such as my younger siblings dysfunction (mental health issues, criminal activity, constant lying, stealing etc.).
I run out of energy for this, but maybe I'll continue this someday.
I'm just tired of feeling like I'm crazy for my intense unhealthy patterns.
OP, I see you.
I feel helpless quite often too, despite all the work and knowing that I do make progress regularly.
I think we will always want a loving family, to have our tribe, our village. Always.
In my own experience, it's usually sitting with/listening to my Inner Child, who's still quite scared, confused, and will probably always be for the rest of my natural life (it's alright, I've decided to love her and do my best for her, so that we - all parts of me - can live a meaningful, satisfying, and peaceful life).
Is it possible to just sit with all of the "negative things"/challenges in your life right now?
It's OK to not achieving and living a different life to anyone else. I'm actively doing that because I want to live for me, first and foremost, and no longer for anyone else.
Therapy stopped helping. Medications are making things worse. I really wish I could be with a loving family. Is this just a phase?
CPTSD