Just ask, when i was in person i would always rearrange the chairs in my therapist's office so i could sit in the chair i liked at the angle i was comfortable with. the most my therapist did was chuckle at me for it lol

I think for me any additional preparation i can do for retirement, the better. Im lookin into buying back some addtl service credit for my pension as well. I'm in my mid 30s but I also don't want to be stuck forced to work until retirement lol

Thank you so sooo much for all of the explanations!! This is alot more understandable now and has definitely helped give me some insight!

Nobody in my family knows about this kind of stuff. Theyre the "put ur savings under ur mattress" type and I'm tryin to evolve my financial literacy beyond hiding money in my house lol

Thank u sooo much for taking the time to explain this!!! Im comin into some extra funds and I'm tryin to research as much info so i make the most of this but I was getting lost lol

Another potentially dumb question: With these brokerage accts, is it something u just leave alone for years and just add to it occasionally?? Or would I need to monitor it/the stock market?

not a doctor/medical provider

since u didnt hit ur head i dont think u got a concussion. possibly strained ur neck which would explain the headache. nerve pain in ur legs is typically from ur lumbar area.

No, but im also not allowing someone to do a full set of bad nails lol i will politely point out if something isnt desirable.

my gma is currently 81, lives on her own, drives and just does what she wants lol her hearing is going just slightly but thats consistent genetically anyway. other than that she's healthy and happy.

Shes very active, mindful of her age for safety reasons, works in her garden, volunteers in her community, loves learning new hobbies, attends church but isnt necessarily religious (i think she goes out of habit/community), she has a small group of friends but she cant stand them lol

her biggest tip for me was to never get married, dating was fine but not married.

i can technically retire now if i medically retire but i dont feel justified to do it so...idk hopefully before 60/65. but no set age as of now. Mid 30s currently

damn...that's crazy

i 2nd the other comment about talkin to the dr while shes getting her scans. consider maybe requesting they hold her for a psych eval, explain all of the recent erratic behavior and concerns. Idk if mentioning abuse will help things or hurt it as i know some providers pay attention to that and others kind of brush it off.

Its very confusing tbh. in my case, im brown skinned/medium tone but i have been told by a variety of people i don't have AA features or that i look mixed. I have only ever identified as Black/AA and kept my hair in box braids/AA styles. I also speak English, Spanish and Portuguese. My family only speaks English, i had to constantly tell my roommate I am not Afro Latina, beautiful culture and people but thats just not what I am. I am predominantly black, my parents are black, grandparents are black etc. It was really odd. She spoke multiple languages too so i assumed she would get that speaking a language doesnt change your ethnicity but it was a constant thing with her lol

Its all good, I was ignorant to there even being a diaspora war. i thought we were all Black so it was automatic vibes lol a friend of mine warned me, shes AA and an ex close friend of hers from directly from Africa (forgot which country specifically) and i guess they had some issues. I just took it as nah thats just them and not that common but i learned. im still open to meeting more people from the motherland i just look at it more of what could happen again not necessarily it automatically will.

fwiw i deal with colorism and bias from my own too so every group has their thing

Yes. I roomed with a Nigerian-American woman and I'm AA also W African but far removed for obv reasons. There were alot of underhanded comments made unfortunately. I had never known anyone directly from Africa and was thrilled, she had some past negative experiences and perceptions of AAs and it just created a semi toxic dynamic. I stayed a year and moved out of her home, though i wish i could have stayed.

YES! And for me it's so...awkward. lol i think because i can separate types of attraction like I can find someone that i think is nice looking but not want to hook up/anythin more and just be fine. i think my guy friends (the 2 mentioned above) conflate all attraction to mean we gotta date orxdo something.

It's interesting from an outside perspective but awkward when ur in it lol

Absolutely!! I saw where u were headed with that and completely agree!

i have always felt guilty for leaving/missing work even tho my job and reason for leaving are both heavily protected. ive had my job for over 10yrs and i feel guilty everytime still.

i just accept that feeling so it can pass and move on. i dont sit and stress over feeling guilty for hours like i used to.

I do not relate lol

i love yall but i get extra overstimulated with my fellow adhd-ers. i can chill best with my 'tism gang tho

I have to be attracted to someone to become friends with them but it's platonic/physical (physical meaning they might be pretty/nice looking but nothing sexual) attraction.

As I get to know them it typically never switches to a sexual/romantic attraction but that could very much just be me. I either grow to love their personality and want to remain friends or i get to know them and realize i dont like their personality enough to be friends and leave. I have deep feelings for my close friends but they havent ever been sexual. idk if other women are like this too or it's one of the spectrum starter pack traits i was given lol

i think it takes a certain level of emotional maturity, mutual respect and honest communication on both ends for this to genuinely work Not to say it's not possible but i think those things are typically missing in those scenarios leading to a big ass mess/ruptured friendships etc.

this made me cackle, thank u lol

TLDR: Can kind of testify to this but agree!

I make guy friends easily bcuz i was in the gay party scene as a young adult (obv gay men are different for us women than straights) so i didnt realize this was the case with my straight guy friends until my early 30s.

Was friends with 2 straight men, 1 i did find attractive and the other i didnt but loved his personality. I never expressed interest beyond friends to either of them as i was new in that group.

The 1 i was attracted to got married but made a move once back when he was single/v drunk and i politely backed off and things were fine after. Now the one i am not attracted to is the 1 i have to watch. Idk when in the 15+yrs we've known each other he developed something but I have had to be on guard and gently pushing him back in the friend zone for years now. Thankfully he has a girlfriend now lol

It's 1000 times easier to just have gay guy friends instead lmao

is there a explain like im 5 area for what exactly ETFs & brokerage accts are for?

i kno they are for buying/trading but why would the average person who doesn't know anythin about stocks/shares, want them??

yup, its normal.

i dont stay where ive outgrown when it comes to people

not regularly, i saw an ENT prior to my tbi for vestibular migraines and tinnitus in 1 ear...now i have tinnitus in both so it just seems fruitless

stares at huge squishmallow acquired at costco...

no.

also who cares. i am in my mid 30s and every single person i am friends with has some kind of something they keep like that. i have guy friends that have blankets, special pillow, stuffed animals etc.