Why is it so easy to talk to other people with ADHD??

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Yes! Talking to a NT can feel like having your brain on a leash and living at quarter speed. It’s like if you are a juggler walking around and everyone is freaking out why you have all these objects up in the air, then - another juggler walks up and starts juggling with you…

One of my co-workers has ADHD and even though his experience is vastly different from mine, I know I can just blurt out random thoughts and he won't bat an eye.

You can jabber on and lurch between topics and outburst random thoughts and they don't flinch because it melds in with how their own brains work. It's so freeing. It's like two ends of a flailing broken power line joining together to create a circuit.

Other ND people (ADHD or Autism) are the only people I can freely talk to. We can keep up with each other, feed the conversation, and there's less miscommunication.

With other people I'm told to calm down because they perceive my excitement as something negative. I have to hold back because I don't want to overwhelm them. A lot of times it feels like we're working with different sets of tools, so I have to go through the energy of translating.

Talking to other ND people vs NT people is like talking to my siblings vs the kids down the street

This!!! When I worked in a pharmacy there’d be patients coming in for their adhd meds. I’d ask how they were working for them (to show we had no judgement there, also curious) and it would always end up with me telling them I have it too and am also medicated. One time there was a woman who had cancer in the past, still didn’t have her hair, and was sick of people looking at her as she has cancer. She was telling me about the problems of remembering to take her meds and I gave her one of our weekly pill organizers and told her I drew a sun on mine for morning. Next refill she said how much better her life was, she could physically SEE if she took them that morning then we started talking about so many other things. (There was no one behind her)

I’m lucky my boss much rather have rapport than numbers, and I was the only one able to connect with a lot of people, even if they didn’t have adhd.

Most people were mean, and cruel. But one nice person like her would outweigh 100 not nice people. I remember her, not the “bad” ones.

If we're the same brand of neurospiciness, everything just gets easier! We can have 5 different conversations inside one big one, jump topics, and skip ahead three points (at least) because our brains move that fast.

I find with other ADHDers, even if our opinions differ, our method of thinking and drawing conclusions can be similar.

I know that we're going to probably be similar in some ways so I don't have to mask. Fidgeting? The more the better. Eye contact? What's that?

It's such a relief to be with someone who has a similar brain!

I was diagnosed and started treating my ADHD a few months ago - just as I was starting my current job. I’ve been so anxious and scared about my boss finding out that I’m not always “on” because of my condition.

I’m stopping Adderall bc stimulants just don’t work well with my body. (Potentially moving to Strattera when my body gets back to baseline). I have co-morbidities and other conditions and found the stimulants actually made me manic. I’ve been constantly achey, uncomfortable, I crash by 4pm and can’t get through my day. So there’s been no hiding it and I finally had to confide in my boss why I wasn’t performing at 100% like I’m known for.

Turns out - SHE’S GOING THROUGH THE SAME EXACT THING!! She’s going through a lot and has been masking at work and breaking down when home. Something about learning that she struggles with it too, has reignited my compassion and now I want to dive into work and help her. The fact that we can commiserate together, and that she gets it, isn’t judging me or holding my condition against me, has motivated me even more. I know a lot of us have that people pleasing/ martyr/ superhero complex that can backfire on us. But one element of ADHD that helps me function and hold onto self-confidence, is knowing that I’m able to show up for other people. I don’t know how to take care of myself, but I know how to carry people I care about on my shoulder across the finish line. That’s always been my “super power” and I’ve been hiding it to blend in with the normies.

I’m obviously not happy that my boss, or anyone struggles. But when ND’s work together and share compassion and grace over our ADHD, we can move mountains. Forums like this, and communicating and commiserating with other ADHDers is invaluable in the process of navigating and overcoming those struggles.

Love to y’all! I appreciate you so much!! ❤️

My coworker and I (she’s mid-40s and just now going through the process of getting diagnosed- initial person she talked to said she couldn’t have ADHD because she has a PHD….🙄) have been talking about this! We’re both able to spot kids with ADHD from a mile away. It’s like a beacon. We spotted each other from a mile away. We even have our eye on a third colleague who we know ALSO has undiagnosed ADHD.

I think there’s like- a sparkle? to people with ADHD. And that’s in no way meant to take away from how hard the disorder can make things, but honestly- when a person with ADHD is excited about something they’re interested in, is there anything more pure and wonderful? It’s like- actual childlike wonder. It’s so cool. And that sparkle comes through in conversation whenever anything pops up that is exciting or interesting.

We also all have some of the same sorts of conversational “tics” so to speak. One of the big ones is to tend to respond to someone’s story with a “oh! Hey, I relate to that, here’s a thing that happened to me” kind of story, which is something that, I have been told, neurotypical folks find irritating. There’s also a natural bounce to the conversation that two ADHD people don’t find frustrating or hard to follow at all.

Neurotypical people all see sort of- one dimensional. Until you REALLY get to know them, and you realize that’s not true. But it’s hard to really get to know them. 🤷‍♀️

Depends on types.. some fellow ADHD’ers are like oil& water, but maybe that’s just the folks that are too similar to me…& make me realize I drive me nuts!! Shout out to my partner for putting up with my shenanigans! 

This is so true! I found my friend group 8 years ago and over the years we nearly all were diagnosed with AD(H)D. We vibe so well, we understand each other on another level

The mask can drop to the floor!

I love to clock a stranger. Five minutes into a conversation I'm thinking, "wow, you're really going my speed, huh?" And then five minutes later one of us finds a way to work it into the conversation because we both already know. It's so comfortable and easy!

It’s like people from the same planet meeting up. And you suddenly notice how unnatural all other convos actually feel…

Not really my experience. I’m more inattentive than hyperactive so maybe that’s why. But every person I know who has ADHD is super annoying to me. Like, I can barely get a word in a conversation, I feel like they are talking to me but not with me. I find oversharing, fast talking etc. exhausting. I vibe more with chill, calm people. Broad generalization of course because I don’t know the diagnosis of every person I talk to and even hyperactive people aren’t hyper 100% of the time.

God yes. My husband is adhd thank god and we sometimes go off on tangents with our conversations 🤣 my best friend is also adhd and we always joke about how our conversations must look so animated from the outside and how we often talk over each other but neither cares. I think it's bc you don't have to mask at all and it just feels nice to have a real conversation.

Yes I love it when someone can follow my pace

I have a bad habit of finishing others sentences or trying to give them words bc they talk so slow

My boyfriend and I both have ADHD. i was diagnosed at 33 (36 now) but I think he’s had it since he was a kid. I feel like he is wayyyy better managing it without meds but he’s had a lot longer time to figure it out. Lol. So far, our biggest issue is that we forget what we’re talking about sometimes. 🤣

BUT he doesn’t talk a lot. He listens very well and he engages in the conversation and he talks plenty enough. He’s just more reserved. I got shit from people for so many years saying I was annoying because I talk a lot once I get comfortable with someone. HE LOVES THAT. lmao. I do not understand. I am convinced he will get sick of it eventually but he says he won’t. I go from one thing to the next and have multiple topics going at one time and, probably because he has ADHD, he keeps up just fine enjoys it.

So I guess we do kind of “energize” each other. Conversations have definitely felt electric and I said that to him before. He keeps saying my talkative is exactly what he needed so his is just more internal, I guess. Lol.

I wish I had more like-minded friends. 😥 I don't think I've ever met someone similar who I click with and just talk the way I talk. I feel like I'm always surrounded by non-ADHD people and have to keep pretending to be "normal" and have my shit together.

My last ex was ADHD and holy crap i found it so easy to talk with him. We understood each other on this soul level anddddd he was incredibly hilarious. i swear to God it was like two five year olds with our humor 🤣 i had a middle school bff too who also had ADHD. we clicked so well and it just felt like we understood each other. i don't really have any ADHD friends anymore and godddd i really want one

It’s like being a foreigner in a place that speaks another language and then you run into someone who speaks your language. And you can just be like “ok but carnivorous plants are the best” and they get you.

I can always spot us.

I think there’s something about the flexibility and connectedness about the ADHD brain that makes it easier for an ADHD brain to understand another ADHD person talking compared to a non neurodivergent brain trying to understand an ADHD person talking.

I tend to connect concepts together which are very loosely connected. My son always does this when he talks and he jumps around in time and context in his stories. He may leave out the transition between two thoughts when speaking aloud. Another ADHD brain trying to understand this would have an easier time since they also loosely connect concepts etc

It’s fun because we get each other! We are sparkly and get extra sparkly in groups haha. I personally love talking to people with adhd because we can interrupt each other without judgement and jump all over the place 🤣 it’s so freeing!!!

We should probably come up with a birdcall or something.

🤣🤣🤣 I'm done lol. That is too funny.

Because we don't have to mask.

I know the electricity you describe. That’s usually my warning sign to cool down. We ADHDers tend to mirror the energy of a room, and if we are with another ADHDer, that energy is going to escalate. Our ability to regulate our emotions and be chill becomes extra hard mode, and our impulsivity gets out of control.

It’s awesome in the moment but I have major anxiety afterward.

To be honest, most other ADHDers (not all) make me uneasy up close. It’s not them (it’s just bad past experiences, really). I just don’t feel comfortable building deep relationships with other ADHDers. I’d rather be friends-at-a-distance, admire-from-afar.

I’m in a few social circles that are majority ND so it’s not like I avoid us, haha, I’m just very mindful of that electricity and I do my best to keep it to a minimum.

I love how with other adhd'ers we can just 'switch' topic (for one of us it might have been a completely logical pathway, but not for the others) and no one bats an eye. I feel with NT people I either have to focus 150% to stay on topic (and in the meanwhile forget 50% of the things I wanted to say/talk about) or have to over explain why I want to talk about something else, with a high chance they might think I'm talking too much, or making excuses, or am too chaotic.

My partner and kid have ADHD, as does a family friend we see regularly.

As a NT this appears to be because the longer you guys talk to each other the louder and faster you get, until by the end of the conversation everyone is barely listening to anyone else, gabbling sentence-fragments and interrupting each other every few words to the point it's difficult for anyone to even really get a coherent thought across.

I think and speak quite fast anyway and I can often keep up to the very end, but it's frustrating for NTs because we know the other person is barely listening to us, and we don't have time to properly digest what's being said and formulate a thoughtful response to it before the conversation's moved on three times and our response would be irrelevant anyway.

I know for a fact that my partner and kid also often don't have a chance to do that either (it's clear from the conversation that hardly anyone's listening to the other by the end, and if you ask them about what the other person was trying to communicate by the end of the conversation they usually have a sketchy recollection/understanding of it at best), but it doesn't seem to bother them the way it often does NTs.

My theory is that by the end these conversations are less about communicating the meat of whatever ideas the start of the conversation was about, and more about the joy of letting your brain off the leash with someone else who matches your energy and isn't going to judge you for not listening, or getting animated and enthusiastic, or being "extra".

It’s not at all. Not every time by a long shot. I notice the inattentiveness, the inability to actively listen and it’s a drain. The lack of empathy and reciprocity… Being a different person every time we meet up due to being in a different headspace. No thanks. I never want to be that person so I do the work.

Yes!! Maybe its a good adhd feature? cause I in my 50s is still able to make instant friends.

All others are so.. content and not interested. They have their box. Yawn.

Because we are more interesting and charming than other people

Except when we’re not

Sometimes I do, it just depends on if we have complimentary adhd.

Seriously my only close friends? All adhd. A few also have autism like myself. Idk it could be that we know we will just get ostracized the minute anyone w poor understanding of mental health issues finds out we are dependent on stimulants aka “speed” 🤦‍♀️ it could be that we are literally incapable of keeping in touch w/ other friends & they get so insulted & take it so personally that they decide we are narcissists, go no contact & eliminate our “toxic” asses from their obviously perfect life? It could be that we cannot stop doing things like interrupting or being too blunt or getting too drunk & are thus constantly pissing NTs off & can’t get along with them from the moment we meet. it could be that none of us find other types of ppl to be interesting bc who wants to hang out with any passionless idiot who was an economics major, has never experienced trauma, is incapable of having empathy for ppl they’ve never met (apolitical), and considers something like soccer momming/religion/“travel”/pop concerts the literal highlight of their life? ADHDers & neurodivergent ppl are just better

It's a constant stream of dopamine hits, no waiting for someone who talks excruciatingly slow to get to the boring point that you figured out minutes ago.

I love a variety of things and people that have interesting observations and hobbies.

The weather is not boring, but talking about rare clouds and meteorological phenomena and the time you lived in a trailer through a hurricane vs. "Yep sure is hot out. Ahhh yuuup. Seems like we had no real spring huhuhuhuh. Summer sure is coming quick this year." is wildly different.

I love all the different passionate connections made. It's like finding someone who speaks your native language vs struggling to communicate with someone who only knows extremely basic words.

this!! the people I’m closest to also have adhd, it’s so easy to relate with them in convo lol we’re both mentally hyperactive and exhausted at the same time but there’s no judgement

The ADHD password is “SQUIRREL!”

But how do you find adhd folks in real life

This!!! When I worked in a pharmacy there’d be patients coming in for their adhd meds. I’d ask how they were working for them (to show we had no judgement there, also curious) and it would always end up with me telling them I have it too and am also medicated. One time there was a woman who had cancer in the past, still didn’t have her hair, and was sick of people looking at her as she has cancer. She was telling me about the problems of remembering to take her meds and I gave her one of our weekly pill organizers and told her I drew a sun on mine for morning. Next refill she said how much better her life was, she could physically SEE if she took them that morning then we started talking about so many other things. (There was no one behind her)

I’m lucky my boss much rather have rapport than numbers, and I was the only one able to connect with a lot of people, even if they didn’t have adhd.

Most people were mean, and cruel. But one nice person like her would outweigh 100 not nice people. I remember her, not the “bad” ones.

I do not relate lol

i love yall but i get extra overstimulated with my fellow adhd-ers. i can chill best with my 'tism gang tho

Took me way too long to figure out what all my favorite people have in common, lol

This makes me think we need to come up with a group setting for those with ADHD. Somewhere we can meet other ADHD people, make friends who get you, and talk about the issues we face.

I personally would love that so much! I would attend weekly sessions, go to social events, attend classes, and whatever else was offered.

You know how you can find AA meetings all over the world? What if there was an ADHD Clubhouse or whatever that could be there for us? Maybe we could even work with another organization with similar goals, like NAMI, which works to advocate for people affected by mental conditions.

Synchronicity is a beautiful thing. 

You can have 4 simultaneous conversations with them and start 40 others your brain can work on for days after. I think of it like witches finding each other in a sea of normies or more legit from our evolutionary past; ADHD leader of one crew of hunter gatherer running into another swapping all sorts of lessons and ideas and tips before they head back out with their group of family and fellows who don't care to discuss the food availability patterns or rethink the customary seasonal patterns that have been yielding less food, etc.

It is THE BEST 😊 very energizing

I think of it like air molecules. NT thoughts run cold, and move slower, and they bump into other thoughts sometimes, while ND thoughts are hot, and they move around a lot and bump into a lot of other thoughts.

ADHD folks keep up with us, and talk about things that are interesting to them, their passions and hyperfixations, so what they say is relied to us with a lot of excitement, which is pleasant to listen to. Neurotypicals think slowly, talk slowly, blab about obvious and mundane things like the weather, and make us feel bad when they explain in detail how "normal", organized and productive they are.

I love that I can tell which of my family members are ADHD just by how we communicate. Diagnosed or not, is not an issue.

Whenever I feel instantly comfortable around a person, it usually ends up being that they are also nerospicy.

I am inattentive type - I tend to talk really slow and struggle to participate in conversations. I really don't love talking, so I love people that talk fast, overshare and just say whatever random stuff. I like it when people feel comfortable to be their whole weird selves around me!!

I find most other NDs easier. It’s the authenticity.

However it does depend on how deeply they’ve masked. I STRONGLY suspect my bf is some flavor of ND. But, like my brother in law, he’s profoundly masked. So this makes our communication difficult at times.

I’ve been trying really hard to make him feel safe with me. He doesn’t know he’s ND and doesn’t really understand neurodivergence. I’ve been diagnosed adhd since 1998 but I’ve learned it’s so much more than I thought in recent years.

But yeah to your point, I struggle when people have masks. NT people have masks. Politeness and manners some would call it. But it goes beyond that. They have privacy and hidden things. And they don’t usually say what they mean or worse, mean what they say.

This is very uncomfortable for me. So when I meet authentic people I just enjoy them.

Yessss!!!!!! My daughter, who also has ADHD is convinced, we are the NT’s and those void of “sparkle and spice” are lacking and boring LOL LOL She kinda makes a point.

It makes me feel high

It depends. I’m ADHD and I’ve encountered ADD that actually piss me off because I’m too fast and they’re daydreaming. With some it’s fun, but not with all.

God tangent but do other people also struggle to get people to let you give context and THEN make your point? I feel like people don’t understand my main point without context, but when I try to give context they think the context IS the point I’m making.

I unknowingly gravitate towards adhd people at parties...talking is less effort and energizing they are on the same wave length, everything I said doesn't fall flat, less superficial and more indepth convos etc.

People who don't have adhd constantly think I'm not listening to them because I don't make eye contact or because I'm also currently doing something at the same time (such as doodling or petting my dog) people with adhd or nurodivergents in general just understand and don't repeatedly ask "are you listening?"

It depends on the type of ADHD for me. Some will tend to unconsciously monopolize the conversation and can make it difficult to even get a word in.

I feel like a puppy when I'm with other adhders, but I don't gleefully pee myself. Where I work, there's more adhders than not lol. I found my people 😂

There’s an SF meetup for women with adhd that I’ve been meaning to join. Just have to build up my reserve to get out there and socialize. It’s kind of a carrot I’ve been dangling for myself.

This is why I got along best with one of my cousins. Neither of us had any diagnosis before our 20s, but we always just got each other.

It means so much to me to be understood and validated. Only another person who’s experienced the same has been able to do this when it comes to ADD inattentive. The struggle is real and we’re in it together in ways that neurotypicals will never understand.

Same!

Because they actually believe you whole heartedly, and understand too. It’s an invisible disability. Everyone else in society can’t comprehend what they don’t see or understand.

Edit: Adding ADHD is like childbirth. We all know it’s painful, we see evidence of the situation, experience varies in people, but we will never understand how debilitating it is till we are going through it ourselves.

My mom, one of my brothers, and I have ADHD. We joke that we set each other off. The rest of our family is NT and they are exhausted by us and vise versa. On a family trip, we saw one sloth being kept with a troop of lemurs. I assume that’s how the NT family members feel when we get together.

Yeah I met a new friend recently and we spent most of a soccer game talking about how we're on the same meds and how we cope with being diagnosed later in life. He's a guy so it's interesting that he has the more inattentive type like me and it was great to hear how much we had in common. Also he said he'd help me do mushrooms sometime. Great conversation all around. Lmao

Yes! A friend and I talked for hours last week just looping around, getting side tracked, interrupting each other with no shame, coming back to whatever we were originally saying ... My autistic partner came in at one point and was like are you still talking about X?!? And didn't believe us that we'd actually completely departed from that subject for an hour and had just gotten back to it 😅

Yes - you can talk faster, understand faster, and even interrupting each other doesn’t stop the conversation or seem “rude.” I’ve also noticed when I talk to other ADHD folks my mind actually seems to slow some and I can pay attention to what they’re saying? Or maybe it’s just that they’re talking at my pace idk 🤣

Also when we’re talking ABOUT ND it is just such a relief to feel seen 🥹

One of my best online friends (she’s in the US and I’m in Switzerland; we met through a Childfree FB group) and I, talk every 10 days on Skype (audio only).

She has Asperger‘s. I am on the waiting list for the adhd diagnosis. We both have rough lives (but have come a long way and I’m actually content apart from some major stressors that I’m trying to remove). Depression, anxiety and procrastination/being unable to do tasks that make us anxious, are big topics we often talk about. I’m struggling with imposter syndrome too and I’m basically crying in front of my applications for my new career (for which I’m already studying, am highly qualified for and will probably find a job in easily). Yet I’ve been procrastinating on the applications for months. I have panic attacks and trauma responses. Yeah I need that adhd diagnosis, meds and more therapy. She’s struggling with difficult phone calls the moment.

We both are partially disabled as well and burned out.

Anyway: the conversations are the best! They’re a wild ride with a million tangents. We both get to practice our listening skills, but it’s ok to interject and even interrupt. I love her and our conversations are enlightening.

My best friend died last year (he was my family for 17 years). I introduced them to each other and the also talked here and there. I miss him. Having the conversations with her and also grieving together has been very beautiful. We also help each other financially here and there (back and forth). She is incredibly intelligent and well-read. She empathises and understands!

I have other adhd friends, some with trauma, some with trauma/high sensitivity and they are my closest friends.

My best friend also has ADHD and us having a conversation is something to see LOL I swear my NT husband just watches in awe as we have an hours long nonstop flow of stories, interrupting, going down rabbit trails then coming back to the original topic, hyperfocusing on a topic for half the conversation, and jumping from idea to idea. Talking to her is so easy and natural

It's because we don't talk in a linear way and neurotypicals do and we don't police each other.

It would be fine if they would try to understand that about us, as I follow them just fine. Sometimes I find they droll because they don't offer info, it's main point and that's it. I gotta ask about everything. They don't talk in paragraphs.

The issue is I've been burned with family trying to leash in how I converse. I seem to mask because of growing up with that shame so Im not even that hard to follow most of the time. There are some folks who are so spazzy even for me to follow is hard, but it's not my fucking place. If I miss a point or need clarification, so what? Let them be themselves.

I'm talking to my friend and we are simultaneously texting a convo about a trip, a band, Asian food we like. On tiktok sending each other things and commenting there about family trauma during this. It's pretty great.

Suggested bird call - "OO SHINY!! OO SHINY!"

I agree wholeheartedly!

Yes, it’s definitely easier to talk to other adhders. I’ve actually realized since being diagnosed that most, if not all, of my friends throughout my life also most likely have undiagnosed (or undisclosed) adhd.

I totally agree with the birdcall setting!

And yes it is so easyy to talk with others who have ADHD!

YES! One of my closest friends also has ADHD and I feel like we understand each other in a way other people can't understand me. Our conversations are hilarious too because it's like we are both talking to ourselves but also to each other, and we don't mind the pace and the constant topic changes because our brains go too fast too. We just get it.

Yes, we attract each other. It feels easy because it is easy.

Yep. ADHD folks are the only ones who don’t get offended by how I communicate, and I love feeling seen, heard and valued. It’s basically my only target demographic for people in my life.

I agree. I wasn't diagnosed as a kid but realized later that my best friends growing up all had ADHD. We looked past the negative parts of each other and had fun being unfiltered and sometimes doing stupid things. I am a teacher and enjoy students with ADHD. They are usually hilarious.

Ca-caw! You described it so well. It’s is electric when two of us find each other in the wild and connect.

Depends, I have a colleague at work who I clocked as having ADHD immediately after meeting, her daughter has it and she literally has no clue she's got it, she interrupts me and other people constantly it's really annoying lol.

I'm also autistic though so high energy people like myself actually kind of stress me out after a time, another work colleague from and old job would seriously drain my battery after being on shift with their hyperactive ass XF

Yooooo, I made a new friend recently and we're both animal lovers. Like the kind of people that reeeeally like a very wide range of creatures. It's pretty great having a friend at a party that just wants to talk about animals for hours while hanging out with the party host's pet(s).

It’s like, it’s easier to follow their train of thought because it’s the same sort of pattern mine goes to, rather than linear

Omg yes! When I meet someone who also has ADHD we somehow always go into symptom comparing withing 2 minutes 😂

I think most of people I’ve met/worked with/around more then once, must be on the ADHD spectrum. I have had very few encounters with people who I struggle having conversation with. Maybe I’m just a friendly adaptable person to each? Or maybe many people in my jobs (farming) also have ADHD?

I know, right?! Honestly that has always been a big clue (no South Park reference intended lol) for me that I have ADHD, I just vibe with other people with ADHD. Most of my close friends from age 15 or so had ADHD or something similar.

Yes! I feel like it’s because they understand the connections you make and are excited to just riff off them. Unlike some normies who will be like “that’s so random….that’s weird…how did you even think of that/ know that?” I also think it’s coz they’re curious and have also gone down research rabbit holes so also know a lot about a lot of things & are excited to share that obscure knowledge.

Yes , the best people in my life all have ADHD

100%

Oh it’s the best, my favorite people to hang out with bc we literally need no external activities, just lightning quick conversations and no one cares if we jump around or cut each other off. AND we/they are always down for whatever, like let’s go rock climbing or to the science museum or play a card game!

Only thing is if there’s other ants around they are totally locked out…also one or both are gonna be late and possibly cancel last minute lol.

Oh I LOVE THIS!! I’m a phone rep, and I’m usually really bubbly and nice with everyone, but oh man if someone who’s brain is going a million miles an hour also comes on, it’s like a freaking party!! In person I love this moments with strangers who get just as excited as you to just talk and word vomit. So fun. NT ppl, I think, find me to be too much too extra too everything and probably find me very annoying if I’m around too long 😂 but whatever. I try to mirror everyone’s energy so the vibe is nice, and ppl are still icky half the time. But yes finding an ADHDer in the wild is always awesome, and my partner is always like “why tf are you talking to that person like you know them” lmfao

Because they get it 😅

I love this. I was just recently prescribed meds after wondering what the hell is wrong with me for years. Depression managed and I was still soooo disorganized and not able to prioritize and generally felt like things are just a struggle for me. My friend/coworker convinced me to get a second opinion about adhd, saying she sees a lot of similarities between us. And I can tell you, this type of conversation happens allllll the time between us, oversharing, showing funny videos, going from topic to topic, and I love it. I could do it all day and get nothing done, but it’s very comforting and makes me feel better.

I recently went on a date with a NT man and it was sooo boring. We talked about one boring topic until it was exhausted, then sat in silence, until I would bring up another. There was no interrupting, no personal anecdotes, no mention of the squirrel that ran past, no curiosity. The difference was so noticeable!

My best friend and I have similar flavors of ADHD and OCD so we can talk each other into a flurry for 8 hours or more on a hangout day. Our physical disabilities are the thing that makes us call it a day.

For me, the biggest thing is knowing that the other doesn’t at all mind the interruptions that comes with impulse control. It’s like being able to be yourself

I found a group of mom friends- we all really clicked. Then I slowly learned we all have adhd 😂

Yes, yes, yes! Now I understand why I can instantly connect with some people

Brains like brains that think like them

Its like having an entire free weekend with zero responsibilities and only free range ADHD time

I know within 5 minutes of chatting with someone if they have ADHD or not by how easy it is to visit with them. It is electric.

They understand.

bc neurotypicals are really close minded (black and white thinking) and judgmental. they get offended rlly easily (sensitive) and don’t think fast enough. in other words… they’re boring. and they’re really anal abt being on time and shit. conversations feel like an exam with them where i have to prove im a pull myself up by the bootstraps hardworking (read: executive function possessing) citizen. idk i just don’t vibe with them

I actually live people who talk “too much” because I can be way more relaxed around them when I don’t feel like I have to worry about talking too much.

It’s just being on the same wavelength for me! Having the same style of communication, having a brain that works in a similar way. I usually find the other ND person in the room without even knowing it! 😂

And you can interrupt each other, and I'm not sure how, but it just works!

It helps tremendously that we can let our guard down with them. There can be multiple interruptions with eachother without the other getting mad, stories that trail off into other random stories and stories that mirror what the other person is saying without it looking like we are trying to " one up them". We get it's just our way of relating to them.

Yes so I’m marrying one lol. But after my dx I started finding out that the vast majority of my friend group, as well as close family members and about half my company are all ADHDers sooo I think we instinctively form packs like wolves. 😂🐺

Yes- my best friend and I will talk nonstop for hours. I almost feel like I’m a litmus test for neurodivergence. I’m AuDHD, so if we get along well, you’re definitely not typical 😆

I have ADHD, and I talk my bfs ear off lol. He's not exactly a very chatty person, but when we talk he also could go for hours just discussing anything. Even when we first met I could tell he was shy and nervous but I think because I'm so high energy and easy to talk to / relate with he was quick to open up. People with ADHD are just very emotional and passionate in how they think, feel, their opinions. So it's easy to get invested and involved.

Because they gey it

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YES! We can all just throw our masks in a pile at the door! I feel like they will be understanding if I say something weird. I just feel so happy to not be the only one... this group has made me pretty happy knowing that sooooooo much of the things that are "wierd" about me or hard for me are the same for others.