You're overthinking it.

Ha men are so oblivious. What does she need to do for you to get it, grab you and kiss you?

I've flirted in this NOT VERY SUBTLE way with dudes before and they never ever ever took the bait so they lost their chance. Their lack of confidence was a turnoff.

Wounds are never healed, there is always a scar. When it comes to betrayal, time absolutely does not heal. Time may grant you some distance from the situation to eventually reflect on how you want to proceed with the relationship, if at all. What it really depends on most is if your sister is willing to participate in the healing process and work together to rebuild trust. If she isn't sorry then I'd never speak to her again. In fact, I have a sister and a mother I don't speak to for this reason.

I have a similar thing with my grandma. I haven't talked to my mom or sister in about 2 years and it breaks my grandma's heart. And it breaks my heart that she is so heartbroken about it. My grandma is getting very old and she wants to go out with her family in tact. She gets angry that I won't just drop it to make her happy. She doesn't understand my situation and doesn't want to.

For me, I just talk with my grandma briefly about other things, and when she starts talking about my mom and family, I change the subject. Or I just ignore her comment. I keep it civil with her because I adore her and love her, but if she chooses not to try and understand my POV, I'm not going to talk with her about the topic at all.

Send a very mean letter threatening to destroy their reputation and show them the proof you have to do so.

Then again, you need to collect that ammo during the job. I've learned to notice red flags during jobs amd keep screenshots of shady goings on, etc. in case I need them.

People don't usually believe you'll take the necessary actions and investment to sue, but plastering the internet with bad reviews is very easy and fun.

This always helps me get paid immediately. It happened to me twice.

No way. That's a great way to take yourself out of the running.

Imagine dating someone new and cool and you think maybe you could be exclusive soon. Then they say hey I got someone else that wants to be with me too so make a decision already.

Same here man. The adventure never ends. Since I turned 30 I've essentially lived an entire 2nd life. And I anticipate it will happen again.

I mean hey if we actually do ascend and transcend death, cool. But I don't think it can happen without releasing every bit of earthy weight that plagues us. I feel that ascension is only possible when we become lighter than mass, so much that we literally dissolve. The only way it happens is release, release, release. All the burdens and weights of life, resentments, bitterness, impatience, anger, loneliness... all the illusions of living as a physical being. When all you see is spirit, all you know is spirit, and you have total realization that all there is is spirit and light.

Worrying is never beneficial in any case. Worrying as in, runinating over the same things in a fearful way over an extended period of time. That is a great way to cut off several years off your life, as well as accomplish nothing at all.

Concern, on the other hand, is necessary for motivation. Concern means you notice something that is an issue, so you try to think of solutions to solve it.

Having concern over what your boss thinks of you will push you to do a better job at work. Worrying will just make you freak out and act like a fool.

However, beyond all that, you have no control over what others think of you. People perceive everything through their own filter. These filters have very little to do with you. Your actions might trigger certain emotions or judgments in others, and it has nothing to do with you.

A different version of you exists in the minds of everyone who's ever known you.

Is it more about not wanting to get old or not wanting to die?

I'm over 40 and as I've grown older, I most certainly become wiser and more understanding of myself and others, as well as the universe. How can you expect to grow without aging?

It's of course the greatest compliment in the world for them to see and notice you and like you, that's a big win! Congrats! But you want to hold out for "the one", you know? Don't just dish out for the first peeps that want you!

Remember that they want you to sign because they want YOUR talent to bring THEM money. Too many people look at a record deal like the ultimate goal of music. But it just means everyone wants a piece of your pie. Keep that pie to yourself! Wait til you're too big to manage yourself and then shop the best deal. I wouldn't be too hasty about signing after one viral song.

I think when it comes to big pop artists, is shiny new object syndrome. It's also changing times, no one is at the top forever.

I used to sing ok-ish, then I took lessons. Now I'm great!

There are certainly those with natural born skill, but singing truly is using your body as an instrument. Just like any other instrument, you learn techniques for getting the best sound quality.

There are a lot of very weird exercises pertaining to things like how your mouth and tongue are shaped when you sing, vowel amd consonant pronunciation, pitch control, the size of the target you're singing into, releasing tension in the jaw neck and shoulders, and of course breath. Vocal chords need strengthening and warm-ups.

I think the people who have recognized in themselves that trauma has caused them some challenges might tend to be more left leaning because the left wants to progress, grow, and move forward. The right is more about adhering to old tradition and putting loyalty before reason or emotional well being.

I highly believe there are tons of people on the right who suffer from CPTSD and have no idea. They bury their trauma and allow it to simmer inside, seeping out poison wherever they go. They do not realize or acknowledge it, and they wear this "toughness" as a badge of honor.

And a banana and yogurt aren't healthy? 🤷🏼‍♀️

Mom, why don't you eat some donuts for breakfast so I can get an early inheritance.

Oh, yeah I'm not implying that's what yours is like. That's just what this guy was like. It's funny because he was in no way a loner either, he needed to be around friends or coworkers all the time. But he saw himself as a loner/rebel/bad guy type. It was silly to me ha! Honestly he was like entertainment for me because he was such a character. He was also very driven and great at his job, and I worked in a similar field (events) so I had a lot of respect for him professionally.

Have fun tonight! The guy I dated was super cool, just kinda cray lol.

I did, but it was a flop. Turned out he was kinda playing me. Which was weird because I only wanted something casual and he got all weird on me that I was pushing him for a relationship 🤔 I even knew he was seeing other girls and I didnt care, but he always tried to hide it. It was kind of funny actually, he was trying so hard to fool me when I could tell from the moment we met.

It was almost like he was putting on this loner/player act. Like I'd text him and say we should hang out some more, and he'd say, "no i cant be with you like that! Trust me Im not the kind of guy you want to be with!" I think he didn't understand his feelings enough to even know what he wanted.

He was the same though, filled with compliments and praise, and he would see me when he could. He'd call me when he was away on business or vacation, send me lots of funny and sexy texts. He always said he was mystified by me. He was super hot too and our chemistry was off the charts. But yeah, he got weird on me and blamed it on me getting weird on him 😄🤷🏼‍♀️

Things are bad indeed. A few years ago, I was feeling like you, and I decided to just focus on myself too. When I did that for a while, I had a new perspective that maybe the world doesnt need saving or fixing. Maybe it's just changing and evolving.

In order to grow, we all have to push through our own fear and darkness, to summon up all our strength to break free. And in order to do that, we need a big bad darkness to break free from. The process is always extremely difficult and painful, filled with loss and failure and discouragement along the way. That is the challenge of life.

Maybe the world is at that part of the story where shits about to hit the fan. The pot is boiling and about to overflow. We are close to the tipping point, which is the peak of hell.

I think people like us are here for all kinds of reasons, but mostly to hold space for light. We inspire others away from darkness, we help them out of the pits, we care and we love and share. We are absolutely a critical part of the shift. We keep the progress going and growing. We keep the hope alive and remind others that there is still good in the world.

Even if it doesn't seem like it's working, our lifetimes are only a tiny speck in the timeline of humanity. Look at all the progress that's been made in the past 100 years. It's actually pretty remarkable.

2 years for me. I haven't had to worry about calls because they just don't really care that I'm gone. I kinda wish I'd get a call, but they just never responded to my cutoff letters at all.

It's still hard for me. I feel relief that I've decided to let them go, and the stress of dealing with them is not there anymore at least. My issue was they left me for dead time and time again, and never really gave a shit about me. And when I left, that pain of their abandonment is still there because it's still happening every day forever.

I'm in the same boat right now. I became a daily all day user except for working hours. It was getting out of control.

I decided to wean myself off gradually by doing 2 things:

1. I got a lockbox with a timer on it, like the one on shark tank. This helped me better manage when I was allowed to smoke.

2. I decided to quit smoking and only have edibles from now on.

I realized that for me, the smoking was the more addictive part, and my lungs were suffering, so it made sense for me to give that up. That was close to 2 weeks ago and now I even go a full day or 2 without being high! I just forget about it sometimes.

Having the edibles lets me control my dosage and timing. My goal is to only really have them when I go out socially, because i don't drink. I still have a little dose in the evening sometimes, but I'm already no longer feeling to urge to get higher or smoke more.

This is only one type of narcissist, and only one example of their possible behavior. It's not the definition of a narcissist.

Most real narcissists and gaslighters have no willingness to ask if they are the problem or seek therapy.

However a real narcissist and gaslighter will certainly tell you that YOU are the narcissist and gaslighter. That's what gaslighting is.

This is so terrible. I'm so sorry you're dealing with. I can't believe how terrible doctors can be, I've had a ton of terrible experiences as well. I seriously can't believe they are making you save eggs... do they not realize it costs thousands of dollars to store them and not covered by insurance?? This is an optional procedure. I also need to know exactly what will happen as well. A couple times i went under, and woke up to find they did something totally different than they explained. They said they were going to make one tiny incision, but I had about 10! They said they couldn't get the right angle. I'd much rather they took me out and talked to me about it before they sliced up my whole abdomen. It took me 2 months to walk again.

Also in 2020 I had a major dental infection, and my cheek was blowing up like a balloon. I went to several dentists, doctors, and 2 ER's. None of them could figure it out. However, I had this same thing g happen to me on the other side of my face 15 years prior. The docs were dumbfounded at the time as well, but after surgery they learned it was necrotizing fasciitis (flesh eating bacteria) that was likely cause by a root canal infection. None of the docs had ever seen that before and were all fascinated by it. Meanwhile, I almost died. They said most people do not survive this type of infection and I'm lucky they got it in time. They also said it was a totally mysterious fluke that never should have happened, and there is literally zero chance of it ever happening again and I shouldnt worry about it.

So in 2020 I'm telling them I've had this before and it turned out to be nec fasc, and the ER docs said, "whoever told you that didn't know what they were talking about. You didn't have that. It's super rare and people don't survive it."

They treated me like I was overreacting, even though my cheek was super swollen and growing. They had no concern, said my tests were OK and I can go home. I said no way in hell I'm going home cuz I'll probably die. I forced them to let me stay and bring in an oral surgeon. The oral surgery team came in and said yeah this is a really bad infection, but they wouldnt treat it because "it was a liability." They all looked at each other like, any of us willing to take a crack at this? No one was willing to help me. So I was dismissed.

Days pass and I'm freaking out because no one can or will help me, on top of it being the beginning of COVID so the world was weird and I also could not bring any guests for support while I was in these ER's. The worst part was that all these dentists I talked to said, "I can't help you, but this is a major emergency and you need to take care of this like yesterday."

Oh I was also running a GoFundMe at the same time because I had no money to pay for this and no insurance at the time.

I went to a different ER after these docs and dentists wont help me, and they say I need to go to a dentist. I said I need you guys to bring in an oral surgeon and I'm not leaving until you do. This has been on my face for over a week.

Eventually they brought in an oral surgeon, after I waited 12 hours in the ER with a huge bubble on my face. They cut the infection open, while Im wide awake and my infection was to the point where a numbing solution won't work. So I'm feeling everything and screaming. They said it was cellulitis and very lucky they caught it in time because it was developing into nec fasc and probably sepsis. I said that's what I told the ER like 5 days ago but they didnt believe me, and he said those docs know nothing about dental issues.

So yeah, I don't trust doctors either!

Why are there so many incompetent doctors 🤦🏼‍♀️

I went for an ADHD evaluation too, or more of a pre-screening. My doc did mention that the symptoms of CPTSD and ADHD do overlap, so it can be difficult to diagnose accurately. Still, she took the time and effort to ask me a lot of questions and give me an evaluation, which concluded that I'm right on the cusp of having ADHD. We already knew about CPTSD, but she wondered if there was more to it.

Love this but I wonder how many other people still know what a phone book is 😄🙋🏼‍♀️