They did, and I stand corrected.

I'd find a new, more knowledgeable therapist.

While this is still being debated, there is reason to believe that ADHD is indeed a form of CPTSD, which can very well get compounded on - especially when undiagnosed/untreated.

You started off great with that reasoning, save for the last sentence.

Trauma isn't incurable, even development trauma. Realizing it's trauma can be a vital first step. The grief process is actually interrupted by trauma, and reclaiming it is part of healing.

Hi can feel that. You know, my pet hypothesis is that allostics are not the problem. Character disordered people (think NPD and ASPD) are, since their mindset is tendentially hollow performative and abusive. They life life like it's a game, while pretending they're super serious. Autistic fellows tend to value passion and sincerity.

Hi. It's ok on late question.

Swapping the reader unfortunately dd not do the trick, in my case. Next up I'll try to swap the motherboard eventually.

I'd advise you to either get both parts at once or otherwise try the reader first since it's cheaper and might work in your case.

Better look at the whole thing as a new hobby IMO, rather than hyperfocus on results.

I suggest inquiring (across the board) what may causing the anxiety, and focus on what the whole system can do about it by joining heads as a team, rather than passing the hot potato around. You'll probably end up with various different views, and the best approach will possibly be the middle ground between all those views.

Maybe nothing needs to be done really, asides from accepting the inevitability of anxiety and focusing on getting better at managing it.

As you say, we can't control the world around us; but we can learn to control our reactions to whatever the world throws at us.

Sometimes accepting anxiety is just another feeling can actually be the right move - as as such it's always fleeting; the more comfortable we are with feeling it and decoding its message, the more easily and proficiently we can address its underlying causes in order to release it, and the more easily we're able to develop healthy coping skills.

I agree. That is a very wise stance - both in expressing to the other person what happened and watching closely for whether that encourages them to adjust their attitude.

Thankyou. I hope you can trust that your way will also become clear, in time - until then, I suggest you do your best to practice self-care and be kind to yourself, since that makes a big difference.

IMO it is better catering to the middle ground. People are more likely to hear you once you've established yourself as friendly enough, which typically requires a generous dose of agreeability as the baseline. Contradicting people right off tne bat, even if they're indeed incorrect, is wasting time and energy to achieve nothing constructive.

Smirking signals contempt. I'd be VERY wary if I were in your position - and might be reconsidering whether that therapist holds my best interests in mind.

Even if they didn't do it out of malice, it suggests lack of emotional empathy,

Interesting,.It does look really good and fresh, I'll definitely want to check it out. Well done!

"This application of Girard's ideas might also inform the ongoing debate about the fundamental nature of mental illness, while helping us to better understand and thus counter the persistent tendency to stigmatize and to exclude the mentally ill" ---- as we realize the implications; they're ultimately a byproduct of less than healthy collective dynamics, meaning that stigmatization itself can be regarded as symptomatic of the workings collective subconscious , and overcoming these issues can thus be regarded as much needed evolutionary step.

I think a good analogy can be found in the evolution of physical healthcare; not many centuries ago, people who became physically ill were often ostracized because that was supposed to keep the bad disease-causing spirits at bay.

But asides from being inhumane, that approach did did nothing to promote physical health; it only kept medical doctors from developing effective treatments, fostered harmful superstitions that had no real impact to improve healthcare and often worked to its detriment, and overlooked many pressing issues that actually fostered disease (such as extremely poor physical hygiene standards).

It was only by accepting the inevitable, ubiquitous reality of physical disease that modern medicine was eventually able to actually managing disease make strides in dramatically improving life expectancy. Maybe we're at a comparable time in history, where it concerns mental health - maybe we're in the process of realizing that it's something to be consistently upkept throughout life, rather than some kind of genetic lottery... and maybe that will pave the way to a far mentally saner future societies, with far less emotional trauma and far less incidence of psychopathologies, many of which that even today remain unacknowledged out of superstition, stigma and fear.

Oh yes, a common feature of pathological narcissism is that hierarchical thinking. It's their song and dance and currency and ethos/pathos/logos.

Worthwhile to keep in mind that different people can subscribe to different hierarches - some may value beauty, others may value smarts, others are all about power. The thing they value most tends to reflect their deepest insecurities IMO.

I think it's the opposite of pathetic that you want answers rather than just a quick fix. It's awesome and commendable.

I feel you're doing a good job learning about the condition and seeking professional help, so I would just keep at it.

The best treatment plan for schizotypal (as your psychiatrist mentioned) seems to be a mix of medication to curb the positive symptoms (things the condition makes you do) along with therapy to address the negative symptoms (things the condition keeps you from doing), so do keep that in mind.

Looks really really good and I rather like the drawing style, but it might work better as a mechanic rather than the entire gameplay - like the Spectre Knight level in Shovel Knight. I think the contrast between color mode and darkness mode is what makes that kevel work, otherwise it might be too much.

I haven't been through anything so intense (I come from a place of emotional neglect coupled with emotional abuse, with intermittent bouts of sadism), but what I experienced boiled down to betrayal and abandonment trauma, so I'd like to chime in:

What has been working for me is indeed the opposite of indulging platitudes:

it's radical acceptance of the truth of the dysfunction in my family, my along with the realization it would be in my best interests to sever the emotional cord (and remain civil enough). I suppose it's akin to a grieving process.

It also helped to realize that whatever I endured was simply a reiteration of what my parents and siblings had themselves endured, which they were unable to either process or let go; their own parts eventually consumed them.

By putting these two things together, I was able to logically realize that I *need* to let the past go so I can move on to the future, and my best shot is to learn from my the negative forces that molded by trauma, so I myself won't reiterate them.

So I don't ever become like those who once nearly broke my spirit.

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Regarding my parts - I feel that since they have been derived from my developmental trauma, my attitude towards them tends to naturally shift in response to my external attitude to my family system. The more I'm able to stand up for myself, the better I'm able to prove the parts I have what it takes to take charge of the system, which makes them more willing to consider my views, acknowledge my role as the new head of the internal family, and eventually earn their respect and collaboration.

(Ok now the inevitable platitudes) Throughout this process, I did realize my parts served a valuable role in buffering the emotional blow, and I can now appreciate their services.

As such, I now aim to get them on board with the new system, where I my Self am in charge, and they themselves are now offered a key position within my system, and my family is now my own (eventual) family branch more so than my family tree. All of this has been allowing me to shift the focus from a haunting past towards a brighter future in which I'm at last my own person; the proverbial captain of my own ship.

If you read closely what you just wrote, you too seem to be in the process of realizing that, as unpleasant as their presence might have been, your parts were actually serving a vital role of compartmentalizing the truth until you showed them you were at last able to handle the truth. Maybe they weren't so much pushing you towards insanity, as they were keeping you shielded from it. Maybe now you're ready to radically accept the past, so you can take reigns of the future.

Hope this helps! Best wishes.

Try showing, not telling.

Show them you will be there and you wouldn't abandon them even if you could.l, since they're an important part of you that you value.

Show them you have good intentions and you're serious about better getting to know them.

Show them you're determined to get closer so you can help abd support them, but make it clear you don't want to be pushy, so you need their permission.

Maybe show them you know how deeply it hurts to be abandoned by people you care about, so you're very serious about not ever doing such a thing.

Oh yes, that is a solid point. And I agree it's vital to let all parts do their part - I regard the role of Self as that of a orchestra maestro/Conductor. Their role is to get the best of all performers/Section Members, towards the most harmonious symphony possible.

So rather than looking at it as striving to be Self, perhaps can just look at it from the angle of "I wonder if I'm embodying Self right now? If not, which qualities seem to be absent? What may I infer from those missing qualities, where it relates to parts that I haven't witnessed yet?"

I like that angle, and you did something really interesting there that you may not have noticed.

It was possibly your own well established Curiosity and Presence of Self that allowed your friend to follow suit an unblend her frustrated part. I think these qualities can be contagious like so. Healing itself can be "contagious", much like partiality / blended parts can, as dictated by our attitudes as they stem from our conceptualizations.

I keep getting that feeling whenever I see Richard Schwartz in action.

I always get the impression that what he brings to the table is far beyond the words he's using. It's his embodiment of Self that seems to *really* do the trick. It seems to somehow make room for the same qualities in other people.

That can be the deepest beauty of the IFS method. It's like a tuning for emotional healing wrapped around a really digestible, custom made story format derived from one's own particular life experiences.

Thankyou, I appreciate that. You know something else I've been noticing? The exact same dynamic seems to apply at interpersonal levels! Which kind of makes sense, since IFS was derived from family counseling protocols applied at internal levels.

I feel as though Self stokes Self in a "Namaste" type way, much like parts stoke parts, in a "mutual triggering" type way.

Healing stokes healing, much like hurt stokes hurt.

Best wishes!

Thankyou! That's really interesting with the Tarot thing - and it's very much in line with the actual precepts of Tarot.

I do something similar, actually. I sometimes use an app to get the card of the day and pay as much attention to my reaction as to the actual card and its meaning.

Hi! That sounds *really* interesting. I appreciate the validation and the added information - I'm certainly going to look into the Circuit Model of Consciousness. That's a great attitude, by the way. Best wishes, and see you around!

You know , another thing I noticed recently through one of the amazing regulars in this sub is that each of the 4 C's may correlate energetically with Masculine qualities (Curiosity, Confidence, Courage, Feminine) and Feminine qualities (Connectess, Compassion, Creativity, Clarity) qualities, in a sort of Yin-Yang fashion.

From this we might be able to extrapolate, for example, that people who are caught up in toxic masculinity or femininity may be disconnected from their femininity or masculinity respectively, which means there could be managers and protector partss keeping them separate from those aspects.

That is very autistic of you, with the strong moral sense. :) I congratulate you.

But you know, a little nuance and discernment can make our lifes a lot easier. No, life isn't fair. But we can be. And we can choose to only relate to fair people - rather than worrying about the nasty ones, who will sooner or late get their comeuppance of their own accord in ways that we may not even fathom, without us needing to get entangled in their unfair mess of a life. It's a "life by the sword, die by the sword" type situation IMO.

In fact, there is strong evidence suggesting that all bullies are maladaptively seeking reparation from the bullying they once endured. That is precisely what drives them to bullying. It's a horribly misguided effort to seek justice by dishing out injustice. Looking into such evidence can be rather helpful.

Also, remember that Nietzschean quote "beware they who fight monsters".

Thanks for boldly speaking your truth, despite the possibility of downvotes.

I think it's healthy to be a little critical or even cynical, like so. There may be a part catering to those aspects. But it's also healthy to question your own assumptions regularly.

I'd never looked at it from that angle, but I have noticed that Richard Schwartz himself can *never* remember the 8 C's off the top of his head. I have been assuming it might be because his brain just doesn't work that way (as mine doesn't) but what you bring up here is also a valid possibility worth keeping in mind.

It's good to be able to entertain wildly different possibilities, like so. Mental health is the ability to reconcile extremes into a nuanced view.

Thankyou kindly. Best wishes!