I have have a balcony railing I wipe down. Great trick

My bow legs. Would use myself as a model to draw and never understood why my men looked so wonky until I realized non super skinny guys have large calves and most people don’t have bow legs. Also started drawing more women without them, but back then I was trying to replicate anime and all those little bitches were given bow legs so it looked like at style choice 💀

Oh and I did think my Lyme disease was just puberty.

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Oh yeah my manager does that, I normally don’t let myself say it for grammar reasons but at work I get to play fast and loose. It makes my bosses like me when I do it at client meetings haha

Thanks for sharing your story and I’m so proud of you!! Own your shit and I’m sorry the world made you feel less then. I’m glad you have more confidence now and own the valuable contributions you make. That’s seriously hard!

Yeah I use I to fit in but sometimes I slip up and use we, but at work people interpret it the way you’re describing. When I was little and my parents were trying to teach my two younger siblings to say mom and dad, I learned to say my name instead of I. Ended up being a phone call home to the padres and I learned at school to say I. When I’m stressed I still sometimes drop back to third person cuz old habits die hard, but they are breakable as you’re proving too :)

Apartment with a too damn high rent but my bfs job and mine are fast pace burning us out hospital and corporate jobs respectively and we share a bedroom which helps cut the rent in half

Take out the puzzle pieces and I’d rock it as a crop top

If I decide I’m ready, Probably start trying at 31 so the first is when I’m 32-33 and stop at like 36-37. Would love three kids but pregnancy kind of scares me so may adopt 1 or 2. Plus any biological kids I’m having have a near 100 percent chance of having dyslexia and either autism/adhd/both so I want to be established so I can get my kids the support to help them succeed.

Love the green dress with both corsets or the white with the second one. You look great in all versions tho! Where did you get the corsets??

Lentils. Hate the texture and doesn’t help that they always taste like sad vegetables

YTA

But with sympathy because it is a catch 22. Yeah she earned it, but the school fucked her over by announcing it to be a girl with a tragic circumstance. In the end it’s meaningless title that just means you give a speech at graduation (which is probably why they gave it to the car crash victim so she could give a speech) but what they should have done is the give the title to the highest ranked student and then given the other girl a speaking opportunity. But in the end I’m working at the same company and making more than my hs valedictorian so while it’s sucks and wasn’t fair, it isn’t impacting her future. Raising a stink after it was announced would have made you daughter the center of alot of drama and possible bullying, but there were other solutions.

As a parent you maybe should have approached administration privately and maybe discussed a salutatorian position (2nd ranked my school had one) to honor a high ranking student. Or requested there to be two Vals but give the speech to the girl. You could have requested discretion but stood up for you daughters hard work. If you want to comfort her, apologize and say you weren’t sure how to navigate that situation as a parent and your priority was to not ruin her graduation with drama. And tell her people stop talking about that shit after freshmen year and anyone who keep harping on it is cringey. She’s at a school where every student was one of the smartest kids in high school so freshmen year is a bit of a dick measuring contest. They settle down as they mature. <3

No empathy. Yeah you have to explain to an autistic person why you feel a certain way but all me and my autistic friends want to make people feel welcomed and included since we were so bullied and excluded for years. If anything I find most allistics to be more callous, plus they lie more! Mastering the art of saying the truth kindly takes everyone years, so allistics learn to lie until they learn while autistic people usually default to the truth but bluntly. Neither is a great solution and telling the truth harshly is for some reason considered meaner than lying.

My grandma was dating a guy and ended up walking home from school with a girl from a different district. They ended up chatting about their boyfriends and discovered it was the same guy. She broke it off, but he begged and sent her gifts to apologize. He was “very handsome” (as she put it) so she took him back. Ended up walking home with a different girl six months later and found out, once again, they had the same boyfriend. She called it off and never spoke to him again saying “once at 16 is a kids mistake, twice and I knew I would have been cheated on the rest of my life”

She said God or fate wanted her to know and she’d be a fool not to listen lol

Me and my siblings were in the same household and our abilities and limitations are all different. And that’s without the major differences in situation that various people have, not to mention genetics.

If your family has a long history of abuse or was part of a targeted ethnicity who was also traumatized by the world, your epigentics (clingy proteins to your DNA strands) could carry the old trauma along with your personal trauma. There’s so many factors that goes into how CPTSD manifests, don’t judge yourself too hard! It could be anything from the proteins on your genes to your unique brain chemistry or unique abuse situation.

Remember to eat lots if nutrient packed food and to lose weight at a healthy pace.

As an ugly duck to swan I agree, it’s a lot nicer to be treated kindly and be seen as a attractive. My bigger problem was the incredibly callous and kind of messed up comments people started saying to me after I started being pretty. Like girls saying looking at me made them want to have an eating disorder or how they hated themselves because of me. I want people to love themselves and feel comfortable so I struggled for a couple years with that and would cry whenever I got home about it. Just be warned people also start to be more critical of your other skills and traits to “humble you” as well or attribute your academic success to being pretty and the teachers just liking you more. (Didn’t help I was in a male dominated major and even guy friends would say shit like the teacher just liked me because I was a woman even though I was the only one going to office hours consistently and only went out once a month so I could focus on studying, but no it was because the teacher wanted to fuck me that I was doing so well,ugh)

Now that I’m out of college it isn’t bad but it was a bit rough after a high school experience of being everyone ugly but well liked little sister. I agree that you want to experience the other side, I know I did in high school, and with healthy choices and self confidence I’m sure you can. I do sometimes feel nostalgic for when I flew under the radar though, just wanted to add a bit of perspective from someone who made the leap. Rooting for you!

I think Christianity lost the plot when they stopped seeing most of the teachings and rules as metaphors and instead went for the Dante’s Inferno Hell is Real and everyone has cool names and ranks route. Like learning about Judaism is so interesting how much they know is a parable and interact with the Torah in a much more academic way I wish we kept in Christianity.

Consulting intern, decided to bring my GoT book to read on the plane since the company thought it was a good use of money to fly me out every week. Was stopped every week just for TSA to open my bag, flip through the the book, and then send me on my way. Found out later it was too thick for the scanner and people would carve out a pocket in the pages to sneak shit on board.

I move through life with she her pronouns but I’m guessing my self identification would fall under agender. I don’t experience dismorphism when existing as a woman but if someone referred to me with he/him or they/them I also wouldn’t feel dismorphism. I think gender identity is used to shape social interaction and is part of the subconscious need to be recognized a certain way so how you view yourself is reflected in others. I wonder if the straight forward way of thinking common in most autistics can shape how we precieve gender compared to allistics. Would be an interesting study, cool question OP!

I agree the meat industry is a colossal methane producer and ethical mess with animal treatment. Also cutting down on animal consumption will stop money going into that industries pockets.

My issue comes with what is the total impact on the earth of a veggie diet? Like there’s a massive problem of rising vegetarian and popular diets causing increased imports of quinoa with major impacts on the local people who relied on it as a cheap crop and then the fuel used to import it. Since our natural diet is omnivorous, a veggie/vegan diet has to ensure the consumer gets enough protein and amino acids which would require non locally sourced plants. Versus I live in an area where I can easily get locally sourced meat and local vegetables with minimal fuel impact and ethics of harvest. I may be limited by my area and the season, but I’m make sure my body has enough macronutrients and calories.

I think cutting back on meat isn’t a bad idea given the state of the industry. But I think there are ethical concerns in the going vegan side as well that shouldn’t be ignored.

As a matter of perspective, allistics are the weird ones to us. Like why wouldn’t you plug your ears is everything was So Loud?

I was diagnosed with autism (Asperger’s back then but had it updated in college) as a kid and socializing was so tough but through years of speech therapy and self work I’m able to have good friendships and relationships and learned to take turns in conversations so I don’t hurt other peoples feelings and can connect with others. I sometimes have mixed feelings about self diagnose and know two people on the opposite sides of it.

I have one friend who was never diagnosed with adhd but has a lot of the more dehabilitating symptoms and is stressed about how it affects her relationship and life and is working to get diagnosed with a professional to get help, which just takes more time as an adult but used online help forums to learn tricks and coping skills to lead a healthier life.

Then I had an ex-friend who decided she had adhd because she really liked bad tv shows and “media is my special interest” but she knew she couldn’t justify calling herself autistic. She just used it as an excuse to interrupt people and justify shoving people out of the way at concerts. Like it made me feel very icky how she’d use it as a justification to be rude and is one of the reasons she’s an ex friend.

Jesus man that’s fucking awful. Like I have friends who will make jokes about their race and experiences but the rule of thumb should be, if it’s not you it’s not yours the joke about. Must be exhausting to deal with, sending hugs

My boyfriend doesn’t go out or drink much because of work but he got off for my bday. He ended up getting too drunk and on the way home I had to take care of him and because he was trying not to puke in the Uber he was short with me. I got him water and put him to bed but in the morning I told him I was upset by this behavior and he apologized profusely and we discussed why it upset me. I know it isn’t a common issue with him and he’ll do his best to avoid doing that so we moved on.

Your bf is right to be upset but abandoning you when you clearly couldn’t take care of yourself is not cool either. Yes it sucks that you ruined the game and we’re sloppy but from a safety perspective that’s not okay

It can be hard as I know I’m way more of a mess than him. But also my future in laws adore me and I feel loved and wanted by both them and him. I was fairly up front about it with him about six months in when we got serious. It can be hard but he brings me stability and we strive for a healthy future together