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If she asks for $200 to buy a new mobile so she can call you, maybe don't!
MAYBE
I will! if she was somehow shadow banned, would it be possible her profile was shut down temporarily and so the conversation as well?š¤ She did have a swear* or two in her bio when I checked last(in a friendly casual way but still swearing*)
I was so damn heartbroken being ghosted/stood up for the first time that I actually deleted my account 2 days after. Would have been dumb if her profile was reinstated right after.
As if tinder deletes scammers. It probably just bugged out. Take her out, but don't give her your credit card?
Print out a CAPTCHA and get her to complete it on your next date, just in case.
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I matched with the emperor of humankind from warhammer 40k a year ago and he gives me motivational quotes and tips in finding a job after the tech layoffs. Edit: Not a scammer but I assume this is a fake profile.
You deleting your account is why she thought you unmatched her, she potentially didnāt unmatch you, and the app just bugged out, next time (hopefully it works out with this girl though) make sure to uninstall and reinstall the app to see if that brings her back into your messages, as that works for me occasionally
"Ā would it be possible her profile was shut down temporarily and so the conversation as well?"
Yes, this is possible. Tinder is full of bugs. I have had matches disappear and reappear a week later on a handful of occasions. The match told me my profile had disappeared too.
I have been using Tinder since 2012, and online dating since 1998.
I have all kinds of stories on this topic, lol
But as another redditor said, you need to get her phone number first and have a video call to see if they are real.
I'm getting quite strong scammer vibes from this story. Take a screenshot of her photo and do a reverse image search. See if the face appears anywhere else.
I have been using Tinder since 2012, and online dating since 1998.
That's kinda sad.
So condescending.
Depends on if they are being open about only wanting sex.
Otherwise people like this are the ones that ruin online dating for everyone else.
Lmao I had the same thought
Ā I matched with someone once and we had a conversation where we were using the c bomb multiple times after a discussion how in Scotland it was a term of endearment.
It was hilarious, however - I got banned from tinder and banned from hinge by proxy because itās the same company!Ā
"in a friendly casual way"
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Casual slurs on a public profile? And youāre ignoring those red flags?
I'm not some holy christian guy, Idc about some swearing here and there, especially when used for comedic effect.
On the contrary, I like it. Ideally I wouldn't want someone too stuck up. (It's never been a hard filter so don't misunderstand me, I'm not actively looking for people swearing)
A swear is not a slur. By slur people here are assuming you mean racially offensive terms. Thereās no such thing as a friendly casual way to use them, because thereās hate behind them.
You said slur. Not swear. You know these are two different things, right? Hence peopleās interest. Nobody gives a shit about someone swearing.
I love the idea of people thinking there are "casual slurs". You know, like ones you could toss around the office.
I learned that they started to put my profile behind a pay wall on tinder. I was a āhigh quality matchā so they monetized me without my knowledge. I found out when a lot of men had used their āsuper likeā or whatever to start the conversation. It was overwhelming and made the conversation start with what left like me owing them something bc they paid to like me. The whole thing is yucky.
Um do you mind sharing the slurs, the class is curious.
Just protect yourself, no money spent or gifts given until you meet in person.
lol sorry you lost your soul mate who casually uses slurs in her profile. She sounds like a catch bro.
Wtf is a friendly casual slur??
Bro please seek therapy. Being heartbroken over this is not a normal reaction.
Who is going to tell him
No it actually unmatches some people automatically, my girlfriend confronted me on like the fifth date why I unmatched her but I never did.
It's on Tinder's best interest.
yes. tinder wants everyone stay on the app forever
It is going well, time to unmatch this couple.
The results of a match going too well is that they'll get married and delete their profile, and that would be bad for business! So they try to sabotage things before that happens.
As a rule of thumb, get off the dating app as soon as possible and move into meatspace if things are going well. Or at least exchange real phone numbers.
Also rule of thumb, maybe donāt use the word āmeatspaceā
They're an edge runner choom. Got that cyberpunk software in the head.
I fucking love you goobers.
Which is why I move to WhatsApp or messenger ASAP from the dating apps chat section
3 messages and move elsewhere always
I typically find that to be the mark of a bot/scammerĀ
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I'd be really surprised for it to be the case, given she's on different apps and has a profile that is totally out of the norm for bots. She'd make an absolutely awful bot too.
I can update you if you want once I meet her for real. I won't rule out what you guys think of course, it's not impossible.
How do you talk for a week without getting her number and switching to texts/WhatsApp?
I think I spent at least a month chatting with my wife on a dating site before exchanging the info we needed to meet; I had justĀ¹ gotten out of a serious relationship and wasn't feeling that forward. Indeed, it was only even that quick because some other woman I'd been talking to pushed me to meet her.
I knew enough about her from chatting that I probably could've found her on Facebook or whatever, and vice versa. But we just weren't rushing.
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This guy put a footnote in the post šÆ this is a first for humanity I love it
did it take you the whole month before you realized she was your wife?
First time using Dating Apps. I had always heard that it was better to hand out contacts and sensitive info in person because of scammers, and such. Also the date was supposed to be the day after.
I tend to ask that really quickly now
I know this is probably a cynical take but I think itās possible that she unmatched to avoid the date for whatever reason
I mean, That's what I kept thinking at the time. Literally the only reason I could think why someone genuinely interested would stand you up. But she told me(today) she was too looking forward for the date and was really disappointed.
Yes probdbly unmatched op and has a personality that doesn't have the balls to tell him why , hope I'm wrong op
dating apps want you to stay single so they don't lose a customer
Remindme! 5 days
A similar thing happened to me to be honest. People disappearing and then reappearing a day later etc or even a few days later.
Not saying it didn't happen but it's definitely possible.
I was thinking this exact same thingš¤£
Tell me what though? Do tell me pleaseš¤
She unmatched you. Tinder doesn't do that unless they ban the user. When you contacted her again, she lied to you about Tinder doing it. She may well be a bot or a catfish.
"Tinder doesn't do that unless they ban the user."
Wrong. Tinder has done this to me several times. The platform is often buggy as hell.
Sometimes the match reappears in my match list.
When I was briefly on Tinder it didn't show me a single match for months, then suddenly dumped them all on me at once.
Imagine how well people respond when you tell them the reason you didn't message them for two months after matching was because the app glitched. It sounds like a load of bullshit.
Thankfully I met my partner IRL rather than relying on apps but not getting any matches at all for so long absolutely destroyed my self esteem for a while.
cope harder buddy.
The thing is, she didn't blame it was Tinder. That's what I'm assuming after the fact.
She thought I was the one who must have unmatched her. Which would be kind of a weird lie but regardless, I will not rule out the possibility she can be a bot, even if unlikely. It's better to set my expectations low.
I'll meet her soon and see it for myself.
Maybe one of you did it accidentally ? I never used tinder so I donāt know if thatās possible
You may be right and tinder might have bugged out but do know people lie. They can't admit that after having communicated well they still decided to unmatch or ghost.
It's possible after that for some reason this person regretted this action and that's why she's lying.
I would go meet her if I was in your shoes and try to give the benefit of the doubt but also keep in mind that she might have lied.
Yea don't listen to these guys man, go and meet her. And let us know how it goes!
I think they are implying that she did ghost you and just couldnāt admit it to you when you tracked her down. There is no evidence to suggest that however.
She probably went on a date with a different guy, didn't work out and now is saving face for him.
I'm very excited for the update.
Calm the fuck down. You havent met. You will fuck it up by going in with this attitude trust me.
Haha best advice...peopel are overthinking their "written" connection,especially when they have very few matches. You don t know her, you haven t met. Don t make ylurself crazy over a chat...it s also super unsexy to say sorry blabla if you didn t make a mistake. Just man up and ask her out,full stop.
Yeah, you can feel the guys desperation through text
Imagine thinking youāve found your soul mate and a fucking app cockblocks you both. Then this guy comes along and says youāre being desperate.
To use tinder successfully you need to get off tinder. Itās so fucking simple. Say hi, Crack a joke then ask them on a date. Donāt fuck it up until the date (preferably within 48 hours of first message). Tinder is the tool, not the end goal
While id typically agree! In his defense, i was talking to this girl everyday for a month with essay style texts. I had built up a pretty spectacular image of her in my head and thought nah im acting crazy, gotta calm down and meet her first... at-least... When i did. She was exactly as i thought shed be.
I guess i kinda knew cause every other chick is boring A.F to talk to and i could never find the motivation for it. This was effortless and joyful.
I met my wife online and went in with this intensity of attitude. We were engaged within 8 weeks, married in a year and a half, and we've been married 9 years.
Sometimes your intuition is right.
8 weeks? I'm glad the 2 crazy people found each other
You say crazy, I say extraordinarily lucky.
11 years later, we're still together.
Pretty crazy
When you know you know
Every tinder thread has this famous "i met wife here"
Oh it wasn't on tinder, it was on a recreational drug discussion forum š
This changes everything. Carry on.
Lmao two people with a keen interest in the same thing ending up liking each other! What a surprise!!!
Still awsome tho this day and age!
Shocking, I know!
Engaged within 8 weeks? Woahh that's multi level intuition
What are the signs that you can say the person is the one.
Signs? The signs are individual to you. You either know it or you don't. And it does require you to know yourself and what you like. Do you want to spend time with that person outside sex? Do you like talking to them, do you look forward to talking to them with no sex promised? Are you fighting? How often and what about? How do you resolve your issues? Do you know what you're truly willing to compromise on, and what your hard 'nopes' are? And are you willing to overlook your hard nopes for sex and temporary companionship (if the answer is 'yes', then they're not the 'one'. Because you will regret ignoring your own hard nopes sooner rather than later).
And yes it does require you to be a naturally intuitive person, or at least someone who's open to trusting their own gut feeling over the rational brain sometimes, because the human brain is hard-wired for coping and rationalising your way into accepting discomfort for rewards it (often mistakenly) believes are worth it. I cannot really be surprised by people anymore, because I'm so fine tuned to behavioural quirks based on gut feeling as well as experience, and I can usually tell within minutes, whether a person is someone I want in my life or no. Sometimes they might not even be bad people at all, they can be good friends, honourable people, but I just know it that we wouldn't gel well.
Your prime questions are: "Do I feel comfortable? Do I care about them?" and how often you find yourself asking if this or that negative trait is something you're willing to tolerate in exchange for companionship'. How often you find yourself annoyed by your partner. Everybody has flaws, but your 'the one's' flaws usually never go past the point of 'very mildly annoyed'.
Your gut'll tell you. Your brain is worth listening to, but your gut, your instinct, is literally your first and last line of defense here. The brain merely handles everything in between, it administrates, but the gut is the king. If you ask yourself 'is they the one', and the answer is 'yes, but--', then they aren't the one. Got any 'buts' about your prospective 'the one'?
You didn't used tinder to find her so stop acting like you did. Tinder is a whole different ball game. I had to delete the damn app because it was making me depressed.Ā
Survivorship bias
Just because it worked for you doesn't mean it was smart. getting engaged in 8 weeks is actually irresponsible as fuck.
That is true, thanks
Sorry to tell you, but you will learn eventually with online dating
not a single molecule of this is real until you meet in person , none of it. You have to just have a thick skin and keep swiping and keep talking , eventually they will agree to meet you in person
Ä°f you're talking to someone for a long time and they will never meet you in person then it's either a scam or you're like number nine on the 10 guys they're talking to
Feels bad, of course but that's how it is, there's about five guys to everyone girl on apps so you are in a fight for your life
Uhh, this gives me the shivers. The bad kind of shivers. You know what, calm down a bit and maybe things will work out. You haven't even met her yet. I feel bad for you for that "being friends will truly be enough" thing you did but that's just me, maybe she's into that. This just gives me... Simp-ish vibes, I don't know? Good luck though!
It's a bit of a specific case with what we had talked previously, I'm asexual and she is too so even during our first conversation we had talked about this. Hence why I don't think it's likely for her to be a bot. But regardless, you are right I should calm down and meet her in real life first. Being overly enthusiastic will only lead to rushed decisions and may scare others.
It depends. Who said they were asexual first or hinted at it? Because a bot would say they were the same as you to try to build a connection.
In both our Bios. I doubt you'd catch many people advertising yourself as "asexual", she has much more niche interests and references than any bot would have as well, in her bio.
As a fellow asexual, I agree with you.
Hey, my husband is ace! Good luck bro and Iām so happy you got to match again!!
If sheās asexual I think that probably gives more support to the theory she got last minute jitters and unmatched the day before the scheduled date. A lot of girls find it awkward to cancel a date and how to explain why, particularly if things have been going well between you
Not OP but I was, when I first tried dating apps with 18, rather quickly invested in the other person. Stuff like this and other comments in that direction really help to make a person "wake up" again.
Tinder most likely deleted their profile after they were reported for being a scammer/bot. Don't trust any phone calls, or video calls. AI is that advanced, and what the public has access to is a small sliver of what's out there.
They aren't real until you meet them in person.
If you really want to find out, you can start a support chat with Tinder support and ask what happened. If it was some backend technical glitch on their end, they'll let you know. If they were reported as being a scammer they'll let you know. If she unmatched with you, they'll probably say they can't reveal that information.
Alright I'll see to it
I hope she's real, but it's good to try and verify before you invest any more emotions.
Keep an open mind. Don't assume. A lot of comments make assumptions. Don't judge. You can't and don't know. When you can be comfortable with not knowing, it will give you so much peace. Just enjoy. Enjoy the conversation. Enjoy your meeting. Make enjoying your priority. Don't expect anything. Expectations lead to dissappointment. When you have trained the mindset of always enjoying, you will be a lot less dependent on the circumstances for your happiness. Enjoy!
Best of luck Tinder Romeo. Happy you got back in touch with her.
Fuck the Match Group
She probably lying and unmatched you lol
When you meet in person, keep a minimal amount of cash, credit cards and/or identifying documents to minimize loss if you happen to get robbed. My gut feeling is saying this is a precarious situation and you should tread with caution. I hope I am 100% wrong and that you meet someone amazing.
I had something similar happen once. For some reason if you signed onto the web browser version of Tinder the conversation was still there, but on the app it had disappeared completely.
With Tinder. I wouldn't take anything with a grain of salt. Could have been Tinder bugging out. It could have been her, and she's just lying about. You can't know for certain.
You shouldn't get your hopes up until you physically meet in person, and the date is going well.
Tinder is full of catfishes, scammers, men posing as women, etc. So you don't actually know who you are talking to. Even pictures are EASILY faked. And yes, this does happen. Watch catfished on MTV.
If the chats are going well, try to meet up with her. Just be prepared to be disappointed (just in case)
I hope luck is on your side.
!updateme
This has happened to me and my partner as well!! Very engaging conversation, and suddenly poof gone. Lucky for me I have an uncommon name, so he found me on Facebook and messaged me through there. Neither of us unmatched, and he just checked in to see if he said something wrong or...?
Well I'm glad he did, because we've been together now for over six years and I'm currently pregnant with twins.
No. It didn't.
It does sometimes. Iāve lost count of the amount of times Iāve been matched with someone they unmatch and then a few days later Iām matched again with them
Sorry you had that experience dude. Happens all the time unfortunately and it sucks. Doesnāt usually bother me except when youāve made what you think is a great connection, agreed to meet, then get ghosted or blocked on the day of the meet. It hurts but time is a great healer.
Yeah this guy sounds really inexperienced
I don't do tinder dates and even I know women bail out all the time minutes before a date for whatever reason, lots have second thoughts at the very last moment, while others can pretend and tell you they have the night of their lives with you, only to ghost you tomorrow morning and never come back ever again
I just find it sad how dudes have to come up with all sorts of convoluted theories on why they got ghosted when sometimes you can do everything right and still get ghosted.
Some people learn the hard way.
Absolutely. Itās a continual learning process that we never fully master. No matter how much experience you have you can still fall into traps and get hurt as I recently did, and Iāve got well over a decade of experience. Women have their own problems of course. No one is immune from issues with online dating or even just talking online. People are strange everywhere. I think the thing Iāve never fully mastered is figuring out what individuals want based on little information as itās always different. One girl didnāt like me texting to see she got home ok (too pushy), the next was annoyed that I didnāt text until the next morning etc etc. canāt win sometimes. One even told me I wasnāt enough like her ex husband. Still trying to figure that one out š¤
I'm sorry but why would she match with him again on a different app if she didn't actually like him? Just so she can waste more of her time lying?
Yikes.
Lol she unmatched you then lied to you. Whatever you do, you need to calm down. You haven't met this person. You won't find your person if you come across this strong over someone you've literally never met.
Hey guys i have a new dating app, you pay me and you can get a date with a complete stranger over the internet after exchanging a few texts. But only if you pay me. Also i met my wife there. Its totally free!
Sounds like a whole bunch of red flags to me. Be careful or youll get more hurt.
Bots are always amazing matches. Watch Ashley Madison documentary
Ah, Tinder, the worst app to have ever been created on the face of the earth. And beyond.
i'm calling bullshit on this because as far as i'm aware, Tinder does nothing but weaponise dating and cock blocks the shit out of 99% of the users, unless something changed
Well, if she's real(I'll soon find out anyway). Tinder did give me the mightiest of cock blocks lmao. I ended up meeting her on a whole other app because of this.
The experience was really shit outside of her(which I'd say was pure random luck) and 99% of the girls on the apps were really not for me and I wouldn't have been for them.
Yeah tinder was the first popular dating app and they definitely took advantage of their users and doubled down on it these days. Iām glad itās full of bots and no one takes it seriously anymore, hinge is a lot better.
Itās totally a numbers game. 70 - 80 matches might convert to 10-15 date set ups. 5 or so will flake before meeting and of the 8 - 10 you actually meet only 1 or 2 will go to a second date (i.e. youāre both willing to see each other again) Rinse and repeat and donāt get hung up on any one girl until at least date 15 when she might bring up the exclusivity chat. She has to be the one to bring it up btw. Anyone trying to lock you down too quickly will turn out to be a psycho Good luck my friend!
this guy tinders.
Sounds like a catfish, tbh
Genuine question, but wouldn't she want my info/money if she was a catfish?
I'd assume she'd make some lie to postpone the date, but not unmatch š¤
Buddy, she unmatched you.
Tinder is a Hobby for many women to fuel up on confidence. They will Feed on your attention and bail right before it gets more serious. Also more women in relationships doing that than you would like to think.
Had plenty of those conversations until i met my now GF.
Dont do the whole Spiel over with her. Tinder does not unmatch you and you know you didnt.
It's possible. Of course I can't trust her words but when I matched again with her I only said "Hey we previously matched on Tinder and it seems it didn't work out. You seemed like a great person nonetheless so would you like to give it another shot?"
And she told me she assumed I had unmatched her and must have done something wrong to me as she couldn't find the conversation again.
So while she could obviously lie/be a bot. I do find that unlikely. I've been on dating apps for a month now and have had plenty of matches with other people, and she really did feel the most genuine. So that's why I won't be giving it all up just yet.
Why not take the conversation away from tinder or whatever dating app youāre using, to a social media site like Instagram or Facebook? Or message on iMessage or WhatsApp? Have you seen a social media profile of this girl yet, or only dating app profiles?
OP trying to convince himself that he wasn't unmatched
I mean, you allready know she Lied to you about not unmatching you.
There is no such thing as tinder unmatching people and you know you didnt.
Thats as Red of a flag as it can get
But go ahead maybe ask her out for another date and see what happens.
If you speak for a week and never meet nor exchange contacts you are doing it wrong.
Well, we wanted to meet literally the day after the conversation disappeared š . I never wait more than one week before meeting. And I've actually been exchanging contacts straight away now if the flow is smooth.
Well, we wanted to meet literally the day after the conversation disappeared
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Do you know the amount of women who back down once they realize they'll have to actually meet with a guy? Some women just like to be given attention, or just having the thrill of flirting over text but nothing else
There's lots of women who bail out minutes before a date saying that they can't go for whatever half assed excuse they can come up at the moment, don't take it personally.
A lot of people have to work and get shit done, ya know ? Itās not weird at all to have the first date on the next available weekend. The only weird thing is that they were still texting via tinder by the point they agreed on a date. If it didnāt happen before, thatās exactly the point where you should exchange contact info lmao
Tell me if u r compatible with her after meeting face to face. I wanna hear a cute story.
Just meet her and see how it goes! Lots of negativity on here but Iām rooting for you. If you donāt hit it off when you actually meet, you havenāt lost anything other than a bit of time.
Always ask for the phone number, day or two of tinder texting then move on to WhatsApp or whatever messenger you use
Good luck OP!
Match Group use AI generated profiles that match your interests if you havent had a lot of matches. Its a great way for them to keep you hooked.
Tinder is very glitchy, their devs are complete ass and never fix issues, this has been broken for ages.
Just FYI the "disappeared" match may randomly appear back in. your "new matches" with the conversation deleted. So check your new matches and they might be there, hope that helps someone.
Obviously the best thing to do is go off the app to something more reliable. It's best to chit chat a bit then go to whatsapp, imessage etc.
Some people are not ready to date.Ā But dipping their toe in the water. You don't really know what's going on with that person. They most likely have their own baggage they are working through unfortunately.Ā
I have had people disappear for weeks then reappear.
I wish you all the best, pls do update us whether it turns out well or not in the future thanks
She unmatched you bro. Probably already had a boyfriend or was using you for validation purposes.
some of my friends deliberately do this for practicing languages
There are people on here who say that she unmatched him. That might be true but when I used Tinder, it was pretty buggy and MANY TIMES the app would suddenly unmatch the people who I matched with and things would disappear.Ā Anyway, keep us update please!Ā
Upgrade to premium to unlock this user...
Remindme! 7 days
I had the exact same thing happen to me a couple of years ago. My first truly good match on the app too, it was also right before the date. I always assumed that she just changed her mind about me for whatever reason.
However... lately i have been thinking that tinder and the rest have vested financial interest in keeping people single, sad and lonely with how many extra paid options they offer.
Now if we put both points on a graph, they make a line. I'm not saying this is 100% happening, but if they did that they may be in the running for scam of the century.
That would be pure evil if done on purpose
Relevant Andrew Rousso: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9brO3X1DuaE
Tinder. Playing with people's mental health since 2012.
It really does look like the girl unmatched, but that's just the thing. I've had this happen, where I got questioned about it. Tinder really does unmatch people. Can't be actually finding a relationship, that'll stop us from using it anymore. That's why I move apps asap, I do not trust that app. Luckily I found my dream girl on tinder, so no need for that absolute hellscape any longer.
Next time somebody says people ok Reddit are nice I will show them this post... to prove them wrong. Good luck, OP!
Tinder twiceĀ cleared out every match and message from my account. When I complained to support they said, they do this every thirty days.Ā
Obviously a lie. Obviously just a shit platform with no competition.Ā
I dont think its an unmatch. I think its just a bug. Happened to me as well a year or so ago, the she appeared like 2 days later.
Lol. No wonder there are so many posts on Reddit regarding Tinder experiences. Y'all don't have a clue how it works š š š . Tinder definitely unmatches people. Their algorithm isn't guaranteed to find you a date, it's guaranteed to make them money.Ā
I'm invested. Please give an update when you can OP
Maybe I am just jaded, but I don't think you should but so much expectation into this. If things go great, that is great. But if not, you'll be crushed. I am so used to disappointment that expect nothing and I am unbothered whatever may happen. It is the attitude that helped me. However, idk if you have better fortune than I do, but this works for me. You are putting too much emotional investment in this woman when you are getting too little in return.Ā
Also just get her number already.Ā Use textnow or Google voice. You do not have to give your actual number with those apps.Ā
Happened to me too but the chat reappeared 2 days later. I was already grieving by that time lol
Honestly, that's why I connect on whatsapp as soon as possible.
Tinder has messed up on me in the past, so I only spend the first day maybe of messaging on the app itself.
Good to hear things worked themselves out. This is why I consider going to texting and social media crucial, eliminates technical system errors and also makes it easy to tell if youāve for real been ghosted.
Youāre a guy and that means dating apps are brutal. Go into this with a much more open, and slightly less invested mind and heart. You have no idea who this person is, yet.
Just another example of why dating apps are a cancer to society. They encourage hook up culture, they encourage shallow behavior and pessimistic views on dating, they both men and women dissatisfied with their experiences on the apps and the list of negatives could easily go on.
Leave bad reviews warning others of this kind of crap and uninstall these terrible apps and go meet people in real life.
Make sure you get their number if things are going well! My tinder convos never go anywhere until I get a different want to communicate with them lol
Remember: Tinder's business model is built not on their success in pairing you with mates but keeping you looking for potential partners.
To be fair I have genuinely seen accounts disappear from my tinder message list, assumed Iād been unmatched, only for them to appear again a few days later with an unread message from them. Tinder can mess up like that sometimes
Some have managed to find lasting relationships via dating apps, but thereās strong survivorship bias. The developers are incentivized to keep users swiping, not taken, and the apps are designed with this in mind.Ā
If you want to find a meaningful relationship, itās much better to invest your energy in expanding your social circle. Meeting people in real life allows you to observe each otherās behaviour naturally, and without the carefully curated lifestyle presentation youāll see on an app.Ā
This is actually a glitch with tinder, if you sign out and back in it usually fixes it.
Tinder repeatedly don't even let me match with girls even though I know both she and I love each other.
I for one am invested in this outcome lol! I hope it all works out for you.
If you donāt get a number in the first couple days of talking and move off the app then youāre doing it wrong.
My tinder did this several times too- and I think whatever was causing it spread to my phone cuz the numbers of several waitresses I got cell phone numbers for on white pages also seemed to block me after a few texts when I sent my face pic often
Had a similar thing happen. The woman Iām marrying before the end of the year and I matched on Tinder and somehow got unmatched (we both deny unmatching the other) . But thankfully we met irl through friends not long after and hit it off
Ask for socials / phone number sooner rather than later.
Someone bring me more popcornĀ
- Don't like 99% of the girls on there
- Engaged in conversations, hobbies, etc as much as you, perfect alignment
- Equal and symmetrical conversation
- Other person initiates conversation
Hate to tell you this but I think it's a dude bro
100% it was a dude just messing with you.
You sound pretty naive so don't get your hopes all high my boy, just opening your eyes...
Could be a bot or scammer considering, if it's real meet up ASAP in public
Don't give any financial information or personal information outside of what's necessary for dating
Last time I'd used tinder was a long time ago and then someone had told me they're now doing payment plans for "Additional matches"
So they could very well be doing this intentionally to encourage a payout
Abusing customer interest basically
Apple was sued for doing a similar thing with their phones
It's product vs customer
The match plus the messages could have flagged up
Who knows these days. That's the issue.
But seriously, try to meet up in public and establish the situation, don't throw money to anyone who sweet talks you
Maybe get her phone number before you get unmatched again?
RemindMe! 10 days
All these people need to lay off you. Sometimes there's really just a connection right away. Hope things work out with her
I met my wife on Tinder. We matched, had our first date a week later and swapped numbers. 3 months later she moved in, 6 months later we got married and weāve been together for 7 years now. Good luck dude!
Iām pretty successful on the apps and yes glitches can happen and seem to be happening more lately
Iāve had conversations completely disappear from the chats and then sometime later they reappeared in my matches
Iāve also actually had messages be delivered weeks later to me which obviously doesnāt sound real but it happened
There are also more bots than active women on the app but those usually send a snapchat immediately and then they are auto removed immediately typically.
I didn't bother reading any of this because you should know better not to look for a partner on TINDER
First step to dating apps is get off the dating app as quickly as possible. Social media, # number, etc. seems like this was probably a bot but damn get those digits asap
updateme!
Ngl I've talked to several people on tinder and the same thing happened to me. Conversation deleted completely but then a few days later they show up as a match that I haven't initiated with. I think the app is glitchy sometimes. Neither of us unmatched tinder just reverted it back like it never happened.
That's why when you're talking a lot with someone on the apps, grab their phone number so if they block you there, you know what's up
I've been on and off tinder over the years and I would always aim to move to another app as soon as rapport is built and I feel it may lead to a date. It validates legit interest and avoids these types of issues.
I got banned from tinder for violating the terms or use forā¦.not getting many matches or communicating with anyone lol.
Tinder is a shit app. I absolutely belive that could've been the apps fault. Tinders goal isn't to match you with someone to have a serious relationship going, and therefore stop using their service. Tinders business model are hook-ups not relationships!
For next time folks, you want to try to move the conversation out of the dating apps as soon as possible. Not just because things like this might happen, but also because I just donāt like messaging on the dating apps as much. Hate not being able to directly reply to messages.
Always play it by ear of course, women are not a monolith. Some women Iāve asked out on a date after like a message or two, and they agreed. Others you have to get to know a little bit more before they feel comfortable to go out with. But either way, if theyāve already agreed to a date, you definitely have the green light to ask for their number or social media
I matched with this guy a month ago and as someone whoās really bad at texting I wasnāt very responsive, i was interested though but he ended up deleting his account a week later.
He redownloaded the app two weeks later and we matched again and I just asked him out the next day. We hit it off and have been dating for a month now. Shoot your shot and you never know what might happen
I thought it was standard practice that if you are hitting it off, you move to another form of communication off the tinder app? I mean, that's what I've been told, I never actually used the app, but it made sense to me.
She unmatched you
Thatās why you exchange socials or phone numbers after the first day of writing.
She most likely unmatched you for one of these reasons:
- She texting with someone else
- She is fucking someone else
- She found other dudes more interresting
- She's a bot and got banned on tinder
You spent a week texting back and forth, my guy.. on tinder women got atleast 1 or more dudes they're texting with. You gotta hurry the fuck up and ask her out before the other dude does. If she bringing up excuses she's really not into you, but she's keeping you as a back-up in case the other more interresting dude is a dud.
This is borderline insane.
70% she was/isn't real and tinder deleted her account. 20% she did unmatch but changed her mind. Hoping for that 10% for you š¤ I'd arrange an in person date asap