Posts must be relevant to polyamory, as defined by our community description:

Polyamory is openly, honestly, and consensually loving and being committed to more than one person.

Polyamory is only one specific type of ethical non-monogamy. It doesn't sound like that's what this post is about, so try /r/nonmonogamy?

There are a lot of flavors of non-monogamy, and polyam is just one.

Your competition fetish isn’t polyam.

We do not encourage DMing in this sub. Post your issue publicly for assistance.

Your post has been removed for breaking the rules of the subreddit. You posted a personal ad or have made a comment that would be considered hitting on a user.

This post is on an extremely common topic. Looking for a "third" or a "unicorn" or multiple people who want to date only you (and maybe each other) are not ethical forms of non-monogamy, and we do not host discussions about how to hunt unicorns or build harems here.

“All or nothing”, or unit couples who cannot date separately are unicorn hunting.

Swingers also use this term, but it’s a completely different activity.

https://www.reddit.com/r/polyamory/comments/13n1xd6/polyamory_unicorn_hunting_vs_casual_sex_unicorn/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=ioscss&utm_content=2&utm_term=1 

• http://www.unicorns-r-us.com/
• http://polyfor.us/to-unicorn-hunters-from-an-ex-unicorn/
• http://www.autostraddle.com/to-unicorns-from-an-ex-unicorn-287425/

We do not host comments that elevate, support, glorify or otherwise encourage polyamorous unicorn hunting.

This sub is firmly anti-UH, and will remain so, given the harm that, in polyamory, this practice causes.

Thanks for your understanding.

You’ve asked a question that is incredibly common and the answers are available either by searching the sub, or hitting the resources on the community info page.

Sometimes a poster will post a problem that this sub is not equipped to handle.

It’s beyond our skill and paygrade, and usually involves a pretty serious situation. Something serious enough to call the experts about.

If you are seeking mental health resources, or don’t think you can access therapy,

https://www.nami.org/Home might be able to help.

Abuse and intimate partner violence

https://www.thehotline.org

Sexual assault

https://www.rainn.org/resources

If you have questions about STI transmission, or have been recently exposed

For HSV testing, which test to get, when, and how accurate testing is:

https://stdcenterny.com/herpes-testing.html

And this for HPV

https://stdcenterny.com/hpv-testing-treatment-nyc.html

around PrEP

https://www.hiv.gov/hiv-basics/hiv-prevention/using-hiv-medication-to-reduce-risk/pre-exposure-prophylaxis/

And questions around HIV transmission and anti virals

https://www.hiv.gov/tasp/

And overview, including when condoms will and will not be effective

https://www.who.int/news-room/fact-sheets/detail/sexually-transmitted-infections-(stis)

This website can help you figure out your risks for contracting and spreading STIs with and without barriers.

https://smartsexresource.com/sexually-transmitted-infections/sti-basics/know-your-chances/

How to find testing near you:

https://thestiproject.com/where-to-get-std-testing-global-std-clinics/

https://www.ecdc.europa.eu/en/test-finder

Please talk to your Health care provider about any and all medical concerns.

Sometimes, this subreddit just might not have the right knowledge base to help.

Some topics are highly stigmatized, poorly understood, or require education and experience beyond what most lay people can provide.

Talk to someone who will give you real insight and real help with this

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Posts must be relevant to polyamory, as defined by our community description:

Polyamory is openly, honestly, and consensually loving and being committed to more than one person.

Polyamory is only one specific type of ethical non-monogamy. It doesn't sound like that's what this post is about, so try /r/nonmonogamy?

There are a lot of flavors of non-monogamy, and polyam is just one.

Posts must be relevant to polyamory, as defined by our community description:

Polyamory is openly, honestly, and consensually loving and being committed to more than one person.

Polyamory is only one specific type of ethical non-monogamy. It doesn't sound like that's what this post is about, so try /r/nonmonogamy?

There are a lot of flavors of non-monogamy, and polyam is just one.

Your post has been removed for breaking the rules of the subreddit. You made a post or comment that would be considered concern trolling. This includes derailing of advice and support posts, accidentally or on purpose.

Posting poly-shaming, victim blaming or insults under the guise of "concern" or "just trying to help.” will be considered concern trolling, as well.

Please familiarize yourself with the rules. They can be found on the community info page

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Your post has been removed for trolling.

Posts must be relevant to polyamory, as defined by our community description:

Polyamory is openly, honestly, and consensually loving and being committed to more than one person.

Polyamory is only one specific type of ethical non-monogamy. It doesn't sound like that's what this post is about, so try /r/nonmonogamy?

There are a lot of flavors of non-monogamy, and polyam is just one.

You’ve asked a question that is incredibly common and the answers are available either by searching the sub, or hitting the resources on the community info page.

You’ve asked a question that is incredibly common and the answers are available either by searching the sub, or hitting the resources on the community info page.

Your post has been removed for breaking the rules of the subreddit. You posted a personal ad or have made a comment that would be considered hitting on a user.

Posts must be relevant to polyamory, as defined by our community description:

Polyamory is openly, honestly, and consensually loving and being committed to more than one person.

Polyamory is only one specific type of ethical non-monogamy. It doesn't sound like that's what this post is about, so try /r/nonmonogamy?

There are a lot of flavors of non-monogamy, and polyam is just one.

Your post has been removed for breaking the rules of the subreddit. You posted a personal ad or have made a comment that would be considered hitting on a user.

Posts must be relevant to polyamory, as defined by our community description:

Polyamory is openly, honestly, and consensually loving and being committed to more than one person.

Polyamory is only one specific type of ethical non-monogamy. It doesn't sound like that's what this post is about, so try /r/nonmonogamy?

There are a lot of flavors of non-monogamy, and polyam is just one.

Posts must be relevant to polyamory, as defined by our community description:

Polyamory is openly, honestly, and consensually loving and being committed to more than one person.

Polyamory is only one specific type of ethical non-monogamy. It doesn't sound like that's what this post is about, so try /r/nonmonogamy?

There are a lot of flavors of non-monogamy, and polyam is just one.

You are going to get far better advice at the other sub

Posts must be relevant to polyamory, as defined by our community description:

Polyamory is openly, honestly, and consensually loving and being committed to more than one person.

Polyamory is only one specific type of ethical non-monogamy. It doesn't sound like that's what this post is about, so try /r/nonmonogamy?

There are a lot of flavors of non-monogamy, and polyam is just one.

Posts must be relevant to polyamory, as defined by our community description:

Polyamory is openly, honestly, and consensually loving and being committed to more than one person.

Polyamory is only one specific type of ethical non-monogamy. It doesn't sound like that's what this post is about, so try /r/nonmonogamy?

There are a lot of flavors of non-monogamy, and polyam is just one.

Posts must be relevant to polyamory, as defined by our community description:

Polyamory is openly, honestly, and consensually loving and being committed to more than one person.

Polyamory is only one specific type of ethical non-monogamy. It doesn't sound like that's what this post is about, so try /r/nonmonogamy?

There are a lot of flavors of non-monogamy, and polyam is just one.

Posts must be relevant to polyamory, as defined by our community description:

Polyamory is openly, honestly, and consensually loving and being committed to more than one person.

Polyamory is only one specific type of ethical non-monogamy. It doesn't sound like that's what this post is about, so try /r/nonmonogamy?

There are a lot of flavors of non-monogamy, and polyam is just one.