Hello all, looking for a large U shaped sectional (can be up to 195" wide!!) that ALSO has a pull out mattress (queen would be great). One of the previous comments talked about how most custom places offer that kind of option, but we have really only found the Ikea Finnala and are looking for something a little nicer. Budget would be preferably under $6K.

Yes. I am prepared we might need to change our list of what we are hoping for haha. 

Thank you!

Yes, a prenup would protect his premarital assets. But in order for us to protect his premarital assets while married and allow him to “retire” when I became an attending, we wanted to combine finances and live purely off my income. It was basically not possible to then guarantee protection of my future earnings (how we wanted to) in a situation of divorce from alimony even with a prenup according to the attorneys we consulted. Since my financial security (if divorced) was based on my future income, the attorneys we discussed it with recommended against a prenup based on our combined goals/preferences of how we wanted to live our married life. Other people with different goals and different things they were willing to negotiate on may have made different choices or gotten different advice. Nobody enters marriage expecting divorce, so the advice was geared towards the unexpected. IANAL, this is my lay understanding/memory from a decade ago.

I married a non-MD healthcare worker who had discovered FIRE in college. He made low six figures at a young age and saved AGGRESSIVELY. I was in good shape… for a resident. He entered our marriage with greatly disproportionate assets and I entered our marriage with greatly disproportionate earning potential. We spent a lot of time making sure we were on the same page for our future, our future lifestyle, and our goals. Ultimately, we were counseled that in our state, a pre nup that would achieve our goals in case of a split (protecting his FIRE investment and protecting my TBD earning so we could both be financially secure) would essentially not get held up in court. We 100% combined our finances and have no pre nup. We have both been told by some we made a mistake, but we feel the up front investment of time to really get on the same page about all of this was worth the “risk” of divorce since we are both pretty committed to making our marriage work.

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Do you have a specific stroller brand you recommend?

Right? We don’t believe in the calendar, but do believe in the internet.

When “living a primitive lifestyle”=laptops and googling how to resuscitate a newborn. Un-fucking-believable.

I think mostly premade foods, selection of produce, and other goods for a large family gathering for a week!

This is brilliant.

We love Fiction!

Yeah, but like Crazy Ex Girlfriend won an Emmy, I think the market is there for theater nerd meets beer nerd.

Haha oh I am VERY aware, which is how my husband got to listen to a lot of Rodgers and Hammerstein when we went to Hill Farmstead, Lawson and The Alchemist (for him) and Von Trapp (for me).

We are about a month in. I think my biggest tip is to be ready to adjust as your kid figures it out. For example, at the beginning prompting didn’t do anything because she was too clueless so we really had to follow physical cues. After she had really figured out what was happening, we started prompting more (when she woke up, before or after meals, before leaving the house) and that really worked. But now she’s figured it out even more and so is more resistant to prompting because she really knows when she needs to/can go. We still have a pee accident at least once or twice a day (it’s been almost 4 weeks exactly), but it’s usually when we can’t really get her to a potty in time or when she’s distracted and not paying attention.

We started potty training our 22 month old with “oh crap” almost 2 weeks ago (I think we are in the same bumper group for #2!). We gave ourselves until the night before childcare to give up (which was 3 days), and I’m glad we didn’t, we are in such great shape now. I just tried to remind myself that every pee was an opportunity for my kid to learn, for me to learn, and for my husband to learn how we could help her figure it out better. That helped with the moments I was ready to give up or was worried I messed it up haha. I tried to remember this is all so new and such a new weird experience that if I held on being consistent she would figure it out. That being said, if we felt we had made absolutely no progress by 3/4 days, we were prepared to go back to diapers and try again in a few months. But I would hang in there for the next few days, and if you’ve made any progress by Tuesday, commit! I have had a ton of doubt but stuck with it and I’m so glad I did.

We started the “Oh Crap!” method today with our 22 month old. She sat on the potty and peed this morning at the beginning (although it was not clear if intentional or not). Then we caught her mid poop and got her partially to finish the poop in the potty. We have missed 3 pees… the first she hid behind a curtain and peed. Then twice when my husband and I were trying to brainstorm if we were doing it right and weren’t paying total attention to her. We aren’t sure if that means she’s taking the opportunity for “privacy” and we are missing her cues or shes totally clueless and it’s just been timing. I’m inclined to believe we are missing it because she wants more privacy. We are increasing the prompting (from basically none to occasional), and staying the course. Mostly I’m looking for reassurance this is totally appropriate and normal and we aren't fucking it up!!!

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Article number: 303.604.97 (frame only) or 292.278.09 (with mattress) Neither available for online purchase or in stock on website. Would really love this product!

Hi u/Dunkadoobar, we just wanted to thank you so much for your advice. We made a mulch ring and watered, and our tree has recovered and seems to be in great shape. Just wanted to follow up and thank you!!

Thank you, we will try!! Really appreciate the insight and advice.