You were actually pretty kind about the whole thing. She was way out of line and made a fool out of herself. You could have made a scene wnd exposed her but you didn’t.

Give him his father’s day break then leave him with the baby for his days off. No excuses, no denial accepted. If he protests, remind him that he treated you like shit on mother’s day and still demanded his 4 hour break and that taught you that you have to demand a break to get one so you are. Buy bye. Your turn to parent for a couple days. And in the age of google and you tube, you’re also not accepting any weaponized incompetence bullshit.

I honestly have curiosity on how this will affect grades and productivity with the students.

People who have a faithful and trustworthy partner in life

NTA. Your half siblings are not your responsibility. That belongs to their parents. You mother filled her obligation by setting up the funds they will get when they turn 18 from her estate. The burden now lies on their father. Not on you. He can’t say that she would’ve wanted something different here. She made clear exactly what she wanted in the will. He is projecting HIS desires onto his late wife bet they are still only HIS desires and therefore you have zero obligation to indulge them. Any flying monkeys coming for you can put their own money down on the matter or shut their pieholes.

The down sides of the laundry matt is inconvenience of hauling laundry/detergent and finding parking in some cases, unavailability of machines and the cost. I’ve also had items or detergent stolen if you don’t watch it like a hawk but their industrial sized machines can’t be beat when it cones to comforters and duvets and sleeping bags or pillows. So much easier than attempting them at home.

No. They may be playing with knowing the letters and sounds they make and even sounding out words but other than their name and address and phone number or parents names, it’s a little early for them to be reading. The saying used to be “learn to read 1-3, read to learn 4-6” for the grade school years. Kindergarten is prep for it.

If she’s not applying that directly to your medical bills, then she’s stealing from you. Your settlement was for your pain and bills from the accident. She isn’t entitled to it for her own gratification.

Why limit it to the bathroom? The only time I don’t have a shadow at home is when I’m mowing the lawn because my wee black beastie hates the mower.

If we are commenting on each other’s bodies and appearances… then list all the things about their own appearance that might insult them.

I don’t think you’re a bad mom, I think you are not getting enough time to recharge your batteries and do some self care which leads to burnout. No one is going to be fully engages and cheerful when they are running on empty. Instead of jumping on your back, your husband should be making efforts to make sure you get some time for yourself and time for the two of you as a couple instead of constantly momming and dadding. I suggest reaching out to your support system for a day off or maybe getting kiddos involved in a class or club. I am a fan of martial arts classes as it instills confidence and non- confrontational problem solving as well as activity. Swimming lessons are good too for both exercise, learning water safety and mellowing kids out. My kids never slept better than they did on swim class days. They get some activity and socializing and you get some time to breathe.

It’s a thing in my house to break the spaghetti in half while saying “ and now we make the Italians cry” Started as a sensory issue for my son and now I prefer it that way too.

Sweet potatoes. They are good savory and roasted like homefries. Dip em in a little olive oil or avacado based mayo with a splash of lemon juice and chipotle spice.

Cabbage. In salads, soups, mashed potatoes. My favorite coleslaw ever is a head shredded cabbage, a cup of olive oil mayo or greek yogurt, a can of crushed pineapple in it’s own juice and dried currents or cherries all mixed together. Had it at a picnic and it’s filling and light at the same time and pairs well with anything grilled.

The newborn stage was not something I remember fondly with either but especially with my first. I too had a C-section and a baby with colic. Turns out one of my post surgery symptoms was loss of appetite but breastfeeding, I had to get calories and nutrition so my doctor told me to drink a carnation breakfast shake as a meal substitute if I had to. (This was before ensure or other nutrition drinks) well, it turns out my baby was sensitive to cow’s milk and each shake was giving his little belly hell. My sister in law had similar issues with her kids and seeing the babies reaction she went out and bought a container of soy milk and gave him a bottle of it and he was a changed baby. Just like that he was happy and slept through the night and wasn’t gassy all the time. He outgrew the sensitivity when he was about a year old. His little brother never had a sensitivity at all.

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NTA. She’s fine signing you up for the day to day heavy lifting without considering how you feel about it. That’s a hard stop. Three is already a large family. And each subsequent child will be taking time and resources away from the ones you already have. You don’t want to stretch yourself any thinner and that is a legit concern. This is a two yes or it’s a no prospect. And you’d likely get custody, child support And maybe even alimony if she forces your hand and you go for a divorce. Her fantasy of a huge family needs a reality check. Don’t have sex until you get this worked out and if you’re done, that’s okay. Vasectomy is an option. I’s discuss it but that decision is ultimately yours.

Don’t flatter yourself. My face just gets red when I get fed up with your bullshit.

The seem really big and crushed together and that doesn’t look realistic.

There is a world of development that happens between 16 and 20 for a girl especially. And I daresay there is a reason that he is chasing after a girl much younger that he can manipulate and that makes him feel worldly instead of girls his own age that know enough to spot the red flags here and know he isn’t without flaws.

The age is a red flag anything more than 2 years difference is pretty Damned significant until your past 21 yourself.

The speed is another red flag. He doesn’t stand as much chance of pushing the agenda farther if you have time to think about it and process the consequences. Also, when you are together physically and to an extent online or in text there is a focus on physical gratification instead of intellectual or social gratification. How much about him to you actually know? I’m not talking about what he tells you but proof based knowledge. There’s more to a real relationship than just sex and fooling around. How much time between you is dedicated to non sexual not physical things?

The hatred of your parents for having reasonable boundaries and seeing to the safety of their child is another red flag. If someone loves you, they want you to be safe and do what’s best for you, not themselves. At sixteen, you have a ways to go before you are ready to take over your own care and expenses and be responsible for your own health and decisions. It doesn’t feel like it at your age. You feel grown up but your brain hasn’t even fully developed yet and there is no damned hurry to be an adult. As shocking as it is, you’ll likely wish you could have stayed a kid longer when you’re older. Ask anyone over thirty that came up in a decent family.

The push to have you cut contact with your parents is a huge red flag. Abusers seek to isolate you from friends and family and want to be the primary influence in your life so they can control and manipulate you without any interference. Even if you’re mad at your parents, remember that they are still responsible for you and are trying to look out for you.

You’re having doubts because your instincts are telling you this is not as straight forward or good for you as he would like you to think. Always listen to your instincts. Having these doubts about him is your subconscious waving a red flag.

So what does that tally up to? 5 red flags? I’m not going to tell you to dump him or stay with him. That is your call. I am telling you to be cautious, have an exit plan and a code word with your parents that means “I don’t feel right about this come get me/get me outta this” and keep your location on on your phone. That way if you ever cross into that defcon one danger zone, you know what to do to extricate yourself in a hurry.

My three and a half year old son was dirty from playing in the mud and I gave him a bath in the middle of a Saturday which was way earlier than after supper bath. he loved that but as we were draining away the bubble bath, the doorbell rang. The tub was down to almost no water and just some bubbles and he was protesting getting out so I told him to put his toys in the mesh bag and answered the door asking my six year old to keep an eye on him. Long story short, my six year old did what six year olds do and ignored his baby brother. The three year old picked up the toys but could slide in the bubbles from one end of the tub to the other and wanted to make it slick and get some speed . Now the soap and bubble bath and shampoo and conditioner were put up because he had an expensive proclivity for dumping the whole bottles in if he could reach them. So he found something else slippery in the last bit of the water to slide around in. He emptied a tube of toothpaste in there and slopped it from one end of the tub to the other giggling and cheering and having a good time and that’s how I found him after signing for a delivery. And just about the time I walked in on this, he discovered that the minty stuff in the toothpaste… that stuff burns like icy hot. And he’d been sliding all over his little butt and his twig and berries…and he let out a HOWL like a banshee. And he wiggled and cried while I showered it off him and got covered in it myself. And it got splashed all over and was a pain in the ass to clean up while the six year old and his dad stood in the doorway and laughed their asses off at our discomfort.

Fun fact we got a little revenge… the toilet was next to the bath and the seat got well and truly splashed and dad discovered that minty napalm-like mixture clung to the seat even after being cleaned up when he took his nightly time on the toilet and round two of showering and howling commenced only I was the one laughing at him. Karma bitch. It will find you.

My second calamity, the same bathtub luge pilot shoved an icebreaker sour mint up his nostril when he was about six and then freaked out and cried. We told him to blow his nose but it wouldn’t budge and it wasn’t melting enough to fall out so I called the advice nurse to make an emergency appointment with the pediatrician. She told me to wave a pepper shaker under his clear nostril and tell him to smell it. My boy sneezed and it flew out of his nose like a ricochet bullet and his old brother was cheering like mad. Once the nurse was able to stop laughing long enough to tell me he would be fine she told him over the phone that nothing is allowed up his nose but his fingers and then she let us go and the mints got put back in dad’s desk where they belonged.

Dominant genes can mask anything else. She could be half.

We ate at the table until I was about 9 or so then my older sibs all moved out and with just my parents and I dinner at the coffee table in front of the TV became more common if it wasn’t a special occasion. And once I was 15 or so mom lived with grandma for 6 months caring for her after a aneurism and I had to do all the cooking and cleaning and shopping. (Dad could burn water and turn any laundry load accidentally pink if left to his own devices.) and I would eat while I cooked or cleaned up or did homework and he tended to hog the TV remote.

Maybe a dedicated 4 hours sans kids for your hubby the days you work (which beings you to an 8 hour day same as him) and then you share parenting and housework the rest of the time with a day off for both of you while they visit a grandparent or maybe have them signed up for a tumbling or sport or dance class or day care day for socialization. One class day a week isn’t wildly expensive and can give you both some time to recharge your batteries. It will also get them used to being in groups and taking turns and give them confidence if they are in a sport or class.

Kind of the polar opposite of Tragideigh

Even letting her stay temporarily could leas to a legal hassle. Tenants rights are ridiculous in many places. This is not your problem to solve and trying to manipulate you by saying the kids need it is not going to fly. You can be happy to let her visit them at your place but make very clear to them and your children when and how long the visits will last and stress that there are NO overnight visits allowed.