The goal being to give this really subtle hint that they over use the phrase. It's amazing how a small phrase like that can run around in their head for a lot longer than it took to say it.
Not only does it make them dwell on how unoriginal and overused their response is, it will hopefully make them reevaluate how often they pass the buck and don’t take responsibility for things.
"god gave me the serenity to accept the things i cannot control, the courage to change the things i can and the wisdom to know the difference. One day theyll give it to you too"
Sure about that? We can certainly add it to your other obvious ones. Which you really need to take care of. Don't you get tired of being your own victim?
If people don’t want to be my friend, it’s their loss. Whatever snap decisions they make are on them, there’s no point in arguing with someone like that. Accept they suck as a human being and walk away.
Also some people are just out of fucks to give, but you now know these aren’t people you can depend on. If that’s the case, the best comeback is to prove to them that you’re better off without them. And then live your life without them.
A used car driver dropped a car off at the dealership. We told him that the car was past empty. He said “That’s a you problem”. I called his boss and explained we are charging him for a mechanic that we charge $190/hr to get gas, which was fine with us. Guess who shows up 5 minutes later. I think it “was a him problem “
The classic, which is already posted and upvoted the most atm is the best.
However, if you're seeking forgiveness and approached with this then you need to just take it and walk away in genuine contrition for whatever it is you're asking forgiveness for.
First, strap a ticking suitcase nuke to your back and when someone says "That's not my problem" grab them with one hand and shoot yourself with the other hand and say "It is NOW" just before you die. THAT'LL SHOW THEM.
In many cases, it isn't their problem. If so, my answer is to move on; no words need be said.
If it really is their problem and they say that after I've explained the situation, I'll decide if it's worth my time to escalate. For instance, I'd let their manager know the security guard isn't doing his job when there's a suspiciously open door on his route.
Say nothing and start saving up money. After six months, rent the largest vehicle you can, drive it through the front wall of their house.
If they live in an apartment, put broken bits of pottery outside their door.
Very good, that’s right, that’s not your problem. It’s clear that your problem is that you have fundamental character flaws that continue expose and elude you.
"You've clearly never worked as a software developer."
Every "software developer" job I've had devolved to figuring out and fixing stuff that has nothing to do with software development. The most consistent use of my time has become figuring out accounting mistakes because "you're good at math".
In one hour it sure as shit is going to be your problem, aloing with why you didn't take care of it an hour ago. You're sure going to wish you'd just done your fucking job.
If I've asked for forgiveness and they respond that way I simply state 'and now it's no longer mine.'
Depending on where I'm asking for help, like at work. I'll simply state 'okay, I'll just ask someone higher up for assistance' and those folks typically make it their problem. I'll always let people, who help me, know if they need my help in the future, to just reach out.
I didn't ask if it was your problem. I didn't ask whose problem it is. I said do it. So DO IT and DO IT without comment or I'll give you more problems you don't want.
(Not good... but maybe if they werent so busy being a problem then problems would be easier to fix around here....one less nuisance in the way.... i think im tired XD)
No but I feel like this is kind of like how people talk about a problem they're having and then someone says, I'll pray for you. I hate that. It's like, you may as well come out and say I don't care.
That’s what my husband‘s ex-wife said to him. He left her six months later. They had been together for a total of five years. He and I were together for 34 years.
Help OR forgiveness? Do you not know the difference? You do, I know, you're just trying to blur the difference so that telling you "that's not my problem" because somebody won't help you haul your barbells up to the attic is the same as not forgiving you.
Who even responds to "Will you forgive me?" with "That's not my problem"?
I don't know man. I heard a story once where this guy needed some money for a car, so he ended up doing some underground wrestling stuff. So, the guy gets his costume together, and then he does a cage match. He wins sooner than advertised, so they stiffed him on cash. He was told something similar to "that's not my problem" when he confronted the guy paying out. The payout guy got robbed, and this guy could have stopped him, but let the robber go, repeating the line he was given earlier. Turns out the robber went on to shoot his uncle.
I don't have a comeback because it ISN'T their problem. It's yours and why should they make it theirs?
That said, maybe the best comeback is: you're right, it's not your problem it's mine, but I value your opinion and I'm hoping for a little guidance. Or in the case of asking for forgiveness: a simple "I'm truly sorry." But to many who feel wronged or slighted, those are empty words without anything meaningful to back them up and backing up "I'm sorry" with actions is your problem, not theirs.
Yes, you can have a snarky comeback, but it's going to get you exactly nowhere.
Kind of depends. What are we asking for forgiveness for? For example: If you cheat on someone and ask for forgiveness, ‘that’s not my problem’ is a perfect response.
If you’re asking for something so simple and get told it’s not their problem- you say:
‘The problem is that your mother didn’t swallow you, but here we are both dealing with that problem now. I think you can spare a few brain cells to help me out. We all have a frontal lobe, use yours little guy.’
The ‘little guy’ (especially if it’s not a small guy, or if it’s a girl) is silencing especially if you know they have an ego.
Ill make it your problem!