I’m half Korean and have had some really uncomfortable, specific, and fetishizing remarks made when I was a younger teen. I’m 20 now, and still wonder (and many times worry) if this is a leading factor when guys express interest. I’ve been reassured by many women that it’s not the case, but given how obvious and prevalent it is in media I doubt it and feel I have no way of knowing. This may be uncomfortable for some to answer but I’d really appreciate honest feedback!
Does race play a role when gauging a woman’s physical attractiveness?
Noah Gardenswartz had a great bit that was basically:
You shouldn't hate anyone because of their race, but you should hate at least one person from every race. If you don't hate someone from a certain race... You simply haven't met enough people of that race. Your admiration only speaks of your lack of exposure.
Wise
Leading factor? No but it is a part of your appearance so sure.
Do I think someone is attractive just due to their race? No. Do I think someone is unattractive due to their race? Also no.
Its the same as hair color or height in my eyes
Same here. Like I don't fetishize race, but I can't think of a single one I wouldn't date. Beauty standards are the same.. symmetry, lack of blemishes, fit, etc. Race plays a role, but for me, it's not a part of the decision tree.
This is why I'm so hesitant to talk about preferences, especially race.
I feel so many people have "a type" that they project that onto others. Even if we have a slight preference in that decision tree, all types are on the tree. They struggle to see that and assume that a preference towards one either means we don't want the others, or else will always take the preference of available.
Naw, it's a person to person thing. I'll just as easily be with my "least wanted" type as I will for my "favorite" type and the difference is minimal.
I will own that scarcity has a bigger influence on me than I want to admit to myself. I have found myself "preferring" types that are just more rare in given areas.
Big disagree on that second point. Maybe its because I was brought up in a monocultural environment but I really struggle imagining myself dating outside of my race.
That's okay we all have different types. You might not like features associated to X race just like someone else might not want to date someone for their height or weight or hair color.
I definitely notice most women I've been with are Russian and Eastern European but I was also with different parts of Europe, American women, one black chick and my current significant other that I love is Iraqi and Egyptian.
Outside of your race ethnicity, our outside of your culture ?
Why?…
I just dont find their features attractive. Idk if its Freudian but I'm generally attracted to women with similar skin tone, character, and body type to me
I don't think anyone is saying you're not entitled to your preferences and what you're attracted to. In fact, it makes a lot of sense from a evolutionary/sociology/anthropology perspective. There's something to the idea of being hardwired to want our offspring to be like us (including our appearance). That drive is stronger in some people compared to others.
The fact that you "disagreed" means that this is a worthwhile discussion with infinite "right" answers.
Same here and I don't think there's anything wrong with that.
Yeah I believe that's called racism.
Yes exactly. I’m attracted to beautiful/hot people and definitely have a body / feature type and standards.
I’ve been with and dated women of all ethnicities. I’ve definitely noticed about guys who date asian women that many assume you have an asian fetish and only go for asians, and there are certainly some guys like that. My standards are high in general and I’m not attracted to someone just because they are a certain race, and am probably not attracted to most women of any race.
To answer the question in the title: yes, because it does affect how you look. Indian woman doesn't look like an African woman, who, in her turn, doesn't look like an Asian woman.
To answer the actual question, namely:
I’m half Korean and have had some really uncomfortable, specific, and fetishizing remarks made when I was a younger teen. I’m 20 now, and still wonder (and many times worry) if this is a leading factor when guys express interest.
Majority of men won't try to start a relationship with you just because you are half Korean. Guys will find your Asian features attractive or not based on their own preferences, but your "Koreanness" won't play a factor. Sure, there are guys who want a Japanese girlfriend specifically because she is Japanese, or there are women who want a Korean boyfriend specifically because he is Korean, but those are weirdos.
One other reason someone might want a Korean boyfriend,aside from being a weirdo,is that they're also Korean.
Sure, but I was talking from the "multiethnic" point of view.
He already said Koreans are weirdos....
That's still being a weirdo. It's weird to want your desired partner to be a specific ethnicity.
or that they prefer women who are petite and feminine and not modernized, and chances of finding all three are better with Asian women.
Outside of fetishisation and racism, not really. There are some people who are into (or not into) specific physical traits that are more common in some racial groups than others though so to that extent it might though. But generally most people I've met, myself included, can find someone attractive in every racial group.
This is the answer. I tend to prefer Asian women because they commonly have the majority of the physical traits that I find most attractive in women. That doesn't mean I can't find others attractive though, it's just that I am more attracted to someone that is closer to my ideal beauty standards.
What traits?
Dark hair, dark eyes, monolid eyes, short, on the thinner side. You can find those traits in other people of Hispanic or native descent, but they are far more common in Asians.
I used to be terrified to admit to it because I was worried about accusations of fetishism.
I also remember some of my friends thinking it was a ridiculous fear since it's just part of what I could possibly like. They'd worry if my dating pool was nothing but people from the same race.
Bit Ironic in hindsight because I'm mixed myself.
Everyone is attracted to a different physical features that some races do happen to exhibit than others, so it would be false to say that race doesn’t play a role in gauging attractiveness, however given that physical preferences are different for everyone there is no race that is most or least preferred unless we are on an individual level.
I'm going to be completely honest here, but yes. I'm white and I'm really only interested in/ attracted to white women. I know a few white guys who are more interested in Asian women likely due to fetishizing them.
I think it's way more common than people want to admit for people to have racial preferences in dating. You'll usually get crucified for saying it publicly though.
I think most people don't slow down to think about what it means to have racial preferences in dating. And you're just being more honest with yourself.
The backlash usually depends on how your stance is phrased though:
I'm white and I'm really only interested in/ attracted to white women.
That is not remotely the same as "Ew, I would never date a Black woman." Or "Sorry, I'm not interested. I really enjoy your company, but you're obviously Chinese, so hard pass."
I mean I don't really have any good reason for it. It's not any different in my eyes than my not being attracted to men. It's just what I like and I don't have any control over it. I'm not going to apologize for what/ who I'm attracted to.
And obviously I would never say anything like that, I'd just politely tell someone I'm flattered but not interested and leave it at that.
For what it's worth, I don't think you need to have a "good reason." Attraction is not something you can control. And you absolutely shouldn't apologize for it.
I was offering my support that you're expressing your experiences and clarifying that you don't deserve to get shit for it. Like we've both said, as long as you're not a dick about it, you're golden.
Interesting how when white dudes have a preferance for any race other than white its "fetishisation"
Definitely not what I said at all. I have a friend who is white who has expressed his preferences for Asian women in a way that seemed rooted in stereotypes. That's specifically what I'm talking about. Also my brother and how he talks about latinas. Idk what to tell you.
Well if you're interested in a good faith discussion about it you could explain what "a way rooted in stereotypes" even means combined with showing how stereotypes are not just based at least partly in fact and pattern recognition.
It's a stereotype that asians have dark hair - Is that wrong, either morally or factually?
It's a stereotype that asians have dark eyes - Is that wrong, either morally or factually?
It's a stereotype that asians have a more diminuitive stature - Is that wrong, either morally or factually?
If I had a dollar for everytime myself or a white dude who is attracted to asians was told he has a fetish (and, as a side note, given my understanding of the word "fetish" refers to "finding something sexually attractive which is not, E.G Feet, E.G cock and ball torture etc" what a wildly uncomplimentary if not racist thing for an asian person to hear: "You and your race are so unattractive that only a weirdo with a fetish could date you) I'd be able to buy Twitter from Musk.
It never seem to go the other way around though. White chicks can be into black dudes and black dudes can be into white chicks and it's not a fetish, hell even asian women attracted to white dudes aren't told it either.
It's the exact opposite actually. You should absolutely be crucified for thinking this, but you won't. This idea that it's not racist to only be attracted to specific races has become very common and accepted unfortunately.
A small part, yes. It's not racist to have a racial preference. I myself prefer white girls over everything else because I'm a white guy.
While race might have a subtle influence due to the aesthetic traits associated with it, it's the synergy of features, personality, and that unique spark of individuality that truly captivates someone's attention. Attraction is an intricate dance of genetics, cultural background, and personal experiences - essentially a cocktail more complex than just race. It's about the chemistry that either clicks or doesn't when all those elements blend together. Just like art, beauty comes in endless forms and preferences vary wildly, so pegging attraction down to race seems rather reductive when human diversity and taste are so boundless.
This was beautifully said and perfectly written
Yes, I'm not attracted to Asian girls. I am most attracted to white, latin, and black girls. I am black myself
No I look at the whole appearance and it doesn't matter what the skin color is if the features go well enough etc. I equally find Michelle Pfiffer and Angela Bassett attractive, for instance.
Absolutely based choices.
Yes, generally I don't find some races/skin tones appealing at all, though there are exceptions.
Certainly some people can have an inclination towards one group or another, but overall a good looking woman is a good looking woman.
Race definitely plays a role in everyone's attractiveness. Some races are seen as more desirable. The media also pushes certain standards to promote this.
No. A women is either attractive or unattractive to me, doesn't matter the race. But I do find myself attracted to white and Latin girls the most.
Yes. I’ve exclusively dated brown-skinned women. White and otherwise light-skinned women without certain ethnic features aren’t attractive to me.
I don't like white women at all in that way, a mix of bad experiences souring them as a whole for me, other groups treating me way better, and a sort of natural leaning towards people who are different than me. My fiancee's latina and asian and I'm largely attracted to both groups, but not every latina or asian is gonna be my type, so I guess race is both important but not the main thing.
It'd be like if my gf said she liked white guys, that doesn't mean she likes all white guys, just the ones that she likes are white.
If someone is attractive then they are attractive, if they aren't then they aren't, it's on an individual basis for me and I have seen attractive women and unattractive women of every race.
Yes it absolutely does and anybody who says it doesn't is just being PC tip toing on eggshells. That being said, different people appreciate the features of different races (we do actually look different).
Sometimes but not as a general rule.
No. I’m generally not into black girls, but I do see some that are attractive.
People are allowed to have a type, how much that bothers you is up to you
There certainly are features that certain races have that I find attractive but it's a correlation not causation. That said I find most women attractive across basically all races so not sure if that means much. I will say Korea is a bit of an outlier in that I know quite a few guys who are super into kpop so they tend to be into Korean women. That said its not like they arent into other races. Doesn't help that culturally alot of Korean people tend to take very good care of their skin and have probably the best plastic surgeons in the world so there happen to be alot of extremely attractive women who happen to be Korean.
I mean
Studies show people do, on average, tend to prefer dating people similar ethnic backgrounds
I don’t think it’s a conscious factor for a lot of people, but we gotta remember, there are still racists in the world too
So yes it does, but not for everyone. Your race probably works in your favor about as much as it works against it depending on who you’re trying to date
Not really. It only plays a role if a person has a specific "type".
Not really but there is one thing and that is that i prefer Black women over asian women over white women. Does that mean i would reject one of them? hel lnaw gota love all of em. But do i have preferences? hell yeah everybody does.
Did that help you?
People don’t want to admit that different races have significantly different body shapes. Chinese can’t wear monocles and there’s much more - depending on your race. Its’ really as simple as that.
Lol this is some hilarious old-timey race nonsense.
“It is self-evident that the Chinaman cannot wear a proper monocle”.
“The Jew and the Muhammadan conceal a small set of horns beneath their head coverings.”
“The Negro’s immunity to sunburn and inability to swim identify him clearly as a fire-type pokemon.”
It’s not just skin, it actually goes down to the skeleton.
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5004623/
I’m aware that there are minor physiological differences (on average) among ethnic groups. Ethnicity isn’t just a palette swap.
So, in your learned estimation, what specifically is it about the bones of the Chinese that prevents them from enjoying a fine monocle?
brow bones are different, as are cheek bones.
Chinese can’t wear monocles
But monocles are so sexy!
Men are more race loyal than you seem to think. That said, I find women of all nationalities attractive. I still think it comes down to meeting a person whose values and desires meet and match more than picking because of race.
Kinda, but it's more based around past experiences with women who happened to be that race. If you lead with basing the relationship around shared hobbies/interests you might have better time .
That’s… an interesting theory of how people find races attractive or unattractive.
Might explain a lot of what I’ve seen.
Or lack of experience. A lot of caucasian men have very little experience with Asian women and only really know of them through the media. And a lot of it isn't even actual women (anime).
I think a lot of fetishizing of Asian women would be solved by exposure to everyday women. Worked for me.
i find asian girls attractive but i dont find girls attractive because theyre asian.
its foolish to pretend like we dont acknowledge race when we look at someone. its letting race dictate things thats problematic
Not for me. I have seen some drop dead stunners in all tones and colours. Doesn’t matter what colour you are imo
Not a guy, but I'll give you my experience:
In my 20s I hung out with a group of girls. There was the Goth girl (me), the all American blue eyed blonde, the curvy black girl, the exotic Thai girl. We all got fetishized to some extent by a small portion of men.
It's not a leading factor in gauging attractiveness but you will run into some creeps who will fetishize you because of your race. Likewise you'll meet some who will be turned off because of your race. Can't please everyone and you wouldn't want to.
Yes some guys definitely do fetishize racial features. Not all though, even with that relationships still rely on people having personalities that work together so the latter is always more important in the long run.
I think so, but for every race, there are guys who prefer that race, so I wouldn't sweat it.
Yes and no. Yes, some people would likely date some people from some races and less likely to date some people from other races. That’s not racism nor fetishes, just personal preferences. Like some people would mainly date blondes because they are used to that, yes it is a bias. We all are full of biases conscious and unconscious biases. Even what you wear today is based on unconscious biases that you have, and that’s fine. Each race has their own unique features and culture. That matters for some people, which isn’t necessarily a good or a bad thing. It’s just what it is. No, it’s more than just the race. You can be a hot asian and lack of any values, likewise you can be a hot white chick and dumb. Or the other way around. I wouldn’t look much into it. More importantly than looks, the race etc. are the values that the two person share. Provided you want something more than a one night stand.
Yes, men have types we are attracted to, just like women have,
crazy but we are human just like women are
Physical attractiveness? No. Beauty is beauty and 100% in the eye of the beholder. One persons 10 is another's 1.
Am I aware that their are cultures and religions that have strong views on relationships with people different to them that couple be problematic, yes. If I was single and found a woman attractive would this be a reason I wouldn't approach her in case it was going to be a problem? Yes.
This question has to do with 3 things.
How we are raised, how old we are, and who raised us.
I personally prefer my own race, but some of my friends find other girls attractive that are not. Some might have been brought up biracial, other white dudes might like black girls, while others like Asian chicks or even trans or butch or masculine girls, or whatever. I'm from a very open city, so that's another factor. If one is from a small town in the middle of nowhere, they have different opinions and desires too.
It's really an impossible question to ask, because there are so many variables at play here, that it's up to the guy and what turns him on and what doesn't. As I grow older, my preferences have changed (I insisted on blondes, but brunettes are looking good now too). If you had told me that would happen 30 years ago, I would have said you're crazy. So, that's another factor. What age is the guy you ask about? Where did they grow up? If we were young, dumb, and full of cum, then that's a different story, but we guys also change, so that's another variable.
You post here asking men what we think, but your question is very difficult to answer because - as they say - "It's complicated"
-and we change, just like you girls do
I also think where you were raised has some bearing. I was raised in white bread America. Dating some who was not white wasn’t really an option.
Exactly.
Totally true!
Not really. For me attraction is about looks, body type, your overall sense of style, personality, etc. it does not matter what race you are.
Sometimes yes, many guys have Asian fetish
Fetishizing is a whole other ball game - this will be a minority of those expressing interest and it will be purely down to race. For everyone else, there may be racial "preferences" but it's only a small factor alongside other physical traits and your general character that would arouse interest in us guys.
To me yes.
If they are crazy over kpop, then yes you might find them liking you because of your nationality
Not for me, an attractive woman is an attractive woman no matter what race she is.
For some it might be, but I suppose that at least gives you a good flag that these are people to avoid. For most I don't think that it would be a major factor though undoubtedly the template of beauty ideals is set by what you see around you and if that is very mono-racial / mono-cultural then it may be a subconscious factor.
I mean it's hard to not take into account since it's part of your appearance, but it has never been the deciding factor for me. There isn't anything like "this race is the most attractive" or "this one is the least hot" for me.
Depends on the person. To me? Not in the least. I'm with a Vietnamese girl now but I've been with black girls and white girls before. Never had an impact positive or negative. There are definitely guys that fetishize asians and you should be aware of that. But that doesn't mean everyone or even most men do.
I don't think about race or ethnicity when deciding if I find a woman attractive. There may be additional interest based on lack of familiarity (some ethnicities are rare in some regions), but that some doesn't make them more attractive.
Some men do specifically fetishize certain ethnicities or races. I think for the majority of men physical attraction comes down to body shape and facial symmetry rather than race or ethnicity.
That being said, the vast majority of men still choose long term relationships with women that are part of their racial group, however interracial marriage has been rising.
https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2017/05/18/1-trends-and-patterns-in-intermarriage/
Indirectly, I would say so.
I find certain features attractive which are likely to be more prominent on women of certain ethnicities and am therefore far more often drawn to women of those ethnicities than I am to others.
But it's never a direct / conscious thoughts pattern along the lines of "oh she's X ethnicity and therefore unattractive / she's Y ethnicity so let's give her a second look".
It's more like "wow she's got a beautiful skin tone, a great shape, nice facial features and her hair is amazing..." and she happens to be X ethnicity which is obviously a part of why she has those features.
It varies from person to person but it is very common for guys to see women's attractiveness through a racialised lens. Primarily, through the way in which beauty standards correspond with perceived racial norms and secondly via how different groups are racialised with regard to gender norms - see how, for instance black men are framed as by default particularly (often excessively) masculine relative to a white norm, in a similar way to how Asian women are framed as particularly feminine relative to a white norm (and likewise, see how black women and Asian men are framed as less desirable than their white counterparts for being too masculine and too feminine respectively). Much of this is just white normative projection regardless of any actual reality, but it's very pervasive culturally.
tldr: yeah there are a lot of cultural forces which shape that, and how, a lot of guys will factor your ethnic background into their attraction to you
My mom is from Korea while my dad is from Sweden. I've had women express this too towards me. It always made me uncomfortable, especially considering I don't see myself as even slightly Korean and have about zero interest in that part of my heritage. I'm Swedish, and that's it. I'm also fairly uninterested in my swedish heritage. I'm Swedish because of me, how I grew up, where I live. Not my parents or their parents etc.
I just think it's normalised to think in this way, across both sexes. I do think it's more common among men though. And while preference is fine to a certain degree, the why, and how you say it matters.
Thankfully, that kind of heritage thinking seem to much less here than in other parts of the world. When I was in the US for an extended amount of time I always got the "but where are you REALLY from", drove me insane.
Went a bit off topic here, sorry, but this irks me quite a bit.
To more answer your question, I believe it's somewhat common, and in many cases innocent. It still sucks, and is what I would call casual racism regardless of how innocent it is.
Race does influence your appearance and so has an influence on your physical attractiveness which is natural and not a problem.
Not really, no. There's never been a race of women I wasn't attracted to based solely on their race.
Do I have preferences for skin tones, eye color, hair styles/types, and so forth? Sure.
Depends on the person, for some it's top of the list. For others its at the bottom, and for others, it's not on the list at all.
I would say that yes, race plays a role in attractiveness, but that's because attractiveness is subjective and different people find different traits attractive.
That being said, there's a lot of dudes that like Asian girls, so, yeah, there's definitely a degree of fetishization involved. However, it seems to work both ways. Asian women seem to be way into white men.
Unfortunately, yes. This goes for both men and women and is prevalent in the West. Some people get unwanted attention due to stereotypes; some people don't get any attantion at all due to stereotypes.
People will say that it's not a factor, but it is, and it's not gender-specific - it affects all of us.
Does it? No. Can it? depends on the person. But an attractive woman is an attractive woman.
There’s going to lie to you on this one. Be prepared… 🌚
I mean, it's possible that a certain race can have more aesthetically pleasing features. I don't know if that's necessarily "fetishizing" though.
It's interesting how women want to be beautiful but they also want to have 100% control over who finds them beautiful and for what reasons.
What do you consider a fetish?
Certain races have common physical features and men may be attracted to certain physical features.
I think often racial preferences are more about how cultures teach people to act differently
Who the hell cares, honestly? It doesn't matter what attracts a mate specifically. Race is an arbitrary way to describe a skin tone or more precisely categorise by appearance. The shape of your face and body is just as much a valid criteria to be attracted to just as skin tone is.
I've spent a lot of time in Asia and have never found myself checking out a lady in public (other than south Asians); they just don't have that kind of aesthetic attraction for me. However, I've had a couple friends who were Asian or of Asian descent who I eventually got into a relationship with.
Yes
I am sure
That's all in your head. Ask yourself why you're not attracted to 1000 lbs girl/guy or people who are severely disabled (using extremes here for the general mass, nothing wrong with any type of it's your preference). We're attracted to certain people for different reasons. If you're not attracted to a certain type/vice versa, accept it and move on. There are over 8bn+ people and the odds are on your side.
I would say that race is usually one of the first factors I notice, but it is not a leading factor in their attractiveness. Obviously, we all have racial preferences when it comes to potential partners. It makes little sense, but attraction often doesn't.
I normally would go after white girls or some type of Asian decent. But I have dated all types of people from all different backgrounds. I find beauty in almost every type of person.
Yes definitely, go ask some dark skinned black women living in America if it's a factor and you'll likely have your eyes opened. We live in a racist world and many people in that world are racist
This is subjective.
Why not just avoid those people? You cannot fit a group or title to something this big(gender) and expect a solid "this is how it is" answer because every human is different. Who would have guessed.
Yes, but not that much
It's more about personal preference than attractiveness itself. I can judge someone's attractiveness as high, even if their race isn't my preference. In the same way I can judge a man as being objectively attractive, even though I have no interest in dating other men.
No.
There are preferences, but race doesn't take away from attractiveness.
Not as far as I'm concerned. Attractive is attractive and race doesn't play a part in it to me. I've had relationships with a few races other than my own and, when I first saw them, I just thought "Wow!"... I never thought "Wow, what a pretty Black woman, or Latina woman, or Asian woman". It was just Wow. I like every complexion from pale assed White woman to Black as night.
A guy might fetishize you. A different guy might be particularly attracted to women with your hair color, eye color, height and or any other trait.
If men find the physical features of Korean women attractive, then yes it plays a role. I like dark/brunette hair, brown skin, and darker eyes... no idea why.. not a fetish, but more of a type...
Everyone is probably going to look at this in a little different way, but for me: kind of? That is, there are certain features that are more common with some ethnicities, and something I may find more attractive or less attractive in terms of sheer preference. And race can often come with cultural and life experiences that can affect compatibilities. So, in that sense, the total, perceived attractiveness can be affected. However, when it is all said and done, race is much the same as eye or hair color, or just not something that is really that important. When I was single and dating, it was not something I really gave an consideration to. I was, and still am, a believer, that if I genuinely like someone, who they are, I am going to find things about them that are attractive!
Absolutely. Races do play a role.
I just can't get into women who run the Boston Marathon.
Now, the Cannonball Run on the other hand...
A role sure, in the same way any physical feature does. It's like it applies a certain cosmetic style. Kind of like the different types of goths.
Like, there's nerdy white women who get mistaken for asian online because they intentionally use makeup to achieve that effect.
I think that for a decent person, it plays a role but not much of one other than "oh, that's interesting." For others though, we all know that it can be polarizing. Either they love too much or hate too much, both are bad.
Speaking for myself, no; I routinely dated outside of my own race. That said, when guys I know feel safe, they admit to not being able to see beauty or femininity outside their own race.
Short answer: depends on the guy.
I’m a white standard western male and I’ve always found African black ladies and Indian ladies stunning. I married a white western lady.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. We are all different.
I only date Homo Sapiens race. The Neanderthal race is long extinct, sadly.
Not exactly. Everybody has a type: a set of basic characteristics that just appeal on sight. Mine happens to include shorter-than average women with dark hair and darker skin than my own paleness.
So statistically, an Asian woman is a bit more likely to push my buttons, but not because of where their ancestors lived.
in a way yes. probably because of the familiarity factor. if you're half korean then asian guys will approach you and also the other half of your parents race too.
in a way you'll have more suitor than ppl who has single race parents
No. Beauty is beauty…or the lack thereof
Race can play a role in judging attractiveness. Say you’re a Korean girl in Korea. You’re average in your country, come to say the west, maybe southern parts of America and boom! Average 5/10 girl is now a 7/10 or even 8/10.
It’s not about race though. It’s about being where you are rare. Same with other races too.
Everyone looks like you, you stand out like a contact lens on a polished floor.
An older Asian woman once said, go where you are appreciated.
It's... Yes and no? It's not the driving factor, but certain races have certain physical traits (generally) that are attractive or unattractive to certain people. Some people are into that skeevy racialized shit but for what I'm comfortable saying are most guys, race doesn't play a role in physical attractiveness.
Some won't date certain ethnicities due to cultural issues, but that's a separate conversation.
It isn't per sé.
I'm predominantly attracted to Asians/Latinas/Arabs/Indians but it's not *because* of their race. Attractive is attractive regardless of race, I'd never date or not date someone based on race, but I do have certain physical characteristics I tend to be more attracted too, and I bet you can't guess.
Attraction is not a choice. People like what they like. Food, music, movies, types of people they date. They don’t choose to like it. They just inherently like it.
No, I've been attracted to women of every race, creed, and color. Hot is hot
Yes but a lot of men like Asian or half Asian women so while this doesn’t help your own self esteem, it’ll mean you have a lot of dating prospects.
No.
Are certain racial features more attractive to me? Sure. Are certain features less attractive to me? Also yes.
But a beautiful woman is a beautiful woman regardless.
Good men will not choose a wife by their race
I tend to not find black chick's as attractive on average. Not saying i don't find some attractive just not normally my type. Other then that couldn't care less honestly.
Yes, but not for the typical reasons you’d expect.
I find dating within my own culture/race rather boring if i’m honest. I want to learn and experience different cultures, learning all the intricacies and layers of a person’s background and their beliefs and values.
I find that that it is such wonderfully rich experience that you can’t always get when you just stick to what you already know.
But that’s just me i guess
Not to me personally, as I believe that's racist. Unfortunately, there is this common idea now that it's okay to only be attracted to certain races, and they believe this isn't racist. It is.
It's apart of who you are, and I tend to find women of my own race more attractive then other races if everything else was the same. Apart from that I don't really feel like race plays a major part of attractiveness
I rarely find people with African roots attractive. Asians look weird until they don't, then they look gorgeous
No. You're not hot just because you're Asian. You're hot, and just so happen to be Asian if that makes sense.
As a more general thought about this: It may be wise to not associate with people who overly engage with "social" media if what you want is a life outside of that and untainted by all the vitriol on there.
More spefically: There are definitely men with fetishes, there are men who have fetishes to the level of obsession which makes them blind to individuals and they only see someone ticking the boxes of their fetish and then there is the IMO largest group of guys to whom ethnicity doesn't really matter. In that last case its more about the compositions of all the visual traits that makes someone attractive or not to them. And even then, this is not the full equation, there is also a big portion of personality features men care about.
Race is related to some fisical features. Those features have a role when gauging physical attractiveness.
Personally, I think that typical korean facial features are attractive. I don't specifically look for koreans. I don't think all koreans are attractive.
I express interest in people I'm attracted to, regardless of race.
I find women of all races attractive, but I've only ever seriously dated women of my own race
For sure, ethnicity is an aspect of appearance and a lot of guys have ethnic preferences. I definitely like the east asian look. And yes, some definitely do fetishize east asian women (and girls).
The best advice I can give is to trust your gut — if a guy says fetishy things, it’s not just you. He’s fetishizing you. But many if not most of the guys who DM you or ask for your number will be attracted in part by your ethnicity, which in and of itself is okay. Alternatively, you can do the asking and that’s okay too
Yes I think we Europeans are attracted to those who look part European as well as another ethnicity, like Polynesian or Asian. I don't think it's a fetish. I actually think people of mixed race are often objectively more beautiful. I always thought the most beautiful girls in schools were part Maori.
There is a chart of wich race prefers wich race in the dating scene ( I will include the link).
But Asian women are the highest preferred women by all races, except by Asian men, those prefer Latino women more.
And white men are the highest preferred by women, except black women they prefer black men over anyone else.
It’s A factor simply because it’s part of how you look. But I wouldn’t say it’s a super important one. There are a lot of other things that come into play in your final appearance.
I’m sure it does for some people since looks are important and different races look different. I know for a fact that my brother who lives in CA has an affinity for Asian women because he’s just drawn to their physical features. I honestly don’t think there’s anything wrong with that as long as it doesn’t turn into some sort of weird stalking thing. Everyone has their preferences.
It plays a part but it depends on the person.
Just like some are not attracted to small boobs for example, some are not arracted to certain skin colours, facial features etc...
But here is the thing. They might find you attractive because how you look, and that is absolutely caused in part by your race. It is not the only reason hoewer. You put effort in yourself, your clothing, and your hygene.
Someone might like how you look and have no idea/dosent care that you are half korean.
Someone might fetishise you, but not for your heritage, but other factors.
The question is, are they interested in you as a person? Do they want to know you better? That is something you wont know until you talked to a guy.
I mean race affects your appearance, so to say it doesn't matter is a lie.
With that said, fetishizing a specific race or "exotic women" (ie women of different races) isn't especially common in terms of dating. I'm not saying it's incredibly rare or unheard of, but still, it doesn't seem like the norm. You see it more in lust, cat-calling and pornography, as opposed to real sustained relationship attraction
I tend to be more initially attracted to those who are different than me.
I tend to be less attracted to Nordic/Germanic people, simply because I am that, and I don’t find people that remind me of siblings and cousins attractive.
Lighter skin tones, blonde/brown hair, blue/green eyes are fine, but nothing I find compelling.
Mediterranean, Middle Eastern, and African people tend to attract me far more, and it isn’t a conscious choice, but seems like something more rooted in my body’s biological desire for genetic diversity to produce healthier children.
Either way, I don’t get too caught up in my initial impression and attraction.
I learned when I was young that pretty doesn’t mean nice.
Humans are humans, and everyone is a treacherous vortex of selfishness and cruelty, so.
Your dad is white right? You haven’t figured out by age 20 that obviously white (and black) men will fetishise your Asian ness ??
I grew up in the southern US, and I find that men here tend to fetishize asian women due to their underexposure to diversity in their daily lives.
To further expand: If I had to choose between a gorgeous Korean woman and an equally-attractive American woman, I would choose the Korean woman every time due to the nuance and cultural enrichment I could experience from being part of her life.
You don’t really need her as a girlfriend/wife to get that nuance nor that cultural enrichment though; if you wanted it so badly, you could have it already.
I think that’s why people see “fetishization” and such attitudes poorly.
You're correct, I'm just giving perspective from someone that grew up in an area with lots of people that fit the description aforemtiomed description.
I do find certain ethnicities to have features that are more common to what I find attractive.
I will say that if I find an Asian woman attractive, it is a high probability that she is Korean, given my experience.
I do find it weird when people say I have to be with something of X ethnicity only. That borders on fetshizing/racism.
Your features obviously play a part in your physical attractiveness. Your race obviously plays a part in your features. Guys will have different preferences about what features they like and those preferences will be stronger or weaker (more or less important) depending on the guy. Guys can also have a range of things they find attractive. I find slim althletic women attractive. And I find curvy thick women attractive.
It’s not unreasonable for you to expect to be with a guy that finds you attractive and doesn’t act like he’s fetishizing or exoticizing you
Generally speaking:
When it comes to physical attractiveness, that's typically not really a thing. If he thinks you're hot, he thinks you're hot. Your race is not a part of the equation at that point. You could be Korean, Italian, Chinese, whatever it is. If you're attractive, that's all that matters in this case.
The guys with the fetish are just guys with a fetish. It's not prevalent. Keep that in mind. Do not use media as a barometer. Please just don't do that.
I'm a dreadful misogynist,so any hole’s a goal.
🌼🌹🌼But at least I'm not racist🌼🌹🌼
A hot chick is a hot chick no matter the race. Being Asian mixed can be very attractive. So what I am getting from the OP is that, "I'm a hot mixed Asian and want to know if people just find me attractive because of some Asian fetish." The answer. Maybe.
If ur referring to Asian females being smaller and "tighter" for 20yo dudes then yes, most will think that
I'm black and what we normally hear from Black women is that she's not pretty if she's not light skinned. I used to think that until I saw a woman that was damn near JET Black and still strikingly beautiful. It does play a part, but it's not my deciding factor. A woman can be beautiful regardless of her race in my opinion.
Meh... race exists only because people say it exists. With enough twitter posts, we can make eye-color a "race". or attached-earlobes a "race".
Regarding attractiveness, I prefer clear complexion, but not a particular skin color.
People can be ugly no matter their race ♥️