I've been struggling with NC lately and I've been trying to remind myself why I'm doing it. I was remembering when I was about 10-11 years old when she ignored me for several weeks. I really believed for the longest time, up until recently, that I somehow deserved that for not cleaning right or not behaving like the perfect little girl she wanted me to be. Now that my kids are entering that age I'm just so broken for my younger self for having to go through the emotional abuse. I remember trying so hard to clean up my room to her standards, hiding away in my room to be out of her way, staying so quiet so maybe she'd notice I was being the person she wanted in hopes she'd like me again, so I can stop feeling the animosity in the house. Dinner time we were all to sit at the table as a family, but if I even tried to speak, you could feel the room go cold because she was trying so hard to ignore my existence, so I'd stay quiet, as they all acted like a happy family in front of me. At one point during this ordeal, she went out for a date night with my dad. As they were saying their goodbyes to my brothers I grew the courage to step out of the shadows to simply tell her she looked beautiful. She turned to me and told me I was just sucking up to her. I stood their shocked as they turned and left me there with my mouth agape. How could a mom be so cruel? Why did my Dad think that was okay? I ran to my room and cried myself to sleep that night. Wondering the same thought I still wonder now. What did I do to deserve this?
I did this when a lady was complaining about street parking. I made sure to park exactly where she hates me parking, and I reported her out of state plates on all 3 of her vehicles.
That's when it happened to me! It's like a switch went off in her head once I hit 8-9. I didn't know what I did.
During a parent teacher conference, my sons 3rd grade teacher proudly shared that he corrects her pronunciation and let's her know she put the wrong answer in math. I was shocked.
I get super annoyed when I ask the time, and I'm not told the EXACT time!
I was just watching last night! I love it so much.
I just read your last post, and it seems like you're nervous about what's happening next. I know you never wanted things to be this way, but you can't live like this. No one deserves to be disrespected like that and I can't believe you lasted this long, honestly. This was well overdue.
She knows what she's doing, you're not overreacting. If you react, she'll blame the hormones.
My autistic brother texted our siblings, saying he had to take away a gun from my Dad because he wanted to unalive himself, and he didn't know what to do. I was told I "overreacted" by calling the cops 🙃
You're looking spiffy, Matt!
Sorry about that ♥️ you can vent, if you like. I was doing more of a reality check. Sadly, we all relate, but hopefully, we can learn.
Thank you for your words! Sadly, I let them be a part of my kids' lives, and NC has been such a struggle. We miss my dad so much.. I had my dad on a pedestal as well! He's the reason why I didn't NC sooner, I love him so much, but he was getting physically and emotionally attacked by her because he was in contact with me. He picked her and blames me for not forgiving. It's not like she's ever said sorry....
Thank you so much for your words ♥️ Just the confirmation that it WAS abuse helps me heal. For too long, I blamed myself.
Solidarity ♥️ I could only leave if it was for school or if I went with my brother, who was also allowed to do whatever he pleased. Taking him with me was terrible, though. He's a terrible driver sober, and he'd acted inappropriately with girls.
How ugly. To be jealous of your daughter is sickening. Did your dad ever call her out? I asked my mom why she made me miserable growing up before going NC and she just said mother's are closer to their sons. That's it! That's the reason I was given in why I grew up with so much hostility. I could never do that to my kids, I want them to feel so much love.
Yes, after I hit high school, suddenly I wasn't allowed to go anywhere. I spent so much time in front of a computer, lonely, as my friends from school were making memories together.
I'm sorry you went through that ♥️
I had to stop talking to my enabler dad over a year ago after realizing the same thing. I felt bad for him at first because he'd get the same treatment if he didn't do something right, but he could've stepped up and protected me. I miss him so much, though.
I do two of those high calorie drinks a day with my meals, I didn't feel like one was enough for me. Since you're working at home, you should set up snacks all around you. I find myself eating more when they're out in the open, reminding me to toss a handful as I walk by.
My mother said the same thing to me even though I was two weeks away from giving birth! It hurt, and I kept it in, but the day of people were sending me messages and wishing me a happy Mother's Day! 😊 I felt so special. And guess what? The next year, she did not wish me a happy Mother's Day because I was not her mom. 😑 They'll never be happy. So you celebrate and surround yourself with people who do respect and love you.
I tasted my dinner before praying. I dipped my finger into the sauce to taste, and my brother told on me. My mom stopped what she was doing, went straight to me, grabbed me, and dragged me to the other side of the wall to slap me and lecture me on how disrespectful I was. My brother laughed at me, and everyone just prayed and ate while I cried in silence at the table.
Just curious, how does that one taste?
It's so cute!!! 🥹❤️
My parents did the same!
Bedroom door MUST BE OPEN.
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