NTA

If it was "all in good fun" you would have been part of the texts and the fun would be equally shared between everyone.

If only she knew like 75 people she could ask for help, that knew and loved the person being celebrated...

Exactly, I also imagine SIL is LC for a reason. So they could probably outright ask if she knew about this.

Mine want to go to a care home. Both of my parents had to care for their parents and know the toll it takes on you and the relationship. They have planned and saved so that they will have a very nice life and the care they need.

My sister and I will obviously visit and ensure they are being properly cared for.

They already have a place picked out that transitions you from fully independent senior living to end of life care. My Dad's cousin and her husband plan to move there as well.

NTA

Until those people live through how your family treated you they don't get to tell you how to respond.

NTA

Your wedding is not the place for you and all of the family to have to get used to the idea of a new gf so close to the loss of your mother.

I would reach out to at least check with SIL that this is what she wants. She may be just as confused.

I agree with others it could be him being there would make her look bad. But also if he is there he will get updates straight from the staff and won't have to go through her

I would want to see if all the accusations he made against his wives and enemies were true. I am sure it is some sort of mix.

I was shocked when she said $900 would only cover 2 months of a car payment. If you are struggling financially what are you doing with a $450/month car payment?!?!

I have found being very blunt helps. The amount of times I have looked people straight in the eye and said "Don't expect any from me/us, it isn't happening." It doesn't get brought up that much

NTA

If that is him trying that is pathetic

NTA

The fact that they think not having unchecked access to your home is "treating them poorly" just shows they have not learned.

Seinfeld

YTA

You TOLD her that you were cooking something that half of the guests can't eat, 1 at least for serious medical reasons.

It would be ridiculous to act this way for a dinner party let alone a wedding.

Nicholas Creamery, they have a handful of locations. Atlantic Highlands, Fair Haven, and Tinton Falls

A new family moved into the neighborhood and needed a babysitter. Their daughter was super sweet and the parents very nice.

The daughter asked to go to the basement to grab a boardgame. I turn on the light and we start walking down. At the bottom of the stairs leaning against the wall was a painted portrait of naked mom!

NTA

You tried to handle it the correct way. Also Lisa should have known her sister would take hearing the car was "evil" seriously.

NTA

If he doesn't want to be "talked to that way" in front of his family then he shouldn't act like a jerk in front of them.

The most perplexing part is that you, his ex, and his daughter are all in agreement of how the relationship works. He is the only one with the issue. And turning down help for you from MIL was a dick move.

NTA

Remind those family members that she is their blood too and they are welcome to take them in

I too am thinking there is some behavioral issue that is scaring the 11yo neice. They are family so it is not like she has never met him before.

Just from OP's general victim/know-it-all mentality I imagine the son has not gotten the resources or support he needs.

YTA

It is an honor to meet the greatest victim of all time!

Enabling your husband's poor decisions = not your fault

Signing things you didn't understand = not your fault

Not working even though your family struggled = not your fault

Schools not hiring for the position you want = not your fault (at this point ANY job is better than none)

Taking advantage of your sister and BIL = not your fault

Caring more about your pride than the wellbeing of your family = not your fault

I am sorry you guys have such crappy support on each side.

$6000 can pay for a really nice vacation and elopement ceremony somewhere

This caused my parents to cry and my mom told me that she was trying to get the family back together and that my sister made a 'mistake' but I can't fault her for my friend dying because of it.

This was a conscious decision made by adults. And yes her choices can actually be blamed for contributing to his death.

I am sorry for the loss of your friend. Also sorry your family seems to be ignoring that loss.

Edit: NTA

YTA

No one is entitled to any inheritance from anyone. Your daughter is acting like a spoiled brat over something that may never exist!! He could have nothing in the end or his wife could die first!

It's disgusting that her love for her father hinges on what she thinks she is owed. If I were him I would change everything to his wife. Your daughter is an engaged, adult. She shouldn't need anything from him.

It doesn't sound like his wife is some gold digging freeloader. They are a committed couple that have gone through the ups and downs of life together. Why wouldn't his main concern be his life partner over his adult daughter?!

My grandma had a hefty amount of money and assets but lived until she was 96. In the end everything was liquidated over time so she could live a good life. Even an annuity that was designated to the grandkids. We loved her the same no matter what was left to us! In the end there was 1 penny left, I am not even joking!!

Her fiance then got a call from him, he answered, told him to f-off and hung up.

This behavior is alarming. It's one thing that she is being awful to her father but the fiance acting like this should be a red flag. So what happens if you and your current husband upset them? Should you expect an "f you"?