I am seeing a lot of post from people who are very disheartened by the possibility of remaining single, after a disappointing attempt at midlife dating.
It seems to me that too many people are overinvested in this area of their life and under invested in other areas of their life.
Over the past year I have started doing a lot of things that I used to do and let go, and a lot of new things. I feel so much more enthused about life. It also feels like the more I invest in other areas the more attractive I feel and less I fear settling for some loser like I have in the past. It doesn't mean I will always be single. But it means I know I'm going to have fun regardless.
People don’t seem to know what to do with themselves.
My suggestion…
Make a list of all of the things that you have always wanted to learn or try, and all of the things you used to do and let go, and leave this list sitting out so you can add to it. Start doing them.
Some things on my list:
Start journalling again
Take up stained glass again
Learn micro-propagation
Do more paddleboarding this summer
Plan a couple girls road trips for this summer
Plan a spa day with the girls
Sign up for art centre and event centre notifications
Can I get people to add ideas in the comments to give other inspiration?
I have swam since I was a toddler. But I've always thought that learning to swim as an adult must feel amazing. Swimming is such a freeing feeling. So feeling it for the first time would be awesome.
Stop waiting, start living
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