He's not my favorite character, but I enjoyed having him around. And he probably had both the best spirit form and the best flower, that lovely star-shaped borage.

And Bonnie Tyler, who was a total flop

This. I'd say ESH though, because it seems the brother does it too.

Well what you do is, you take it in your hand and jump off a bridge with it. It's really the only way.

Seriously now, there's no reason whatsoever to kill a pill bug. Catch it and dump it outside.

It depends a lot where you live I'd say. I'm in Belgium like the OP and I think I've seen a roach a total of three times over my nearly 5 decades of life. Though I'm always baffled that some people have apparently never seen a pill bug.

You're making a lot of assumptions here.

First, if you read the original post, you will notice OP just mentions her being invited to "an out-of-state wedding". Nowhere does it say this is a family wedding. Nowhere does it state this girl's relationship to the bride and groom. The fact that her parents are not taking time off to go hints that it's probably not a family wedding, or if it is the bride and groom are not close relations.

Second, even assuming it were a family wedding, a cousin is not necessarily "close family". I have a bazillion of them, some I'm somewhat close to, others I've probably never had a one-on-one conversation with in my life. All of them were invited to my wedding and most of them came, not because we're particularly close but because it was a family occasion, and an opportunity to catch up with a lot of other family members they hadn't seen in a while.

Third, sure, people will plan for common dietary and other requirements and make accomodations for the handful of people they really couldn't miss, like their 95-year-old granny, their disabled parent or their heavily pregnant sister or best friend. If you think they will or should bend over backwards to sort out the potential issues of all of their 50, 100 or 200 guests, you're delusional. You're disabled and obese, someone else might have childcare, work, transportation or money issues which are not less relevant or less difficult to deal with than your health problems. None of those things are the hosts' responsibility. We all need to sort out our own shit.

ESH

You shouldn't expect (much less ask) your GF or her folks to pay for something that got accidentally lost, though if they can comfortably afford it, it would be nice if they offered. Just nice, not something you're owed.

On the other hand, even if she offered to pay, your GF was definitely out of line trying to brush it off, then putting the blame on you. The right response from her would have been something along the lines of "I'm so bummed for you, I'll help you look for them".

There's nothing wrong with picking the set menu for yourself, but if you take someone out on a date on the understanding it's your treat, you let them pick whatever they want to eat. If you're not prepared to deal with the prices of most of the menu, go to a cheaper place.

Personally if I was invited to a posh restaurant I'd never go with the most expensive dish on the menu and would be mindful of the other person's finances, but them telling me that I can only pick the one or two cheapest options would be a major turn-off and probably the end of the relationship.

Totally NTA OP, if you're not worth more than that to your partner they're not worth your time.

You lost me at "it sucks that the host..." No it doesn't. It sucks that the disabled/severly overweight person has all those issues, but those are not anybody else's fault or responsibility to work around.

If it was an ordinary party or family gathering, sure, thinking of everyone would be the considerate thing to do. But this is a wedding. It's about the people getting married, not about the guests. And unless this particular guest is so close to the bride and groom that they couldn't imagine their wedding without her there, it's THEIR big day, their wishes, their dreams, and no way do they need to plan it around other people's limitations. Guests just get to decide whether they can make it or not.

Not a scam, the address and bank account are correct.

Also and more importantly, "it will make me feel safe" is NOT a good motivation to get such a high-maintenance pet.

"I'm really flattered, but I'm probably old enough to be your dad. Maybe this isn't the best idea?"

That would mean at 47 I could date a 30-year-old or an 80-year-old... yeah no, I think I'll pass on both. But wouldn't judge others for doing it either.

Ik zit op een kleine 5km van Rock Werchter, kan soms ook het programma meevolgen... als de wind toevalling uit die richting komt en er weinig in de weg staat van bomen, hoge gebouwen enz. kan ik me voorstellen dat je er soms van wakker ligt. In mijn slaapkamer heb ik gelukkig het huis van de buren als geluidsbreker. Dat je huis op zo'n afstand zou trillen van de bassen lijkt me dan weer wat overdreven.

I wouldn't know how much young people get paid these days, but what I do know is you should probably include a bit more info if you want an answer that's even vaguely accurate. Like, when you say university graduate, do you mean a bachelor in art history or a master in science or engineering?
I have (the equivalent of) a master's degree in modern languages and my first job was pretty much minimum wage. But it got me some experience and some contacts which allowed me to move on to a better job after a couple of years.

Look, I totally get the craving for more excitement and romance. But what you have to realise is that this is typically more of a phase in a relationship, not something that lasts beyond a few months. Eventually the novelty wears out and this makes way for a quieter, comfortable kind of love. It doesn't mean there's no romance anymore at all, but it's not the main focus anymore. It's possible you're just not ready for that, especially given your age (though I think some people never are). And that's fine. But it probably means you're going to either end up in a toxic relationship where you both thrive on drama, or jump from one relationship to the next until you're ready to settle for something different.

(not in my twenties anymore, but wasn't much different at the time - just couldn't afford a garden to match my ambitions)

THIS! I went on holiday for a week in early May and when I got back my vegetable patch looked like it had been abandoned for three months. I swear the slugs and the weeds know when I'm not there. On reflection next time I'll stay home and have a safari with a magnifying glass.

But as there is, on the whole, still the same amount of mind to go around, the broader it gets, the shallower :-P

Love that idea!

Except Brussels was never mostly Flemish-speaking.

We spend about 500 on utilities (elec/gas, water, internet & phones) and maybe 600 on groceries for 2 ppl, without needing to cut back on anything (not in Brussels but prices are not 30% lower in Vl-Brabant), I'd say 1500 is a lot. 900-1000 is doable if you're frugal and cook yourself. But there's car/transport, clothes, medical expenses, one-time expenses like repairing or replacing stuff, hobbies, probably travel to visit family abroad... and the risk of losing the one job that sustains you and not having much of a buffer.

Supporting two adults on 2200 euros a month in Brussels is going to be tight already (and you better pray you have no unexpected expenses), two adults and a child is a recipe for disaster.

Also, a month ago you were posting about not being happy at your job that you've had for less than a year, and considering taking medical leave. Are you aware that after one month you won't get your salary anymore, just sick benefits which are much lower? And some benefits like meal vouchers are only paid for the days you actually work. Is this really the right time to make your life even more stressful by adding a child into the mix?

I gather from your explanation that you left your first job after 6-7 months (part of which as a student), took two months off, worked one month and got fired. If you don't want to mention the second job, just don't. Maybe you decided to take some time off to think about what you wanted to do next, you went traveling, you were looking for work all that time but no luck, you were sick... whatever. Literally NO ONE is going to wonder about a 3-month gap on your CV. 3 years yes, but not 3 months.

However, I think you need a massive reality check. So here's a few things you need to hear, and which you are almost certainly not going to like:

• You were not "unjustfiably" fired from your second job after a month. You were fired because your employer was not satisfied with your work (or, more likely, your attitude), and did not see potential for prompt improvement. Based on the general tone of your message, I can't say I'm surprised.

• You are not "tired of KMOs that don't keep their promises and lack the capacity to properly train a young graduate like you". You literally worked for two KMOs, and in both cases your contract ended because there was a mismatch. You're just pissed off because, the second time, the decision was not consensual.

• Joining a KMO as a young graduate with no experience is a "sink or swim" kind of deal. My first job was at a KMO. When I was hired, I was told this almost literally. But don't believe it's much different in most big companies. You'll always have to figure out large chunks of your job on your own, or by relying on the kindness of those around you. Places where ad hoc training gets handed to you on a silver platter are the exception rather than the rule. Listen, ask questions, ask for advice, and learn.

• You just graduated. Unless there was sexism, racism, homophobia, transphobia or the like involved, if you got in a disagreement with a more experienced colleague, the reason was probably that you were wrong, not that they were disrespectful.

Now you can sulk all you like, but unless you take a long, hard look at yourself, you're going to keep getting the same issues.

If these two parking spots really are "yours", as in "you have a legal/official document certifying they're for your use only", sure, they should just have apologised and stopped using them.

But frankly, you sound pedantlic and judgmental and I suspect your neighbours have "started to dislike you" a long time ago.

You would probably have done yourself a favor by being a bit more laid-back about it all, because those people you already found annoying when they were basically just doing their thing are now actively going to try to make your life hell. Good luck with that.