It's time for another weekly winsday/whinesday edition of the daily OT! Whine - how is life just being the worst right now? Wins - but you're killing it anyway!
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Win: After lots of worrying and spiraling after reading about bad experiences, I got my first IUD put in today and it wasn’t too bad! Here’s hoping my body gets used to it and it’s a good choice for me.
Whine: They weighed me at the doctor’s office and I haven’t lost a pound despite a putting in lot of effort the past couple of months.
Yay!!! My friend is thinking about getting one. I'm trying to be super honest with my painful experience without talking her out of it. I'll never get another one inserted but at least the removal was really easy.
I was also weighed recently after working outside in my garden every day for 3 months for hours a day and not a single pound lost. I was really hoping for a high five or something. Whomp whomp.
I used to be in the same boat, I recommended it to everyone because I loved my IUD while I had it! But the insertion… “You’re just going to feel a little pinch” LOL like……. it was rough for me. I’m glad it’s not that painful for everyone though, because it really is a great option
Little pinch my behind. Lol.
I did love the option because birth control was not cost-free at the time and $60 a month for BC was getting expensive.
I am a little miffed Mirena is good for 8 years now. I could have gotten 3 more years out of that baby!
Whine- I’m super anxious today! I recently decreased my lexapro (for good reasons!) so I think it’s because of that/PMS. I asked to wfh and I feel guilty about it although I’m sure it’s not a big deal? Ahhh! The AC is also broken in my office so it regularly feels like 86 degrees 🥲
Win- nothing too crazy- I really like my new target sheets I got during the sale last month
Whine: I have two toddlers and have yet to experience a good Mother’s Day… mostly in part due to my own mother ruining it in some way. This year, she’s in a rehab facility as she’s been in and out of the hospital and ER since December due to cirrhosis and many other health issues. We planned to stop by and see her on Saturday and my stepdad just told me I need to go see her Sunday instead because I didn’t see her for Christmas (she was at a hospital over an hour away and I have two kids under the age of 4) or Easter (we don’t even celebrate Easter… and she was in the hospital again) like that was my fault? Now that I’ve typed it out, I feel like a selfish B, but my relationship with her was never the best and I am just really upset that once again, for the fourth year, I don’t get to do anything I want to do on Mother’s Day; my kids participate in this event every Sunday afternoon and it’s still scheduled to take place this Sunday (I love going to this, so I don’t even care that it’s still happening) and my youngest still naps for two hours a day, so all I really had was the morning anyway… I guess I should just stop complaining.
Win: My husband got me this amazing addition for our basement gym and unfortunately he isn’t handy at all, but I can’t wait to set it up!
Just jumping in to be the third person to say that you're not selfish, and seeing her on Saturday doesn't make you a terrible person. You're a mom! You deserve your day! Your mom can have her own day...which will be on Saturday.
Thank you very much. There’s a lot more to this story that is causing the guilt (I had one sister, but she passed away unexpectedly several years ago) and that my mom would be in a much better place right now if she did what the doctors told her to do (refusing to take her meds, refusing physical therapy, so she can barely get dressed on her own now) but I really appreciate your comment. Thank you so much! 🤍
You aren’t a selfish bitch. A mom with two toddlers deserves a nice Mother’s Day. You can see her on Saturday and it’ll be just fine, and if it’s not that’s on her, not you.
Thank you very much!
I absolutely do not think it would be selfish to see your mom on Saturday. Even though your reasoning is totally valid I wouldn’t even explain myself. I’d just tell your stepdad that you’re available on Saturday only. You deserve to have the time you want on Mother’s Day.
Thank you so very much for saying that because I needed to hear it! 🤍
Whine: our TV broke and we realized we had the wrong car seats for our son (he's too big for his baby one and the ones we registered for he can't use until he's 2 - so we have to buy 2 just for the next 10 months 😑) all in a few days so we were looking at dropping around $600 dollars to solve these problems but
Win: my husband's aunt had an extra smart TV and an extra car seat that will fit our needs! I'm super grateful and can't believe how that all worked out. She watches our son once a week so I'll make her cookies as an extra thanks.
Whine: I haven't felt the best for a few days and had zero motivation to get out of bed, so I used a sick day. WHY do I feel so guilty! I fully intend to stay in bed most of the day and rest, it's not like I'm going to go out and party. But because I could've taken some Tylenol and gone in I feel like the worst employee.
I'm due with my first in a few months and the car seat decision has been SO overwhelming- trying to figure out what makes sense to buy now vs. what to wait on is so challenging!
I would only purchase one infant car seat. That will come with one base, so purchase a second base for your partners car. Then when the time is ready, purchase your next car seat. Car seats expire so if you purchase it a year before needed you are essentially losing a year of its life. My friends ask me all the car seat recs so if you have any questions feel free to reach out!
The buying one infant seat is good advice. If you are in a car much at all, the infant seat is really worth it. We buckled in inside the house and then carried it out to the car to snap in. While they are tiny we found this much easier than trying to buckle in while in the car already. We also loved Chicco for our kids. For my 3rd, our chicco I had expired so I bought a graco to save $$….SO preferred the Chicco. The buttons and adjusting feature was so much easier. I do think a stroller compatible with the car seat is nice. You don’t have to get a $$ system, there are cheap frames out there that work great. Once you’re ready for a convertible, we had one for each vehicle they were in regularly. We’ve had Chicco and Britax convertible seats in my car (in which kids ride 90% of the time) and they have been great. We got much cheaper graco seats for my husbands and I hate them…I just really haven’t liked graco seats in terms of the function.
This is SO helpful, thank you. My husband really likes the idea of a "convertible" car seat that can grow with baby, but it doesn't act as a carrier/have a handle, which seems like a miss.. if he were to take baby anywhere, he'd need to have a carrier, right? Do you find looking for a stroller that pairs with the car seat is smart? Or is it worth waiting for the stroller until baby is grown a bit?
You could do a convertible car seat for his car and a stroller/car seat bundle for your car. If your husband is taking the baby in his car he would need the stroller or a carrier. If the baby is in your car they could go in the infant carrier seat that clicks into the stroller. That way you have the convenience for you and longevity of a convertible car seat for your husband.
I would to this travel system or something similar. This would allow you to put the infant car seat in the stroller but would also allow your husband to bring the stroller and use the bassinet feature. *disclaimer this stroller does not convert to a two child stroller, if you think you’ll have two close in age this may be a better investment.
For convertible car seats, depending on your budget the Nuna Rava is truly an amazing car seat (link here) Another one people seem to like is the graco extend2fit
Hopefully that helps!
SO SO HELPFUL! Thank you for taking the time to respond and add links, seriously. :)
Yes, I agree with this. Buy one “bucket” car seat and an extra base. Then when they outgrow it height/weight wise buy a convertible seat that can both rear face and front face. We personally liked the chicco key fit 30 for the first seat and the graco extend2fit for around when they turned one.
I highly recommend the Cosco Scenera Next car seat if you just need something to tide you over! That's our secondary and travel car seat, and it's great and relatively cheap.
Thank you for this!! There are some in stock at our Walmart, we're going to get one today
Whine: Im turning 40 on Saturday and planned a birthday party to celebrate. One of my friends said she was coming and even asked what she could bring and then texted me saying she "forgot" she made plans to go to a concert with her friend and she wants to celebrate with me later. Which is fine. But I cant help but feel like she got offered to do something more fun and canceled on me to do it. I just think its kind of rude but not surprised anymore honestly. I almost dont even want to have the party anymore because its so much effort and people cant even show up. Ive already had another cancel and someone else who messaged saying they cant come til later that day because they have to move some stuff out of storage or something. Which I get it life happens. But I sent the invite two months ago so people can plan. IDK.
Win: I work retail and have been having some issues with my SM who is an immature child. I found out yesterday that she is FINALLY moving to another store and my favorite manager is taking over and I Will be her keyholder for now. I am so excited to make our store the best. The old SM was absolutely terrible at her job and IDK how she even got in that position.
I’m sorry about the party excitement being gone :( I will say if you have other people who said they’re going to be there (and on time!) focus on them. Unfortunately sometimes life does happen and things overlap so sometimes giving people the benefit of the doubt is great for our own mental health ❤️ especially on your birthday!
Win: Started an elimination of certain foods to figure out what causes me so much congestion. I started with gluten/wheat & it already appears that was the cause. My sinuses are clearing & I've stopped snoring at only a week in.
Whine: Navigating the new normal is definitely taking practice. My kid wanted McDs this morning before a big test. We go to order & I realized I can't just order a sandwich, I'll have to special order one breadless. That was a weird feeling. So I just skipped it all together. No big deal but I just never realized how lucky people are who don't have food intolerance/allergies.
whine: there’s a small, painful lump on my stomach and I cannot figure out what it could be or where it came from. I didn’t notice anything this morning, so it seems to have turned up at some point in the last 12ish hours. I decided the responsible thing to do is go get it looked at because (of course) the internet has conflicting thoughts on if it’s harmless or cancer. I have a feeling they’ll tell me it’s probably nothing and then I’ll feel silly but I guess I’d rather know that than keep worrying about it.
win (upcoming): my life long best friend comes to visit a week from today!