i feel bad when i forgot who that person was. but when they say who they are i remember again sometimes
how do you react to someone who said "it is been long ago" but you don't remember him/her anymore?
Random QuestionI come clean right off and say "It must have been. I don't recognize you. Sorry!"
I do the same
"Who dis? new fone."
Too many sorries now a days. I was not offended that you deleted, never transferred my number after not talking for umteen years.
And if I do come across like that, don't even respond, I never deserved you.
Aww... This is kinda sweet.
I need to start doing this bc a few years ago a stranger came up to me saying that they knew me and I thought they were like a friend of my dads or smth but they turned out to be a pedophile
Wat
This needs way more backstory
It’s not that exciting, I used to go walking in my neighborhood park in the mornings but I was a teen so I probably shouldn’t have been going by myself.
There was this guy who complimented me on my hair (they were in little pigtail buns) and he was like “I remember you Minnie Mouse” so I assumed that was a nickname or smth I didn’t know I had and thought that maybe he knew me and was one of my dad’s friends or coworker or smth. He asked for a hug so I gave him one thinking he was a relative or smth bc I’ve never met my dads side of the family but then he was like I’ll give you food if you let me suck your titties and I was like ok I don’t think this man knows me. He was in a wheelchair so I just walked up the stairs.
JUST WALKED UP THE STAIRS 💀
Omg
That ending though...I can't.🤣
Pssssh imma total liar then- I go “omg it has been! How are you!? What’s happening?” And let them talk until I figure out who’s the f they are
The confidence! I'm like playing along, sweating, hoping I figure it out
I'm 60. My give-a-shitter broke 5 years ago.
This is the best thing I've read today 😂
I aspire
best practice, make a self deprecating joke about it. "sorry mate, my people memory is awful, how did we meet?"
How did we meet? Where do I live? Are you Elvis? I loved you in Titanic.
Nobody remember me. But if it happened I would just say sorry, my memory is so bad. Remind me where we know each other from.
I’ll remember you, AdeptWar6046! Will you?
I usually bluster through because I’m face blind, but I watched a guy I know say simply “I’m sorry, I have absolutely no idea who you are.” Respect
Brad Pitt has face blindness
I don’t have face blindness, but I need to see the person in the right setting. Like, if we work together, but I see you at the grocery store, I will have no idea who you are. Lol
That is me
Isn't some degree of this just normal? That's how human memory works.
Yeah it’s a bit like when you go to another room to do something then forget what it is when you’re there, but when you go back to the place you initially were, it’s easier to remember.
Although I don't blame a big celebrity for struggling to remember all the people who he's met, I'm suspicious of this. If he runs into the makeup artist from Fight Club and he doesn't remember her, he can just say 'oh I'm sorry, I'm face blind".
...so if he runs into Matt Damon and Leonardo DiCaprio, he's like "I'm sorry, have we met?"
Yeah I have no idea really. Tbh I jokingly write that anytime face blindness comes up because when I first started redditting, it was posted constantly…
Yeah. I even think Brad Pitt might actually think he is face blind. ...but he's been Brad Pitt his whole life. Even before he was a star he looked like Brad Pitt, so more people knew who he was than he would be able to remember.
Now literally a billion people would be able to instantly recognize Brad Pitt. He's probably met 1,000 accountants who directly worked for him either personally or on a movie production he's involved with.
It's just not a reasonable thing to expect someone to be able to mentally store facial recognition for that many people, so you'd have to really make a strong connection before it would happen. I'd be shocked if he doesn't recognize other big celebrities who he's worked with. That would be the real test. ...like can some random guy walk over to him at the grocery store and be like "Brad! hey it's me, Matthew McConaughey" and Brad immediately hugs him and says "hey buddy! how are the kids?"
Haha! If I ever meet him, I’m gonna try!
How can our memories be real if our faces aren’t real?
i feel bad and go along with it because i’m too awkward to say anything😭
Same 😂 I just hope they don't ask me what their name is
💀💀 that's just evil. We getting old don't test my memory like that.
Feel this
Same, I feel so awful that I don’t remember. There was one time though when this guy was CONVINCED we knew each other in high school and I knew there’s no way we knew each other. He had bright red hair, so it’s not like you’d forget that. Anyway I asked when he graduated and he was a freshman when I was a senior! My high school had 4,500 kids; I didn’t even know all the people on my own class, there’s no fucking way I knew a freshman when I was a senior. But he was utterly convinced he knew me and I felt so bad because we definitely did not hang out in high school.
"it is been long ago"
? Check if they've suffered a blown aneurysm?
Thank you. I was like, “If someone came up to me and said, ‘it is been long ago,’ I’d think they’re fucking crazy.”
It sounds like Borat does Barenaked Ladies.
Call an ambulance straight away, they're probably having a stroke.
"so it seems, for your face has fled my memory. Enlighten me, oh friendly Stranger, how do we know one another?
sounds like a NPC dialogue from Oblivion
IKR so tell me how have you been I tried looking for you on social media but wasn’t able to. Girl half of the school come and say hi to me but I don’t know them but they now my name and my table at lunch so I just go with it lol .
I did this in high school and I still do this today. I just really can’t remember people’s faces and names. Just match the energy they bring to me 😅
It really depends on context. If someone is just striking up a conversation and asks if I remember them, I'll ask some follow up questions to see if I can figure it out. But even if I don't remember I will keep chatting as long as the conversation is engaging.
If it's someone contacting me cold on social media I will usually not respond unless I at least get a spark of familiarity from their name or photo, or we have mutual friends which suggest I should know them. But I'm pretty private and don't usually let people I don't know into my life.
The good thing is I'm pretty good at remembering names and placing them in context. Especially if it's someone I went to school with or worked with.
"Indeed it has! It's been so long I cannot place your name, can you remind me?"
But then, most folks that know me also know I have a terrible memory. If it's just a quick stop-n-chat then I'll just pretend I know who they are and ask my husband about 'em later. He has an amazing memory.
Happy cake day!
Engrish? A shamefur dispray!
I say “would you like to try that sentence again?”
Maybe too arrgant for someone you dont know
It is total gibberish, to be honest.
English not OP's first language I guess?
Nah, probably just a public school student
Probably not Eton, though. Possibly Harrow 😉
I awkwardly bluff until the conversation ends and then spend the rest of the day wondering who the heck I just had a conversation with 😂
My first thought is makes sure that person IS someone you used to know! ;)
I just apologise and say you're going to have to help me out, the Alzheimer's is playing up.
You've apologised for not remembering asked for their name and made a joke at your expense.
“I’m sorry. It has been, I don’t remember you.”
I was walking with my family once when somebody called me by name, greeted me, said its been a long time etc. I was polite and shook his hand etc and then sad goodbye afterwards. When we were walking away my family asked me who was that, I replied that I didnt know, it must have been someone from school or work in the past that I didnt recognise but I wanted to be polite. That happened in 2012 and I still dont know who that guy was.
“Now when was it?…” and wait for them to answer. Hopefully it jogs your brain.
"What is been long ago? When did it happen, and what was it?"
it is been long ago
Oh my god. This has happened to me so many times. I’m always awkward with it. They hug me or whatever and I’m like “okay…”.
Sorry, may I ask who are you again?
I Will react The same way that i did when in One ocasion i didn't remember The name of The girl...talk a few minutes without being needed to mention her name
Just show me prove 😂😂
since i've seen my son?
How have you been
"Oh wow, I have a total black out on your name, when was the last time we saw eachother?!"
Remind me.
never happened to me, I remember everOne, even people I just saw passing by.
I just say "Oh yeah, you're right."
Happen all the time to me now 🥹, I just go with it
I generally remember faces for the most part but my family sometimes genuinely thinks I remember people I met as a baby. Like everything I laugh when things get awk
"We should grab a beer sometime" and never speak again
Met an old friend (with her mother and sister) the other day, visiting her family in our Nordic country for 2 weeks before going back to being a medical research professor at a New Haven University. She apparently felt the need to introduce herself more thoroughly to my long-time partner than I did, me leaving it to introducing them only with their respecitve first names. She quickly added, "Me and Trassla were elementary school (1st-3rd grade) classmates." to my partner. While we did belong to the same class from 2nd to 9th grade, inbetween that we also belonged to a close nit group of 4 people calling each other besties, but later years I was subjected to freeze out and bullying by the same people. We still follow each other on social media, as you do. I don't think that she needed to remind herself who I am (met last year and she then commented on just talking to her mother about "that summer you had green hair coming back to school from spending so much time at the pool". Felt more like her trying to distance herself from me historically.
Enough for me to not remember you/for you to become irrelevant
Now you’re just somebody that i used to know. SOMEBOOOODY— that i used to know ;(
I’m sure I’m face blind. 99% of the time a person would recognize me first before I recognize them. I just outright say that I suck remembering names and faces and ask them
If its a guy i just ask and if its a woman i go through every event in my life ever
Yea hi, umm who are you?
I usually either act like I know them and try to remember their face/name or I'll be honest and say it's hard for me to place them lol.
“Sorry can you remind me where we know each other from? You look familiar but I can’t quite place you…”
i do that all the fucking time, not because im too superior to remember them but the fact that i just forget their names
This hasn’t happened much but when it has I’ve asked them to help me remember who they are
Well, for one, “it is been long ago” doesn’t make sense.
There are people that I graduated with that I have NOT recognized or remembered. I’ve flat out told them (nicely) that I don’t remember. (It’s usually because we had no classes together and never really interacted.)
But I swear, one guy came up to me awhile back and knew exactly who I was. Told me what classes we had together, knew my mom’s name, asked about my Grandma, and I still have no idea who he was. I looked him up in the yearbook and still don’t remember. But I ended up acting like I did eventually remember because I could see it genuinely hurt his feelings.
Nah, I usually remember them
happens all the time and its usually people I never knew or wanted to know
I'm a terrible liar. I will literally just say, "I'm so sorry, I have an awful memory...where do we know each other from again??"
Because sometimes you know someone from the store, but in their regular clothes they're basically a whole new person xD
Madalas nangyayare sakin to huhu nahihiya ako mag sabi ng "sino ka" reply ko madalas "oo nga eh, kamusta na?"
Id admit Im terrible with names & just ask where we originally meet. Usually they will understand but if not probably is why I didn't think enough of them to remember.
I just sort of lie tbh and don’t get into specifics with them. Just how have you been etc
This happened to me a few years ago and I was all like “yeeeeeah fancy running into you here it’s been ageeeees”. I about died inside after and felt awful. My now fiancé was with me and commented I looked obviously uncomfortable because my prize ass of a socially awkward old self was too embarrassed to even admit to him after that I didn’t recognise the poor dude. I just made up some BS story on the spot. I still don’t know who they were to this day and feel guilty as they were clearly excited to run into me
Too long for my memory, sorry.
I've had someone message me and I had no idea who they were. But they clearly knew me and said we'd met and talked. But I didn't remember ever meeting them or anything. He tried telling me when, where, and how we met but it never rang any bells. He eventually got mad at me, thought I was lying, and called me a bitch lol. Wild.
Whenever I go up to someone like that I always tell them my name and mention how we knew each other because I don't want to be that person they don't remember.
I seem to have forgotten where we met?
I use a random name. "Derrick? I hardly recognize you. When did you get out?"
Yeah it has! I can't remember the last time. And then hope they jump in with something that will jog my memory. If they don't, I ask what they are up to now and hope something there jogs my memory. If it doesn't I say I have to go and leave.
By phone call? Not in my contacts calls go directly to voice mail where the message is to email me as I can’t hear voice messages. I get zero emails.
Sorry what was your name again? Uh... John Smith I know your first name is John. It's your last name I couldn't remember
Ned? Ned Ryerson?
"Oh, ok! Nice to meet you...again!
I'd correct their grammar.
I'm so sorry, but I'm afraid I don't recall our previous encounter. It's been a while, and my memory isn't serving me well. Could you remind me where we met or how we knew each other?😅
If I recognize them, that's one thing. If I don't, I cop to it and blame my bad memory for not remembering (which, these days, isn't that far from the truth).
I lie my way through it, if it makes them happy, I don’t care whether I remember or not
I'd say " the feeling's mutual, who the heck are you?"
You keep talking trying to get clues
Wait what? I can’t read this for some reason
"I'm sorry, I don't remember"
Try to feel normal bro, you don't have to remember everyone in your life as your brain storage is limit. Even though regarding to the science, there isn't physical limit to the number of memories we can restore but the fact that your brain isn't the computer or software to trigger all the thing you need in the blink of the eye.
It is just human and normal to forget things, even memories of loved ones. That isn't a thing to be ashamed of, it is how our brain works. In a case like this the best answer is always go straight to the heart and answer honestly, say "I am so sorry but I don't remember, but please remind me!"
Well first off I’d call the grammar police on them
My face is always a giveaway. I can't even lie.
Hey mate, nice to meet you, I have an idea, for the will of the old times, let's tell ourselves our favorite story we had together, you can start.
Bro I can't even remember the name of people I just met 12 mins ago.
So long i have forgotten your name! What was it again?
"Sorry, I've hit my head a couple of times over the last couple of years and worked with alot of people, you may have to remind me"
"Sorry, I haven't had any caffeine, so I'm not the sharpest tool in the shed today "
People take being forgotten personally, which is kind of ironic. But if you kind of make a joke and give a reason it takes the sting out of the wound of being forgettable.
I take a random stab at where it may be from, they then correct me and I'm like 'oh yeah! Wow, how have you been?!'
I’d say, learn proper grammar kid.
I know it’s rude, I’ve been told many times but I just say, sorry, who are you again? Or what’s your name again? I’m bad with names.
Go for the oldest trick "who's that, I've lost my contacts recently" and if still i can't remember them then would stop responding.
The awkward nod
"It's so long that I don't even remember you ,who are you??? "
It's been so long that I forgot who the fuck you were ! Remind me again?
"Yeah yeah its been, god I don't even know how long...are you still doing that thing?"
They either tell you yes I'm still doing (surfboarding, makeup tutorials, largest pizza box tower, whatever) or they ask "what thing?" Then you make up some bullshit "I thought you were trying to breed the worlds smallest dog? Was that someone else?"
If the conversation doesn't reveal who they are, quickly tell them you're late for something but you'll definitely have to catch up on Facebook or something later. They will not send you a friend request and will hope that you don't either. Which is good. Because you can't. You have no idea who they even are. See ya later mate.
I usually feel a bit embarrassed when I can't remember someone right away, but it's pretty common, isn't it? 😅 Once they jog my memory about how we know each other, it often comes back to me. I think most people understand and i think it happens to everyone at some point!
I say something like "Oh yes, I remember you, but it's blurry". So they are not sad you don't remember them, but you don't have to lie about anything else (even their name or where you meet them).
You do seem vaguely familiar where do I know you from and jog my memory it's not what it was
Bro. No, you never met the lady. It's a scam.
If I don't remember them it must've been a very long time ago. Only had it once with someone I didn't even know at all. Which I told them straight up.
Honesty. Tell them you don't remember them and apologize. Honesty is refreshing in a culture that is obsessed with little social lies.
"I guess you're right. What's your name again?"
assess your meaning to them and understand if you should worry they don't remember there own life or you meant very little.
I'd be honest and politely ask to remind me where we met
In Australia, you say “Hey, how are you…mate”. Not sure what options other countries have
At first I kind of laugh about it, but I do ask them tell them straight up that I don’t remember
I'm not good at hiding that, they see it in my face. Usually it's kind people and they help me out.
Been trying to forget you .
Now that I’m 66, when a person talks to me like I should know them, I stop them right away and say that I recognize you, but the name escapes me! I used to feel bad about it but no more. It’s more embarrassing to pretend to know someone, than ask!
... Zoning out
Your face seem familiar
I go with it... I've worked with so many people and I can't keep track
This post is hard to read and understand. I’ve never heard anyone say this.
"A bit too long for my memory, I’m sorry how do we know each other?"
I say, "You'll have to refresh my memory." Then they fill in where we met etc.
Yeah it has... so how are doing now?
I explain that I had a small stroke and my memory is off.
I'll just say yes haha it's a really long time
It's completely normal to forget someone if it's been a while. Don't feel bad about it! Just be honest and say something like, "I'm sorry, I don't remember. Could you remind me?" Most people understand and won't take it personally.
I feel like I am too old cuz I lost my memory lol
I'd tell them to fix their English
Please remind me. My CRS is acting up. Can’t Remember Sh!t
Stab em and run. Could be an alien
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