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Good perspective
There are probably you and 10 other guys in her love basket, lol. Don't think you're special bro, she just got game.
But.. I am special
This is Bro rule number one. We are all special
Where I'm from, rule 1 of Bro code : Always keep it real with your Bro.
Don't listen to these mommas boys "You are special, honey". She pulled yo ass 🤣
That's a fact. She got game brotha. And that's that.
True. You do seem special
Did she tell you that in the yogurt aisle? :(
She just may not want to seem too eager, or any of a dozen or more other reasons she couldn't respond right away.
Special, not unique
I'm afraid as men we are a dime a dozen to women, especially women who have looks and personality.
And so are the other 10 guys railing her, have some empathy! Have you thought about their thoughts and feelings? In all seriousness, congrats on getting hit on by a woman and being a statistical anomaly, you’re probably a catch.
Apparently. You will probably get some lovely scam texts in your future if not "crypto investment opportunities " or similar. You were likely a victim of social engineering You special boy you! 🥰
Of course you are..."Window licking, booger flicking, crayon eating, helmet wearing special!!"
Just joking, but that's my default whenever someone says they're special. Why yes, I DO work with Special Ed kids. How could you tell??
This is a fucking weird comment to make. And it’s even weirder to say if you work with kids in special education. I would be so embarrassed if I were you.
Out of 10 guys who fell for this and gave their number, at least 1 is stupid enough to go further and probably give out cc info or other personal info.
This is why these folks do it and she’s probably hired and using a script. Men, there usually aren’t genuine reasons for being grilled on your educational and work background during the very first time meeting, at a grocery store. This is why someone attractive would push so hard for info and for your phone number and then not respond. There’s no bigger romantic mystery or woman drama here.
Think with your brains people, not with your sex organs.
He is special. As are you.
There are probably you and 10 other guys in her love basket, lol.
It kinda sounds like OP didn't and won't be getting into her love basket to be honest...
She know where to find him? 😳 what does that mean?
She know where to find him? 😳 what does that mean?
She was fishing for all the answers to your security questions on all your accounts. Say goodbye to your bank account. Adios dinero.
Edit: Didn’t mean to invoke the name of a great actor who happens to have nipples.
Have you tried milking a cat Focker?
I have nipples Greg. Can you milk me?
Did she ask you the name of your first pet? 🧐
Dinero?
I believe they use pesos
Dinero means money. DeNiro means excellent actor in the best sequel of all time, the Godfather II. I think that the response in this context meant money
I hope sometime they make a Godfather III. I think they were considering making a horrible cashgrabby turd. Fortunately, that never happened.
There is a Godfather III with Al Pacino, Andy Garcia and Sophia Coppola.
No. There is not. There is an abomination called Godfather III. Godfather III was never made.
Every time I think I'm done with this discussion "they keep pulling me back in!"
If you like DeNiro and haven't seen Once Upon a Time in America I highly suggest it...... If you have 4 hours to spare.
Deniro, Bobby won't hang out with him nor that he's broke.
My first thought
I have nipples,Greg.
Honestly, my money is on Amway lol
The falling in love and continuing to think about her is the overreaction. Take it as a compliment that she was interested when she met you, and move on. Don’t go back to that grocery store hoping to see her. Move on in mind and body.
I was joking about the love part although I do still feel slighted by the situation. But yeah, if she doesn’t respond today, I’ll just forget about it, still odd though. Thanks
Might have typed the number wrong. Something could have happened to her or her phone after you met. She might give the wrong number on purpose. Could be she is married and just looking for attention or confirmation that she still has "it". Could be she is an assassin, but the hit job was called off. So many possibilities.
Good odds that she at least thought you were attractive enough to strike up a conversation.
The fifth possibility in the list 🤣
Wait, I thought all women were trained assassin’s and my wife is just playing the long con? That’s not the case? Cause a woman smiled at me yesterday and I screamed “there are witnesses here!” And grabbed a small child as a shield. Should I stop doing that?
I think you’re overreacting by feeling slighted if I’m being completely honest.
Also, I’ve personally taken days, even longer, to respond to men, and that’s men I know. It’s not always personal, sometimes you need to figure out how to respond. You are overreacting to not hearing back from a stranger within a day. She might also never contact you, as much as that sucks for you it’s her right to do that. But that’s not what you asked… I think you’re overreacting a little but your feelings of being interested in her are valid. Just let it go if you ask me, and if it comes around then good for you!
Thanks for the input there’s definitely truth to it
You’re not wrong, but it’s still a dick move to agree to exchange numbers with someone and then ghost them. If you decide for whatever reason that you’re no longer interested then do them the decency of letting them know
EDIT: I understand that it’s a very complex issue, especially given how often men can be violent. And there’s any number of realities that could be taking place here, but given the information that we have: I’ll argue that OP is in the right. She approached him, chatted him up, exchanged numbers, and ghosted him. That’s a dick move.
Could she have just given him her number out of fear, but didn’t actually want to? Absolutely. Could OP have been more creepy in his opening text than he’s admitting to, and that in turn turned her off? You bet. But we can’t deal in hypotheticals because we’ll drive ourselves insane. Given the information we have, I maintain that he’s well within his rights to be upset
She approached him, chatted him up, exchanged numbers, and ghosted him. That’s a dick move
Uncertainty and rejection is a normal part of life, and for the overwhelming majority of people with respect to romance, it will happen more often than not.
Sometimes people just get busy with other things, and while 15 minutes may seem like a lifetime to a man who rarely gets chatted up by attractive women, it's entirely understandable that this brief incident might not have registered nearly as high in the pantheon of that woman's own life experience.
Given the information we have, I maintain that he’s well within his rights to be upset.
Many men figure they're "well within their rights" to be upset about all sorts of things, and therefore many women have become pretty good at rapidly rooting them out, and eliminating them from the "men I wanna date"-category.
That likely doesn't make those guys any less upset, but it is what it is. Can't say I'd much want to date them, either..
Women literally get killed often for rejecting men. This is why ghosting is often safer. You’ll may find this hard to believe, but I assure you it’s true.
But more importantly, no one owes another person an explanation for not being interested. People change their minds all the time.
no one owes another person an explanation for not being interested
Biggest takeaway here. They owe you nothing. You owe them nothing. For a mutual encounter to become something bigger requires mutual interest. If it fizzles out, you just have to assume the mutual interest is lopsided and simply move on. No point in dwelling unless you really want to go the murder route.
Is there any stats to show that women get killed often for ghosting men?
Bro she literally approached him... it is absolutely delusional to approach somebody else and then see THEM as the threat for doing nothing but simply responding to you
Exactly, personally I think that the OP is insane for being so entitled. I’m literally married and I wouldn’t expect anything from my wife if she just decided to walk out one day (except access to our children but because they’re my kids as well I think that’s fair).
The way he worded it seems OD but honestly as a man its just because you don't experience that. Whereas women are on the other side of the spectrum that its rare for them to be left alone, it is rare for us to get even a smidgen of attention.. especially from a girl we find beautiful/charming. So it really does leave a huge impression on most guys. Is it a bit of an overreaction? Yeah... but its hard not to when you literally have not received even an iota of that attention in YEARS
This isn't true for attractive guys. My ex used to get stopped all the time by women telling him how nice his eyes were (with me next to him...he did have striking eyes)
She didn’t ask you for your mother maiden name did she?
“Hey baby, I want to see if we’re compatible, what’s your star sign and last 4 of your social security”
"What's your phone number... your childhood phone number?"
“I think we’ve met before, I remember your pet, was it a dog? What was your first pet’s name again?”
"I think we met in kindergarten. Who was your kindergarten teacher?"
“Oh right, not that, we met through your grandparents on your mom’s side, what was her maiden name again?”
Cousin???
Hawt 🥵
That sounds like a really fun interaction. Let it remind you that you are desirable. As for the girl, Maybe she will come around one day. Maybe not. It doesn’t matter. Best not to put all your eggs in one basket. Just keep chugging forward. Take care Op!
Thanks, you do the same!
More likely she was looking for someone to add to her downline at the MLM she works
I came here to say this OP this is the answer. This is typical mlm move. She probably went to many stores and talked to many people to get their information. Since you showed you were interested she might not reach back out, but she also might try to see if she can milk you. Go to the r/antimlm and read hundreds of stories just like this.
Out of curiosity, do you have a link to one of those stories? I’ve never heard of this before and am struggling to conceptualize why she wouldn’t reach back out if she wanted him involved in a pyramid scheme
Sorry it wont let me post a link. If you go to the antimlm sub and search amway all the stories pop out. Or even look up randomly approached
Heres one that i can find. Look up amway this is what they do. Ive never heard of this either until the antimlm sub was recommended to me. She didnt reach back out because she probably got overwhelmed with how many peoples numbers she got.
Gotcha! Thank you!! I’ll check that out!
Probably not an MLM for herself but a scam of some sort for sure…..kinda surprised OP didn’t realize this…either naive, or very desperate.
PSA: When random attractive people suddenly start interviewing you in the Yoghurt section for your money earning and spending potential, it’s not because of romance. I mean come on, asking about your job? School? Hobbies? Some of this stuff doesn’t even come up in a first date! She was literally profiling you /u/otherwise_routine810. The fact you so easily fell for it means she actually is great at her job…and maybe you should consider why exactly you fell for it…
She probably already passed on the amazing “sales lead” phone number to a few pals, because I’m sure she’s just a person who scopes out and then passes on (thus, attractive). If I were you, I’d be expecting a ton more spam calls and spam texts very soon.
Edit: omg after scrolling down and reading the full thread of comments, I’ve lost faith in humanity again. Y’all can’t really be so dumb to think attractive women actually go around seeking dates at the grocery store? Just because this is a fantasy that exists in the male brain doesn’t mean women actually go around finding dates like that. Wow guys. Wow.
Ding ding ding - giving major Amway vibes lol dollars to doughnuts she brought up her “mentors” that retired at 35 lol
Her and bf were arguing that night but it got resolved.
Her accomplice was trying to steal your car while she kept you occupied.
As long as you aren't taking it too seriously, there's no issue with you feeling a bit perplexed about the whole situation. Your expectations were completely valid and I have no idea why she'd throw the ball in your court just to ignore it when you throw it back....but whatever. Lol
I wouldn’t overthink this. I would bet money that if she doesn’t respond to you, her reason wouldn’t be anything about you personally. Just take this as a compliment that a woman saw you and felt comfortable chatting with you for 15 minutes Edit: sentence wording
She might have been scoping you out for theft. Do NOT give personal info to strangers. That come on was very suspicious.
I have heard about a MLM scheme where people use this technique.
What's that?
They start chatting you up like OP described in order to get info. It usually happens at Target but could easily happen at a grocery store. Always begins with someone complimenting the intended victim.
That's obvious. To get what info, for what reason?
I agree with another commenter that mentioned you were marked for some reason, whether it was for theft or for cult behavior or something else, that kind of thing just doesn’t happen orherwise
Mark of the beast obviously 😈
Did she ask you about pets? Maybe where you went to elementary school? Your mom's maiden name? Sounds like she was trying to get your info including your phone number.
Or maybe she just has not had time to answer
It’s only been a day…she might be busy/doesn’t need to respond so soon. Just because a phone is in your pocket doesn’t mean you’re obligated to respond immediately. If you both didn’t agree on a next time to talk then she hasn’t hit or missed a communication deadline. It’s a good lesson in how different people think about meeting people and communication. The takeaway from this is when you mutually exchange numbers with someone in future say something like ‘I’m looking forward to chatting with you after work’, or is it alright if I message you this evening? That way there’s more of an acknowledgment of timings and enthusiasm.
Gotta do the 3 day wait rule
You're probably on TikTok via hidden camera or something.
Oh shit. This is it actually. Those folks who just show “game” and get numbers while being recorded (or making fun of people)
She has a man and you are her back up plan.
She’s playing it cooool…watch “Swingers.”
Op this is an MLM approach antic. They approach people in grocery stores/ targets and vet you by seeing where you work and hobbies. She will use that conversation to lead you into a one where you can “earn your own income as a business owner” I had never heard of this before but it is a common tactic of amway r/antimlm look up amway. Its mostly men being recruited this way.
I fell in love on the isle of yogurt!
Was it her idea to exchange numbers or yours? If it was yours, she might have felt obligated to give you a number and made up a fake one. If it was her idea, then who the heck knows what her deal is.
Yeah, it was hers
Fake number and used yours for a scam.
lol, take the compliment, it's rare as guys we receive any.
You’re probably fine. Maybe she changed her mind, maybe she was just dissociating, or maybe she just got really busy.
Going off of what you said I don’t see an issue. She approached you, you exchanged numbers and names, you had a fun conversation.
People change their minds like that. I don’t think it’s anything to worry about.
Maybe send another text after a while, just to make sure she gets the notification and if she doesn’t respond, she’s either not interested for whatever reason, or it just isn’t the time. Don’t hold your breath is my advice. What happens, happens.
Can you give us an update in a week?
it’s been a day jfc
Do you think she gave you her "real" number? Can you check, idk how, but I'm sure there's a way.
I’ve had religious people try to talk to me in grocery stores.
Do not feed the wildlife.
probably trying to get you to join a pyramid scheme like amway or something
Had a similar situation happen to me. It was also out of the blue. Met her at the bank as I was walking out. She ask me to call her sometime, and I did. Of course, I waited about two days but nonetheless called her and told her I enjoyed our conversation and she seemed very nice but just a Voice-mail. She did call me back about one year later and asked me if I remembered her. I said , I did. She went on to ask if I'd like to go to a concert with her. Unfortunately, I had just started seeing someone that very month maybe three weeks in. Go figure! It gives new meaning to fashionable late. Here I thought two days was stretching it. What might of been? I guess time is a relative for different folks.
I am 100% with you on this ….. I would have done the same thing in that same exact way . My guess is she’s in a relationship and didn’t mean for that to happen , but it did
She's got a bf and just wanted to know she could have you if she wanted.
Should have waited 3 days. /s
You fell in love? LOVE? I’m guessing you went full psycho in reaching out?
People like to flirt. It’s often meaningless. Sometimes it’s to see if they still got it.
Love though? Wtf?
was it your idea to exchange numbers?
most good looking girls are in their zone with light conversations with random dudes, they are used to getting hit on and talked to all day.
it could be that she actually just thought the tattoo was cool, it could also be that asking for her number may have crossed the line into what girls call creepy, if you are the one that made that exchange happen.
women like attention, they also will flirt with dudes, just to see if they can pull it off.
also i have lady friends who end up in these exact situations and get creeped out but dont have the balls to back out like an adult and will give you either A. their real number and regret it, or B. give you a fake number that is very close to their real one, then bolt.
if you havent had any action in a while the slightest interaction with a random good looking person can get you all excited, almost in a childish way, then poof, nothing happens, ghosted as they say, then you feel a bit upset etc etc, its happened to all of us.
You're not in the wrong. People don't really act human or have hearts these days. She may have also been looking for someone to hook up with too. 'Going out' would not be her goal then.
Sad that's becoming a norm. Old fashion gentlemen are losing nowadays.
You fell in love after 15 minutes in the yogurt aisle? I'm guessing you came off as extremely creepy, just judging on how you're describing all of this.
You're in lust.
you can’t fall in love over a 15m conversation. lollll
Nobody getss jokeesss
let her come to you. this is the way.
This type of thing "randomly" happens in grocery stores. You were a mark. It could have been a mark to pick-pocket, recruit, or some other reason, but a mark nonetheless. People don't usually do this.
You got some issues Stan, i think you need some counseling
Personally experience, People who start conversations at grocery, gas stations, convenience store and ask about job usually turn out to be a religion recruiter. It is almost spring, they are out and about. If she wears skirts that is about or over her knee’s length, I am 90% sure she is religion recruiter.
Or Amway.
I experienced it too. That's how I know. It is happening frequently in my area.
It’s been one day , settle down she could be busy or not someone who is glued to her phone .
In 2024? Ya ok
Sheit, my buddies and I know it's normal not to hear from eachother for days/weeks, even months, we got lives. I might not see them for 6 months and get an impromptu date and it's like it was yesterday.
She might just be an introvert, don't freak out lol.
And you really believe that she fell asleep at 7 pm too right?
Idk, might have been some really good yogurt but she's lactose intolerant and blowing her ass out for the night not feeling too flash to text lmao. Just don't work yourself up on the what ifs cos you can drive yourself mad. If it's meant to be it'll happen.
She and her boyfriend made up. Women only initiate if there is trouble in paradise.
¯_(ツ)_/¯ people get busy, maybe she'll respond later.
Why stop me in the first place you know
Keep in mind, she could just want to be friends. Nothing you described is explicitly romantic
Wait what? What did you even do that could even be considered “overreacting?” You just talked to a woman and then sent her a text message…
I once got a girl's phone number and then never called her. It wasn't that I didn't like her; I just didn't feel confident that I knew what I was going to say when she picked up so I never took the risk.
Courage is not an inexhaustible resource - maybe it took all of hers to even talk to you in the first place. Maybe the best we can do is accept others' faults with what grace we can.
Sounds like an mlm
Someone better took her time and attention. You were an option among many. Move on. She isn't interested. Not in any meaningful way. Treat her the same.
Stop sending dick pics before asking her out!
Could be a private investigator.
She could have used the close conversation to keep you and your phone close so that she could clone or whatever it is where they can steal your information…🤷🏻♀️
Seems MLM-y to me
Hit her up again in a few days see if she wants to hangout. Be nonchalant about it and not weird or anything. If she doesn’t bite who cares youve nothing to lose
You were supposed to take her then, she’s now back with the ex
Never do the small talk text, dudes always send the “reiterate the obvious” text and it’s weird. If you text her again text her with an invite to do something don’t force her to buy in on your fantasy after the first chat.
I considered that to be an issue. However, if it is such an issue, I figure she’s not worth it anyway. If you’re interested, you’re interested-plain and simple. It will be reciprocated regardless. If not, then I’ve got my answer.
She was clearly interested
I do believe she was yes. But you’re saying that me texting her that I enjoyed our conversation and was wondering if she’d like to go out, weaned her interest in texting me back. If that was actually the case, that’s insane, and doesn’t sound like genuine interest in someone to me
I definitely could have been wrong about her having interest in that way. I strongly don’t believe that’s the case, but I can’t sit here and say Ik exactly what was going through her mind in approaching me to begin with.
Women have back up plans too. She just wanted a stallion in the pen for when her boyfriend fucks up.
Do not text back until responded to.
You said you "fell in love", you are absolutely overreacting.
Bruuuuu it’s jokes
You are overreacting.
Enjoy the moment, you tried and it didn't go anywhere, let it go.
Dude, same thing happened to me last month. Perhaps not as direct as you. But it was within spitting distance of your story. I would also like to add that from what I have been told by MULTIPLE women, I am attractive, tall, and in shape. ANYWAYS..... I used her number that SHE gave me. Nothing crazy also. Just wondering if the weekend would be a good time to hang out. She responds with a huge nothing paragraph about how busy she is blah blah blah and "she let me know".... Nothing!! Moral of the point. These redpill channels that dudes are flocking to en-mass aren't for no reason!!! Girls today be wilding, my friend 🤯 Their is no logic behind a lot of it. A lot of it is just them trying to self validate themselves and to feel power in its smallest form. At the expense of you or I, unfortunately. I've talked to a lot of female friends that I have. They are also perplexed by some of my stories/experiences recently. Heck some of them have seen with their own eyes girls initiate heavy flirting with me. Then when I respond. Weirdness and withdrawal ensues... My lady friends had no answers to what they saw. My advice to you, from one normal guy to another. Just accept we are living in a very fragile and confused dating era. Where ladies and men (mostly ladies though!!)😅 have cumulatively decided to make interactions between sexes uncomfortable and stressful
She's a Looney weirdo.
Like she’s a looney-weirdo or she’s a looney and I’m the weirdo
Did she ask for your mother’s maiden name and your pet name?
asks me multiple questions such as what my job was, where I went to school, what are my hobbies etc..
sounds like she was pumping you for information for some sort of scam
She’s a private investigator and you gave her all the details. You fool
Give it another day or two, send her one more text and if she replies then good. If not then just forget her bro
She may have googled you
There’s a chance she could’ve been busy. There’s times I don’t text people I’m close with if I’m gonna be busy because I don’t want to send messages that are too spread out in time. I just wait till I’m available for a longer conversation. Maybe she’s doing the same? If not though, after least someone gave you a compliment. I agree with everyone here, maybe it really was just a fun interaction!
you were practice.
Just because a girl talks to you, doesn’t mean she’s interested in being more than friends. Did you ask for her number? Or did she ask for yours. And if she asked for your number was it a way to end the conversation nicely? Maybe she was just busy? There are so many factors. Best to just keep it moving. If someone likes you, they’ll let it be known. It won’t be a mystery
Did she happen to slip into the conversation that she knows a couple who have retired early and are mentoring her to do the same, or something along those lines? Classic Amway/MLM
Should have let her make first contact. It makes you look desperate. Women don’t like to be ignored just act uninterested they will come running.
Dude u probably should have just started a casual convo before asking for a date.
Texting her that night showed her she had you hook line and sinker. Next time wait a few days. She will spend those days wondering the same things you are, and it’s much more stressful for a woman to think she was rejected than a man. Were used to it for the most part. Show her that you are just so busy you didn’t make her a priority, and she’ll spend her efforts trying to make herself one in your life.
I’m in a committed relationship now for awhile but I know this used to work in my 20s.
Not overreacting overthinking. She likely acted on a momentary whim.
She's gonna text you back with an exciting opportunity to Be Your Own Boss
Think you texted too soon - shows neediness which is kryptonite for men. All you can do now is wait and pray, don't double text or reach out for atleast a month or two. I don't make the rules, just playin the game with the rest of you.
She was tryna make her ex jealous I’m assuming, they always doing weird shit
you fell in love? yes, youre over reacting.
I'd be bold and just call her. If she doesn't answer/call back, forget about it.
STOP don't do anything. She got your message wants to see if you get desperate or is cluster B and wants you to chase and beg for supply/boost..
Maybe she's just waiting for her husband to step out before she can text.
You fell in love? Wtf bro…
It be like that
lol I hope you hear back from her though, that’s what’s up man.
She got your name then searched your social media then got creeped out
I’d say my social media is rather professional
She might have just wanted to chat about your tattoos. Not every friendly woman is flirting with you
No no, she started the conversation about my tats. She continued the conversation with follow up questions. She was very much the one pushing the conversation, as i am more on the introverted side myself.
you’re not overreacting at all. i would’ve read that situation the same way based on your description. maybe she’ll respond after all. if not, whatever, not your girl.
She probably has a few guys she’s juggling and wants to know if Guy 1 is going to take her out before committing to going out with Guy 2.
Women have options.
So you are waiting for Guy 1 to decide when he’s gonna take her out and then tell her, so she can get back to you about when she’s free.
It may all depend on Chick 2 who you don’t even know that’s holding up Guy 1 who’s holding up this woman whose holding you up.
Are you still in High School?
I don’t think you’re overreacting. It is really odd. Honestly I agree with another comment on here that some women just really like the attention but it still is very weird. I wouldn’t text again I would just wait and see and if she doesn’t respond then I’d just move on from it. You can view it as a compliment that you got stopped by someone in the store though even with the weirdness afterwards
Women have a ridiculous list of deal-breakers these days. One of your answers to her questions probably killed it or maybe hitting her up the same night gave her the ick.
Yeah i debated texting her the same day but figured if she was genuinely interested it wouldn’t matter. If that happened to be the issue, I’ll gladly dodge the bullet
This. It wouldn't matter. It could be a 100reasons for her not to respond. Dont fret about it. Take it as compliment. :)
I saw some statistic recently where something like 70% of all men consider themselves single and something like 40% of all women consider themselves single. Those numbers are probably wrong but the gap isn't. What does that tell you? Women go for men who are unavailable to them and think they are in relationships with guys that may return their text every couple of weeks when they are bored.
If you text her the same night then this isn't a game to her. You're just a sincere guy who is interested...ICK!!!
"Anyway, I fell in love."
What?
Just throwing some funnies in there all jokes
You contacted her too soon. It's over.
She was obtaining necessary information to steal your identity. Notify your bank and credit cards.
She’s probably banging some other dude already
I've never done this myself, but I think some women just like knowing they can make guys desire them. Did you verify that she actually gave you her number? Often, women will give out a number they know is wrong. That is something I have done to men who got too pushy.
"Did you verify that she actually gave you her number"
Don't be one of those guys. That's a red flag statement. We either gave you the real deal or you are being let down gently. Don't get all stalker-ish about it and demand we text or call right then. We know what we are doing. That's your cue to move along.
EDIT: The commenter has edited their comment to no longer reflect what I responded too.
Shadow editing is also kind of terrible lol.
Think of it as an exciting little adventure that sparked you up for the day. Then forget it. She knows where to find you.