My (27f) husband (28m) and I have been together for 5 years and married for almost 2. I’m 4 months pregnant now, and we’ve been at a disagreement about baptism and so on.
I was raised Catholic, honestly just culturally Catholic. We’re polish/Irish in my family so my mother made it a point to have us baptized/make communion/make confirmation. As a kid, I hated CCD, and as an adult I really don’t care about the CCD classes. But I still would like to baptize my child just for tradition’s sake. Maybe it’s the Catholic spirit within me, or maybe just some sort of familiarity, but I just want to.
My husband is not at all on board. For context, he is Korean American, with immigrant parents that are absolutely non-religious. He thinks baptism is a gateway to catholic schooling, which I’ve said I’m opposed to.
I don’t know if there’s a cultural aspect I’m not clued into that would help me understand, but my husband and I have had conversations about religion with the same understanding. Neither of us are religious, or believe in god. For me, the baptism is just a traditional thing, but he sees it as a stepping stone to full on religiosity. I get why overall, but not with me. AMITAH for asserting my views even when we both don’t believe in them?
If you aren’t religious and don’t believe in god, wouldn’t it be hypocritical to baptize your child?