Tell him again. No, it's just not possible.

Then call the venue and caterers and tell them that if your dad calls to ask about adding another table, they must tell him it's not possible / too late.

She acts like an entitled, spoiled brat because everyone around her allows it!

The only thing you can do is not engage at all with her behavior. Don't talk back; just walk away. Don't give in to her demands; just walk away.

8 is far too young to be on pointe!!!!! There is something seriously wrong with that dance school for even suggesting that.

For your reasoning on saying no, you need to speak to medical professionals, maybe an ortho and a physio thar specialize in athletes, and let them explain the ramifications of what was recommended. Your daughter should also have it explained to her as well, on an age-appropriate level.

For your relationships, you need counseling, you and your husband first of all. You guys can't play favorites with your kids, you should be working together to raise your children, and definitely not pinning your kids against each other.

Some family counseling.

And I don't know if this exists, but maybe someone for the kids who talks about twins, the struggles they go through, and that not everything is always going to be equal or "fair"

For the record, YOU have not created a mess.

OMG. I just want to hug that poor little guy. He doesn't even look fazed by his father's outburst.

Edit: spelling.

"I thought I was staying in a place where you believe women are real."

You absolutely cannot fight in front of your children, especially when you are fighting ABOUT them!!! That has to stop right now.

You need counselling. Now.

And no, NTA. The last thing you need in your turbulent house is another child. And I don't blame you for considering divorce. He is being cruel and unfair to your children.

Just curious, why does your prenup forbid him from adopting further children?

Uh, welcome to your future.

"He exploded and said I don't want to change a thing, told me he's not asking a penny from me so basically I don't have a right to have an opinion." Do you really want to spend the rest of your life living like this???

I'd say run.

NTA. Scars tell our stories. Battles we've fought and won.

I would go to HR about this. Helen was way out of line. Her discomfort is not your problem. And she can kick rocks.

Find an Airbnb with two rooms close by for you and your mom.

Absolutely NTA.

You have to advocate for your pet. You have to decide that they won't suffer anymore. And that's what you are doing. You are not killing her. You're easing her pain.

It's an impossible decision. But you don't want your pet to suffer. It hurts horribly.

I'm so sorry.

Sorry.

Get them in the same room at the same time and tell them both that she is not to take any of your things, you are not now and have never loaned her anything. And if you find out that she has anything else or takes anything else from now that you will call the police. And then do it.

Now go buy a lock.

I think this kind of falls into that category. You're planning it. You kind of want to do it for money.

You want to add more dogs to the world because your dog is cute. Please just don't.

This is so freaking awesome!

Yeah, no. I'd keep going.

Why have you allowed this to go on for a year? A whole year! They aren't paying, so they definitely don't get a vote.

You let your whole wedding planning experience be ruined. And now this is all you're going to think about at your wedding.

You tell them today that there will not be one more negative thing said about your wedding or the decisions that have been made. And that if you hear from anyone that they've said anything, they will be banned from the wedding. Then do it.

I would also reach out to every single venue to confirm that everything is as you decided (i.e. the DJ), and then password protect everyone.

This is a really bad omen for your future. Don't ever tell them anything again. Don't give them your housekey. Don't tell them the sex of your potential future children.

You have to ask if you should report a neglectful mother? Obviously you have to. NOW.

"I just meant that compared to the process of going through childbirth during a stressful time, it seemed insignificant to me." No one misinterpreted this. Not only did you not explain away your comment here, you just doubled down and reiterated that your anniversary and daughter's birthday were nothing.

You didn't get your wife a gift.

Your update did nothing to save you here. Still an AH.

Good grief. There's nothing to "process"! You're pregnant. Moving on. NTA.

P.S. congratulations!!!

My reasoning for not lending the money would be that you'll never see it again, not because of the house.

As much as it sucks, she didn't steal anything from you. The house was legally left to her with a rational explanation.

NTA, but for the wrong reason.

Lucy and Ethel

Thelma and Louise

Laverne and Shirley

Minnie and Daisy

Grace and Frankie

If you both "agreed" to this, then that's your decision.

But I don't see the point of marriage here. Or how you value yourself so little that you would settle for this kind of arrangement.

Your SIL ruined it? How about your partner? He's at least as bad.

NTA. But you should have spoken up hours before it got that far.

I'm stuck on the automatic transfer to your honeymoon fund. Sorry, but that's super tacky.