I admire your mean face for bad humans, Addams Stopit!
Such a wonderful fren you are! Thank you for wanting so much to protecc mama! You were brave, even though it wasn't a safe opportunity to show it!
Poor you and momma and also poor neighbor dog! he is being neglected and is unloved. his family isn't a family for him. he has no pack! of course he is angry and jealous of your safe momma and how much momma and daddy love you. you don't have to be his fren, but always remember, his heart is broken and that makes for bad choices in any being.
maybe momma and daddy can monitor the situation and maybe inform a rescue group of his situation so maybe he can find a safe happy pack to belong to someday.
NTC! NOT ONE BIT! Doctoring is hard work! And very Important.
NTA. You don't owe anybody anything who didn't bother cultivating that family bond they chose not to cultivate.
You're right, and you're NTA.
Your wife is not mothering material (nor am I, so I'm not speaking from some place of imagined superiority at all). If she can't handle that reality, that's not your fault or your problem.
Protect your child from her jealousy and desperately bad ideas for 'bonding' that legit will not help them bond and likely will just harm the child's psychological well being long-term. Your recommendations are the ONLY SANE course of action if she wants to improve her relationship with your daughter.
Keep protecting your little one - just because a mom gives birth does not mean she's qualified to be a mom at all. I hope your wife can either choose to put the work into the Mommy & Me classes or come to joyfully accept you are more able to cultivate a healthy parent-child bond than she is and focus on what she is best at in your relationship instead of trying to force things to happen that cannot based on her own choices.
It's such a silly game.
They must always be perceived as VERY IMPORTANT AND REASONABLE AND ULTIMATE SANE PERSON at all times. So yes, many Boomers feel very insulted when anything like silly is intimated to be part of their character or experience.
Oh we have faith and ethics and moral compasses. They actually WORK. Unlike the person griping at you. I'm so sorry you deal with that.
YTA. And by rejecting them, you're probably not going to be welcome in their lives as their aunt or anybody else important. Your brother is right.
NTA. He actively LIED TO YOU about who he is. That's not a basis for a marriage, that's a basis for fraud. Which he has perpetrated upon you to his benefit - unless you leave. Thank goodness for that prenup!
your mom is awesome.
I'm sorry your father wasn't a decent person, or willing to try to be one. That is a hell far too common in this world.
My mom was, when she wasn't having an episode, generally a gentle person. The intersections of all her illnesses caused her rage to spike like that. It does not excuse the behavior, but she could be reasoned with if you could get her calm and she would STOP. One of her illnesses was a brittle bone disease, it did not contribute to the violence. So when I say AS GENTLY AS POSSIBLE, i'm not being ironic or understating the effort to protect her. I protected her from herself til she passed of complications of her illnesses this year, I'm in my late middle age now.
Abuse as a result of disease is just as unacceptable as abuse as a result of deliberate cruelty, which you clearly endured. You, and everyone in this thread with stories, deserved infinitely more gentleness in your upbringings. I do, too. I hope we all find our blueprints for peaceful lives that are fulfilling and safe.
I was 14, a martial artist, and as gently as possible pinned my mother to the floor and told her I was not here to have done whatever it was she was attempting to punish me for, and I would let her back up the MOMENT she was ready to discuss why she was having such a bad day that she felt the need to beat me. Never happened again. Also Gen X.
battle scars. war wounds. that bujo was wounded in action. has flashbacks in notebook (I have complex PTSD, and I sympathize with your journal.)
when our orange frens understand better than hoomans, it's an important day
cougar. Great spotting!
my favorite is a nonreactive 'ok' followed by leaving their presence calmly and never answering any contact attempts from them again.
chaos sometimes ensues on their part. but I'm just doing what they said they needed.
give rotting food to Matangi Devi. she's kind.
regular therapy isn't all that helpful for severe, ongoing childhood trauma. I was recommended to use workbooks recommended at isst-d.orginternational society for the study of trauma and dissociation . look for resources link.
My heart is with you all and that poor fur child. Maybe next time he escapes a rescue can find him first.
AITC for no like dog?
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