so quick backstory, i(22F) always struggled with something. idk what but i just… do. recently, my sister was diagnosed with OCD, and to support her, I began researching, and realised a lot of my symptoms align with what i was reading.
so with the support of my lovely partner, i began going to therapy, and I have a GP appointment for a psychiatrist referral tomorrow. I want to get tested for OCD, BPD and PTSD, since these are the conditions that I have found a lot of symptomatic overlap for after lots of research, and I have been the victim to lots of traumatic events.
today i called my mum(~48F) to give her a quick update on what’s going on, because I want her in the loop. she was surprisingly supportive, which I found to be a pleasant change of pace; she was always against me getting mental health help.
while she is one of my biggest fans, we always had a strained relationship, because she’s… well, not too emotionally intelligent (which i don’t blame her for considering my grandpa was an abusive alcoholic and we are Eastern European immigrants) and i have what i like to call Very Big Emotions; I was always a sensitive kid. she would always label me as dramatic when I expressed upset, attention seeking when i dressed how i wanted to (mainly goth stuff) and manipulative when i cried, and the list goes on.
fast forward to tonight, when i was at work. i work as a nighttime tech support agent, which means I spend a lot of time on calls with customers, and mute my notifications. she knows my shift times, and yet, she kept calling me to override the iPhone notification lock I have. I thought something was wrong so I excused myself from my shift (my grandma is on palliative care, so I was expecting the worst), and… I’ll just give a rundown of the conversation (M is me, H is her, I dont have the energy to be creative)
M: hey, is everything okay?
H: …yeah
M: why’d you call? sorry, i was working
H: you should look into histrionic personality disorder
M: can you stay on the line while I do so? I’m curious to know why you see that in me, that’s all.
H: yeah
So i looked it up, and… yeah
M: …these don’t really apply to me, mum; I don’t really like attention and the other symptoms aren’t really something I exhibit
H: just bring it up to your psych and therapist. often people with disorders like these don’t like to admit they have this.
That was a much shorter version of the conversation, but yeah. I am fucking gutted, and I don’t know why. (if you are not familiar with HPD, please read into it because it is incredibly fascinating, but the main symptoms are attention seeking, overly sexual behaviour, manipulativeness and theatricality)
I talked to my partner, who’s had his fair share of mental health experiences, and he was angrier than me; he reassured me a hundred times that he can’t see any of these behaviours in me, but I’m just on the couch, feeling numb and on the verge of tears. I can’t believe my own mother thinks of me this way.
(also to anyone with HPD, I want to say, this isn’t a jab at you. as someone who might be cluster B- scrap that, as someone with basic decency, i love and support you; I’m just hurt that the only time she’s supportive is when she can paint me the villain through a condition that paints me as something that I am most likely not)
i get these since my partner shut down intimacy, and it fucking sucks :/ thing is, i am also ace (i used to hate any sort if intimacy except with my current partner) and used it for validation
WHY AM I GETTING SEXUAL INTRUSIVE THOUGHTS?? IM ASEXUAL FOR FUCKS SAKE
OCD