May your family find peace; I hope you find the strength to go through this difficult time. Words can’t undo your heartache, but we are all thinking of you and your loved ones.

What do you guys think about the talk that he painted Guru Nanak Dev Ji like himself? Open discussion, I’m not trying to create trouble 🫡

Thank you! I’ll look into these shops!

Shaheed Wazir Ram Singh Pathania

Look into “all on 4” or implant supported dentures.

I think more rectangular over circular. Your face and beard give you a “circular” profile, so to give it more contrast, a more rectangular frame would be best!

It’s very noble that you’re trying to take care of your sister. I don’t where you live or your age. But try to spend time with your sister, learn what she likes and doesn’t like, and try to provide her with the things she likes doing. Do things together and bond together. Help others together, volunteer; take road trips. Get her some ice cream and listen to music she enjoys. See if there are local resources for her.

I went to Roy Cloud and my 3 nieces and nephews went there too. It is a great school with amazing teachers and curriculum. There is also a sense of community between the teachers and parents. They do a lot of events as well.

This is not to say that any of the other schools in Redwood City are “bad”. But I am just giving you my own experience.

First of all: God is below someone/something? Mhmm what drugs/substances is this guy on?

Secondly: Why is this guy talking about castes? This guy is not a Sikh.

These are cool.

This was very cool to see, thanks for sharing

This was very cool to see, thanks for sharing

It says “lover of Maharani Jind Kaur” what’s that about

Nah I personally don’t think he is “finding” or “looking” for an excuse to cut his hair. He is concerned about his health & wellbeing but willing to keep it because of Sikhi and his love for our religion. He is just trying to find some advice.

If he needed an excuse he could have cut it as soon as the health reasons came into the picture, as soon as his doctor told him to cut it. Sounds like he has been dealing with these issues for a while.

Baksheesh, Bachint, Balhar, Beant, Bheroop, Balkar, Bahadur

Congrats to you & your family!!!

Guru Nanak Dev Ji & Bhagat Ravidas Ji

Thanks for your post. But yeah I was not trying to flex on anyone. Don’t think it’s “efficient” for a person (who really would want to flex) to jump onto reddit and try to flex anonymously.

It’s actually one of the cardinal “sins” of my religion and spiritual practice to have an “ego” or be egotistical; but be writing all these negative comments on this post I can see that in their eyes “they have met a lot of doctors, they are all the same”. It’s like you’ve been 10-50 doctors and you know them all right? Haha I’ll let them exercise their assumptions.

Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa, Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh

I am no expert on Sikhi, please forgive me if I say anything incorrect. I am just posting based on my understanding & experience. I have had similar issues in my life: family issues, one brother’s death, another’s constant health problems; plus my own depression/anxiety/struggles/responsibilities etc etc. (I am saying this because I want to emphasize with you)

In terms of Sikhi: I would say get involved at the Gurudwara Saab as much as you can. Not that you need to “please” Waheguru in order for “Him” to do something for you, it doesn’t work like that. But it’ll give you the opportunity to listen to katha, kirtan, & Gurbani. It’ll give you the opportunity to be able to get some comfort and a sense of community and purpose. I don’t know how much you understand Punjabi/Gurmukhi so I would say work on understanding it as much as possible. And listen with your heart. Gurbani says that you take one step towards Waheguru and he will take many many steps towards you.

What has happened me with the age old question of “Why me? Why is God doing this/that”… by listening to Gurbani and katha, I was able to learn about the different karmas, and there was a story in Katha in which these warriors went to Guru Gobind Singh Ji and they asked Him to explain Karmas, and He basically said that our Karmas are like arrows and life is like war/game, you have to place the arrows at the feet of Waheguru and say, I don’t know how to play, I don’t how to use these arrows, please help me. Or there was a story of 2 friends, friend 1 goes and does Sangat of Guru Nanak Dev Ji and friend 2 goes and gambles and spends him with prostitutes. Friend 1 walking back gets a thorn in his foot and friend 2 finds a gold coin. Confused they go to Guru Nanak Dev Ji and ask why did this happen… he tells them to go back to where one got hurt and the other found the coin, dig and see what is under the soil and dirt. Friend 1 had done a lot of bad things in his life and by getting closer to God, avoided all the thorns and dangerous things under the soil, but based his Karma got little pain, not major. Friend 2 did great deeds in his previous life, but since he was gambling/adulting missed all the gold coins that were under the soil. All this might be hard to hear with the mind, but easier to hear with the heart.

Through Gurbani we can understand that what my family is going thru is based on their own karmas, and what I am experiencing is based on mine. And by me going closer to God, I am only perhaps able to influence how much closer those around me get to God and attribute to their karmas. We all just need to develop a closer relationship to Waheguru. It may not “fix” the world around us, cuz the world has its Karmas, but at the very least we can figure out a way to “accept it”. (There a story of a wealthy man that exercised Ego majorly and had to deal a lot of animal feces around him and his home, went to a Sant, and the Sant told him why and then said well you have to deal with the feces, can’t get rid of it, but I’ll give you a way that will make it at least tolerable).

It terms of things outside of Sikhi: people have said seeing a therapist, medication will help, exercise, exercising gratitude first thing in the morning. I have a box next to my bed, when I wake up (which I do before anybody at home or work or life needs me: it’s quiet I can connect with God, I can exercise, I can read, I can do what I need to do to be healthy and have some “control” of my day/life. There’s a different energy in the world when it is just you and God and it’s quiet). Journaling helps- doesn’t have to be a dear diary type of stuff. Anything or method that you can express yourself, and organize your thoughts and mind and feelings; or get emotions out.

Depression comes from thoughts from the past and anxiety from thoughts of the future. If you catch yourself in any of these thoughts focus on: one thing you can see, one you can hear, one you can smell, one you can taste, and another you can touch and think about God’s creation; your ability to experience it, how do you experience it? To bring you to the present. There are a lot of things you can do, I don’t want to make you read a essay lol. Instead you can read some self books and philosophy and psychology. If you want me to expand on anything let me know. Wishing you the best!

https://www.betterhelp.com/rpc/8be89a2f4272f901-6-11?utm_term=ref_v2_dd

I use BetterHelp, here’s a referral code. It’s nice that you can have an application on your phone too and you can do therapy from anywhere in the world. You can message your therapist, change them if you don’t feel like they are a good fit. The group therapy is nice because there are different groups you can drop in and out of, for whatever you need at the time (grief, loss, woman’s health, ADHD, Depression, Anxiety, etc etc)

But yeah it might be a good idea to be seen more.

In terms of journaling, there are a lot of ways to do it. Doesn’t have to be a “dear diary…” type or process 😃 You should look into different methods. Some are just like “went and got Chinese food at my favorite spot, didn’t have my favorite tofu dish today, made me disappointed, but it forced me to try something new, and was thankful the noodles were delicious. My husband complimented my new shoes, I love them too. That was nice.”

Wake up and be thankful for your one thing, write it down, maybe just one sentence. But it in a tin box or whatever way you wanna store it. Look back at it.

Every morning have a one hour routine, before everyone around you wakes up or needs you. Bring back control in your lifestyle, wake up write down a few things you’re thankful for; drink a glass of water, go for a 30 min walk while listening to uplifting music or podcast or prayer or something positive; connect your body and soul to the senses of the world around you, deep breathes of the morning air.

Sounds like you’re doing all the right things! I would say that perhaps you should find a therapist you can see more frequently and regularly. Consider something like BetterHelp, they can match you with many different therapist, give you access to group therapy, and also classes.

Once you have met a therapist and built a relationship, you could see if you can bring your husband is for a session and the therapist could help him understand your depression and your daily life.

During this period, learn to love yourself more and more; practice self reflection and soon you’ll only worry about what you think and how you feel, it won’t matter that others think about you at the gym. Learn to love the process of getting healthier physically and mentally, it unfortunately isn’t gonna happen overnight, and that’ll help with the daily struggles.

Wasn’t flexing, just trying to find things to do here

Thank you 🙏🏽 appreciate the kind words

She is gonna love the afternoon high tea! Wow thanks! Tried to go to the Codfather a few weeks ago, but they were closed! So I’ll have to try again, the other 2 I had not heard of!