He had it in his bio?! 😂

It would be creepy if he had met someone else and still had them.

As stated a few times, I know the difference between the two. It’s intuition and not emotions.

What’s weird for me is I know my intuition. I had to go through trauma therapy years ago for PTSD so I know the difference between intuition, thoughts, and feelings. I know a lot of people struggle but I never have up until recently.

My intuition has yet to be wrong so I have started leaning on it more. I come off super judgmental but when things go down, I’m normally far away from the drama. That’s always served me well. It was just this time. Something was off from the beginning and small things piled. I take mine as a warning rather than a suggestion.

I actually really appreciate this. I definitely feel bad when I ignore my intuition (she’s never been wrong) but you’re right. Listen and then go find out for yourself.

This is perfect! I have been pulling obstacle cards to help me process but this is a much better way to do this!! Thank you!!

A lot of people assume this is my emotions clouding my better judgment but that’s not what this is. I view it as three parts, logic / thoughts, emotions, and then intuition.

Logically / Thoughts: I should move on but don’t close myself off Emotionally: I want to protect myself from this hurt Intuition: static noise

My intuition itself is all over the place. Imagine trying to have a conversation during a concert. You can’t clearly hear any of it because your logic keeps trying to talk over you. I know that’s weird and sounds like it’s just my emotions but my emotions are more hurt. My intuition has always operated separately from my own thoughts so I know the difference.

I’m at a space where I need to tune up my intuition and go back to trusting it. This isn’t about emotions but about listening to my intuition.

My ex was that way. We dated for 4 years and we were 3 months from the wedding. He left at the end but him putting in effort was why I fell for him.

If he’s willing to lie about something this small early on, he will lie about something bigger later on.

I personally would be upfront and explain lying isn’t the route to go. Rejection isn’t a reason to lie either.

Are some of you okay? This was just a rant (flared the post and everything) and that last comment was a joke.

I stopped after second paragraph talking about choices and then skimmed at the end where you talked about what different people view as a 10. Like I said, I am comfortable with where I am. I also don’t need people to explain to me why I’m not getting more matches. The apps suck and it’s okay to say that. Women in my area are experiencing this. I’m talking women who are objectively 10s are getting this treatment.

100% agree! I feel like all the apps have gone downhill since I last was on them.

I know you spent time on this reply and I’m very thankful but, as I said and clarified, I’m not here to make more matches. I have my bar set for what I want and will stay single until I find someone who meets that.

I know 😂

I’m good but thanks. I’d rather be single than go on another date and have a guy ghost me because he finds out I work in a male dominated industry. You have no clue how much that hurts and I’d rather just be upfront. It’s saved me so much heartache.

You pulled that from Wikipedia and I pulled mine from Forbes.

Again, he is a cofounder. I hate the app since they sold it. This is why you’re single 😂

Edit: I’m blocking anyone who chooses to keep arguing on this. They were cofounders. Move on.

He is a cofounder but not the original founder. Whitney is credited as the founder and the face of the company. Their stakes in the company, which is what you’re referring to, aren’t exactly what makes someone a founder.

My point is that once they sold the company, when I was still on, I noticed a shift then and can see a bigger shift now.

https://www.forbes.com/profile/whitney-wolfe-herd/#:~:text=Whitney%20Wolfe%20Herd%20is%20cofounder,billionaire%20Andrey%20Andreev%20in%202014.

But please, mansplain to a woman who enjoyed the app when Andrey and Whitney owned it.

Men swipe way more right and it doesn’t mean they are more likely to get a match. The algorithms actually put you to the back.

I get 15-20 matches a week and maybe 8 of them respond. I’m also not on the app tirelessly. Of the 8, maybe 1 will be engaging.

I’m not lowering my standards of what I want from a partner to get more matches. It’s not worth it. I have one failed engagement so my standards are now higher to avoid that again.

So again, I’m comfortable with the number of matches I get. I’ve played around with all of it and I’ve had a pretty consistent experience. Women in my area constantly complain about this so I also know it’s not me. It’s men in my area.

I’m also a woman who owns her own home, works in a male dominated industry (construction), and I’m well traveled. My industry alone has been working against me for years. I am also not going to hide any of that because it’s not worth meeting someone who isn’t comfortable with those things.

I’d rather be single than be with someone to avoid being alone. My ex left me 3 months before our wedding and I’m not settling again.

I also am a little straight forward so please don’t take my replies as anything negative. Clearly a few people have already and want to clarify now.

I wasn’t being rude by clarifying. The flare says “Rant” and that comment was more or less just a joke. We all feel that way on the apps from time to time. Regardless, I know all the facts and it still sucks. That’s normal

Actually that’s where you’re wrong. The app recognizes when people do this and they send your profile to the back. The algorithm has been openly talked about for years (even when it changes). You’re less likely to get a match you want by mindless swiping on Bumble. Not sure about other apps though. I know Hinge actually takes that information and then hides the matches you want which is why I refuse to use it.

This is what I love! I’ve talked to guys longer just because they put in effort.

You understand this is just a rant right? I know all of this to be true. It doesn’t mean it’s still not frustrating