Polyamory R4R - Dating for Polyamorous Redditors!

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Recent Rule Changes [Discussion]

In an effort to improve things and crack down on spam and abuse, there have been some changes to the rules and I’ve listed the new rules below. Please feel free to review the rules and my comments on each and provide feedback. I’ll leave this post up for a week or so for discussion, and then I’ll make a new sticky post for the community.

Rule 1. 18 years of age and older

This subreddit is 18+. Do not post, comment, or PM OPs if you or your partner(s) are under the age of 18. Lying about your age, or someone else’s age, will result in a permanent ban.

This one is self-explanatory. There have been Redditors who are minors, or have partners who are minors, who have made posts here. I want to make it clear that posts involving minors are prohibited.

Rule 2. Must be aligned with Polyamory

Polyamory is the practice of, or desire for, ethical romantic relationships with more than one person with the informed consent of all partners involved.

Posts or comments seeking sex, hookups, FWB, affair partners, “sugar” or GFE arrangements, or anything other than ethical polyamorous relationships with the consent of all partners are not allowed. There are R4R and other dating subreddits out there for just about anything. If you’re not polyamorous, please use a subreddit that is better-suited for your search.

This should go without saying…this subreddit is intended for polyamorous people seeking polyamorous relationships. This is not a general ENM dating subreddit, a regular R4R subreddit, a BDSM subreddit, or a subreddit for seeking any other kind of relationship other than an ethical polyamorous one. Going forward, if a post even includes “I’m also down for hookups or FWB” or something similar, it’s going to be removed. There’s nothing necessarily wrong with most of the arrangements mentioned above that someone might seek, but this isn’t the subreddit to advertise for those things. Also, if someone makes a post that seems like it’s not aligned with polyamory and their post history shows that it’s the same post they’ve cross-posted or spammed across multiple subreddits with minor changes to circumvent the intention of the rule, the post will be removed.

Rule 3. No unicorn hunting or harem building

Posts or comments that can be construed as seeking or promoting relationships where unethical or unfair rules or expectations will be placed on a new partner are not allowed.

This has been the most contentious issue on this subreddit so far, as it has been on other subreddits and forums. We’re not going to prohibit couples seeking partners in this subreddit. There are single people here seeking triads, throuples, and all sorts of dynamics. Triads and other group relationships can be amazing, especially if they are formed organically. That being said, there will be more moderation on couples seeking posts going forward, which will be done on a case-by-case basis.

The purpose of the mod team here is to protect the members of the subreddit and the integrity of the community we’ve built here. It is not the mod team's place to tell adults what they can or cannot do with their relationship dynamics. The reality is that we are all consenting adults and have adult decisions to make in our lives and in our relationships.

In an effort to prevent the subreddit from being a platform for predatory behavior, any no or low effort posts or comments from Redditors that indicate a general lack of regard for any potential individuals involved will be removed. For example, if an individual posts from a new Reddit account something to the effect of, "We're new to polyamory. We want to find a third who will date only us and be an equal member of our new family. We can start out long distance, but we will expect you to move in with us at some point. Prefer that you be submissive," the post will be removed. Read the room. Show that you're actually putting some thought and effort into it, and not just objectifying people.

Also, if you say that this new person is going to be an equal member of the family after you've just said that the person is going to be required to date both of you, recognize that the person you're seeking is not actually going to be an equal member of the family. If there's a possibility that one member of the existing couple loses interest and the new member of the relationship is forced to leave entirely...you have now misled this hypothetical new person into an unethical dynamic on them.

Rule 4. No hate or disrespect

Threats, harassment, abuse, bigotry, misogyny, misandry, and intolerance are not allowed. This includes, but is not limited to, attacks on gender or sexual identity, racism, sexism, slut shaming, mocking, and attacks on political or religious beliefs.

I don't need to go into detail on this rule. Don't be a jerk. If you don't like what someone has to say, block them. If you think someone is breaking a rule, report them.

Rule 5. No vulgarity or NSFW content

Vulgarity and NSFW content are not allowed. There’s nothing inherently wrong with sex, kinks, fetishes, and BDSM. However, posts and comments explaining the details of your sexual anatomy, favorite sexual positions, details and/or lists of kinks or fetishes, etc. will be removed. You can indicate that you are into BDSM and encourage people to DM you about the details.

There is often a large crossover between ethical non-monogamy and BDSM, sex positivity, etc. There's nothing inherently wrong with any of it, but this is not a NSFW subreddit. It's fine to include that you're sex positive, into BDSM, or whatever. If you go into detail and start describing anatomy/body parts, listing off kinks, and things like that, your submission will be removed. If you want to discuss these things, please do so in a DM.

The mod team has been asked why this subreddit is marked NSFW. The subreddit is 18+, so it's automatically identified as a NSFW subreddit.

Rule 6. No spam

You are allowed to post once every 7 days, with the exception of correction posts following an Automod removal. If you are found to be repeatedly deleting your post history in an attempt to circumvent this rule, it may result in a permanent ban. For clarification, spam includes copy-pasted and cross-posted ads from other subreddits.

This one is self-explanatory.

Rule 7. No Trolling or unsolicited discussion

There are a multitude of dynamics and ways to practice polyamory, and not everyone will agree on everything. Do not clutter up posts with unsolicited information. For education and discussions about polyamory, please visit r/Polyamory. If you believe someone is breaking a rule, please report the behavior and/or contact the mod team.

Again, if you think someone is breaking a rule, report it. If you disagree with what someone is commenting or posting, block them. Please don't engage in negative interactions on posts.

Rule 8. No personal or confidential information

Posting personal or confidential information about yourself or others in public is not allowed. If you wish to provide contact information for yourself, please do so in a DM.

Posting Snapchat, Instagram, phone numbers, or any other personal contact or confidential information about yourself or others in public is prohibited. If you want to give someone your contact information, do it in a DM. If it happens once, it will be removed and you will be warned. If you're found to be spamming your contact information all over the place, it could result in an immediate permanent ban.

Rule 9. No seeking relationships for others

Posts seeking relationships for someone other than yourself, or you and your partner(s), are not allowed. If your friend or partner is seeking a relationship separately, they must make the submission themselves.

I've seen posts where Redditors are seeking relationships for their partners or others, sometimes even doing it as a sort of surprise for their partner. If someone is seeking a relationship, they need to post for themselves. Your partner not having a Reddit account is not a valid reason to violate this rule.

Also, a general note for when you engage with the mod team. We have to wade through a lot of reports and posts here. Sometimes there are misunderstandings or mistakes are made. If your post or comment gets removed, or you are banned for violating a rule and you wish to appeal, you can do so via a Modmail. If you send a Modmail insulting the mods, you're only confirming that you're not the type of person who belongs on this subreddit. No amount of insulting or cursing a moderator is going to help your cause.

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New Mods and Actions to Reduce Spam/Bot Activity

I've seen the posts and mod mails and I've responded to those who sent messages. Things got busy in the beginning of the year and there was lull in my moderation over the past week. The bots and spam are coming in waves and it got out of control in the past few days. I've been the only active mod on the subreddit for a while. I do my best, but I don't catch everything. I appreciate everyone who reports the abusive and spam posts. Please continue to do that, because it really does help.

I wanted to take a moment to give everyone an update on actions I've already taken to reduce the spam and abusive posts, and a couple of things I'll be doing going forward.

Steps I've already taken to reduce the bot/spam activity

  • The spam and ban evasion filters have been enabled.
  • Filters for certain words in the post title and body have been added
  • I've added an age and karma restriction to Automod
  • I've been removing spam posts and reporting the bot accounts to Reddit, and I'll continue to do that

I'm also going to be adding a couple new moderators. If you're interested in moderating the sub, please feel free to comment here or send a mod mail. I'll also continue to monitor the bot activity and update the Automod settings in an effort to stay on top of it. If you have any other suggestions for things you'd like to see implemented, feel free to share.

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40/39 [MF4F] TN Looking for girlfriend for her, him or both in Knoxville and Johnson City areas to go bar hopping, hang out, go to local music shows. Really want to develop a long term relationship, a throuple situation would be amazing. Feel free to message on here for any other information or ask

40/39 [MF4F] TN Looking for girlfriend for her, him or both in Knoxville and Johnson City areas to go bar hopping, hang out, go to local music shows. Really want to develop a long term relationship, a throuple situation would be amazing. Feel free to message on here for any other information or ask

32 [M4F] #online. Happy Monday!

Hi all!

Hope all is well. I’m a British guy looking for conversation, excitement and laughs.

I have a really intense day job - so looking for distractions and fun! Companionship predominantly but if there’s a connection then awesome!

I’m a former stand up comedian, currently working on getting fit and recently garnered an obsession for reading, diy and vinyl records! Come and start a book club with me?

I appreciate this is short and sweet but I believe that dorky icebreaker games are amazing and will take any opportunity to play one! So don’t be shy, reach out and let’s play pick a number or 20 questions! Let’s fill our Monday’s with more smiles and hopefully enjoy just chatting!

All the best,

S x

32 [F4F] looking for that sweet girl!!

Hi there!! I'm 32 years old, in a long term relationship. I'm looking for a female partner to enjoy the girly, cute things with! I'm not picky, just prefer 24+.

I love animals, music, biking, and reading. I'm friendly and I'm a mix of an introvert and extrovert. I really appreciate someone who can communicate often within reason! I always do my best to do the same.

Please be willing to verify.

Anyway, feel free to DM me even if you're not close :)

29 [T4T] Syracuse - Looking for Friends with Snuggle Benefits

Afternoon! My name is Melissa, I am 29 genderfluid, but most days she/they. I am currently single looking to make some connections.

I like hiking, gardening, cooking, anime, crafts, video games, and overall just being a cute and cozy person. I’m looking for some like minded friends who might want to hang out from time to time and do stuff. I’m poor so I can’t go out a ton, but I love to have people over!

I’m pretty open sexually as well, but for the moment mostly want to make some more everyday chill friends. If ya want to know more, or see a photo of my face, send me a message :)

28 [M4F] Online, Louisiana - Seeking friends that may want more down the road

Hi everyone! I really don't know how to write one of these so please bear with me. I'm 28, from Louisiana, and currently have a nesting partner. I recently went through a pseudo-breakup with a second partner, and have had a lot going on my life at the same time, so life has been quite rough lately. Ideally i'd like to find someone who wants to talk throughout the days, voice call on discord, play games together late into the night, and support each other through the hardships that life throws at us. Friends at first, but i'm open to whatever that may develop into in the future!

Some interests and hobbies of mine are:

  • Gaming: (PC mainly), i enjoy cozy games likes Stardew Valley, survival games, and some shooters!
  • Reading: i love fantasy/high fantasy, scifi, and... smut. I can talk all day or night about Brandon Sanderson's books and will probably instantly dub you my new best friend if you're a fan.
  • Music: i'm a bass player and will generally listen to anything that has a great bass line or good beat. I love metal and progressive metal/rock, Tool is my favorite band, and will listen to almost anything once.
  • Anime/Manga: I don't watch it as much lately as i used to, but i'm very much a fan! I'm super excited to watch the new season of Demon Slayer, and i enjoy silly little romcoms and romance animes aside from the action ones.
  • Food: I really enjoy cooking, even if i don't have the energy to do it all the time lately. I'll happily pile into the kitchen with someone and cook along with them or just make their favorite meal just because i love them and want to do it.
  • Science: maybe this one is just better described as learning? I have a deep love for science; physics, chemistry, astronomy, but i also enjoy learning things in general. History is another field i love learning about!

While i'm not looking for anything past friends at the moment, i'm open to whatever happens down the road; whether that means we click and we're comfortable being sexual, want to keep things purely online, maybe make it an irl thing, i'm very go with the flow and want to just see where the tides take us. I'm very kink friendly and have some experience with it, feel free to ask about it!

Hopefully this piques someone's interest, and if so i hope to hear from you soon :)

30 [F4F] Anywhere UK

Hello beautiful people.

Straight off, I've never been in a poly relationship and I understand if that turns you off immediately. My wife is poly and currently has an LDR girlfriend and I've personally felt that I've had too much going on in my life to handle having more than one partner, I think I'm ready for that to change.

Now, please bear in mind I haven't dated or flirted with anyone else since I met my wife er 11 years ago 😬 so I might be a little rusty.

About me:

I'm 30, cisF (you can see a photo of me in my profile) Already stated that I'm married but we do also have a 1 year old (I know some people aren't comfortable with kids so fair warning I will probably talk about her a lot) From the UK I work full time (3 days from home and 2 days in the office) I love cows I watch a lot of true crime docs and crime/medical dramas Fantasy is my favourite book genre

What am I looking for?

Silly that I have to state it but some people don't read, I am not looking for a man, I can confirm I'm very much a lesbian (although a new one) I'd love to have someone to message throughout the day, that doesn't always make me message first and takes an interest in the conversation and extends it beyond a couple of words. Share your daily ups, downs and the mundane with me. Having similar interests is a bonus but not necessary

I think that's everything, if you read this far thank you. Happy chatting ☺️

28 [F4M/F/T] Austin, TX - Looking for friendship to develop into a partnership

Hello!🌈 I'm so happy you stopped by! I'm wanting to find someone(s) who is near and willing to dive into some solid conversations that can be light hearted, funny, enjoyable, interesting, fun and in general worth your time should you be willing to put in the same effort! I have been in the polyam lifestyle for over 5 years, and I am married to my NP. I am a plus size, tall woman whose pronouns are she/they. I have been testing the waters with my non-binary feelings once in a while, but more often than not I'm dressed like Adam Sandler😂 I am pansexual, and I am a stoner. I enjoy reading, mostly smut and self help books! I also enjoy dabbling in different art forms. I also enjoy playing video games and board games. I enjoy watching anime as well, and horror movies. I also enjoy shows like Bridgerton, LetterKenny, Family Guy, etc. The summer time is not my favorite time, however I do enjoy swimming so it's worth the 99 degree weather most days. 😉 I do work from home, and have kind of odd hours, but I do respond rather quickly, or rather when reddit wants to notify me lol. I am in no rush to pursue anything at this point because I do primarily want friendship first before discussing romance and kink. If I have struck your interest please feel free to send me a message!🌻💕✨

24[F4R]Western USA! Looking for real connections whether that’s a platonic or romantic!

Hey everyone! I’m from the western USA! Here’s some fun facts about I use she/her pronouns, I’m demisexual and panromantic. I have a husband who is my only partner currently and he has other partners. I would say my aesthetic is bubble gum grunge like if Wednesday Addams liked pink. I like witchy things like tarots, crystals, zodiacs and all stuff like that! I love reading books and watching YouTube! A big H3 fan. Been obsessed with stardew valley lately Love watching documentaries on history, true crime, cults, and conspiracy theories. I’m a Disney fan and a Harry Potter fan! Have bad insomnia if you’re up a night that would nice to have a buddy! My favorite colors are pink and black. What is your favorite color? Tbh if you just comment I won’t message you so message me!

24 [F4R] Online - Seeking fellow friendly goblin for ongoing shenanigans!

Hi there! I’m on the hunt for. You know honestly I don’t even know, but I’m down to figure it out together! Located in the Midwest (central standard time), seeking someone 23-38ish, open to men or women, but I won’t be your unicorn, seeking a go with the flow type experience, I have no expectations upfront other than we treat each other with kindness and put effort into our conversations. We could end up being friends, we could end up gasp flirting?! There could be…. emotional intimacy. What is this chaos!!! If you feel like this might be up your alley keep reading to discover my secrets 😋.

I am 24, have a nesting partner and prefer to practice some kind of kitchen table, at least on my end. It’s nice to be able to play games together okayyy! I’m kink friendly but probably not interested in a relationship solely based in kink. I am often referred to as a Druid or goblin by friends. I’m neurodivergent and have some mental health struggles. I am a bit of a nerd, creative, silly, loving. I can often be found curled up with a book (ahem, tik tok) or cooking up a storm in the kitchen. I love to garden and game. I enjoy watching movies, Deep conversation, silly conversation, playing games, gardening and crafting. I’ve been know to be a bit of a hippie, I care about the environment, have collections of crystals, rocks, and other little trinkets. I am passionate about bettering myself and healing as well as access to healthcare, the betterment of the environment. Happy to share more about myself and look forward to chatting :).

I’m seeking a kind, funny, patient person who has depth to them. In an ideal world we can chat throughout the days, hang out on calls from time to time, set up times for us to watch movies or play games together, if we connect and get to a point where we feel comfortable being sexual, hell yeah! I understand people want physical in person connections, I am not interested in that at this time so please don’t reach out if this is a requirement of chatting with you!

Messages with effort and obvious interest will be responded to ASAP. I hope to talk to you soon and thanks for reading to the end 🩷.

Ps. Why do chicken coops have 2 doors?

39 [M4FM] #NYC - Looking for a chill easy going couple that hikes and enjoys the outdoors.

Respectful down to earth guy looking to enjoy the outdoors, stay active and clear my mind. Whether hiking upstate trails or even a nature walk through Central Park I would love to meet new friends who enjoy the simplicity and getting out in nature. I choose a couple bc I feel it’s a nice balance of company with female presence but it’s also not a date if that makes sense. Most of my friends are married busy or still drinking or at the bar. At this point of my life I wanna do simple peaceful things with new good people. Hope to connect with some cool outdoorsy friends. Some of my other interests include the beach, bonfires, boating, restaurants, breweries.

39 [M4F/MF] #Ohio seeking some casual connections in this chapter in my life

Hullo all interested folks, I'm Rob, an African American artist and Gardening enthusiasts =). I'm really looking for some new, healthy connections in poly, I honestly never had a real chance to explore the lifestyle with my ex who was very controlling of what I wanted to do but wanted free range to do what she wanted.

About me: I bought and own my home, all cash, all mine (a historic feat in this day and age) and I can definitely vouch for being the "homeeist" of home bodies as my crib is the bees knees. I have several pets, including cats, fish, and a Turtle (red earned slider for those interested lol)

While I have a day job as a laborer to pay the bills, my passion is art, illustrations to be precise. I LOVE to draw and being able to capture the real world on paper is the greatest flex I know. I would love to share my art with you or even do a drawing of you if you are interested. I can talk your head off on color theory and why I like this brand of ink vs. another.

I have an 18 year old son who lives with me, he is my favorite person and I enjoy just building a life with him, teaching him how to be the best man he can be, through kindness, patience, and consideration. We both are geeky and gamers, so we are down for some game time or ever some TTRPG.

I also have a new passion for gardening (new home came with a BIG ass back yard and I have a LOT of idea I wanna do) and cooking (a BIG ass kitchen to boot). So I will definitely just make a plate for yall or have left overs. I wanna do urban homesteading, get some chickens, collect rain water, solar panels, the whole 9.

As far as you guys are concerned: ladies I ADORE BBWs/plus size women. Yall are Goddesses to me and I live to worship lol. For the men I am straight but want to try more shared experiences, I am shy about being in front of other men, but time and trust can mellow that out. I WOULD like to be genuine homies though, not just come over to service the wife and never interact with you. Being a 3rd sounds interesting but I'm cautious of becoming a hinge for couples issues.

I go into this with light and love, as I need friends more than sex buddies or moving in together. I do want to actually meet people and do lunch, go to the movies, eat at the Park with a picnic. For too long I've tried online only/long distance and at my age it just doesn't cut it. I want hugs and cuddles God dammit 🥺.

So hey, drop a line, or don't, I love you all the same 🥰

27 [M4F] Colorado - Looking for someone special.

My partner and I recently discussed being open/poly on account of they're recent transition ftm. We're still together and great friends. I'm looking for someone to be romantically/physically intimate with (I'm a big time cuddler) I'm a huge nerd love video games card games board games. I watch anime and read manga. Play DND on the weekends and recently took up painting miniatures! I'd really love to start hitting the gym soon and bulk out a little. Major foodie I love trying new spots and know a lot of cool places eat around the state. Hmu!

36 [F4R] Looking for Platonic Friends- Phoenix, AZ

Hii, thanks for looking at my post. Like the title mentions, I'm looking for Platonic Friends only. If you can't respect that, please don't respond to this ad.

I'm a 36 year old mom. I'm polyamorous and partnered. Far left leaning.

So what can we talk about? I'd love to have a friend to shoot the shit with. Send funny memes to. Talk about our favorite recipes. I like camping, hiking, crocheting, reading, music, art, Pokemon Go, and thrift shopping.

Don't mind discussing politics, my polyamory journey, divorce, kids, money, sex, religion, all the nitty gritty.

I would love someone who is a yogi and could reach me more about yoga!

I would also love to find someone who is into backpacking and can share wisdom.

Maybe start there and see what else we have in common? Look forward to chatting soon.

39 [M4F] #Massachusetts south shore looking for a connection

Im a 39 years old 6'3" 178lbs. My wife opened up to being poly, and now I am also looking for someone to make a connection with. I am not looking to jump into dating right off the bat. I am not even sure I want to date, but I think with the right person I could see it happening. Looking to first make friends and see if it grows organically into something. I figured why not give it a shot on here and see if there is anyone out there.

46 [M4F] #indiana #online Seeking nerdy, kinky partnernsfw

I have a nesting partner and I'm looking for an additional relationship either in person or online. I'm hoping for a situation where all of my partners are friends, but I know that I cannot control that aspect. I'm a nerd and I enjoy board and video games. I also enjoy Legos and I have 2 cats and no at home children. I'm also not interested in having children in the future. I also enjoy going to comic cons and also to GenCon. I value open communication, honesty, and respect. I'd be happy to discuss kinks and such in private. Please be 25+ (though I'm okay with friends less than that age) and please be willing to verify because I have had scammer message me in the past. I'm a cis man and I'm open to all women (cis or trans).

32 [M4F] Sweden - Want a daily chat buddy?

Hey there ~ ✨

I've been feeling a bit lonely and it would be nice to have a chat buddy to help pass the time and share interests. I'm not expecting much out of it but I can be a great friend and I like to think that I live an interesting & fun life ❤️

A little about me:

  • I make video games for a living
  • I enjoy all things Pokémon
  • Board games, Video games, and TV shows are my favorite
  • I'm active and go for walks, bike, gym, etc
  • I'm 6'7" (193cm) tall
  • People have called me a loveable dork ✨
  • Big on self reflection, improvement, and being emotionally available
  • I love asking questions

If anything piqued your interest - then reply back or DM me with something you are looking forward to in your life 😊 maybe it's the summer ⛱️ or a big event happening!

30 [M4F] Online - Seeking that someone special !!

Hello there !

I have been searching for the company of someone special that I can truly cherish.!

I am Souvik, 30 years old. A little bit about me....I enjoy weekend trips with my pet, reading historical biographies and grand fantasy based books or just binging on a horror or true crime show. Believe me....if there's something that can scare me....I am watching it. Cooking for the people I care about really helps me destress.

Physically I am 5'11" with a more stocky build and a trimmed beard. I miss having that special someone to talk to, discuss the more mundane things in life and chuckle at each other's silly stuff. Someone to care about, around whom we can really open up and just be ourselves. Sharing the intimate moments of our life....you know...when she's the right one you can't help but be excited for even the notification of her message.

Truth be told your physical attributes don't matter to me as much as the emotional intimacy between us. If we have a good chemistry and can gelmeell then the remaining stuff will fall into place.

Please be 30+, I feel it's easier to match each other's wavelength when we are going through similar phase in life.

Do feel free to send a chat or a message and let's see if we can't build a meaningful connection together :)

23[F4R] #Paris/London/Rome- In Europe on holiday… maybe i’ll come visit again for you?

Haven’t posted in a long while… why not try again

hey, i’m A, a pansexual, demisexual 23-year-old black girl who's looking for a connection, preferably a real life one :)

preface all this by saying: I have a nesting partner(we date separately). I’m moving to the philly area in the fall, but not opposed to long distance

I want to get to know you, your passions, your favorite food, what song makes you let loose and sing out loud in the car, I want to be comfortable with you.

I, like everyone else, have preferences i guess, so here they are: attractive, ages 23+ maybe a bit older, I tend to lean towards masc/androgynous presenting humans but i’m open to any gender, it would be great if you lived near me or on the east coast but anywhere is fine, love an excuse for a trip, and absolutely no bigotry and Please have some type of content on your profile or comments or something so i can know you’re not a bot

Now here's the generic stuff so we can skip the small talk when someone inevitably dms me: I work as a receptionist, I am in college, actually moving to the philly area for grad school in the fall. I like to go to the gym, thrift shop, I enjoy exploring the city. Some of my interests besides romanticizing my life, museums, art galleries, puzzles and like everyone else i like Movies and tv shows

So if you made it this far and have thought well this girl is kinda cool, first, thanks love, and second go look at my pics on my profile. If you like what you see you should probably hmu, who knows something might happen... pls don’t break my heart

35 [M4F] #Online Only - glasses, beard, tattoos, flannels, 420, couching, loafing, low maintenance, easy going, stallion, grilled 🧀

I honestly had 36 in my title for far too long before I realized I’m actually 35. So that’s how things are going. Married dad here - as you may assume, not a ton of time but I wouldn’t hate shooting the breeze with like minded people when I do have the time. 420 friendly, being lazy on the couch at any possible opportunity friendly too. Let’s talk some nonsense?

6ft

Medium build

Usually tired

Only 15% a Debbie Downer

I can’t remember the last movie I watched completely

Oh wait…nope…definitely can’t remember

I don’t know any of the bands on warp tour anymore (unless they are re-uniting from the mid 2000’s)

I sleep with my feet off the bed.

I now realize how triggering that last comment can be. Let me reassure you that I don’t always sleep with my feet off the bed, but if I’m belly sleeping they are danglin’

35 [M4R] ohio/Anywhere - twenty four hour relationship experiment! Lets date and have fun?

Hey there folks! Im 35, genderfluid (AMAB), from ohio! I am a psychology major and a gamer! I wanna try something cool! Im looking to speeddate someone for 24 hours, i want to flirt! Spend a ton of time with you. (Movies, gaming, flirt with you, eventually naughty time 😈, and most of all i want to cherish you for 24 hours as a whole. )

Sounds crazy right? Well it is but i really wanna see if this is a enjoyable experience, it would be great to connect with someone! Also after 24 hours, if you wanted to continue we can discuss it, but if you wanna stop there we can do so! And we can either part ways forever or be friends!

A little about me:

I am 35, from ohio, i love learning, gaming, tv shows and movies, i am a huge Tolkien fan and middle earth nut. Im super sweet and awfully cuddly, i am poly and yes my partner knows I’m doing this and can confirm. I am fun to chat with, i love a good laugh! I love to do art! I do digital drawings and more!

My expectations:

Be honest about what you want from this,

Be open to speed dating, the idea of bonding quickly,

Be open minded,

Idc what your relationship status is, who you are with etc. you can always tell me, i wont judge.

Idc about looks, this is a fully online experience and i dont judge. If your personality rocks we can vibe :)

All genders welcome, please be descriptive in your DM. No simple “hi” or “hello”. Put in a little effort :) lets chat!

37[m4f] #Pa/anywhere. Friendship wanted

Hi. I'm in an open marriage, with no kids . I find myself looking for a friend . I know life gets busy, and we go or separate ways in life, but my friendship well has really dried up.

Anyway. I'm looking for a friend to form some kind of relationship with . A little bit about me. I'm fun, kind, and easy-going. I'm a morning person, not a night owl. 420 friendly . Some of my interests are woodworking, diy projects, cooking, traveling, music, TV and some sports. I don't work from home, but I do have a pretty good availability to chat. I'm open to daily banter, flirt, pics, vids, your favorite tiktok's, etc. I'm not in a dead bedroom. But I'm available to form a connection with someone. Please be able to hold a conversation . Please be fun and interesting.. im happy to exchange pics asap. I'm not trying to waste your time or mine.

Telegram is my preferred messaging app, reddit chst suckd... but I'm open to others. If you are looking for a friend please dm me.. let's chat!

32 [M4F] #NYC - Looking to Settle Down and Start a Large Poly Family

Hello, my name is James. I am 32 years old, 5’9”, 160 lbs. I work as an internal auditor for a pension fund in Manhattan and I have my own apartment in NJ. I have my master’s degree in risk management.

I am doing well career-wise, but I feel I should have a strong personal relationship. I am hoping to settle down and start a family in the next few years. I am hoping to find an excellent partner and maybe she is on Reddit.

I work out to stay in shape and I like going on long walks to relax. I also enjoy traveling and will be going to Iceland later this year.

If you are seeking a relationship, please write back!

38 [M4F] #NYC North East Single Dad looking for primary nesting partner

38 poly, single Dad so my “normal” may not be your normal.

Posting to see if any Poly F are looking for a nesting partner. Happy to discuss what that involves but it would be a primary partner situation. I have a good career, good work/life balance have my child 4 days a week. I’m a foodie and enjoy red wine and a vodka based drink.

Most recently out of a triad relationship and looking to connect with someone looking for something similar in terms of settling a bit with one but not closing the ENM off.

27 [F4F] #Online #SouthCarolina Shy and Nerdy Girl looking for her first Girlfriend.

Hello!

27 Non-Binary and Bi-sexual looking for my first real girlfriend. I am married to my nesting partner but he will not be involved.

A little about myself:

I’m Puerto Rican. 5’3 with curly hair that is currently Blue/Green in the front. I wear glasses and have many piercings and tattoos. I am currently pregnant, so if that bothers you feel free to scroll past my post! Before my pregnancy though I had just reached my weight loss goal!

I’m a homebody! I work from home, so a lot of my time is spent at my computer. Even when I’m not working you can find me on my PC. I play mostly League of Legends, Sims4 and horror games. I’m horrendous at shooter games, but I try from time to time! I do watch anime but most of the time you can find me binging true crime and horror themed shows/movies.

When I’m not at home I’m outdoors! Hiking is another love of mine. I love to hit the local trails and get some sun time in when it isn’t deathly hot and humid (especially in my current condition haha). I also travel a fair bit! Especially to the UK. I also love animals! Dogs and cats are my life!

Ideally I am looking for someone who is good at conversation. Someone who loves to joke around and shares some of the same interests as me! If you’re in the same time zone that’s cool but if you aren’t that’s also fine! I’m open to people from all over. Honestly and communication is very big for me!

So if you read this far, thank you! I look forward to chatting if this caught your eye. ☺️

33 [M4F] British nerdy guy looking for a fellow weirdo

Hey I'm Adam, a British guy looking for a woman to chat with and build a relationship, preferably local to my area (Middlesbrough).

I'm a happy and optimistic person, silly. I enjoy games, anime, superhero things, D&D.

I currently have a fiancé and I'm trying to date solo. Trans women are welcome and NB too.