Am I wrong for being mad about my husband being mad at me?

Stonewalling and the silent treatment is never healthy. Should the tablet have been left on the floor? Obviously not. But to be ignoring you over it is just....childish. You are not wrong to be upset by his behavior but he is wrong for acting like a toddler.

My son was 13 when I accidentally broke his phone. He left it somewhere stupid, it was dark, I didn't see it and I accidentally shut a car door on it. Completely destroyed it. My (then) 13 year old son handled the situation with more maturity than your husband! He cried and was upset. Then he dried his tears and understood it was an accident. It took 5 days for the replacement to arrive, so he was without a phone until then, but he didn't give me the cold shoulder or ignore me. He would check the tracking info frequently and he was excited/impatient on the new one... but that was it. He was grateful to have a new phone to replace the one I broke.

You broke it. It was an accident. Don't "offer" to fix it. Just... get it done. Encourage your daughter to put her things on tables rather than the floor, and buy her a new case to help protect it. Apologise, fix it and move on with life. Seriously, it's a life lesson all round, but when your husband is acting like a toddler, you have bigger problems in life.

Your husband sounds like an immature passive aggressive twat. You're not wrong

YNW. Accidents happen and it was your daughter’s fault for leaving it on the floor where something like that could happen. I don’t know that I’d buy your daughter a new tablet right away tho- she needs to learn to take better care of her things.

Your husband’s behavior is idiotic. Unless you habitually break things? If you don’t, then he’s being unreasonably passive aggressive about it.

Probably more expensive to fix than replace if it was $35.

You're not wrong. He should take the time to teach your daughter not to leave fragile electronics on the floor.

YNW. Based on the facts that you presented, we usually use situations like this as a teaching moment. To tell our kids to not leave things on the flooring, including tablets, watches, phones, and glasses.

This isn't the only behavior your husband exhibits that makes you question your actions is it? I'll bet there are many different stories you can tell about his questionable behavior.

I think there is more to the story

3 yrs old is not old enough to have a tablet that they don't know how to take care of

Dad needs to buy a new one if he thinks she needs one since he was stupid enough to get a 3yr old a tablet that she was no old enough to take care of.

Mom should not be apologizing to Dad - she should be telling her 3 year that you don't leave things on the floor as they may get stepped on and broken. That happened to your tablet, so when you are old enough to not leave things where they should not be we'll get another one

Dad also had a bad attitude and is acting childishly by not talking to his wife over something so stupid - he needs help, he probably is acting worse about it than the 3 year old

Get a cat. You will ALWAYS, ALWAYS be looking at your feet, and where you put them. 😅

Either your husband is a jerk, he’s been festering other issues, or this is in response to another argument/issue. Idk your relationship so that’s on you to figure out.

Is your husband 12 years old? What a ridiculously immature reaction.

Seems like there's more to the story that's being left out.

Interesting marriage you have. Without communication, how can you solve issues?

Not wrong. He needs to grow up. If anything, it's your daughter's fault for leaving it on the floor.

Nah, you're not wrong. It was an accident, you apologized, and said you'll fix it. What else needs to be said or done?

Time to start ignoring him when he suddenly wants to start back giving you his attention etc. no one has time for that bullshit

My ex would stonewall me this way over little things. The abuse only escalated until I finally woke up and realized that this wasn’t healthy and wasn’t what I want in a partner. We had 10 great years and three awful before I left. I hope you get therapy or realize you are worth so much more than the silent treatment.

Not wrong. Your husband is being ridiculous with refusing to speak and being angry at you. Back when I was 3, I left my tricycle out in the driveway after being told not to and, predictably, it got destroyed when my mom ran it over backing out of the garage. I'd been told to be more responsible and cut that out, so it wasn't replaced.

If you haven't had the talk about keeping electronics safe with the kids, maybe replace it just this once with clear explanations and reinforcement of caring for electronics properly. Everyone else has covered the important stuff, so may I just add that it's extremely unlikely you should be fixing a $35 tablet. Once it's broken, it needs replaced.

Silent treatment is a form of abuse. I’ve ended two relationships because that was how those men chose to communicate. Use your words or fuck off.

Your Husband is acting like a child. I am sorry! And what’s this “I’ll pay for it” and “Money he spent” nonsense? You said Husband, not boyfriend. If you guys are still keeping tallies on who spent what on who, you’ve got much bigger problems. I honestly wish you the best of luck!

That’s silly, and just buy another one. At $35 it’s not worth fixing.

Father of 2 kids and married....this would have. Been a PERFECT teaching lesson as to why not leave things on the ground.

Cheap to buy a new one, and a valuable teaching moment....your husband is being silly.

It’s $35, why didn’t you just pick up another one.

Where on this planet is a tablet only 35. I'm not justify his behavior .. I'm sure people want to jump and down vote.. I'm just saying that makes no sense. As for silent treatment, sorry to hear. Communication is lacking for many.

Does your husband routinely find excuses to be mad at you, ignore you, belittle you, and make you feel like crap?

I would never give someone the silent treatment over ACCIDENTALLY breaking some material item. It’s not even sentimental or expensive. And you weren’t being reckless or irresponsible.

You’re right to think your husband is being a jerk

I feel like there is so much missing here. As written, your husband sounds like a dunderhead. But for the life of me, I cannot wrap my head around the idea of a grown ass man getting mad at an adult for accidentally stepping on something that was lying on the floor. Is he thinking you have the ability to levitate around the house or something?

Your husband is being ridiculous. The daughter who left it on the floor is the one responsible, though you don't say how old she is. I'm wondering if it really was only $35. Either way, husband is being a jerk. He owes you an apology.

Your husband needs to grow up.

Since he's not perfect either, this immature behavior is completely hypocritical.

You're not wrong.

The first time my then bf gave me the silent treatment, I knew our days were numbered. We are no longer together, my choice. Has he ever done this before? If he has, this is just a continuation, but with an actual trivial reason you can point to.

The silent treatment is emotion and psychological abuse. Not healthy at all. You should be angry with him, but also concerned about the emotional health of your marriage.

Not wrong. Your kiddo shouldn't have left toys in the walkway/on the floor. You didn't step on it on purpose - you could have actually hurt yourself. You have two kids, you don't need a third. Gross.

Not wrong. He’s giving you the silent treatment for accidentally breaking something? How old is he?

Were there perhaps any gentle reminders before this happened? Something like "Girls if you leave your tablets on the floor someone might step on them and break them" that makes this accident seem instead like a lesson?

Does someone control your feelings? When you want to feel happiness or sadness etc…do you ask for permission? No? Why do you think you need to come on here and ask if you’re wrong for also being mad? Smfh

Did you mind him buying g them, say anything negative about them? Why would he think you did this on purpose, which is in my mind, why he’s cross?

He is stonewalling you to avoid accountability and giving you the silent treatment to punish you for an accident. Think about that. Those are considered standard abusive behaviors. They kill a relationship.

Is this common?

Also, you are not wrong. That is, unless you continue to live like this with a man who punishes and abused you for an accident.

Well, did you apologize to your kid? That's who you should be apologizing to. Not your husband. When you gift someone something, you don't own it. It was a kids tablet and you've already spoke to your husband. So now just get it fixed and let him sit in silence all he wants. Apologize to your kid, get it a bright case that will help you see it in darkness and get it fixed like you told your husband you would. Also talk to the kid about safe places to leave a tablet and don't replace it if it happens again because once is plenty of times for this to happen.

What if the kid had done this tho. What if the kid was the one who stepped on it from not seeing it and it broke. Is this how he'd be treating a child over an accident too?

He’s got issues.

Sounds like he's going through manopause.

What is his problem? Did he use the tablet for other stuff?

Your husband is childish or hiding something.

Our child dropped their iPad in the driveway, no one saw it, and she came back to us. Our friend backed over it and it shattered. She cried for a little bit, but was happy to get her replacement in a few days. She was never once angry. He's a petulant child.

Her fault it should not have been left on floor and bs he's mad at you for it

Dude is dumb

Hubby sounds like a child. Would he have treated your daughter the same way if she had been the one to break it? I find it hard to believe that you have two kids and your husband is so thown by something being broken. Kids are no strangers to losing/breaking things. Accidents happen, as we should all know. He needs to get some perspective. Besides, why punish you when your daughter left it on the floor, this is partially on her.

Do you think that he’s pissed because you broke the tablet or because you FUCKED around on him at your daughter might not be his?

No, you're not wrong.

Not wrong. You indicated you knew he'd probably be angry ABOUT AN ACCIDENT. I'd say hubby probably needs anger management therapy. Tell him to grow up.

Well, hold on. OP, in full honest disclosure, did you say something along the lines of “well you shouldn’t have bought the tablets…” as some sort of reactionary excuse in the moment after you stepped on it?

I've told him I'll send it to get fixed and I'll pay for it but he's still angry and not talking to me.

Have you actually ordered the replacement? I feel like you've left out half the story here. Unless he always acts like a pouty teen...

Half the story is missing here...did you complain about them? Also, teach your kids to put their stuff away & watch where you walk. Buy a new one, you won't get it fixed cheaper than the price he paid.

This is fake as hell.

I'm going to change this story so that it makes sense.

Me (12f) accidentally stepped on my brother's (10m) tablet and broke it. Now he won't talk to me, even though I apologized.

The fact that this juvenile fight is happening between two married adults is astonishing. Please don't break his Xbox, he will divorce you over it. Smh

Not only should you be mad. But should be questioning why you married such an immature man-child

A couple of questions:

1. Did you try a deflect at all, ie try to pass the blame off onto your daughter for leaving it on the floor, etc.

2. Did you actually apologize for breaking the tablet and, if you did, did you actually use the words "I'm sorry"

I'm not saying you did or you didn't but all those internet memes, tiktoks etc about women not apologizing exist for a reason.

All that being said holding on to the silent treatment for so long is a bit much.

Your all wrong.

Yup wrong! Females always flip it and try to make men feel like it's their fault. Be ashamed.

So he doesn’t have the right to have emotions and be upset but you do?!

You're being petty. You got mad and blamed him for something that's not his fault.

Teach your children to take care of their things.