It annoys me when people knock on an open door and even worse if they say “knock knock “. Also “Can I ask you a question “. No. You just did.
Yes. I’m having a hard time getting my head wrapped around this. I think the person is trying to be polite and see if it’s ok to interrupt and enter your space. I’m not clear what the other options are that are acceptable. Just bust in and start your conversation or never interrupt?
I think at the least, they just expect them to yell through the doorway. "Hey anybody home?!"
What a weird fucking thing to be annoyed by. Damn. Why are you being polite. GTFO.
When someone says or messages "I have to tell you something but ill tell you later" can't count how many times I've said if you can't tell me now why bring it up now and forget it I don't want to know.
They are hoping you will jog their memory if they forget it later.
When driving and the person in front brakes hard and then when they are completely stopped turns the turn signal on. It's signal first, then brake.
I hate everything the drivers in front of me do.
I despise it when people give really obvious advice. I already considered that solution and rejected it for reasons.
That’s a big one for me, especially in health terms. Like if I say I have a migraine or headache, I’m not asking for advice or solutions for it. It’s just a statement explaining why I’m acting off. I’m also not looking for sympathy, just letting you know what’s going on with me.
Exactly. My least favorite incident was the “why don’t you just leave” when I was with my ex. Bitch, he takes all of my paychecks, is a hacker who has sensitive information on me, has me spammed, stalked, threatened and sexually assaulted by 4chan losers whenever I try and everyone who’s ever pissed him off, fled the state, is in prison, the psych ward or is missing. Don’t offer no brainer solutions. I’m not an idiot and things aren’t that simple. Lol.
Jeez man I'm glad you found a solution
Thanks! Took 3 years. I’m much healthier now.
Yes
Sometimes the most obvious solution gets overlooked
Sometimes but I think it’s rude to assume that someone is too stupid to think of drinking water when they have a headache or leaving when their partner is abusive.
I would say it's not about intelligence. I would argue that sometimes when the person is more intelligent they might even overlook something obvious because they are trying to rule out the more complex solution first
Fair enough but I personally don’t appreciate the assumption that I can’t come up with basic answers on my own. Especially since I rarely ever ask for help or open up at all. If I do, it’s incredibly serious and easy answers feel like someone either thinks I wouldn’t think of the obvious or like they aren’t putting any real thought into it at all.
That makes sense and is fair. Everyone is different
I guess. Sometimes I just need someone to be me for me. I don’t know if that makes any sense. Lol.
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I account for that and try to patiently explain why it doesn’t work. We do the same dance with them offering a few other equally obvious solutions and when I explain why those aren’t viable either, suddenly it’s, “it just seems like you want to be miserable.” No. I’ve just thought about this way more than you have and all available options either suck just as much as the current situation or will make things worse. I was hoping that someone had a new idea, would at least try to put some thought into the matter or assume that I’m smart enough to have considered all the cliché options and offer empathy if you have nothing else but clearly I’m just going to have to ride it out, hope a better option presents itself as the circumstance evolves and never come to you for help again.
It’s really frustrating, especially when you’re the sort of person who throws everything into helping friends and an out of the box thinker who will empathize with endless venting if needed. You wouldn’t believe some of the crazy shit I’ve put up with or done to help loved ones and it makes me want to scream when on the rare occasion that I open up or ask for help, they best they can throw back at me is 5 seconds of thought that results hallmark platitudes.
People telling me that i got a haircut.
My coworker says no I got them all cut.
loud chewing
Yes smacking their lips
Chewing gum.
People who bitch just to bitch.
Exactly.. sometimes feeding into that negative feeling and verbalized it makes things worse. In the moment I get its hard to be positive, but I think it's one way to turn your focus around. Everyone gets annoyed, but I get weary of ppl who are blessed who never smell the roses. Brings me down.
"What are you doing on Friday?"
No, tell me what you want me to do on Friday, then I'll tell you what I'm doing.
Exist.
The reason I ask “can I ask you a question?” is because I’m asking if it’s a good time to ask a question. It’s just asking permission to ask a question. Sometimes people are busy or in the middle of something, so it’s not a good time. It’s just being polite. How would you prefer I do that? Just skip straight to the question?
It's usually a warning that the question isn't generic. It could be personal, it could be weird, it could be about a very specific subject.
Bash boomers on Reddit
People who drive unpredictable/without confidence
When I do a task e.g. cleaning, building, fixing and someone fixates on a small mistake or oversight rather than the 99% improvement.
When people tell stories with no context to the people in them or get caught up on shit that doesn’t matter “so on Wednesday Gina was like… oh wait… Gina doesn’t work Wednesday… must have been Tuesday” GET THE SHIT OUT OF YOUR MOUTH
People who offer help in tasks that are seemingly impossible for them to help me with. Like trying on clothes, cutting an onion for dinner, washing 3 cups,
People who make me deso then try and feed me booze all night
So many things
Stick there big noses in my life, stab me in my back, an lie about me!
When people grab things that aren't meant for them. It's hard to explain. But I used to work in the pharmacy and I would keep immunization forms behind the counter so people wouldn't fill them out before I had a chance to tell them there's an hour wait. People would come up, reach over the counter and grab the forms while I was helping the person in front of them and it drove me CRAZY!
This one at my job had me brought to the office on harassment charges saying I’d been bothering her. Bitch please. She was upset because I caught on a computer checking my progress on her day off. If anyone was harassing anyone it was her.
Ooo I've worked with people like that! And that one person can turn a great job into a nightmare. I've quit jobs for things like that.
Being stupid and existing at the same time
Spraying windshield and using wipers on freeway. If I’m tailgating you, ok, but I’m not so please stop.
Perhaps a bug splatted and they don't want to stare at its guts?
Yes that sucks. Why make the rest of us suffer through?
How does someone getting a big off their windshield cause you "suffering"? Drivers are supposed to have an unobstructed views for safety reasons.
Some of us actually care about the appearance of our cars and don’t want liquid designed to clean your windshield on our car’s finish. People can pull over, park, then run their wiper fluid. BTW, I’ve never had bug splatter prevent me from driving safely.
Really crunching popcorn at the movies.
Exist, mostly
I am also annoyed by people who cheer for teams that are my favorite teams rivals.
Call me "boss," "bossman," or "chief."
When people act to appear as something they're not. Just be yourself...
Say "should have went".
When people don't knock and when they don't ask questions!
People that don't text back or people that ask you question and you send a reply and they never text back like fuck people it takes half a minute to text someone
When people talk about me to someone I’m with as if I’m not even there. I can’t even count the number of times I’ve been out with my mom somewhere and someone walks up to us and says to her, “is that your daughter? She’s beautiful!” or “that’s your daughter, right? Wow she looks like you!”
Like, I appreciate the compliments but I’m an adult, you can say it directly to me
"you'll never guess where I am..." or "you'll never guess who messaged me...". You're absolutely right, and I'm not about to play a game show to find out the answer, so why don't you just tell me instead of riddling me lol
When someone says “Guess who I saw today?” I reply “Santa Claus”
strangers or acquaintances saying "hey big guy" as if it's socially acceptable to call someone fat, as long as you're friendly about it. If a heavyset woman walked by me and I'm like "good morning, big girl", I'd be verbally destroyed lol.
Not putting the grocery cart back, especially if they're able bodied. I'm 33 wks pregnant and still put the cart back AND they won't let me have a temporary handicap sticker.
When someone wants you to do something for them but they have to give you a full long description as to what’s stopping them doing they thing they need you to do. They just give me a whole fucking paragraph as to why they can’t do this thing as if they need to persuade me into doing it like NO stfu and TELL ME what you need. I’m NOT the type of person who’s gonna be like “well just do yourself” because people have different type of reasons that they aren’t able to do what they need to. If you need my help, I’ll gladly help you. No questions asked.
When they say "I love you"
Well, they need to introduce themselves in some way. Or would you prefer them to just walk in and start talking?
You’re busy doing something and they walk in without you even realizing it. “Hey, I need that file.” You’d be like “Dave! You scared me. Didn’t hear you come in. What do you want? The file? Ok, wait a sec, I’m just in the middle of something.”
That would surely be a worse, more annoying system. People would just turn up with no warning. Suddenly someone’s next to you asking questions. It’s like “Ahh! Where did you come from?”