Polyamory R4R - Dating for Polyamorous Redditors!

In an effort to improve things and crack down on spam and abuse, there have been some changes to the rules and I’ve listed the new rules below. Please feel free to review the rules and my comments on each and provide feedback. I’ll leave this post up for a week or so for discussion, and then I’ll make a new sticky post for the community.

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Rule 1. 18 years of age and older

This subreddit is 18+. Do not post, comment, or PM OPs if you or your partner(s) are under the age of 18. Lying about your age, or someone else’s age, will result in a permanent ban.

This one is self-explanatory. There have been Redditors who are minors, or have partners who are minors, who have made posts here. I want to make it clear that posts involving minors are prohibited.

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Rule 2. Must be aligned with Polyamory

Polyamory is the practice of, or desire for, ethical romantic relationships with more than one person with the informed consent of all partners involved.

Posts or comments seeking sex, hookups, FWB, affair partners, “sugar” or GFE arrangements, or anything other than ethical polyamorous relationships with the consent of all partners are not allowed. There are R4R and other dating subreddits out there for just about anything. If you’re not polyamorous, please use a subreddit that is better-suited for your search.

This should go without saying…this subreddit is intended for polyamorous people seeking polyamorous relationships. This is not a general ENM dating subreddit, a regular R4R subreddit, a BDSM subreddit, or a subreddit for seeking any other kind of relationship other than an ethical polyamorous one. Going forward, if a post even includes “I’m also down for hookups or FWB” or something similar, it’s going to be removed. There’s nothing necessarily wrong with most of the arrangements mentioned above that someone might seek, but this isn’t the subreddit to advertise for those things. Also, if someone makes a post that seems like it’s not aligned with polyamory and their post history shows that it’s the same post they’ve cross-posted or spammed across multiple subreddits with minor changes to circumvent the intention of the rule, the post will be removed.

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Rule 3. No unicorn hunting or harem building

Posts or comments that can be construed as seeking or promoting relationships where unethical or unfair rules or expectations will be placed on a new partner are not allowed.

This has been the most contentious issue on this subreddit so far, as it has been on other subreddits and forums. We’re not going to prohibit couples seeking partners in this subreddit. There are single people here seeking triads, throuples, and all sorts of dynamics. Triads and other group relationships can be amazing, especially if they are formed organically. That being said, there will be more moderation on couples seeking posts going forward, which will be done on a case-by-case basis.

The purpose of the mod team here is to protect the members of the subreddit and the integrity of the community we’ve built here. It is not the mod team's place to tell adults what they can or cannot do with their relationship dynamics. The reality is that we are all consenting adults and have adult decisions to make in our lives and in our relationships.

In an effort to prevent the subreddit from being a platform for predatory behavior, any no or low effort posts or comments from Redditors that indicate a general lack of regard for any potential individuals involved will be removed. For example, if an individual posts from a new Reddit account something to the effect of, "We're new to polyamory. We want to find a third who will date only us and be an equal member of our new family. We can start out long distance, but we will expect you to move in with us at some point. Prefer that you be submissive," the post will be removed. Read the room. Show that you're actually putting some thought and effort into it, and not just objectifying people.

Also, if you say that this new person is going to be an equal member of the family after you've just said that the person is going to be required to date both of you, recognize that the person you're seeking is not actually going to be an equal member of the family. If there's a possibility that one member of the existing couple loses interest and the new member of the relationship is forced to leave entirely...you have now misled this hypothetical new person into an unethical dynamic on them.

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Rule 4. No hate or disrespect

Threats, harassment, abuse, bigotry, misogyny, misandry, and intolerance are not allowed. This includes, but is not limited to, attacks on gender or sexual identity, racism, sexism, slut shaming, mocking, and attacks on political or religious beliefs.

I don't need to go into detail on this rule. Don't be a jerk. If you don't like what someone has to say, block them. If you think someone is breaking a rule, report them.

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Rule 5. No vulgarity or NSFW content

Vulgarity and NSFW content are not allowed. There’s nothing inherently wrong with sex, kinks, fetishes, and BDSM. However, posts and comments explaining the details of your sexual anatomy, favorite sexual positions, details and/or lists of kinks or fetishes, etc. will be removed. You can indicate that you are into BDSM and encourage people to DM you about the details.

There is often a large crossover between ethical non-monogamy and BDSM, sex positivity, etc. There's nothing inherently wrong with any of it, but this is not a NSFW subreddit. It's fine to include that you're sex positive, into BDSM, or whatever. If you go into detail and start describing anatomy/body parts, listing off kinks, and things like that, your submission will be removed. If you want to discuss these things, please do so in a DM.

The mod team has been asked why this subreddit is marked NSFW. The subreddit is 18+, so it's automatically identified as a NSFW subreddit.

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Rule 6. No spam

You are allowed to post once every 7 days, with the exception of correction posts following an Automod removal. If you are found to be repeatedly deleting your post history in an attempt to circumvent this rule, it may result in a permanent ban. For clarification, spam includes copy-pasted and cross-posted ads from other subreddits.

This one is self-explanatory.

Rule 7. No Trolling or unsolicited discussion

There are a multitude of dynamics and ways to practice polyamory, and not everyone will agree on everything. Do not clutter up posts with unsolicited information. For education and discussions about polyamory, please visit r/Polyamory. If you believe someone is breaking a rule, please report the behavior and/or contact the mod team.

Again, if you think someone is breaking a rule, report it. If you disagree with what someone is commenting or posting, block them. Please don't engage in negative interactions on posts.

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Rule 8. No personal or confidential information

Posting personal or confidential information about yourself or others in public is not allowed. If you wish to provide contact information for yourself, please do so in a DM.

Posting Snapchat, Instagram, phone numbers, or any other personal contact or confidential information about yourself or others in public is prohibited. If you want to give someone your contact information, do it in a DM. If it happens once, it will be removed and you will be warned. If you're found to be spamming your contact information all over the place, it could result in an immediate permanent ban.

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Rule 9. No seeking relationships for others

Posts seeking relationships for someone other than yourself, or you and your partner(s), are not allowed. If your friend or partner is seeking a relationship separately, they must make the submission themselves.

I've seen posts where Redditors are seeking relationships for their partners or others, sometimes even doing it as a sort of surprise for their partner. If someone is seeking a relationship, they need to post for themselves. Your partner not having a Reddit account is not a valid reason to violate this rule.

Also, a general note for when you engage with the mod team. We have to wade through a lot of reports and posts here. Sometimes there are misunderstandings or mistakes are made. If your post or comment gets removed, or you are banned for violating a rule and you wish to appeal, you can do so via a Modmail. If you send a Modmail insulting the mods, you're only confirming that you're not the type of person who belongs on this subreddit. No amount of insulting or cursing a moderator is going to help your cause.

I've seen the posts and mod mails and I've responded to those who sent messages. Things got busy in the beginning of the year and there was lull in my moderation over the past week. The bots and spam are coming in waves and it got out of control in the past few days. I've been the only active mod on the subreddit for a while. I do my best, but I don't catch everything. I appreciate everyone who reports the abusive and spam posts. Please continue to do that, because it really does help.

I wanted to take a moment to give everyone an update on actions I've already taken to reduce the spam and abusive posts, and a couple of things I'll be doing going forward.

Steps I've already taken to reduce the bot/spam activity

• The spam and ban evasion filters have been enabled.
• Filters for certain words in the post title and body have been added
• I've added an age and karma restriction to Automod
• I've been removing spam posts and reporting the bot accounts to Reddit, and I'll continue to do that

I'm also going to be adding a couple new moderators. If you're interested in moderating the sub, please feel free to comment here or send a mod mail. I'll also continue to monitor the bot activity and update the Automod settings in an effort to stay on top of it. If you have any other suggestions for things you'd like to see implemented, feel free to share.

I am a 33 year old female who loves life and is full of curiosity. My life is full of all kinds of fun activities and challenges, and I love exploring new things and sharing my experiences and ideas with others. I'm looking for friends in the US or Canada so that the time difference between us isn't too great and it's easier to communicate. I would especially like to make friends with men who are older than me, as I find mature men more attractive and their wealth of experience and wisdom always brings me new perspectives and inspiratio

Respectful down to earth guy looking to enjoy the outdoors, stay active and clear my mind. Whether hiking upstate trails or even a nature walk through Central Park I would love to meet new friends who enjoy the simplicity and getting out in nature. I choose a couple bc I feel it’s a nice balance of company with female presence but it’s also not a date if that makes sense. Most of my friends are married busy or still drinking or at the bar. At this point of my life I wanna do simple peaceful things with new good people. Hope to connect with some cool outdoorsy friends. Some of my other interests include the beach, bonfires, boating, restaurants, breweries.

Hey! I’m single in Spartanburg and I’m looking for likeminded couples/groups to hang out with, spend time with and enjoy! I like to be outside by the water, in the water, or chilling inside. I like travel too. If you know of any groups or events, or if you’re a couple, group, looking to add to the fun - please let me know.

Please send all applications my way. I will peruse them with great vigor and vim.

Hi! 39 year old he/himbo dude here in a loving and long term poly relationship with a lovely gal looking for cuties to get to know and flirt with and potentially form a long lasting relationship full of trust and love and vulnerability and all that good, gooey stuff!

We date separately so not looking for a unicorn/closed triad situation. We practice kitchen table poly so ideally you'd get along with her and vice versa and we'd bond over awesome board games, move nights and various other shenanigans!

But enough about us! What about me? I'm a total dork/nerd big into fantasy and sci-fi, huge Trekkie, grew up on board games, D&D and vidja games. I love a great RPG, a good book and a great session of Catan. Movies? Yes! Television shows? Heck yeah! Anime? Sure, why not?? Tell me what show or movie has been stuck in your head lately. I also love to cook (taste my Indian and Pakistani cuisine!), and travel is something I thoroughly enjoy and live for.

I live in Madison, Wisconsin, don't mind distances and I'm totally fine with getting to know each other online with the intention to eventually meet if its mutual. Big sucker for cuties with booties.

I'm a big leftist (ACAB, BLM, trans rights and all), believe in socialist ideals, think capitalism is the root of most evils and generally will not get along with conservatives (and potentially centrists) at all. I'm body and sex positive, kink friendly and experienced and believe in empathetic and constant communication.

5'11, chubby/dad bod, brown (as in Pakistani), glasses, bearded and one tiny tattoo (planning on getting more!)! So if any of that interested you, shoot me a pm and we can get to know each other standing more than 6 feet apart!

Also, feel free to send a face picture (SFW please!) along with your post and I will gladly reciprocate!

I am a happily married guy from The Netherlands, father of 2, work as IT engineer

I like watching movies and series, I have a broad music taste but mostly Techno/Electro, I like pc gaming and boardgames.

I'm having a quiet night and would really like to talk to people that know what poly life is about. Any topic is fine with me. I am a straight guy but poly guys that want to talk are just as welcome, so let's chat!

I’m 31, male, and newly single after a 7-year, almost sexless, marriage to my former partner (she was my first and my only partner).

Ideally, I’d love to be friends first, go on fun dates and do fun things together, to build a sense of trust, camaraderie and a deeper and more fulfilling connection that is more than just raging hormones. Trust, intimacy and connection, both in and out of the bedroom is a must. I also would be open to living together with the person I’m with, at some point, if the vibe and connection are right.

Things I like to do and hobbies of mine. I’m into games of various stripes (video, board, tabletop, and card), books, TV shows and movies. I’m a foodie who likes pizza, good drinks of both the boozy and non-boozy type, international dishes and deserts. I’m also an accomplished musician (concert pianist and operatic countertenor) who was just, as of December last year, awarded a doctorate in music composition! And as of May this year released my first full-length album of music I composed.

I have no kids of my own and no plans, for now, to change that. I have had a vasectomy, so the only way I’m having kids is by having the procedure reversed or by adopting. I’m also 420 friendly and partake, usually edibles, myself.

I prefer in-person relationships over internet only as one of my strongest love languages is physical touch and intimacy, in both sexual and non-sexual ways is important to me.

Just an FYI... I can travel all over the United States or abroad. Money is no issue, only thing I require is that I will only do so for the right situation.... Anyways back to the post......Hey guys, like i Stated in the title. I have never done this and was a little nervous about starting it but I said screw it, what's the worst that can happen. A little bit about me, I am 5'7 Hispanic, prior military, love to hike, run, box, play soccer, play video games (Fortnite, Undisputed,Fm24), I love going to the movies and I'm a big Marvel nerd. I am fit, have somewhat of an athletic shape. No abs tho sadly lol. I don't know what I'm looking for, rather I want someone to teach me the ins and outs of this life. Hopefully we can create something beautiful. I am open minded, respectful. clean, down to earth, extremely adventurous, and a thrill seeker. I can send pictures if anyone is interested, but expect some in return!! cheers

[M4F] Central Coast CA. Looking forward to that needle in the needle stack.

Hello wonderful people. Obligatory “I’m not really good at these, dating apps and sites haven’t worked…”

I am 41, I have a nesting partner who is well aware I’m looking. She is not interested in being a part of any potential relationships. If things start going well, she would be up for being friends but she isn’t really wanting more.

About me: 41, big guy 6ft, 300lbs but losing weight (lost 150lbs in the last year!). I am a Government Finance Manager for a small City. My interests include camping, amusement parks (currently a Magic Key Holder for DL!), grilling, Board/Card/Video Games, puzzles, building Lego Sets, and more. I love Hard Rock and Metal music, but will listen to almost anything except country. My partner and I have 3 cats, a dog, and a bearded dragon! Into light BDSM.

Who I’m looking for: 28-45, height and weight don’t matter, but it’s best if you are fit enough to go for walks , and spend all day at an amusement park. Must love Board/Card/Video Games. Must love animals. Have a fun personality.

I’m an open book, please ask me anything! Let’s Chat!

Hi everyone!

I'm in a long-term poly relationship and just went through a break of a couple of months, and after taking that time away from dating, I've decided to see what's out there. On the surface I seem like a pretty typical suburban dad, but my life has been far from normal. Here are a few fun facts about me:

• I was raised in rural NKY
• I own my own business and I don't think I could ever go back to working for the man.
• I find central to my person Kindness and helping others
• I've lived and studied in Germany
• I love building anything with my hands

Personality-wise, people tend to say I'm even-keeled and zen. I'm a little more introverted than extroverted. I'm a total flirt. The rest of me you just have to experience.

Nonsmoker, very light cannabis user. If physical stats matter to you, I'm white, 6'1" with an average build and red hair and green eyes. I can send pictures if you want to see me.

I'm looking for someone to spend time with and connect with. Let's go to a restaurant or a museum or a festival or just chill on the couch. My style of polyamory is probably best described as Kitchen Table polyamory - I'm interested in meeting and hanging out with your partner(s) (if applicable) and I'd like you to meet and hang out with mine.

If any of that sounds appealing to you, send me a message and let's see if we hit it off!

Hello :) I’m 37 polyamorous, demisexual and bisexual. I currently have two lovely nesting partners (male 37 and female 26). I’m open to new connections and potential new partners. I live in the Erie Pa area and occasionally travel outside the area. My ideal partner is open to new connections, knows how to work a Google calendar (kind of kidding) and is open to sharing hobbies and interests. More about me, I love music, and art. I play roller derby and love all things skating related. I enjoy cooking, baking and plants. I look forward to new connections.

Hey, I’m Canadian a trans man looking for a relationship. I’m kind, caring and fiercely loyal. I love to read and I write poetry. I’m in the EST time zone.

I’m single and want to explore polyamory, it wouldn’t be my first time.

I struggle with mental health (depression, anxiety) along with neurodivergence (ADHD, Autism). I’m 5ft5 and curvy, I’ve got short brown hair and greenish brown eyes.

In the fall, I’m going to university for a bachelors in mathematics and minor in political science in hopes of becoming a teacher. I’m trilingual; French being first then English and Spanish. I love music of mostly any kind, I also play some ukulele and guitar!

Dm me if interested :)

Hi!, I'm Zane, poly, bearded nerdy guy. Into hiking, camping, heavy metal, gaming, horror movies, anime and more! Looking for lovely ladies to take on dates and build a relationship(s). Open to casual or more serious inquiries. I'm into all kinds of ladies so don't be shy!! Leave a comment or DM me if interested.

Hello! I am in English teacher and basketball coach from Long Island, New York and I’m looking for new people to talk to and see where things go.

A little bit about myself, I teach middle school English and coach basketball. Some of my interest include sports (I played basketball in college), music, movies, and TV, reading and writing, going to the beach, going to the gym, anime, horror, Star Wars, superheroes, and other nerd stuff lol

I am open/friendly and willing to talk to anyone and everyone. Let’s talk if we have anything in common or if we don’t, let’s find something to bond over. I can also share a pic of myself if that is something you would like. I look forward to hearing from you :)

Hi all!

Hope all is well. I’m a British guy looking for conversation, excitement and laughs.

I have a really intense day job - so looking for distractions and fun! Companionship predominantly but if there’s a connection then awesome!

I’m a former stand up comedian, currently working on getting fit and recently garnered an obsession for reading, diy and vinyl records! Come and start a book club with me?

I appreciate this is short and sweet but I believe that dorky icebreaker games are amazing and will take any opportunity to play one! So don’t be shy, reach out and let’s play pick a number or 20 questions! Let’s fill our Monday’s with more smiles and hopefully enjoy just chatting!

All the best,

S x

How's it going? Thanks for checking out my post. Here goes...

About me: I was a ditch digger, then a trombonist, then a motorcycle mechanic, then an Air Force avionics technician, then a college art teacher, before becoming a tattoo artist and opening my own studio.

I'm a vegetarian (not for ethical reasons) since 1993, I walk 3 miles every day, I haven't had any alcohol since 1980, and I've never used tobacco/smoked anything (including weed). Totally down for responsible psychedelic use though. 🍄

Poly-wise I'm in a platonic open marriage of 18 years--we're co-parents, domestic partners, and best friends. She's really smart and funny, and a great cook besides. We're not looking for a triad/unicorn situation, but it'd be cool if y'all got along at dinner.

I enjoy cooking, taking twice daily tea, attending concerts/museums/galleries, accompanying my goofy affectionate pitbull to the dog park, taking hot baths, making art with my friends, designing and building electromechanical clocks, afternoon naps, listening to podcasts (OTM is my favorite), visiting parks/thrift stores, vintage film photography, admiring hand embroidery...

Seeking: an ideally long-term relationship with a kind, funny, brilliant, honest, svelte redhead woman who's into communicating and showing up regularly, going on adventures together, co-equal nurturing and support. Bonus points if you like Glücksschwein and/or Steely Dan, and if you'd care to accompany me for sunrise tea at Bryce Canyon.

Open to long-distance at first, but if things are going well, I'll want you to relocate to Houston sooner than later--my house, family, and business are here.

If you've read this far and are interested, what's something you've enjoyed creating lately?

DMs welcome :)

Texas #TX #Houston #Redhead #Ginger #Red Hair

Hi, we are a couple looking for a bi girlfriend (18-30) to have an amazing connection with. If we all do maybe turn in a triad. We are in northwest Arkansas. We are 27F and 33M. 420 friendly. We love doing anything and everything. Lol. Video games, fishing, hiking, Netflix and chill. Thanks for reading! If you would like to get to know us, our DMs are open!

Hi there!! I'm 32 years old, in a long term relationship. I'm looking for a female partner to enjoy the girly, cute things with! I'm not picky, just prefer 24+.

I love animals, music, biking, and reading. I'm friendly and I'm a mix of an introvert and extrovert. I really appreciate someone who can communicate often within reason! I always do my best to do the same.

Please be willing to verify.

Anyway, feel free to DM me even if you're not close :)

I am optimistically looking for a polyamorous woman in the Southern California area to form a foundational friendship. I prefer my relationships to organically develop into what they are meant to be. If they lead to physical and/or romantic levels, that would be great. If not, then I would be happy to add another poly friend to my growing poly network.

I don't really have any age restrictions, I'm looking for a connection. I would prefer someone who is relatively close to my location in Lake Elsinore. IE, OC, LA, and SD are probably the best options. A healthy understanding of emotional intelligence would be awesome and I am big on communication and transparency as well (going both ways). I don't don't expect you to be perfect, but know and own your shit. Therapy is sexy.

Someone who has kids would be ideal, or at least a healthy understanding of the logistics involved in poly dating, with kids. Experience with KTP or Garden Party, preferred, but not required. Physically, I like HWP partners and find Mom bods very sexy!

About me:

Father of 4 that is married in a KTP dynamic. Our preference is for everyone to be friendly, if not friends. We each date separately (and, rarely, together). I actually introduced my wife to her current Meta and we are becoming very close friends. I don't currently have any other active partners, but I do have several budding friendships that have potential.

I am 5’8” and value all aspects of health (Physical, mental, and emotional). I am a huge advocate for sexual safety (if things end up there eventually) for all people involved, so I have a very strong stance on informed consent and regular STI testing (My last test was in March 2024).

You can find relatively recent pictures of me here:

https://imgur.com/a/bl2UDDS

Current interests are:

• Mentoring (professional and personal)

• Home repair/small building projects

• Homesteading and self-sufficiency

• Birth work

• Growing/gardening

• Motorcycle riding and tinkering

• Kink (happy to share in private chats)

Other items that I enjoy doing/discussing:

• Tech

• Gaming

• Fiction (primarily Sci-fi/fantasy)

• World history

• Emotional Intelligence

Hi everyone! I really don't know how to write one of these so please bear with me. I'm 28, from Louisiana, and currently have a nesting partner. I recently went through a pseudo-breakup with a second partner, and have had a lot going on my life at the same time, so life has been quite rough lately. Ideally i'd like to find someone who wants to talk throughout the days, voice call on discord, play games together late into the night, and support each other through the hardships that life throws at us. Friends at first, but i'm open to whatever that may develop into in the future!

Some interests and hobbies of mine are:

• Gaming: (PC mainly), i enjoy cozy games likes Stardew Valley, survival games, and some shooters!
• Reading: i love fantasy/high fantasy, scifi, and... smut. I can talk all day or night about Brandon Sanderson's books and will probably instantly dub you my new best friend if you're a fan.
• Music: i'm a bass player and will generally listen to anything that has a great bass line or good beat. I love metal and progressive metal/rock, Tool is my favorite band, and will listen to almost anything once.
• Anime/Manga: I don't watch it as much lately as i used to, but i'm very much a fan! I'm super excited to watch the new season of Demon Slayer, and i enjoy silly little romcoms and romance animes aside from the action ones.
• Food: I really enjoy cooking, even if i don't have the energy to do it all the time lately. I'll happily pile into the kitchen with someone and cook along with them or just make their favorite meal just because i love them and want to do it.
• Science: maybe this one is just better described as learning? I have a deep love for science; physics, chemistry, astronomy, but i also enjoy learning things in general. History is another field i love learning about!

While i'm not looking for anything past friends at the moment, i'm open to whatever happens down the road; whether that means we click and we're comfortable being sexual, want to keep things purely online, maybe make it an irl thing, i'm very go with the flow and want to just see where the tides take us. I'm very kink friendly and have some experience with it, feel free to ask about it!

Hopefully this piques someone's interest, and if so i hope to hear from you soon :)

40/39 [MF4F] TN Looking for girlfriend for her, him or both in Knoxville and Johnson City areas to go bar hopping, hang out, go to local music shows. Really want to develop a long term relationship, a throuple situation would be amazing. Feel free to message on here for any other information or ask

Hello beautiful people.

Straight off, I've never been in a poly relationship and I understand if that turns you off immediately. My wife is poly and currently has an LDR girlfriend and I've personally felt that I've had too much going on in my life to handle having more than one partner, I think I'm ready for that to change.

Now, please bear in mind I haven't dated or flirted with anyone else since I met my wife er 11 years ago 😬 so I might be a little rusty.

About me:

I'm 30, cisF (you can see a photo of me in my profile) Already stated that I'm married but we do also have a 1 year old (I know some people aren't comfortable with kids so fair warning I will probably talk about her a lot) From the UK I work full time (3 days from home and 2 days in the office) I love cows I watch a lot of true crime docs and crime/medical dramas Fantasy is my favourite book genre

What am I looking for?

Silly that I have to state it but some people don't read, I am not looking for a man, I can confirm I'm very much a lesbian (although a new one) I'd love to have someone to message throughout the day, that doesn't always make me message first and takes an interest in the conversation and extends it beyond a couple of words. Share your daily ups, downs and the mundane with me. Having similar interests is a bonus but not necessary

I think that's everything, if you read this far thank you. Happy chatting ☺️

Afternoon! My name is Melissa, I am 29 genderfluid, but most days she/they. I am currently single looking to make some connections.

I like hiking, gardening, cooking, anime, crafts, video games, and overall just being a cute and cozy person. I’m looking for some like minded friends who might want to hang out from time to time and do stuff. I’m poor so I can’t go out a ton, but I love to have people over!

I’m pretty open sexually as well, but for the moment mostly want to make some more everyday chill friends. If ya want to know more, or see a photo of my face, send me a message :)

Hey everyone! I’m from the western USA! Here’s some fun facts about I use she/her pronouns, I’m demisexual and panromantic. I have a husband who is my only partner currently and he has other partners. I would say my aesthetic is bubble gum grunge like if Wednesday Addams liked pink. I like witchy things like tarots, crystals, zodiacs and all stuff like that! I love reading books and watching YouTube! A big H3 fan. Been obsessed with stardew valley lately Love watching documentaries on history, true crime, cults, and conspiracy theories. I’m a Disney fan and a Harry Potter fan! Have bad insomnia if you’re up a night that would nice to have a buddy! My favorite colors are pink and black. What is your favorite color? Tbh if you just comment I won’t message you so message me!

Hi there! I’m on the hunt for. You know honestly I don’t even know, but I’m down to figure it out together! Located in the Midwest (central standard time), seeking someone 23-38ish, open to men or women, but I won’t be your unicorn, seeking a go with the flow type experience, I have no expectations upfront other than we treat each other with kindness and put effort into our conversations. We could end up being friends, we could end up gasp flirting?! There could be…. emotional intimacy. HOLY HELL THERE COULD BE ROMANCE. What is this chaos!!! If you feel like this might be up your alley keep reading to discover my secrets 😋.

I am 24, have a nesting partner and prefer to practice some kind of kitchen table (he is happily monogamous and doesn’t want to be sexually involved. he will not be involved except for platonic intermingling), at least on my end. It’s nice to be able to play games together okayyy! I’m kink friendly but probably not interested in a relationship solely based in kink. I am often referred to as a Druid or goblin by friends. I’m neurodivergent and have some mental health struggles. I am a bit of a nerd, creative, silly, loving. I can often be found curled up with a book (ahem, tik tok) or cooking up a storm in the kitchen. I love to garden and game. I enjoy watching movies, Deep conversation, silly conversation, playing games, gardening and crafting. I’ve been know to be a bit of a hippie, I care about the environment, have collections of crystals, rocks, and other little trinkets. I am passionate about bettering myself and healing as well as access to healthcare, the betterment of the environment. Happy to share more about myself and look forward to chatting :).

I’m seeking a kind, funny, patient person who has depth to them. In an ideal world we can chat throughout the days, hang out on calls from time to time, set up times for us to watch movies or play games together, if we connect and get to a point where we feel comfortable being sexual, hell yeah! I understand people want physical in person connections, I am not interested in that at this time so please don’t reach out if this is a requirement of chatting with you!

Messages with effort and obvious interest will be responded to ASAP. I hope to talk to you soon and thanks for reading to the end 🩷.

Ps. Why do chicken coops have 2 doors?

Hullo all interested folks, I'm Rob, an African American artist and Gardening enthusiasts =). I'm really looking for some new, healthy connections in poly, I honestly never had a real chance to explore the lifestyle with my ex who was very controlling of what I wanted to do but wanted free range to do what she wanted.

About me: I bought and own my home, all cash, all mine (a historic feat in this day and age) and I can definitely vouch for being the "homeeist" of home bodies as my crib is the bees knees. I have several pets, including cats, fish, and a Turtle (red earned slider for those interested lol)

While I have a day job as a laborer to pay the bills, my passion is art, illustrations to be precise. I LOVE to draw and being able to capture the real world on paper is the greatest flex I know. I would love to share my art with you or even do a drawing of you if you are interested. I can talk your head off on color theory and why I like this brand of ink vs. another.

I have an 18 year old son who lives with me, he is my favorite person and I enjoy just building a life with him, teaching him how to be the best man he can be, through kindness, patience, and consideration. We both are geeky and gamers, so we are down for some game time or ever some TTRPG.

I also have a new passion for gardening (new home came with a BIG ass back yard and I have a LOT of idea I wanna do) and cooking (a BIG ass kitchen to boot). So I will definitely just make a plate for yall or have left overs. I wanna do urban homesteading, get some chickens, collect rain water, solar panels, the whole 9.

As far as you guys are concerned: ladies I ADORE BBWs/plus size women. Yall are Goddesses to me and I live to worship lol. For the men I am straight but want to try more shared experiences, I am shy about being in front of other men, but time and trust can mellow that out. I WOULD like to be genuine homies though, not just come over to service the wife and never interact with you. Being a 3rd sounds interesting but I'm cautious of becoming a hinge for couples issues.

I go into this with light and love, as I need friends more than sex buddies or moving in together. I do want to actually meet people and do lunch, go to the movies, eat at the Park with a picnic. For too long I've tried online only/long distance and at my age it just doesn't cut it. I want hugs and cuddles God dammit 🥺.

So hey, drop a line, or don't, I love you all the same 🥰