what are you doing to love yourself today

Went for a walk and bought myself a little treat.

I was up at 8 this morning. I set my alarm for 6 every other morning since I’m a morning person and I want to tick off everything on my ‘daily to do list.’

-Made myself breakfast ( overnight oats/berries/almond milk with my fav freshly roasted coffee).

-Made homemade pancakes and a fruit milkshake for my SB who stayed over.

-Took my V8 out for a quick spin and dropped off my SB (as she was getting out I surprised her with tickets to see her favourite musical).

-Filled up the V8.

-Took V8 to the car wash.

-Cleaned my flat.

-Cooked a delicious late lunch.

-Watched a concert.

-Did a workout.

-Washed and ironed all my clothes and the clothes my SB leaves here…

( I find ironing very relaxing and almost therapeutic. I can get ‘in the zone…’)

… this evening…stream one of fav TV shows and have a long relaxing bath.

Aside from the usual CPTSD BS I’ve been dealing with my whole life, I also suffered a miscarriage last Saturday. Today is Bereaved Mother’s Day, so I’m doing some journaling, watching some bad TV, husband got me all my favorite snacks, and planning on writing a letter to my lost baby.

Life’s hard, but you have to keep taking care of yourself 🤍❤️‍🩹

Staying home a real luxury

I’m spending quality time with my daughter and cleaning house.

Got Dunkin’ Donuts and I’m spending a couple of hours at the barn with my horse.

Thank you for making me think about this. I've had a cold so I'm low energy at the moment. I'm going to tidy up, especially in my room. That helps me start the week right. I need to go to the store.

I'm going to make a big salad for dinner, and hopefully put together my lunches for the week so I'm not eating granola bars every day.

Gonna take my daily walk in the nice spring weather and hanging out with my cats :)

I gave my car an overdue bath and now I’m cleaning the house. I have laundry to take care of. While those are chores, I do get the satisfaction of getting them completed.

I will do some writing in my journal later today and do some meditation. I want to continue to connect with and help out my inner children. Lots of wounds there to work on.

I have a pile of laundry I’m gonna work on. And in between work on building one of my models

I guess I should get up and work out, then eat something.

Just thought I'd loaf around a while since I finished my finals yesterday, though.

I really need to work on my self care and take a shower

with my bf at band practice :) then ill probably get myself something to eat later <3

I got a little bit creative with paint pens, while eating cookies and listening to music really loud on my headphones. Feeling calmer for it :)

Just focused on my own happiness today and I haven’t felt this happy in a while. Also bought donuts, rested and watched interesting YT videos 😌

Got a free coffee from Dutch bros, wound up having a breakdown over some family stuff, was finally able to tell my mom I was mad at her and she surprised me by not brow beating me into submission. I’m sitting in my car at a local haunted bridge calming down, when the library opens I’ll go there to work on the book I’m writing.

staying out of the house most of the time has helped my mental health quite a bit, I packed a PB&J sandwich so I don’t have to go back home to eat, I think it’ll be an okay day.

Woke up and had coffee and cigarettes while enjoying the rain and greenery out in my backyard in the PNW. Then laid back down in bed with some good chill music and practicing being okay with going at the rate my body wants me to go today which is slow 🤘🏼

I’m making myself have a difficult conversation with my boyfriend that I’m really anxious about having. I am going to take a bath beforehand to do some self-soothing.

Take a shower, put on music, clean myself with love and dance to the music

Had a light breakfast and lunch, going to go do yoga in a bit but in the meantime watching some Tv and enjoying the fresh air through open windows. May take a little nap. Weekends are for healing and self care and I take it pretty seriously.

Wanted to do grief art therapy to mourn my childhood, but there is nothing near me so I got a VR drawing game. I was able to draw and cry then made myself a nice lunch.

I got a lot of housework done! My place feels bigger, even if there is still work left to do.

Doing my ding dang goddamn laundry, which I haven't done in like a month because it's a pain in the ass. Also not getting high today because yesterday it made me feel worse when I came down. Trying to just power through the anhedonia and do what I need to do to get ready for work tomorrow

I am enjoying my space, my home, and my lovely little family- and I am doing so with intent, gratitude and pride.

Blasting music and cleaning/laundry. I feel so much better once my apartment is how it’s supposed to be and then I can fully relax, journal and meditate, call some friends and my little brother. ♥️♥️♥️

I love that you said "scary Sunday" lol. I cleaned the apartment, did the laundry, my homework, and I told a few people today isn't a good day for me to socialise. Then it was time for me to collapse completely paralyzed on the bed not knowing what to do with myself. I Journaled about how I don't know how to be excited about things anymore, cried about my worries, dissociated, then discussed with my husband which of my worries are realistic and which are simply some wacky stuff. I had a tight chest and couldn't breathe well despite the open window next to me. I cursed the grey skies, then proceeded to drink and get tipsy fully knowing that's not the real antidote to anything I'm going through. Didn't have an appetite, so I ate a massive bag of chips and now I don't feel so good. Sundays are not my best days. I hope I'll get up and go to school tomorrow, and stop scheming about missing my class tomorrow for no reason.

Celebrating my goal of losing 100 pounds. I bought myself a bunch of new clothes this morning and set a new goal to lose more weight. Relaxing the whole day before I go grocery shopping in sweatpants instead of giving into anxiety and dressing up a bunch for a 20 minute trip.

I went out and got myself a decaf lavender latte, now I’m gonna get cozy and read. Love to you all.

Currently in a terrible depressive state, but I showered for the first time in 3-4 days so I think that’s a win for today.

I'm going to the Tom Brady Roast. :) !!!

(Huge ramble on some things I like to keep in mind)

Honestly, what I’ve been doing as of late to try and love myself more is really trying to reframe how I view my circumstance and where I am right now. As well as find love in my heart for the small, mundane, or even bleak things in life. Also remembering how life’s all about second (or third, or forth) chances, and that half the battle of life will be fighting against yourself and your own anxiety to get you to a point where you’re happy with yourself and life again.

Reminding yourself that you’ve survived everything you’ve been through, potentially only blurring parts of yourself or changing how you go about life in the process. But you haven’t lost yourself; you’re still here, and you’re still here with love in your heart and somewhere deep down; a hope for a better future for yourself. That’s pretty goddamn impressive, because you’re still here, still holding out some remains of hope even through all the hardship you’ve faced, is even more of an accomplishment you shouldn’t give up credit for.

Be patient with yourself, life’s a series of cycles and challenges that you’ll pull yourself through to get to the next steps. Sometimes it’ll even feel stagnant; like you’re not getting anything done. But a lot of the time, valuable progress is made stationary. You can only truly trust yourself to know what’s best for you and to be by your side truly through everything. So hold out the most amount of sympathy and understanding towards yourself, you’re with you through truly your absolute worst possible moments. But that doesn’t mean those moments are the totality of you, nor what others perceive as you. So cut yourself some slack; you’re learning, and trying your best in a world that feels absolutely bonkers, and that our brains are in no way accustomed to dealing with.

On a broader sense, we are animals, we’re apart of nature at the end of the day. Our brains are gonna react to things in a way they’ve been taught to for as long as our brains have been developing. But we’ve hit such a rapid change of pace in what and how our brains are processing things, interact with others and take in knowledge, that tbh I wouldn’t be shocked if it had some adverse effects on other parts of our brain’s functions like mental health, or even physical health. But that’s just something I remind myself to remember to take things slowly, and to try and gauge what issues I should let go of (as they’re issues only brought up by recent technological advancements/changes) and what issues should I be spending a considerable amount of time/energy actually focusing on.

Coffee, listening to a good audiobook, got caught up on laundry, baked some egg bites, more coffee, now resting. ☺️

I used the fancy bath bomb I had, along with lighting a fancy scented candle. It was nice.

Later I'm visiting a friend and her kittens.

Woke up next to my girlfriend, we went to breakfast and then spent 3+ hours at the beach combing for sea glass. Being by the ocean always makes me feel whole.

Gearing up. I'm on shaky ground, promised myself absolutely nothing. Succeeded.

Donuts 🍩

Gave myself a pedicure, listened to upbeat music while cleaning and doing laundry, took extra care of my hair - deep conditioning. I feel much better :)

I’m splurging a tad extra today to have my weekly grocery run InstaCart-delivered!

And I’m purposefully not going to start my weekly Sunday cleaning until I get the text message (probably in the next 20 minutes) that my InstaCart shopper has begun shopping just so I can enjoy the satisfaction of being surprised by all my groceries showing up at my door right around the time I’ll be finishing up cleaning the kitchen!

I’ve been travelling and just got home. I bought some new vinyls while I was away and will spend today recovering from an 11 hour drive yesterday by relaxing and listening to my new records🥰

Sending love to anyone reading this. I hope you have a good day. 🫶🏼✨❤️

Got my nails done, gonna do some house cleaning, and use a deep conditioning hair mask and make it look nice and purty for the week.

I had an awesome day! I went to a dance therapy today and damn! It was such a liberating experience and I'm so happy I tried it. On the way there I was anxious and my body was very tense as I also got social anxiety but while dancing I experienced how free and alive I can feel. So today I took a huge step towards self love.

I’m trying to draw again. After so many years my passion for art has been stripped from me as my condition grew worse. But I so desperately want to draw & feel connected to it like I used to. so I’m trying to do that today

Bought myself a little treat and chose a comfort read over a self help book today 🖤

•taking in extra hours to sleep •typing my story •relaxing with some music on

i ate some breakfast. i usually never leave myself time to think in the morning. fast paced, get to school/ work = no time to dwell on past. unfortunately means also no time to eat or take care of my needs.

Eat.

Yoga!

Studied for my exams

Albeit not as much as I should have

Yeah I fucking hate myself

Never mind

i did my laundry, folded them right after and sorted out my closet so that tomorrow, i don’t wake up having to dig through a mountain of clothes before getting dressed. making things easier for my future self even if it takes so much energy to just get out of bed.

Today's my birthday, but I'm coming down with a cold, so I'm wearing comfortable clothes and lounging about and drinking tea. I just ate a chocolate bar. Might have cake later.

Cheesecake

made spaghetti :)

Piano 💜

I just finished a Peloton ride and stretch Drinking more water Took my vitamins Did my skincare routine Vacuumed Researched health topics

I painted a picture! I have been getting into watercolor art and today was my attempt at a first figure painting.

Eviscerated my relationship with my parents. Stopped protecting my mother and told her that she is responsible for my condition because she’s a malignant, alcoholic narcissist.

I went to TWO farmers markets! And spent money on artisan goods!

Playing a wargame.

I am crocheting

making myself a nice dinner after work and watching a silly movie for fun! :)

I made a delicious sandwich. I am enjoying it now.

I toooook the longest hot shower. Took a nap on the couch with my hubby and then we got up and came to the pool where I am currently basking in the sun like a little turtle. Nothing sucks right now and I feel safe.

Watched top chef and currently getting a bike ride in.

I went to church 💕

All I’ve done is have a huge breakfast. It’s made me too tired and I’ve got a million college assignments due that I hadn’t the capacity for all week. I drank a redbull and I am still tired. Sometimes caffeine wires me up and causes the worst anxiety and sometimes it does nothing? Maybe even contributes to sleepiness? I want to be normal fuck.

I played some baldurs gate. Made me happy

Re-watched one of my favourite tv shows, ate some yummy food, played some video games, cuddled with kitties, took a nap.

Just finished crying/release, so I’m gonna smoke a joint while listening to music and sitting outside

Took pup for three walks so far today, and the last one we made it all the way around the block. We both suffer anxiety, and she's not too sure about being outside, so 'around the block' is a good bit for her.

Surrounding myself with people that genuinly care about me

Unloaded the dishwasher. Watched some Prince Valiant.

Trying to be gentle with myself, I've had a lot of heavy feelings bashing me down the past few weeks. Waiting for my new meds to kick in. Not hating myself for crying for hours is enough of a win.

Hopefully some grocery shopping.

Woah! I am having a hard day but it was comforting to see I’m not the only one this day is challenging for

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drinkin

I'm working a clopen by myself today in the middle of a random snowstorm ✨️

I went to a yugioh tournament with a couple friends. I won one of four matches and dropped. Reflecting on my deck choices and such. Definitely think I could have done better, but unlike the last time I dropped, I'm not really upset about it. I basically put my deck together on Friday after having all sorts of issues with what to play all week, with nothing working for me.

I already have a good idea of what I should have done differently, so I'm at least learning from the experience. Basically I put too many cards for going second in the deck, when I should have focused on going first in game one.

I made a simply but lovely breakfast: bacon, eggs, and coffee milk.

I watched game 7 between the Cavs/Magic.

I have this next week to my Self, so I've made lists of things I want to do and have been ticking them off bit by bit.

Got myself some food I rly love. Hung out with my parents and dogs and watched tv with them. It felt good to legit laugh and enjoy the joy of it. I've hit a rly low point for myself and am rly going thru it, it felt good to laugh and not feel as alone as I've been feeling. Now listening to music I rly love and playing video games. Resting in my room. I got a lot done yesterday that I'm proud of how much I did. I'm sore now lol so today I'm letting myself rest as much as I want.

Getting high 😭

Let myself have a "lazy" lunch and dinner, some comfort frozen food that I always feel I need to save up for possible worse days ahead

Watching cartoons from my childhood. Rugrats, Doug, Rocket Power, etc

Thinking about getting an anal kit for the longest. So self pleasure

I'm not feeling pressured to be productive today-- I've come in contact with no one and won't be until 9 am tomorrow. Nonetheless, I woke up and got my butt out of bed, took my meds, did my morning reflective rituals.

I woke up and realized it was 10:45 and I wasn't in any kind of terrible pain, just felt rested finally after weeks of not being able to sleep solidly through the night. That was a pretty nice feeling. Letting myself just let go and snuggle into a deep, healing sleep instead of resisting it's call. That was a self-love kind of thing to do.

I've also been able to resist the urge to recklessly text my partner, who is seeming a little standoffish lately. I feel like there are things I *could* fixate on and work myself up into a panic about, but instead I am just REALLY engaging my "inner child", moving slowly, going with the flow. Being here with myself. He's re-doing his mother's entire ceiling today, and honestly there's no NEED to hear from him constantly. When I am able to let go of the urge to push issues with him, give myself some actual mental space, I feel like my own superhero, heheh. 💪

I've been struggling this year to get inspired and excited about my garden. It always brings me so much joy but I'm just not feeling like I can visualize it or get excited about it. Nonetheless, today I set up/planted a bunch of marigolds and zinnias in pots. I've been starting a bunch of things inside to transplant this upcoming week. I spent some time thinning out some bachelor's buttons that I thought were all dead and realized many are still growing healthily. Starting to feel that inspiration seep back in... :)

Today I am grateful that I was able to rest and move at my own pace. Honestly I usually feel a huge energy gust coming in about this time every evening that lasts till at least midnight so we'll see what little things I can accomplish tonight :)

I love this prompt! I took a walk, played the piano, and went to a group BetterHelp session. 😊

Took care of my flowers and plants. Installed a magnetic insect curtain screen. Had a cafe au lait next to my flowers and plants on the sun and watched the birds. Wrote about my wounded inner child waiting at the other end of the affect bridge, had a good cry. All very peaceful. Will go for a walk in the woods later, cuddle with my husband, read some more.

I need to but idk how I should. I feel stuck

Shrooms

I used to think of myself as a victim, but today I'm just feeling like an overcomer for getting away from my childhood home. I left my shithead family (whats left of it anyway) to their own dysfunctional shenanigans and that alone is an accomplishment. I dont know how to recover but at least my mind is clear and I can think about rebuilding now.

Watching SpongeBob while curled up on my bed 🥴. I also got up and did some vacuuming!

went out of my way to drive 3h to a nice hiking spot. it was worth it

Anxiety hitting me as yet another "friend" crossed boundaries I had clearly set and then tried to guilt trip me that it was all my fault. Not having a great day.

Woke up late, 8.15am, usually up at 6.30am, sat in the sun, painted some wood for planters, made mackeral, pea pesto and cheese on toast for my wife and myself with coffee, put some insulation in a wall then went to friends 60th Birthday Party, texted a friend, enjoyed the garden, organised a camping trip, listened to podcasts and bbc6 music and Alabama 3 cd. Happy Days are possible even though it might not seem so somedays.

I catered to my partners every need, obviously.

Made myself Mexican rice and beans, took it easy, took baths, washed my hair and face, and relaxed

I am skipping on an invite to go out to the club bc my body hurts and my mind is not in the best place to be around people. I’ll get some indian food, watch a movie and take an epsom salt + lush soap bath

Weed, home therapy and a bubblebath as soon as I drag myself off the forums

After two breakdowns throughout the day, I've decided to finally listen to my body and lay down and do nothing for the next several hours. With brutalmoose on the tv and a tall glass of iced tea. Closest thing I'll get to nirvana in this state.

Cleaned the house top to bottom 💕 a little sage burning and my fav wrap for dinner ☺️

I took a nice long hot shower and really made sure to scrub down, I’m listening to my favorite music and spending the whole day with my partner it’s an incredible treat! I also was lucky enough to get good fucking sleep for once (if you look at my comment history and sub reddits I joined you’ll know why)

I went for a hike with a friend who was able to help me process and reframe some scary thoughts. Got a mani/pedi and heading to bed early 🙌

Honestly just had a good couple hours of crying off and on.

I went to a garden party and pet dogs instead of working.

Realized how much pain I was in yesterday (yaaaay chronic pain /s) and did some in-bed yoga. I haven't been up to doing yoga in such a long time, so I'm pretty proud of myself, even if it was just a few basic poses/stretches while in bed. It always feels so relieving and helps me reconnect with my body and feel more at ease. I was able to relax enough to sleep which was great as well as an insomniac.

Got myself everything to have a patio garden, which I’ve wanted for years.

Gave myself a mani/pedi

Even though I didn’t want to, I got out of the house and had a drink with a friend. I felt much better, even though I thought beforehand I’d rather just sit at home because I’m f’in exhausted.

I threw out all of the clothing I didn’t need, like over 75% of it so I can give away a dresser so I can put in a computer desk. It took a lot of effort due to being raised in a hoarding environment, but I feel a lot better now that it’s gone. I talked to my grandma for a bit which was refreshing, and played with my dogs. Once my husband gets home from work we are going to the gym, then making tacos! Until then I’m working on painting some pottery while listening to “the body keeps the score”, and I might do a puzzle later and play the sims 4. I’m trying to learn that it’s ok to go on the computer and do hobbies while other people are home, which has been a struggle.

Did chores, doing some art and watching shows I like.

i ran to catch the bus this morning, figured i deserved an iced coffee (i’m low on cash but shh it’s okay)

Continue to remind myself that my ex’s actions and beliefs about me don’t define or control me

I recovered some dining chairs which has been on my list forever. This took several months for me to work up to so I feel really proud. I also drank a lot of water & herbal tea which is a big goal. And cleaned the bathroom. That’s a lot for how I’ve been feeling so I’m pretty happy what my day.

I took myself to dinner and the drive in. 10/10

Giving myself some space to process a lot of triggers that just came up around my mother and beliefs around being bad and doing things wrong, amongst other things. I've got some calming music playing that has really been helping me and I'm going to watch something to make myself feel better again.

I got the laundry done and then took a long nap.

I gave bath to my dog, did the balance sheet for my family trip to New Zealand, entertained 10 guests (extended family) at home and had a huge dinner with them outside.

I told my friends that I can’t go with them on a three day trip around the north of Scotland. I’m devastated but I haven’t been sleeping and have been going really hard for weeks. I had chills all night last night so I had to face facts. I’m not well enough to go. Going to head to my aunt and uncles first some rest instead.

Showered, got ready did my make up and going for a walk. I haven’t got out of bed in a week. This is my first time going out since then.

Quitting smoking. Scheduling my days and giving more time to work on what will take me out of the misery my life has been lately. Starting a new life today. Wish me luck!

It’s not much, but it’s finally warm enough to hang my laundry up outside, enjoying the little things.

Went for a 10k jog. I really love the therapeutic nature of breathing, one foot in front of the other, body heat fighting against the damp chilly air, etc. I definitely needed it because I was spending the rest of the day with my abusive Mom.

Nothing has been able to make me feel love, not for myself nor feel loved and sadly it has been a norm for me since very young age (I’m 28 tomorrow).

I do a lot of things I like and enjoy: Cooking/Baking Walking/training my puppy (25km+ per week) Bit of video games I have some crops for the summer

But it doesn’t make me “love myself”.. a margarita Pizza with pesto do make me happy but it doesn’t make me love myself

Dyed over some of my grey hairs yesterday, a task I’d been putting off for weeks. Took the time to prep today’s lunch last night, so I’ll have a healthy mid-day meal today :)

Imma do some Pilates

Doing a hot sauna session 🔥☺️

Went outside. Cried. But still.. i was outside

Yesterday my panic meant a missed dinner, and a bad night's sleep.

Today I ran I met a friend We journalled together I made a dinner I forced myself to read I didn't turn on the TV, I played guitar.

Do things that engage your mind. And feed your brain food ppl

Got my nails done today!!

Planted flowers. They look gorgeous.

I didn’t start drinking until 7pm today.. usually I’d start by 9am. Trying to take better care of my mental and physical health. I know it sounds bad but today was a good day. 

I slept in, I went out for brunch and had pasta, I took a harp lesson and played my instrument, I had a session with my therapist and I rested peacefully.

I slept in, I went out for brunch and had pasta, I took a harp lesson and played my instrument, I had a session with my therapist and I rested peacefully in my bed

Left my child with my husband and went swimming for the first time in 4 months I used to go three times a week

Had good food cooked at home, got some skincare, slept well, went to grab some sugarcane juice.