I think I'm coming to terms that I have an avoidant personality. Like my own neglectful parents, ironically enough. I avoid people like the plague, along with with relationships or any social family activities.
I struggle to trust. I struggle to bond with anyone. I don't feel SAFE with anyone, at all.
I've become this person that just doesn't 'feel right'. It's not that I hate my reclusiveness, as I quite like being by myself. But it doesn't feel normal or healthy, especially when chimp brain wants to find a mate/herd/other monkeys to bond with.
The whole point about life is thriving and connection, survival and reproducing the next generation etc. And I feel like I'm not doing any of that. I have no purpose, no desire for anything in life and it's been like this for years.
I keep getting told to try and understand my parents abuse, so that it'd make more sense as to why I was abused. But tbh, I'm getting to the point where I don't even care about that either. I avoid feeling empathy, as people only use it to manipulate me.
I dunno. Sometimes I wish I could be a rabbit and live in a hole in the ground somewhere. I'm really not made for this world. Half the time I don't even feel like a human being.
Can anyone relate?
I often tend to avoid people as much as I can because I find it draining to be around them and I can only take them in small doses. It's not that they necessarily did anything bad, it's just that physically and spiritually it gets to be too much for me very quickly. I am much more at peace and comfortable when I'm in hermit mode.
I have to be careful with empathy as well - it's not that I don't care, but emotionally charged moments take a huge toll on me. I will reach out to help and be a rock for friends, but I need to be very careful how much I do it.