Wow thats interesting

Some people get addicted to trauma dumping on others. Especially if the recipient doesn't set boundaries. They'll keep doing it as long as it is permitted. They're probably not doing it with malicious intent, but it is giving them some kind of dopamine/endorphin boost, otherwise they wouldn't do it.

Sadly, this will continue until you say something or put boundaries into place. It really depends on how you feel. Do you want to support them sometimes? If so, set certain times you are willing to actively listen to their issues. Dont burnout. If you're feeling rubbish yourself, then put yourself first and dont engage.

Ask yourself: Am I a people pleaser? Am I doing this just to feel accepted and liked?

You could simply say to them that you feel a bit overwhelmed with the dumping; if you feel close enough to them. Otherwise, silence is golden. Sometimes, not responding is better for both sides, otherwise they become overly dependant on you. And you suffer from the overload of it.

It's not nasty to say no. It's not unkind to not be there for people 24/7. You are not their therapist.

As you have said, "she doesn't want help". Which tells me she's a bit of an emotional vampire, and these types of people can be very draining.

Yes. Im one of those rare weird people who love having maladaptive daydreaming. It's consuming my life yet also gives me comfort/escape from life at the same time. I have no control over it, but can't hate it either.

Thank you

Baldurs gate 3 soundtracks is beautiful. Like the camp music. The mountain pass music.

And then theres elder scrolls online and dragon age inquisition ost.

Beautiful soundtracks

Same. Half of the "help" i get from family is just plain belittling and condescending.

My family love to be know-it-alls and are constantly trying to "educate" me like a 4 yr old.

Some people also dont know when to back off and stip being so controlling as they dont want us to become too independent and seperate from them

Shutting down and refusing to talk/communicate is not boundaries. Its punishment and emotional abuse.

He could ask for space and time to calm down in a better and kinder way

I've always needed my parents. It's like an instinctual urge when danger or something goes wrong or u need comfort. The first thing I think and feel is "I need comfort." And for some reason, my shithead useless brain connects that with = parents....only ... my parents never gave a shit and have never comforted me. Ever. So the fact my brain wants to continuously/subconsciously "need" them is a bit of a pain in the ass, if im honest.

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Communicate and outright tell her that you dont want to hear such things. If she needs to say things like that then tell her to see a dr or a therapist. This is unfair to you and sounds manipulative.

You are not her superhero. You dont exist to save her should she choose to go down that route.

She needs professional help.

My parents do this too. Its the "lets blame ur autism for everything because we cant admit we've been shitty parents" mode.

U can have both cptsd and autism. But toxic and in denial parents will only acknowledge one and we all know which one it wont be.

I get this. Usually when something important is missing in life, a basic need isnt being met.

I ask myself: am i lonely? Am i hungry? Am i tired? Am i stressed or sad etc?

Usually theres alsays something but its just hard to figure out at first

Just sleep tbh

My body demands it. I sleep like 9-12 hours a day. Plus naps. Its not actual exhaustion, but mental stress I think

Same. My sis in law says she has no friends but on facebook she has like 30+ ppl who message her regular. Who go with her on days out and to dinner with etc. Many of them were at her wedding and their kids play together etc.

Like wtf... what more do you want?

Some people dont realise how lucky they are. I would sever my own leg off just to have one person genuinely care and spend time with me

Nothing much tbh.

I love to sleep and will try and sleep as much as possible. Its an escape

Once awake, i go get a coffee and cuddle my dog as its the only thing that'll get me moving for the day

Sometimes i like it. When im in a safe space, like at home. But not when im driving, which sadly happens.

I like the escape from life it brings

Niiice not OP but just tried why-choose and its an amazing site. Very useful

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Sigh.... adds to TBR list 😆