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This is true. When i was unemployed with only a car to my name i still got coochie.
Funny/weirdly enough I got more dates broke, chubby, and living at home with parents, than i do now with my own condo, car, and decent paying job, and in much better shape.
Lots of girls out there that love a fixer-upper.
Well now i just feel like the people who make make too much money for government benefits but also struggling to make ends meet.
I got $258 in federal aid to go to college; know those feels
Shhhhhhiiiiiieeeeettttt Where’s my pussy at
True story! Love your take, lol
George Constanza?
Unless it was recently, age is also a big factor.
I always seemed to have had better luck when I didn’t give a fuck about my life then when I felt I had something to lose.
Bro I remember being unemployed with NO car and getting dates lol. It’s all about how you present yourself and vibe. Looking back I still don’t know how I achieved this twice.
No one gets laid more than an unemployed guy. You have all the time to pay attention to the girls.
How old were you though? A 20 something year old is allowed to live a bum life, but as a man in your 30's, I feel like most people expect you to have your life together.
Gtfo out of here. OP is barely in his 30s. You stereotypical reddit geeks make it sound like everything suddenly changes when you go from 29 to 30. Whatever a 27-29 year old can do, a 30-32 year old can do too.
Also there is NO age limit to having sex while broke.
Bro he’s 100% right tho. When ur a loser at 20 but attractive , it’s cute. You still have time to achieve something in her eyes. When you’re attractive but broke at 35 .. well you kinda proved you aren’t going to probably go much further (in her eyes) in the amount of time she would like to see. If she wants kids and or to travel… at 20-25?? Cute dream could happen one day. At 35? Nah unlikely the part time employed broke guy at 35 is gonna turn his life around like that and fast enough for her to care if she has other options
Walmart coochie
Thanks, I guess…
You’re not even the one who posted this
Harsh (LOL)
oh shit this made me laugh much more than it should have lol
I hate to admit I do date losers, it’s an issue I’m working on
However, op- being 30, living at home and working on your education, does not make you a loser at all!
Hey
Im 28-29 soon and I feel so deeply ashamed. I work full time going to school part time. It hurts so much because I think I’m a loser who still lives at home with my mom. I am trying so hard not to give up even though the finish line is so far away.
Hey there, I know some guys that would like to meet you. Do you want an excel?
They date confident losers*
Ruthless
You don't suppose girls just randomly waltz into said loser's home, do you? It certainly adds an obstacle when I don't leave the house except for work and to buy food.
Indeed, they prefer them - but only if they’re extroverted tatted types who “make them laugh.” The rest of us will always be second fiddle to them no matter what we do.
How is he a loser?
women can live with their parents yet they arent considered losers
Sad but true.
🤣.
True. As long as you pick one of us, you gotta chance.
I know this was a well intended comment but god damn that is hilarious
You roasted him for his own good
Currently dating a man who lives with his parents at 32. You’re fine. I see nothing wrong with him living with his parents.
Right! I just broke up with my ex i turned 33 last month, I don’t drive. I live with a roomate.
Don’t give up!
You people are leeches
Has he ever lived on his own though? I'm currently living at home due to the high cost of living, which I'm sure at least some women would understand. But never having left? I feel like that's harder to sell.
Edit: not trying to say that there is anything wrong with never having left, only that it may be perceived that way by others.
No, he’s never lived on his own. We both also live in a HCOL area. It just makes sense.
Why would I leave and give 5x the amount of money to some stranger for like 1/20th the space and no pool when I can give a much smaller amount to help family and will eventually get it back?
Now that's hard to sell.
Main reason to move out: you become independent.
You meet a lot of people that live with their parents through their 20s and into their 30s who don’t do their own laundry, don’t cook, don’t clean shit other than their room…etc.
They are in arrested development
Counter: it’s also possible to live with your parents and not only be responsible for yourself, but actively pitch in to help your family.
I’m not saying what you describe isn’t more common than it should be, but it’s not a guaranteed outcome, either.
And they are people in their 30s who lives with their parent that cooks and even do their parent laundery... As an asian its common not to move out untill married or take care of their older parents. We start chores pre 18 tho.
Lol I been helping out the family since I gained consciousness. Now my sister who’s 10 also helps out around the house. If we staying at our parents the least we can do is not be dweller bums.
Living with 20 roommates in a studio is not independent compared to having my own floor 5x the size. That's a red flag of poor financial decisions or personal relations to me, personally, if their parents aren't abusive.
I'll save the cash, and FIRE in my own place. But to each their own, as they say.
Millennials living with their parents is not uncommon whatsoever. Better than going broke to afford a one bedroom out of ego and having nothing to show for it. Workout, have good hygiene, and buckle down on your studies and focus on yourself - the rest will come. Become somebody you would want to be with and others will also. Good luck.
you will. christ you're only 30. don't think like that.
You are in adulting but you talk like a teenager.
And I think this is the main issue lol
Babe, now THIS is a comment.
Best answer.
This exactly.
The stigma is against adults who are still acting like dependants in their parents house, not against adults living with their parents as an active choice while living and building their life.
Take your agency and live on purpose, that's what it means to be an adult. Don't just sulk around as if you have no agency here or you're unhappy where you are now. If you're unhappy, review why, it is not because you don't have a girlfriend, if you did, you'd still be unhappy. You cannot expect another person to "make you happy" it's not their job to change your life. Grow up, take control of your own life.
"Getting a girlfriend" is the last thing op should be thinking about. He's got to sit down and actually think about what he wants in life, and actively work on himself to have the life he wants. Relationships come to you once you take care of yourself and live aligned to your values and interests.
Ask yourself why you judge yourself for not having one. Is it because you're expected to? If so, by whom? How are you less of a man because of this?
I'd recommend the books The Power of Now, The Untethered Soul and The Four Agreements to help you learn what truly matters to you and what does not.
Ask yourself why you judge yourself for not having one. Is it because you're expected to? If so, by whom? How are you less of a man because of this?
If you could explain this to the rest of reddit, that would be cool. Their favorite insults seem to be shaming guys for being virgins and/or single and they love to throw it in their faces.
It's extremely hard to live by, but the only thing you can possibly do there is accept you can't control what other people say think or feel.
Treat others with respect, but if they try to personally insult you, stop talking to them because there's nothing more to say. Personal insults mean the person has nothing intelligent to say about what you said otherwise.
I highly doubt any decent woman would judge you for living with Mom as long as you're taking care of her, yourself, and your business.
Also, you're doing college and working? I respect it. You're trying to work your way up in the world. Seems your only real enemy here is your pessimistic mindset.
If you are thinking like that already, seek out help. You’re only 30. If you are a great guy and does well in society, you will find someone eventually. Don’t give up
30 is still young, you’ve still got a whole life ahead of you! Don’t talk yourself down like that. Society has warped our expectations and painted life to be some sort of competition.
“You need to be married by X-yrs-old.” “I’m X and I already (insert milestone here)” “You’re X-yrs-old, why aren’t you (insert life event here) yet??” Everyone on this planet lives life at different speeds; it isn’t a race nor it shouldn’t be treated like a marathon. You should live your life at your own pace. Don’t rush anything! This is also true when it comes to dating and relationships.
Rushing right into dating won’t work, period. Love takes time, care and a lot of patience. I know this may sound boring at this point, but there will be a time when the right one comes around. Please don’t put yourself down, focus on yourself and then hope will come around.
Wishing you the best of luck
How about you start focusing on what you're trying to do and achieve, rather than what you think you need to get a girlfriend. You create the environment that gets a girl interested, not loathing that you don't have it made already.
This is why we tell men in their 20s not to get too into dating, because it's not a priority until you yourself are happy with where you are at in life.
I dated someone for 5 years that lived with his mom, you're honestly being a bit dramatic
Well, as much as people like to say the opposite, there really isn´t somebody for everybody.
Some people never find a partner, whether due to a lack of trying and many other reasons buut the whole there´s somebody for everybody stuff can be a self fulfilling prophecy for many and people are generally optimistic, so there´s that.
Yeah that “don’t worry you’ll find somebody” is all boomer Disney movie bullshit
It’s because people are really bad at judging themselves. Beauty is mostly objective, and if you’re kinda ugly it’s probably hard to date other ugly people. So they just stay single even though they’d probably be happier as ugly couples. Or maybe not.
The average person is pre objectively attractive just from a scientific standpoint.
So id honestly say the number of truly ugly people are a minority.
I’m 45 and I didn’t meet me my wifey until I was 35. Went through 3 relationships before I found “The One”
Believe it or not there are women your age in your exact situation, and not all of them are looking for someone to take care of them financially or even be established at all. Being a student trying to achieve higher education is admirable. Living with your parents at 30 is not weird anymore. It’s not your career prospects in the way, it’s your attitude.
You just started undergrad. Perfect opportunity to put yourself out there and meet other broke people. Join a club that interests you, form a study group and invite someone who you could see yourself hanging out with. Try to get to know people as friends without expecting anything from them, and the “I’ll never have a girlfriend” mentality is your #1 enemy. People can smell desperation from a mile away and it might as well be repellant for any romantic interest. Would you want to feel like someone’s last and only possible hope for happiness and fulfillment? Don’t put that pressure on anyone, don’t make a romantic relationship your main goal in life.
Everyone is responsible for their own happiness, so make sure you have a full life that doesn’t completely hinge on whether you’re single or not. You’re 30, not 80. Shift your expectations a little bit and focus on creating a life you’re proud to show someone else first. Meet people you have things in common with, make a sincere effort to get to know them without expectations, and it will happen.
Rejoice! After decades of dating I finally realized I’m happier on my own and u might be too. The hassles never ever outweighed the benefits imo
As a late 20s woman, none of this would be a dealbreaker for me. You’re working on a degree to eventually move out and saving money in the meantime. Times are tough. No worries dude. Someone who cares wouldn’t be right for you anyways.
I know it might feel like that now, but feelings aren’t facts. You might just be a “late bloomer”, and there’s plenty of time to come into your own as a man and be a real catch. Especially if you’re working to be mentally and emotionally mature along with fiscal maturity.
If your undergrad isn’t all remote, you could meet a young lady at school. You could meet them at coffee shops if you are doing remote studies. Maybe try to get out of the house while you tackle your study load when you aren’t working.
There are surely young ladies who can appreciate the opportunity you have to build yourself up and save money while living with your mother. There’s a big difference between a man who just leeches off mom indefinitely and stays stagnant compared to one who has a goal and works actively toward it.
In this economy, people have to do whatever they must to keep their heads above water. Stay focused on becoming the man you want to be, and try to stay away from the internet stuff that wants you to believe a man is worthless if…
You’ve got this! Keep growing and your hard work will eventually speak for itself!
It is simple, you shouldn't be wasting your time dating when you are clearly unsatisfied wirh the state of your life.
Invest all your time and energy in your tomorrow self.
You will attract women when you are happy but that is for downstream when you are done with what you consider a good standart of living.
Dont let you tell otherwise, the sex ain't worth it.
Don’t be crazy!! I met my partner at 35 when he was in between jobs and couch surfing. People are attracted to people with goals - nothing worse than someone who hates their life but lacks the courage to change it. Also, in this economy living with your folks is not as taboo (or rare) as it used to be, so don’t see it as a negative. Good on you for starting study!! Sounds like an awesome new chapter is starting for you, be excited for what’s to come next.
Geez! You’re 30 not 80. Maybe you can relax a little cause you’re messing up your vibe
You're never out of the game.
Don't accept it. i met my wife in the late 30s. i was in the same boat at 30
In all honesty, you won't with that mindset
When I was 30, I had been single for YEARS. Like my last relationship was in high school/college. Now I’m 36 and I’m married with 2 kids so…life comes at you fast.
The only thing keeping you lonely is your defeatist attitude. Guys who care way less are out there living their best lives because they don’t talk to themselves like this.
Change that attitude and go outside more. You’ll find someone.
(I hate to be this person BUT) your attitude is what’s holding you back in life, pal.
There’s more to you than living with mum and just starting out in field
Bleedin' nora, man. Don't give up. I didn't meet my wife until I was 45. There's hope yet.
I’d switch places with ya, 27 and divorced.
I started my undergrad at 30. Barely eked out a STEM degree. Had fun but poor paying jobs until I was 36 (literally had to make $40 stretch 2 weeks of groceries). Got laid off in the pandemic and spent 9 months looking for jobs where I begged for even a rejection letter just so that I knew I existed.
Then one day I landed a temp job related to my degree. Then a better job. Was able to finally get a dog, saved for a down payment and got a small fixer-upper (it’s a foot in the door), met a wonderful woman, and 2 years later we’re engaged.
If you’d asked me at 30 (freshly shattered and incinerated heart after 4 years) where my life would be in 10 years there is no way I would have guessed the life I have now, probably would have doubted I’d make it to 34, almost didn’t make it through COVID. All I could do was put one foot in front of the other, count what blessings I had, and force myself into another day. But I’m eternally grateful I did.
Im nobody special. Truly. I drive a 12 year old commuter sedan. Buy clothes at Walmart. I’m not super smart or even moderately wealthy. I’m not super attractive, and I could stand to lose 50lbs. What I do have is a sense of humor and a stubborn endurance. To paraphrase Ho Chi Minh, Wars are not one by the side that wins the most battles, but by the one still on the field at the end. Try to be the latter. Best of luck
Never say never, but if not who cares? Just enjoy your life and what you do.
You can work and study, so you have something going on that you can work with.
Nothing is absolute. Everything changes all the time. It’s the whole point of the entire universe to keep changing. You will too.
I’m a 32 year old female, I know of many women who live at home with their parents. One lady is in her 50s. Lots of women like at home, is this unacceptable?
You like girls? That's gay, you should like man like a real man.
This would only be relevant if you were on your deathbed or 40 years older. My parents met each other at 30, and were married for 30 years and now I'm 30. 30s a good age bro, just the beginning not the end
And I hate the shit that people say that doesn't do shit.
"God knows when you're ready" so a high school or middle school girl is ready for a relationship but I 23M don't have a girlfriend yet?
"She'll come sooner than you think" Well I've been told that for many years no luck.
"Use dating sites" Tried 5 of them over many years. No dates ever.
"Friends groups" my friends all suck in terms of replying to my texts and its pulling teeth to agree to hangout on a day or something. Every single friend I have sucks.
If it makes you feel any better I work full time and live on my own and support myself very well financially and am pretty slim and I still don't get shit.
instead of everyone telling him that somehow, magically he will get a GF - lets take him at his word and advice him how to accept that fact
the first step is alcohol... don't overdo..too often, just enough to take the edge off your singledom
next step is porn - you need to keep up on that as much as you can for as long as you can - eventually you will tire of it
the third leg of the triangle is; get a vintage classic English sportscar... the constant breaking down and repairing will leave you no time or money to worry about being single
- you're welcome
I’m 33 and forever grateful I’ll never have a girlfriend
If a dude was like "I will never have a girlfriend again" around me my uterus would shrivel up and dry out. Pity doesn't usually turn us on.
You’ve got a home and a plan. You might not be where you want to be yet but you’re getting there.
The bar can be so tragically low sometimes. If you’re; well groomed, in clean appropriate clothes, and treat them nicely you might surprise yourself
I know how it feels man. Constantly reminded how after 27 our bodies start degrading, and it makes it feel like the time has passed
30 is still very young. But focus on yourself. From your post I assume you’re probably depressed because of your situation and you often think about how much happier you would be if you had a girlfriend. You need to find out how to be happy alone. Once you get there then you need to date. The problem is if you did start dating someone now and that was the only good thing in your life, if and when it ends it will be devastating. Think about ways to work on yourself. Do you want a better job? What can you do to make that happen? Want to move out? What is the first step to that? You can do it. Make yourself happy.
I’ve been single basically my whole life. I dated someone for 3 months when I was 24. Had a few flings since then. Now I’m 34. I went to college from age 26-30 and did not really take advantage of the social aspect. I recommend you do! It was fine and got to talk to people sometimes including a girl I had a major crush on (but she was not single so that wasn’t gonna go anywhere, I was just happy I got to enjoy her company).
Yeah it gets lonely, and I know you want to experienced having a companion. Same as me. You can do it if you try. If you DONT try you can at least enjoy the good parts of being single. You have more freedom than anyone in a relationship so there’s that. Focus on being the best you. And when you’re ready get on those dating apps or put yourself in situations where you can talk to people.
You work, have a good relationship with your mom, and have even been accepted to university. What a success story.
Be a bit more confident. Everyone fears they won't find love. You're attitude will ensure it. Some make things even worse than they are.
Dude you are just 30? You will have a job after 4 years and if you play your cards right during undergrad (work a job, continue living at home with food etc paid for, invest your savings in ETFs), a small amount of savings too. Thats much more than a ton of people have. My suggestion would be to actually look for a partner in college- people are more open to dating then, less judgemental. With a bit of luck you may end up getting a good person, and continue your journey together.
I began a long-term relationship with a cute doctor while I was in my 30s, unemployed, and living with family. Just work on being confident and kind
A lot of women aren't going to care if they like you. You can also just say you pay the rent/mortgage and are taking care of her.
You are showing right there that you care about your future and you're a family man. Those are very attractive qualities. 30 is still pretty young too. You won't attract right now women who want a provider so they can be a SAHM. If that's your type you'll be in the spot for it when you finish undergrad. If that's not your type, what is? What other positive qualities do you have? And do you feel like it's a long term partner you can't find or just hard picking up casual partners?
It's all up to you mate,
There is nothing wrong with living with your parents, the economy has forced many young people to stay at home while they build up their wealth. If the girls you want to date don't understand that then they're not worth your time.
You can recognize that you're in a bad situation and the world is against you but at the end of the day its up to you to make some changes if you want to improve your situation.
I know people who were in their 30’s getting their bachelors. You still have a lot of life left. Just get your life together and through it all, maybe you’ll find someone. I keep hearing to love yourself before you have a girlfriend/boyfriend, but who knows if that’s true or not. Just enjoy life and keep going!
You are 30. Accepting “never” would be a little insane.
I was literally living out of my car and still hooking up with women. They all knew what was up. No lies, no bullshiting about my situation. All were in better situations than I was, too. No street trash for me. I'd rather invest in an industrial size tub of Jergins.
My god I met my wife at 35. Just chill. Live your best life. A partner will come.
It's the never again that's the stupid part. Are you in a situation that makes that hard at thr moment? Yes. Is it impossible, no. But maybe you should focus on getting to someplace better so it becomes much more easier. That doesn't mean it will never happen again!
I think that the sort of women you are trying to attract also look at your potential, so an undergrad...are you likely to get a high paying job from that? Then they may see that you will be able to provide in the future as long as you are independent (do own washing etc) and show you are likely to succeed in that plan. Living at home, especially if in education is more accepted today.
Most women or should i say people, are happy as long as you are not a burden, if you pay your way, are clean , respectable, fun and otherwise vibe well with them on a social level that is all that matters most of the time....
Food for thought, most couples who argue, argue about money, this is often as one is a much higher earner... shows that people don't really judge others how we judge our selves when it comes to potential partners
Nah man, lots of chances left.
Why will you never have a girlfriend again?
You’ll get it bro, dating apps are a thing nowadays and go out, go to a bar every once and a while maybe chat it up with a couple of girls, everybody be lonely at some point dawg, just gotta work through it there’s light at the end of the tunnel!
Don't accept it. You are an undergrad, keep going, improve yourself. There is someone out there for you. Don't be discouraged and don't give up. Just keep going.
Dude chill. You're fine, and you're doing something so you're fine
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No seriously man you're fine. There's plenty of people in your positions don't put so much pressure on yourself. Plus 30 isn't even that old, you're doing an undergrad so you're working towards something, you're obviously ambitious, just work on yourself and things will happen my dude - no need to rush. In 3/4 years shiet, you'll have finished your course, got a job, and can be in a great place financially and physically in that time. Keep working and you'll smash it mate, you got this. Don't let perceptions of where we should or shouldn't be affect you. We are all where we are and that's that. Don't compare yourself to anybody else
Try being a ducebag. Girls love guys like that for some reasons.
Its a numbers game. I have lots of good looking guy friends who are always single because they never approach women. I am ugly and have had a fair share of partners.
Just go to lots of social situations with women. Talk to them. If you get decent vibes, ask for their number. Repeat until successful. My guy friends talk to women but never ask them out. They stay single. Don't be embarressed if someone says no, its nothing to be ashamed of.
And yes there really is someone out there for everyone. Some women may find it a turn off that you live with your mom, but there will be others that dont care, and others who are in the same situation. Same with physical attraction. Even if you're unnattractive, there will be some who find you attractive (that you find attractive too).
Its all a numbers game.
A lot of girls live bums. They want to take care of something
Why are you so seemingly eager to accept such a pronouncement?
You know absolutely nothing about what your future holds, or do you have a crystal ball we aren't aware of? No? I thought not. I hate to sound patronizing, but at 30, you're still very young and SO many ppl your own age who might seem like they have it all figured out...really don't ...and are just winging it. Yor life..and your hoped-for romantic future, won't magically manifest overnight, of course, but it can and likely will...still happen.
Good lord, I made so many fuckups to hold my own self back, for sure. But life as a "happier" adult didn't really even begin for me until my later 30s and 40s. You younger ppl sell yourselves so short and put so many unnecessary terminal limits on your existences. "If XYZ doesn't happen by age [WHATEVER], I am a failure for all time"---- this isnt even remotely accurate.
Give yourself a break and relax. I mean... consciously?---you don't have to do stupid things that you know will be detrimental to any kind of success, whether it be job- related or relationship-related, but just try to better yourself in small ways every day, and while you're not even trying, and not even actively looking is when you usually WILL meet the right person.
Tbh when I read the title I thought something super drastic happened. “Did his penis fall off” my brain asked. No the post answered. I think you’ll get a girlfriend if you try hard enough
If you're willing to compromise and accept some baggage, it's actually easier to find women 30+. But you do need to work on yourself and bring something to the table.
There's been plenty of 40 year men who say they don't live with their mom, their mom lives with them and sometimes there's a girl that might think that's admirable.
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A trip to Thailand would do you good.
If a gal WERE interested, how would she let you know, outside of body language? I work with several younger males who act horribly shy, can hardly look a gal in the face, let alone speak up. Guys never used to be this insecure 🤔
You will. Be as patient as you can, find a solid job to build a career in, and things can turn around. Best of luck.
Learn to dance. Learn to dance well. Dancing well can help you build your social life. I recommend West Coast Swing. Google it.
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Are you inferring that your mom says you are not allowed to dance? Is that what you mean by repeating "I live with my mom"?
Foot Loose vibes intensifying
Many women are attracted to a man’s potential. Women hope a man improves over time.
A lot of men don’t understand this because men are attracted to a woman as she is and hope she doesn’t ever change.
My ex is late 30s, never left home, never intends to, he dumped me and I miss him.
He told me he had recently moved back home when we met though, I don’t suggest lying because that was our first rough spot in a rocky relationship thereafter. He was sensitive about it and was very frustrated in his life partly because of never having been on his own and feeling stuck. I love/d him anyway, but he was not happy.
So just stick with your ambitions, be honest, and you can attract a woman who likes you for that.
How is that relevant? Are you being held captive? Do you need help?
So do I :) So do lots of people I know. It’s not easy living at the moment.
I went to age 48 (though I had a good 8 years on Craigslist casual encounters), now I am 50 and kinda sometimes try to get rid of her but she likes me too much.
Plenty of dudes have had gfs with even less rizz my dude. You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.
Living with your parents is fine today. Wages have not kept up with inflation, rent increases, and increases in taxes and healthcare. You’re doing fine. No one cares. Trust me. The only thing stopping you from having a gf is you.
How to accept it? By just living and enjoying your life.
And suddenly, women.
It's like water. When you grasp it, it slips between your fingers.
Accepting the idea that you may never have a girlfriend again can be challenging, but it’s important to focus on the aspects of your life that you can control and improve. Embrace this time as an opportunity for self-growth and development. Concentrate on your education and career goals, and take pride in the steps you're taking towards your degree. Building a strong foundation for your future will not only boost your confidence but also enhance your overall well-being. Engage in activities that bring you joy and fulfillment, and consider joining clubs or groups related to your interests to expand your social circle.
Remember that life is unpredictable, and circumstances can change in unexpected ways. Many people find meaningful relationships later in life when they least expect it. By focusing on becoming the best version of yourself and pursuing your passions, you may naturally attract people who appreciate you for who you are. Be kind to yourself, practice self-compassion, and maintain an open mind. Your current situation does not define your entire life, and personal growth often leads to new and unforeseen opportunities.
Is this entire account just chat gpt? The english comments seem to be
Days are passing without love, for you and for the woman you could be with.
Do not stop looking.
You gotta long way to go chief
The fact that you believe you'll never have a girlfriend again is a self-fulfilling prophecy.
You don't. You take some time to get over her and then you find another girlfriend
Why wouldn’t you have a gf again? Nothing of what you said is preventing you from getting one. Is it harder to get one? Maybe but never is a long time….
Why do you live with your mom? Why not work full time? Do you drive? You’ve lived probably over a third of your life. It’s great you’re doing schooling, but this is the point in life where you should be getting Some enjoyment or sense of direction for things you want going.
I have seen houseless people in Portland in relationships. Everybody deserves love. You can always slowly change your shituation. There are plenty of people out there with partners who don’t even care about an education or are able to maintain a job.
If you truly desire a partner then you 100% have to put yourself out there by finding someone who shares your interests. If you are ok with not dating that's 100% OK too. So many more people meet when they are older, mature and ready to settle down.
There's over 8 billion people on this planet. How do you think that's possible?
Saying never is only limiting yourself. Have hope and put in gradual effort.
You're going to be fine man. 4 years ago I was digging ditches for a living now I have a high paying job I love. I was also living out the back of a car 3 years ago but now I have a 2.5 br between me and my gf. A lot can change very quickly in life
Don't lose hope. Life can change in unexpected ways, and it's never too late to improve your circumstances. Focus on your studies and career for now. As you progress, you'll gain more confidence and opportunities to meet new people. It's important to take small steps and be patient with yourself.
take it easy, there should be no rush for stuff like this. its situational, some people find love at 15, 25 or 55, even higher
Why do you say this?
You don't need to accept that. Just accept where you are and keep living. There's no reason to give up on one aspect of life because of your current circumstances. Nobody would get anywhere if that was their mindset.
There's a lot more to life than romance. Look at the bright side - you won't have to go through the substantial emotional toil which most relationships entail. Read a book, play a video game, learn an instrument, write poetry, learn mathematics, paint; there's so much fun stuff you can do on your own.
Have patience and being dramatic probably won't help. Go meet her not at your mom's house.
You’re so young
I dated an actual homeless guy with no job at that age you’re gonna be fine
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For the love of god please join some clubs at your college. It will be an uncomfortable process but this is your chance. The days of excuses are over starting today
I didn't find my forever love until I was 40, and that was after 13 straight years of being single.
Just keep improving yourself. Get in/stay in shape. Keep your finances in order no matter how much or little you make.
You'll be fine.
Have you been on any dates in the past?
Asphyxiation.
Counter offer: don’t accept it
Stop valuing having a girlfriend, problem solved
I’m 31 and live with my grandmother. She’s 81 and needs someone around and lives in a huge house by herself. Is also an alcoholic. I’m building my career and starting a business soon. People only see the end result. Who gives a shit what it took to get there. Explain your goals to whoever you date make sure you make it clear you have a vision and a plan. And put some humor into it, say hey have you seen the price of housing? I can save 1400$ a month and buy a house in a year…
That is the wrong question,
Real question is “how do I realize I don’t ever need a girlfriend again?”
Once you master that, there will be an abundance of something you no longer care about
Why not? Chicks dig guys in uni, it means you have a future ahead of you
A lot can happen in a year, and you have plenty to go, sir.
Girls get desperate the older they get, just wait 😆
You’ll have another girlfriend. Work on you for a while…and get full time job.
Just find a girl that still lives with her mom.
Grow up and put in the work. And I mean as legit advice, you are only 30 by the time you are 40 you can completely have your life in order. Even in a conservative sense you have atleast half of your life left, do something to be proud of yourself.
On delta forces very first mission disaster struck and a helicopter crashed into a cargo plane with operators on board. One sergeant was asleep at the time and woke up to flames and seeing everyone jumping out of the plane since the Engines were idling he thought the plane was airborne and when he jumped without a parachute on he still had perfect arching form but hit the ground instantly. When asked what his plan was when he thought he was jumping at altitude he said “ one problem at a time sir”
Just tackle one thing at a time and you will start to build steam and eventually it will all be different. Also on line dating sucks for most of us rich, good looking, in shape, and living in a luxury home is no guarantee either. In the mean time focus on self improvement. Good luck king.
Get yourself a golden retriever, they rock
be happy youre not gay; the pool is much much MUCH smaller and things at times feel totally hopeless
Lol. And you are just a couple of years from getting on your feet
Never is a very long time, bro. Guys are getting laid into their 90s.
Keep on plugging away at your goals, you have awhile before you peak in your career, your love life, or anything else, but your glory days certainly are not all behind you.
How can you accept something that you don’t know is true? Cheer up buttercup. You’re starting undergrad! Get excited about your studies, find some like minded people, focus on loving yourself for a while. Everything will be just fine.
This is so not true and not that bad of a situation lol. Women love losers just as much as winners, it’s the guys in between that they can’t stand ! Change your mentality and the rest will come
Work harder
You can haz girlfriend
Are you happy?
Men die younger. Its a numbers game. Hang in there long enough, move to FL and date 5 at once
Brother, you’ve got a good long while. Work on yourself for now.
Dude, get real.
Sounds like you already have with that statement
Never back down never what? NEVER GIVE UP. You can never lose if you never quit (looking/trying). Trust the process and eventually you will find someone.
I started undergrad n my late 20s and it totally turned my life around. Study hard and network. Women don’t want to date guys who act like this. Next time and energy into improving yourself and building your self confidence. You’re already in school bettering yourself keep at it.
You know what the biggest turnoff is for women? Men who say things like "I will never have a girlfriend again."
Don't be a bummer and you'll get dates.
LOL your good my man. My brother lived at home, paid no rent, no contribution to the home. bucket of a car. Still brought a chick home like every week.
My parents made me spend the day with him to learn how to flirt with women.
All he did was walk up to random women and ask their number."It's a number game" is what he kept spewing.
Bro my eyes rolled so hard I still cant see straight.
Later one of my friends would repeat the phrase "its a number game" in a different setting. But it was obvious they shared the same mind set because both my friend and my brother had basically the same girls.
Kind of girls you dont want.
If you had one before, you can get one again.
30? Really? That is pitiful, dude. Spend time doing things you like
Girls date absolute losers all the time. Don't count yourself out yet.