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AITAH for not wanting to go to my sister's wedding because she's getting married on my birthday?
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NTA you gave her plenty of notice! Why couldn’t she have moved it one day?? Why do YOU have to celebrate your 21st birthday a different day! They are very very selfish! Enjoy your birthday.
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I was almost surprised that I DIDN'T suggest your birthday moved (in my other comment) but it occurred to me that your SISTER KNOWS when your birthday is (I presume, anyway)! Ans she somehow picked that ONE DAY out of ~60 (at least) to fit into the "summer". When you said that your 21st birthday was important to you, she basically responded with "Fuck you, I'm more important," then getting mad when you don't like that. It's also (as mentioned by so many others) DEFINITELY a "Fuck you" to establish your birthday as their anniversary until someone cheats and they divorce bitterly. THEN, she'll loudly and boisterous tell everybody how much this date brings her sorrow and pain EVERY BIRTHDAY SHE ATTENDS. She is clearly telling you that you must defer to her forevermore.
Fuck that bitch.
My kids know each others birthdays better than their father does.
You are not my mom, are you?
You might be surprised to know that when you become an adult you don't have to spend your birthday with your brothers and sisters.
Not surprised at all. But going forward, sister is setting up a potential conflict for anybody who DOES still like their family EVERY YEAR.
OP can throw a big party every year and not invite his sister and her husband because he wouldn't want to ruin their private intimate anniversary celebrating.
Other than maybe the 50th most anniversaries are just the couple celebrating but birthdays can be big parties every year.
OP will have a lifetime of return fuck yous to give.