Went out on a first date with someone, what now? Di ko alam na gagawin after
Paano niyo naiiwasan agad ang red flags?Love & Relationships
Nahihirapan ako as someone who doesn't have strict self boundaries. This guy hit me up first tapos nagkakachat kami for a time now. My friend (na ka org niya) said na this guy is known for being a flirt and minsan pinagsasabay sabay yung kachat niya. My friend also said na he's friends with people na may 'questionable backgrounds'. It's a glaring red flag right there agad, I know, pero nagrereply pa rin ako every time magchachat siya. Isa pang red flag na naidentify ko is that hindi siya clear sa intentions niya. Hindi niya clearly sinabi kung ano want niya from me basta nagchat na lang siya bigla.
Gusto ko na sanang i-end ito and hindi na magreply sa kanya ever pero nahihirapan ako. Siguro naattached na ako a bit. He's nice to talk to, he's smart, he drives, and knows how to cook, social butterfly, tapos giving golden retriever energy. Pero yun nga, red flag kasi sa reputation niya based sa friend ko na medyo close sa kanya and unclear intentions.
Now that the red flags are there, paano ba ako magkakacourage na i-end agad 'to? How do I reconcile with the fact na he's not for me and he isn't going to treat me like how I wanted him to treat me?
That's why Tacloban City really tried so hard to become a Highly Urbanized City (HUC) so that they won't be under the jurisdiction of the provincial government anymore. LOL
and this is how a language eventually dies ... :'(( so sad
Hirap pag di clear ang intentions, nakakadrain
Medyo napapagod na ako. Siya una nagchat at gumulo sa buhay ko. Tapos ako itong naiwan mag overthink ano ba talaga ang gusto niya from me. Nakakadrain kasi ng energy na hindi naman clear ang intentions niya sayo. Hindi ko rin naman tinatanong kasi in my mind, siya ang unang nagchat so siya dapat magstastate ng intentions niya without me having to ask.
Mga isang buwan na kaming magkachat pero di every day, minsan 1-2 days apart and minsan 1 week. No good morning or good night messages or updates. Like casual usapan lang talaga na nagrereply every time sa story or IG notes.
Pagod na ako teh. Di ko kasi kaya yung ganun. Nakakadrain lang ng energy to talk with someone casually lang. It's a waste of time. Although aminado ako, medj attached rin ako sa kanya as someone na may attachment issues. Masaya ako tuwing nagchachat siya pero feel q bored lang din ata ako. Gulong-gulo na ako saan ba 'to patungo HAHAHAHAHA ang lala. HELP
I remember han may pa accreditation pa hira for An Lantawan 🥴 LIKE GWORL she really said press freedom who
same, Gaya sa Pelikula did it for me. It's just heartwarming, cute, and wholesome. I am not sure pero karamihan kasi ng mainstream representation ng queer ppl here sa Philippines ay either for humor lang talaga sila or di kaya naman very hypersexual sila. But Gaya sa Pelikula went beyond, ipinakita nila dun yung struggles and vulnerabilities na naeexperience ng queer people in this heteronormative society and paano nila ninanavigate yun. Isa ang Gaya sa Pelikula sa mga dahilan kung bakit mas malalim ang pag-unawa ko sa mga ipinaglalaban ng LGBTQ+ community and kung bakit proud ally ako ngayon. Mahal na mahal ko ang mga bakla. Happy Pride! 🏳️🌈
I'm glad your brother and his daughter is thriving! However, ayun nga, not everyone has the same emotional and financial capacity (based on what you mentioned na tuloy tuloy pa rin ang allowance and tuition niya from ur parents) as your brother. May ibang cases kasi na tumitigil talaga sa pag-aaral or worse, di na bumabalik sa school kasi di na kinakaya ang gastusin. Hindi rin naman pwedeng ipaubaya ang gastusin sa magulang kasi paano kung walang-wala rin sila? Kaya imbes na ipang tuition, ginagastos nalang ang pera para sa kakailanganin ni baby.
We should acknowledge na iba-iba tayo ng positionality sa buhay and not everyone could get the same privileges as us. Even oo, let's say, your brother also struggled with raising the baby, but at some point, he still had your parents back during his college years kasi nagsusustento pa rin naman sa kanya. Paano ang iba na isang kayod, isang tuka lang?
We also couldn't solely put the blame to these individuals and say na, "wala na ngang mapakain, mag aanak-anak pa" kasi sila ang pinakavulnerable sector sa society. They are at a disadvantaged position kasi walang proper education at wala silang access sa iba't ibang resources that could inform them na hindi pala maganda ang pakikipagtalik nang walang proteksiyon, and yung walang tamang family planning.
Hindi rin nakakatulong na napaka negative ang attitude natin towards sex and reproduction dito sa Pilipinas and dinidiscourage ang pakikipagtalik all together instead of encouraging everyone to practice safe sex kasi hindi naman talaga maiiwasan ang makipagtalik at some point.
Kung ipush through ang pregnancy kahit di naman emotional and financially ready for the baby, mas lalo lang kawawa yung bata kasi lalaki siya na walang secure support from their parents. Magcacause lang ng trauma for them pag laki to the point that they might want to wish na di nalang sila pinanganak in the first place. Isa na yong valid justification for abortion.
Another thing is I am certain na most people would rather want to be aborted if it means more opportunities for their mom. Personally, if ako nakapagdecide, mas gugustuhin ko nala na i-abort ako if it would give my mom a chance to pursue her dreams and the career she wanted kung di ako pinanganak. She deserves that. She deserves to live a good life for herself.
so ano man ang purpose mo nito? yabang mo ah! 😤😤 EME this is so cute, stay in love po sa inyong dalawa <333
(in high pitched voice) SUPPOSEDLY???
YESSS I DEFINITELY WOULD !!! Women are so amazing <333
It's not the place, it's really the person. Kaya matutong mag set ng personal boundaries para mafilter out lahat ng mg red flag as early as possible.
Economic conditions at climate change. I don't want my children to bear the burden of all of these.
a woman's "attractiveness" is not defined by how much they've had seggs tho
Always remember na napaka eurocentric ng standards of beauty dito sa Pinas. It will always favor the makinis, maputi, mahaba at makapal ang buhok, matangkad, matangos ang ilong. In short, considered maganda ka dito sa Pinas pag mukhang banyaga or Western. Kita mo sa TV, may mas chance makapasa sa mga auditions yung mga may half kasi they are the standard. They fit the mold.
One thing na nakatulong sa akin to lessen my insecurity is to realize that these standards are just SOCIALLY CONSTRUCTED. They are product of so many things — media representations, our colonial history, etc. and the thing about standards being socially deconstructed is that they can be deconstructed too. And it should start within yourself.
Maganda ka and there's nothing wrong with you. Once you realize that it's not a 'you' problem but the problematic way of how society perceives what is beautiful and what isn't, it will be easier to accept yourself with deep gratitude and kindness.
But based on your story, it sounds like your jowa is one of those Aholes you're talking about. I won't say you should breakup with him coz the choice is totally up to you pero are you willing to stay in your current relationship where you feel doubtful, insecure, and invalidated?
Relationships should give you peace of mind, not overthinking. You're 18, you're young, and I'm sure there's got a good life ahead of you. I hope you really think everything through and place your well-being as your top priority when you decide these things. Yun lang. Happy pride! <333
The way my friends (college and high school) are similar to the ones described sa comment section makes my heart warm. Having good and genuine friends is something that I'm always gonna be grateful for. I am so loved by them and they're the best support system ever!
Kahit olats ako sa romantic love (sa ngayon), I realized there are other forms of love na malapit lang sa akin and yun yung love na binibigay ng friends ko sa akin. I swear I'm not crying while writing this.
If wala pala kayong magandang intensyon, leave ppl tf alone.
Kayo ang unang magchachat at manghihit up tapos malalaman laman mo, marami palang kachat other than you. If you're just gonna hit someone up and try to win their attention for whatever stupid reason, maybe pang boost ng ego niyo or pangdagdag sa options niyo, please wag nalang kayong magmake move. LEAVE ME THE FUCK ALONE and stay out of my life!
Nakakainis lang na icoconsider na sana kita pero malalang red flag pala. Now I have to deal with these unnecessary emotions and attachments imbes na magfocus nalang ako sa life ko. Nakakainis kasi nanahimik yung tao. Ang selfish niyong mga putanginang lalake kayo. Grow the fuck up!
YAWA. YAWA. YAWA. BYE.
Pretty privilege is real. It's as if you can get away with almost anything kasi good-looking ka LOL. May kaibigan ako who got cheated on and may nagsabi sa kanya na "cheater pero at least gwapo, di sayang yung luha mo" 💀
what's the world like for attractive people?
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