My BF and I use this to remind each other to turn lights off in the house.
100%. That’s very much “demanding to speak to a manager” without giving someone a chance to rectify an error.
Email is not time dependent. You don’t have to wait until the morning. You can send an email right away.
Im a professor. We are people. We make mistakes. Keep working on your paper, email the professor and let them know. Sometimes the systems even mess up. I had a colleague recently where half of her class material was wiped out and the LMS people were just like oops system glitch. I had grades that weren’t syncing and the only reason I knew is because a student told me. Because they told me I was able to fix it. Help us. We are people and aren’t perfect.
Unlikely to be secret. Just an accident. This happens.
Right?!?! We teach them the skills to do the reading about the mortgages so that they can figure it out. Transferable skills and all that jazz!!
My stats student after the final tonight told me he’s been using what he learned in class to understand some of the compiled stats that people put together for a video game he plays. I was so proud.
We tried it with our cat who would get like super zoomies. He did ok but never really took to it. The amount of treats he needed to use it kind of negated the point. So we just reverted to daily "laps" which was basically just us throwing a toy or running a laser pointed up and down the hallway for 10 minutes or so every evening.
Though according to our vet, the biggest issue for most cats that are too chubbers is that we as people feed them too much. An average adult cat only needs around 180 calories, which in the case of the food we use is 1.6 tablespoons of dry and 1/4 can of wet morning and evening which seems like a stupidly small amount of food from the person view. But he has slimmed down and is holding steady right in the healthy weight range, even now that we have cut down on the daily laps. So the vet must have been right.
I don’t want to own ONE property! The through of dealing with all that shit gives me a stomach ache. I know too many people who have had horrible issues with properties they own. When there are issues with my apt I just call the landlord and it is officially his problem.
This is a really good point. I when I have students (I teach college) give feedback about aspects of the class that they would like to see changed, I always ask them to also indicate what they think should be put in place instead of the thing they don't like. I used to get a lot of "we shouldn't have tests!" comments, but when they actually have to figure out what to put in place of that, they tend to be more thoughtful about their criticism. With this approach I have actually gotten some really good ideas about what kinds of things are desired alternatives to unpopular assignments and class policies. Also, I have learned that you just can't please everyone, and someone is always going to dislike something about my course design choices. Knowing that I made my choices mindfully and that I have a good reason for those choices, the people who are less excited about it can just be less excited. I know that's a hard balance to strike, and hopefully you have supportive management to back you up. But at least in your head, remember that it is impossible to make everyone happy when dealing with group situations.
Here are some links to research on the use of role playing games with a variety of contexts and populations. Maybe some of this can be helpful in supporting your inclusion of the games in the program.
https://gametogrow.org/resources/research/
I am currently without a car stereo because my current on freaked out and died and I told my mechanic that I didn't want one without a CD player, and now he's trying to source a used one for my 2006 civic from a junkyard and having no luck.
I second the tip about using your creativity to come up with how you would do without something rather than the 10 things you could do with it. If i didn't have this exact black t-shirt that goes with this skirt, what would I do? I would wear a different shirt. It would be fine. It might not be exactly as good, but it will be fine. I have found this mindset works really well for the "what if I need a sheet of cardboard exactly like this one and I've already thrown this away??" I'll just...get a different peice of cardboard from the grocery store or a neighbor or the empty box bin at costco or one of a dozen other places. This also helps me with those little gadgety things that are supposed to make life "easier" like special dishes or peelers or erasers or such. If I didn't have this very specific dish to bake this one kind of item, what would I do? I would use a different dish. I would cut the avocado with the knife. Another way I sometimes think about it is that if I were at a friend's house and they didn't have this thing when I wanted to do a specific thing related task, what would I do? I would probably just work with the things that they had, and it would be fine. And it also helps me realize what to keep. If I got rid of my super powered blender and I wanted to make smoothies, I would not have anything else to use. So lets keep that, rather than the double boiler that can be recreated using a pot and a mixing bowl.
Another thing that has helped has been prioritizing my actual current self over a hypothetical possible future self. <y actual current self is annoyed that all the clothes don't fit in the closet. That actual self deserves to have space to easily put all the clothes away. That self is more important than the hypothetical self that possibly might want to wear one of 10 different black t-shirts. Current self only wears 2 of those t-shirts, and current self deserves to be able to find those two favorites, more than hypothetical future self deserves to possibly maybe pick from those other 8 if the whim strikes. Current me deserves a home that makes me happy, not one that makes me frustrated. Hypothetical possible future self is far less important.
Ours too. This is where starting with that same location every time really helped. Because it very clearly pointed out what was being used, and it kind of gave me permission to start letting go of some of the stuff that wasn't being used, because it was more important for the things being used to have a home than it was to store that thing that I might maybe use at some point in the future.
So every time I went to try to put away the thing that was sitting on the table I tried to find one or more things in the space where I was trying to put it that could go in the donate box, to make that space more easily used. Slowly but surely the stuff I used was more easily put away and I didn't really miss any of the random stuff I had pulled out and shoved in the donate box. I also like this method because instead of making it into a big process I just did it a little at a time. And slowly but surely things got better. Even the back of the closets are starting to get better because I got to the point that I could reach the stuff shoved way in the back, because the stuff shoved in the front and middle had been thinned out enough to reach back there. lol.
I am about to go through that process with my glass jars. The clean ones have been piling up on the kitchen counter, because the space I store them has gotten too full and its gotten to be too much of a pain in the ass to put them away. Which tells me I need to take the basket down from above the cabinet and put some of those jars in the donate box/recycling bin. The ones all the way down on the bottom that are not out on the counter because they are the ones I use less often. I will keep my favorites that get used a lot, and let some of the others go, so that the jar storage space is easier to shove things into. It's not going to be pretty and organized. But I'm going to make sure that I no longer fear a jar falling out and landing on my head when I take the basket down.
This. I don't see the point in wasting the water to flush if I'm just going to be sending shower water down the drain.
In cognitive psychology there is a concept called sensory adaptation. The basic idea is that when we experience a new sensation, our perception of it is heightened, and then over time we adapt, and it becomes less noticeable. This is not an exact example of this, but I think the analogy can help. You are used to seeing a larger amount of clothes. Seeing the smaller amount, right now this is a "new sensation" so your perceptions are heightened. It feels very strong. Over time you will likely get used to this amount. Your senses and perceptions will adapt. I had that issue when I donated a bunch of books. The gaps in my bookshelf looked weird. They looked empty and I had the impulse to fill them. But over time I got used to the visual. and now it just seems normal.
Another thing I did was I started tracking what I wore. I discovered that even though I were a huge variety of garments, and almost never repeat an outfit in it's entirety, I still have lots of options. Far more than I realized just by kind of estimating. If you don't want to track outfits over time, it could help to take some time one afternoon or weekend and make a bunch of outfits. Figure out for each top how many bottoms you could wear. How many different pairs of shoes. How many different accessories. You don't necessarily even have to try it all on. Just go through everything and count by putting together outfits with the items still on the hangers or folded or whatever. If you start counting outfits, you may find that you have far far more outfit options that you realize.
I found that the more I decluttered the less cluttered the spaces would be because there were simply fewer things to manage. I find Dana White's framework of redecluttering and starting in the same place each time worked really well for me. A lot of our stuff used to get piled on the dining room table, so I always started there. That told me what things either didn't have a good home or were to hard to put away because the home was either too full or too inaccessible because I was stashing stuff in every nook and cranny trying to "maximize space." Once I started letting go I noticed how much more slowly those random clutter piles formed. They still happen. But they take more time and take a lot less time to clean up.
When I was a kid, my parents would order supreme pizza and then everyone would be responsible for picking off what they didn't like. Over time, we would trade around the unliked toppings. My brother got my olives. I got my sister's mushrooms, my dad got mom's onions and mom got my brothers green peppers. I cannot fathom not being able to just set aside an ingredient I didn't like from a dish if it is possible to pick it out.
Donate them. Embroidery can be removed relatively easy with a seam ripper. And even if their names are not super common, there might be someone out there who is excited to find something with their kids name on it. And depending on what it is, many people don't care if it has a name on it as long as it functions as intended.
Include stretching and mobility work too. I wish I had realized how much of a difference having good muscle flexibility would help with just day to day living. I have added that to my strength work and it makes a world of difference.
I think one of the most important things about the where would I look for it first method is that there is no "wrong." If where you would look for computer stuff is in that box in the closet, then that's where you look for it. It doesn't have to "make sense." It just has to work with where you would look for it. It may be a situation that you are overthinking things a bit, trying to come up with somewhere that makes "sense."
If you keep the jewelry in the back of a drawer, or in a cookie jar in the kitchen, or under the bed in a storage tub or any other random place it is never wrong if you are able to find it. So if the place you would look for "things I don't use very often" is in a box in the walk in closet, then maybe a little tub or box or something in a corner is the place where you would look for it. If the issue is that you worry that you would lose things that are all just in a box, maybe your solution is to really lean into storage containers within storage containers and lots of labeling. I store all of my travel kinds of things in a backpack hung on the back of my closet door. I have a little pouch for hair stuff, a little pouch for medicines and first aid, for shower stuff, for makeup stuff, etc. There is a whole lot of odds and ends dumped in that bag, but because each type is in a pouch, its not all just rolling around and each pouch is different, so I know which is which. So maybe try some pouches from the dollar store or thrift store, some labeled small cardboard boxes, or even ziploc storage bags each with a colored piece of paper inside that has a label and a list of what is in it.
Then the "place you would look" is in that particular storage tub, and maybe later you can figure out where that storage tub needs to live. That has how my downstairs storage space has been even remotely functional. I know stuff is in there. But I had to label the tubs and the tubs within tubs, because otherwise it just became a black hole. The storage containers get shuffled around in the space, so they aren't always in the same places, but I know what's in each one to a point. I even avoided using matching ones, because having them all be different means that I can keep better track of which one I'm looking for. Like, I know that the clothes are in clear ones but the Christmas stuff is in the green and silver ones, and the sports stuff is in the blue laundry basket. Once I narrow it down, the labels help with whether the Christmas ornaments are in the green tub or the silver one (offhand I have no idea). :)
And for the headlamp, I totally know what you mean. The times I have had stuff like that, I wrote down the spot I looked for it first in a note on my phone, so that when I eventually found it I would remember what the actual first place I looked was since I looked in so many places. LOL.
One bit of advice that has helped me with organization is use Dana White's suggestion of "If I needed this, where would I look for it first." She uses it as a decluttering strategy, but it has helped me a lot as an organizational strategy too. I also have micro organization tendencies, so I tried to take to heart Cass's advice of not getting too bogged down in making the perfect organizing system right away, and so I decided to use the "where would I look for it first" as a way to start with the general organizing.
For example, I have a lot of papers for work, and I kept having trouble figuring out how to organize them. So I started with, where would I look for them first, which helped me kind of figure out which file drawers made sense for each kind of papers.
Then once I had home for each broad type, I started figuring out what micro-categories I needed for the types by asking myself if I needed this document, what kind of document do I think to look for. So for my stuff for classes, I have the papers for each class, and at first they just each had a drawer.
Then over time, once most of it was in the drawer I realized that I needed smaller categories for "in-class activity stuff" "big assignment stuff" "photocopies of readings" and "my copies of readings." But those categories were not as easy to figure out until I knew I had basically all the papers that I needed in the drawer were I would look for them. I didn't have to worry if I had all the micro-categories until I had gotten to the point that all of the things of a certain type were there consistently, so then I could put them into more logical micro-categories. But until I started with the broader "where would I look for this first" I was paralyzed by how to get started.
It seems like you mention having trouble deciding where to put stuff, so maybe this kind of instinctive "where would l look for it first" will help you get over that hurdle, rather than trying to come up with the most "logical, rational" way to organize it.
https://www.aslobcomesclean.com/2015/04/where-i-would-put-it-vs-where-i-would-look-for-it/
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