Yeah I don’t get how we jumped from comfort YouTuber to idol worship lmao

Yeah crazy take to begin attacking a victim because she’s not behaving perfectly and therefore must be a troll. Also wild if they’re so committed to the bit as a troll that they’re constantly posting on mum subreddits too. Like??

I liked when he ranted to Callen and Shaub that he didn’t have any dark secrets and specifically didn’t look at “anything like kiddy porn” apropos of nothing, and when Callen agreed Shaub was so flabbergasted that he exclaimed, “are you kidding me?” This was like maybe a year and a half before the allegations.

It’s crazy fr. The Duggar tale is such a Faustian bargain, they promoted modesty and wholesomeness in spite of grappling with extremely dark issues - Josh was obviously the worst, but even the way they parentified kids and educationally neglected them was on full display.

They stole from their own children to maintain control over them and now they’re throwing that money away because JimBob can’t face up to the fact that Josh is the family trauma. There’s no browbeating or denying these allegations away as much as they try to act like Josh has been framed. Unreal to watch how they’re responding to this. I’ll never forget Anna’s smug smile at the trial or Lost Boy #3737 doing that sarcastic thumbs up to the camera.

Also scares me how any issue in any fundie family is automatically the woman’s fault. Fundamentalism across the board is about controlling women and keeping them down. It’s crazy to see.

If a man side eyes me he better pluck out that eye, pretty sure Jesus said that 😌

I always wondered if Brendan settled the debt he had regarding BGL’s salary and as part of it BGL had to sign an NDA.

Yeah and I think therein is the worry about OP’s husband - it sounds like she had no idea any of this was going on. Men often aren’t given the tools early in life to witness their own emotions and talk about them (“boys don’t cry”/etc). We don’t want to remove this outlet for him if he’s really struggling.

Yeah OP I’m personally with this one. I write things in my diary that I feel in the moment as a way of working through them - it’s just processing stuff you’d think is too heavy to share. Then I sometimes go back weeks later and my jaw drops at how intense my thoughts were. If I feel like that about it, I’m mortified to think how my husband would take it and I think it’d be hard (for me personally, maybe your husband is different) to get over the invasion of privacy.

I think giving him some room to work through these feelings but checking in is the way to go right now. He needs to be able to explore what’s getting him down without feeling like he needs to repress it because it’s disturbing to you. Worse thing would be for him to clam up more and not be honest about how he’s going. You know him better than any of us, so maybe use your instincts to figure out when and if broaching it is a good idea - the main goal is that we all want him to feel better.

You could also maybe think about doing more things as a couple to help circuit break his dark thoughts. When I was really going through it, planning things to look forward to helped - if money is tight, maybe something small, like a road trip somewhere local on the weekend or a camping trip? I also found small goals useful as well - hobbies can be a really powerful way to build self esteem when you’re feeling down on yourself while also getting you out into the wider world.

I also had never heard it until this most recent time. I found out from tiktok of all places and really didn’t believe it until I began googling. Blew my mind bc he seems so wholesome

yeah and if he lies I’m sure Tana has receipts as well - tbh any statement won’t help but I have felt so icky I can’t watch his videos anymore :(

I went last year. It's a must go. Service is excellent and still very down to earth. The showman ship is unreal. I can't wait to go back.

Which state is this? That’s awful.

it's rough to watch women who just somehow know the guy cop strays when it's so obviously about the guy and his predatory behaviour. yes, women should protect other women, but cody hasn't even been held to account yet and we're already targeting someone who collabed with him a handful of times? huh?

Dog shit take my guy.

Oooh can you tell me a little bit more about what you mean by uncool mutations?

they're her cute bb feathers

my fave time for my quails was this awkward teenage phase, they're so ugly-cute

This was mine too. Possibly sentimental bc it was either these eps or the Jodi Arias eps that got me into the podcast.

These are such great episodes! Henry is on fire - so boisterous and silly. Marcus also clearly loves the content and is super passionate about it.

THIS. Deplatform the bigots but you need toxicity to push the plot on this show. They can't all just be glorified infomercial hosts pushing their vanity projects.

smizing instinct took over

Yeah, the self-producing is out of control. Housewives now are trying to have 'moments' and are giving the most 'gif-able' reactions. VPR was particularly bad for this last season as well. I have mixed feelings about the fact that Bravo now breaks the 4th wall and acknowledges audience/producer involvement in storylines - at first, I loved it, but in practice, cast members arguing about how the audience's view is impacting them and their sponcon opportunities makes me realise that if we get a 'real' moment from them, it's often against their will.

I get the pain you’re feeling - it’s a shock to go down the path of finding out that your partner’s sexual attraction extends beyond you. And the insecurity it makes you feel!! So so awful.

That being said, there’s a lot of be heartened by here - he’s being open and up front with you about what he was doing, which shows a level of transparency and honesty on his behalf. It would’ve been so easy to lie but he didn’t, and now he knows you’re unhappy with him doing so, he’s said he’ll stop. It’s also pretty cool that he let you go through his history because I think I would’ve drawn the line way before that and said to my husband it was none of his business - I don’t feel like I own his sexuality just because we’re in a relationship; that’s for him to explore and share when and how he feels comfortable doing son.

Ultimately, I think what he means by the girls not being real is that they’re not girls that he actually knows. He’s treating tiktok as a different style of porn. Although it sounds like it was painful to find out he’s doing this, I will say I don’t think it’s anything to be concerned about. It sounds like he likes getting off on some pretty innocent content.

I think I’m not getting the difference between porn women and ‘real’ women - maybe you can help me understand the importance a little more?

To me, it’s not a binary but more of a spectrum? A lot of porn actresses DONT look like the stereotype we have of a porn actress - that’s their point of difference. And porn spans this range of super realistic girlfriend experience stuff to more hardcore. As well, a lot of people who are semi famous have onlyfans accounts now - which further blurs the line.

Oh I was bothered. I love Porches but Rag is unlistenable for me.