My son . Looking at him I see myself as a child and want to give him the life I never had . I never want to turn into that mother so often displayed In movies who neglects her kids due to her own depression and demons . Getting up and showing up for him everyday in turns helps to heal my Inner child although it is not always easy .

I had lived in nyc my whole life moved to New England for 5 years than back to nyc . Best advice is Stay in New England ! A few years into being back here and I think of going back to New England everyday. The community , food and small businesses just are not the same . Good luck .

Honestly sounds like a predator in the making . I would not trust him . If he is on those forums he is surrounding himself with abusers and pedos . He needs to seek help immediately and break the cycle .

In my experience anyone who is this controlling has a guilty conscience themselves. Run 🏃‍♀️

Tbh I was scared someone I knew would see that post and know it was me so I changed a few details with age and being married . It was my first time posting something like that on Reddit .

I wish this was reality tv instead of my actual reality lmao

Update :

This ending up turning into a huge fight . I came home from work and brought it up with a few extra points that were mentioned in comments. He still was not open to uninviting his cousin . I turned it up by saying if he is not willing to remove this person that I do not feel like he respects me and not sure about moving forward with our marriage. He went to call his sister for advice instead of talking with me . I got pissed , told him it shouldn’t be this hard of a choice and left the house . This made him realize I was actually serious , he sent me a text message apologizing and finally kicked his cousin out . I still have not gone home to talk with him as I am still processing the whole situation and trying to calm my mind before talking .

I can understand this . But with your bridesmaid point , this is a party for ME. If that is not what I am looking for and this party is about me why am I going to remove myself . That’s like throwing a house party in your home and leaving because the guests are recking your home . Wouldn’t it just be easier to have someone who respects your wishes and be there for you . It’s also the fact of paying people to be with you . I have no issue with them trying to go out and talk to actual people , but hiring escorts is a bit much .

Been disassociating with the sims since the early 2000s , recently started playing Fortnite

I have a 5 year old son and we do a bath every other day . On average 4-5 x a week .

Chocolate chips cookie with warm Milk 💕💕

In order for this to work you must communicate and find a common ground . Possibly discuss the idea of attending a swinging club together with no intentions other than checking out the lifestyle options . Let him know you feel like you are loosing a piece of your identity because of this . If he is not willing to compromise I would leave before you end up falling into temptation elsewhere .

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Don’t worry too much about this . My now fiancé was the same way as you . Had crazy performance anxiety and probably took us at least 4/5 times going at it to have a successful round . That was 3 years ago . We currently have great , healthy and fulfilling sex on the regular. It gets better , you just need to make sure you communicate with each other properly and have patience.

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Once again it is an opinion. We all have different ideas and boundaries when it comes to what we personally consider cheating. How would you feel if the woman you were with was masturbating to a solo man jerking off and telling her how to play with herself? It’s a boundary I personally feel like is being pushed .

This is exactly it ! I am struggling with the trust aspect after all of this and it is especially hard given that I already have a lot of trauma when it comes to learning how to trust people . Once that loyalty it broken it is extremely hard for meto look at that person in the same light again. This will be the hardest part to overcome about it .

I never thought about doing so because as I said I don’t have have an actual problem with him masturbating it is more of what he is choosing to masturbate to . But maybe by asking him I can find out why he continues to do so . I’ll try it .

They should be we have a pretty healthy and active sex life

I mean that’s your opinion. To me having another women telling you how & when to stroke your dick is pretty dam close to it 🤷🏻‍♀️

But the thing in is he didn’t just agree . He told me he would stop that is the problem. Had he been transparent and said he doesn’t see it as an issue and was going to continue it wouldn’t bother me as much . It is the fact that he told me to my face that he will stop but he continues to hide it .

Yes supposedly that’s why he doesn’t watch standard porn and only watches that type but that seems like a very Immature excuse to me . Let’s be honest the men and women in porn are setting unrealistic expectations and standards for both genders , this is known .