Break up with your current girl, you don't love her. She doesn't deserve a man who doesn't like her. Don't know if the 5year one is right, it could simply be she's made you feel alive again. You need to date your type.
African hair needs some skill to maintain. Some of our textures can't be styled every morning. Maybe you should try twists.
Isn't looking like a kid/young a plus? You age slower than others.
I thought that was the standard. Are some people shaving every other week I wonder
My hair locks by itself if it's not plaited immediately. You must have really soft hair. It's hard for me to even imagine your hair. I've only witnessed that with white people.
Locs look great on others but I love changing hairstyles too much
Do that many men lose hair? But it sucks because below 35, they are also encouraged to shave it.
Lol. So you have an afro or locks? You seem to be enjoying it Beards generally look uncomfortable
Firstly, you need to work on your pitch. 2ndly do you dress well? I can tell you lack charm. Work on that. Dick won't get you anywhere. Too many offers for women, so something else has to be the diferentiator. Most of the time, it's charm and personality. Those are my tips.
Do you guys get bored of wearing the same hairstyle all the time or are you used to cutting it all?
Some men have told me they had to shave their afros upon joining work. The sad effects of colonialism.
I personally tend to like men with longer hair on their head. However I know most guys don't have this liberty
You can give up after you've reached out or tried. I find it embarrassing that some people mentor or help strangers but can't even talk to their relatives because they look down on them. Unless you're dead, you can still make something of your potential.
He tried to his best, and it didn't work. That's understandable. Sometimes, it takes several generations.
That's the beauty of it. You can find new tribes once you've outgrown the previous ones. Or stay in one forever. Being alone is often a choice. Or rather, some people don't know how to form healthy relationships or tribes. And that might not be their fault either. Humans are social creatures.
That thing of bad ancestral characteristics and energy is there, but some people make it out either through grit or faith. Prayer helps to dissolve the past sins. There are some energies that are hard to remove on your own.
Toxicity is passed from one generation to the next unless it's stopped somewhere
The lone wolf mentality works if you can build a true and loyal tribe of your own outside of the family.
If most of your extended family is struggling there is a problem somewhere. Maybe there is a lack of leadership.
You really didn't understand what I was talking about. I mean prioritising emotional support, sharing what you know, and passing on your knowledge or skills. Picking each other up even after failures. Nepotism does figure in some families, but to create a proper support system you need the right values within the family system.
Exactly. This is a principle which few can see. In these families where there is unity, people are always supporting each other. This means passing on knowledge of opportunities, emotional support and skills in real-time, such that even if one of them goes down financially, they don't stay there too long. That's because they already have the right, values, skills and coping strategies. So, picking themselves up isn't too much of an uphill struggle.
Exactly. You understood what I was saying. Also, these values should be the ones that help create nurture within the family system, which optimises the mental health of the people within it.
I'm speaking of family culture. Like your parent teaches you all the intricacies of their business. This inheritance is better than money because it ensures that you also know how to make or maintain wealth.
There's something I call family culture. I see this as a mixture of family values, rules, habits, ceremonies etc. After a lot of observation I have come to see why some extended families are more successful than others.
In many cases where families are successful and close, it is because that's what they prioritise. They support one another even when some of them fail. There is a culture of listening and support. They call each other out but not in a shameful way. They pass on what they've learnt from their jobs/businesses etc. The prioritise nurturing their nephews/nieces etc. People are less ashamed of revealing their failures.
On the other hand, families that don't succeed/lack togetherness/or stagnate often have some of these lacking. For instance, instead of support there's constant jealousy and unhealthy competition. So people hide their failures or are forced to seek support from outside the family. They don't pass on their knowledge to each other cos of jealous competition yet again. There's a quickness to see others as failures and cast them as a black sheep etc.
I know the world doesn't owe anyone anything. However, the family tends to be the backbone. When there is nurture from there, its easier to succeed. Some people escape the toxicity/succeed despite it, others don't.
EDIT: When a family system lacks support either because of jealousy or looking down on others, it creates a lone wolf mentality. Some succeed, don't share anything about how they are doing it etc, and when anything happens that brings them down financially, there's no one else to support them in the family because they didn't bring anyone up.
In short, when you succeed, find a way to create a chain. Either pass on your skills, or opportunities you know of, or lessons you've learnt, emotional support, support their education etc. This way, not everyone is starting from ground zero. You started from ground zero, help your cousin, niece, sister etc, start from level 1. If this is done enough times, everyone rises.
Quite sad to easily give up on people like that. Do your best to support others, especially loved ones. Support isn't always financial.
Firstly, find out your body type, then accentuate your best attributes. What are your good attributes, legs, shoulders, but, hips, thighs, neck, hands, waist, feet? Then, find a way to draw attention to that. If you have multiple, good for you.
Find people who are shaped similar to you and know how to dress/or you love their style. Then copy them. If you copy a style and it doesn't suite your body type, it might look bad. Also, I could give you more tips in the DM if you're interested
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