Agreed. Op taking a stand on this could be the start of a chain of events that ends with J1 and J2 being made aware of J3, by J3.

If J1 and J2 ever ask about it i would say "I don't know why he (or whichever pronoun) posted that in 2024. I worked on that project for a few hours in 2020. He asked for a photo a few months ago and didn't tell me why he needed it. I think he is scared of the economy and is just creating content to stay active on linked in or something. Either way im pissed he put my face on his social media"

Lies should really be sprinkled with truth so you can focus on the true parts when discussing. Op can use how disappointed he is that it was posted to his advantage by focusing on that.

They are bidding against seller staying.

Op didn't convert to percentages, so assuming it is a $500k house the seller is being too greedy for me. If they are this stingy, and been in the house for 40 years there is probably $70k in deferred maintenance waiting too.

It would be a hard pass for me.

Car's cost about 5% less in Dallas and Houston, but they can cost 15% less in Boston, MA and 20% less in Detroit, MI. However, the reason Austin dealers can charge more is because so many of us make $200k+ a year working 60 hours a week because there was a tech bubble happening. We don't have time to travel just to purchase a car. Also, I'm not complaining, but pointing out that auto prices are regional.

I'm old, so please forgive me, but if Jake stopped hitting on op because he thought she was trans, doesn't that rather heavily imply that he doesn't believe that trans women are women?

Ten year old 4Runner will be a great vehicle for a 20 year old college student.

I would have a brief discussion about the 4runner being a heavier 4wd vehicle, so he will need to be prepared to stop earlier, and drive more defensively. Personally, i think the larger the vehicle I'm driving the more personality responsibility I accept. When i drive inlaws F250 i drive as if my CDL depends on it (i don't have a CDL or drive for work).

A BMW has the punch of a 90 lb person and the 4runner has the punch of 190 lb person, so focus up so you don't throw any punches.

NTA. Girl you live in subsidized housing, you are in no financial position to save others. It's like on the airplane videos where they say to put the oxygen mask on yourself before helping others. You imperil your children by letting her hang around.

Also, your friends are guilting you because while she stayed with you she was not staying with them. They are walking all over you in the same way she did. These are all selfish people.

Umm. Do you only have sex when you want to get pregnant?

"If things are “weird about money” you shouldn’t be moving in with her at all."

If you have money EVERY relationship is "weird about money".

Your region matters the most. In my region (ATX) they negotiate a price below MSRP, but they add addendums in finance and act like they are mandatory fees.

If you are in Midwest or north east it is an entirely different auto market. Cars cost 5-15% less there, but I assure you in those markets they eating more than in 2019.

So, you are admitting this is your fault?

Were you traumatized by the 1987 Lou Diamond Phillips film La Bamba, too?

”what is all this?”

”Mejico”

Nice. I love that feature.

I love these. I am thinking about trading in my M340i so i can get the security blanket of a having a warranty again.

Does yours have the autobrake hold button? Some do and some don't. I think it's the only ICE, non-Porsche VAG product that is currently on sale that has autohold; however, no tall of them have it. I've seen some Arteons with the blank and some with the button.

Have you never heard of the Texas Triangle. Texas is a majority urban state with political power being skewed to rural voters, but the point remains that we are an urban state, or suburban if you want to get pedantic.

Sabotaging a BBQ is such a long shot I feel op isn't telling about all the other things she does because she wants to see how much he loves her despite her antics.

Obviously you are NTA for wearing what you want, but if three friends feel like you are letting it all hang out you should objectively consider it.

Also, if you were only comfortable wearing two pieces AFTER you lost weight it does say something about how you value woman's bodies. It's implying that your old body was inferior and so by extension anyone else who has a bigger body is inferior. They are most likely jealous, but you changing your swimsuit is you communicating that they SHOULD be.

I prefer new, but when comparing new to used car prices you have to get the OTD prices. If MSRP is $28k on a brand new Subaru Crosstrek, and you live in an area with a decent economy, the dealer is adding $5k in addendums that would not be added to a used car's price.

What I'm trying to say is that new car prices are more opaque than they were in the past, and more opaque than used car prices are today. The only way to find the true cost of a new car is to sit at the dealership until you reach the finance office.

In the past, new cars used to have heavier discounts because it was all about sales volume. In 2022 sales volume was reduced by lack of new car inventory, and the dealers adjusted the business model. In 2024, the sales volume is reduced by a lack of customers. The dealerships don't give a shit because they are still making big margins on each new car sale. They don't work on volume. Instead they work over every customer who walks in the door and is willing to sign the documents.

Edit: I'm not saying everyone who buys new is paying a mark up, but your negotiating starting point is typically above MSRP today. It is still a ten yard fight to get a new car deal in 2024, and it was a walk in the park in 2019.

Urban Texas isn't much different than Seattle.

Rural Texas likes to think they are living that "Try it in a small town" song, but my family has been victim of a single theft of $120k worth of equipment. Owning 100+ guns wont do jack if you are sleeping or out of town.

The craziest was Honda catalytic converter thief's started working the rural regions of Texas. They would have to traverse a half mile of private driveway to get to get to an old Pilot or Element. The risk was worth it to them because all the Honda's in the City's had their OEM cats stolen already.

Edit: I'm in ATX and just looked out my window and saw two cruisers. They don't respond to property crime anymore so I'm thinking "oh shit. Someone got murdered...Again"

Yeah. I imagined VRBOs but i was also thinking this was a hotel near Universal.

When you are young you encounter crazy people like op has, but the older I get the less crazy stories i accumulate. Occasionally i see something crazy in public, but its been 20 years since someone did something like insist i leave a queen bed empty and sleep in the children's bunk bed in the hallway. It's so nostalgic to hear stories like this.

VW of America is putting up 3500. It would not be unreasonable for the dealer to put another $500-$1k on top.

I’m not trying to rag on the car, but it isn’t a Telluride or Grand Highlander. Normies are not lining up to spend $50k on this VW crossover.

You want the sales manger to offer you $4k off but they have to think it is their idea. If you come in hot talking about the VoA $3,500 they will claim it is the only incentive they can offer.

I would keep them all. Gold isn't a long term investment, but a hedge against future uncertainty.

I would trust your grandpa's judgement over that of the internet. If he wanted to gift you SPY or a HYSA he would have. The fact that you don't need cash is all the more reason not to sell them right now. When it is time to sell you will know, and will not need the internet to help you make the decision.

Lexus owners: I reached 69,420 miles and I still love it.

VW owners: I reached 12k miles with zero problems.

Op are there photos of the bunk beds and hallway online anywhere? I would pay $100 just to see what you are talking about because this is the kind of crazy I live for.

BTW people are saying you should have ironed the details out in advance, but i agree with you that the details had been ironed out. You would have sounded insane to ask "I am going to get a bed, right? It's not like my BF and I will be sleeping on bunk beds in the hallway. LOL." It would sound like a "I think you should leave" sketch if you brought it up in advance.

"I said I was no longer interested in attending, not out of spite, but out of protecting myself and my mental health and wished her well, couldn't wait to hear about it on another day and to let us know if plans changed."

I'm not saying anyone is an AH, but I believe your mother is right to be disappointed.

What exactly do you think will happen to your mental health at the wedding? How would your friend be more beneficial to your mental health than your mother and the rest of your family?

It's a tangent, but I like the idea of weight being on dating apps. Some of us like bigger girls. It's so disappointing when a girl has a chubby looking cheeks (face) and then you find out they are skinny.