One of them has never been in a polyamorous relationship before and the other has only had negative experiences with polyamory. I got out of a hierarchical poly relationship a year ago and I don’t like that kind of poly relationship. And it’s feeling like that’s what’s happening again and like I’m the less important partner again. One of my partners, it feels like they have to be reminded that I’m part of the relationship. And it feels like they’re with me for, like, the novelty(?) of being in a poly relationship. I feel like I’m intruding on their relationship but I’m scared to bring it up because I’m a very non-confrontational person. And I don’t know if I should break up with them or keep trying.

Edit: thank you all. I ended up breaking up with them and I think I feel better now. It hurts less at least.