You are completely wrong. Did you read what I wrote? Ashes or a body are not marital property. They do not fall under common law regulations. I am not looking at cases of only disposing a body, I am looking at cases of disputes over remains. Ashes or body, the law where I am does not differentiate. Obviously we have a concept of martial property but we also have the concept of exemptions.
Actually I am quite bored at work and have done some research on it. In my province in Canada human remains do not fall under common law regulations. The law does not differentiate between a body and ashes, they are one and the same and one person has "exclusive decision making authority for both" So while there may be a battle over who is appointed trustee the ashes ultimately will not end up divided, where I live at least.
Also rather interesting, in the case of siblings arguing over the remains of a parent (no spouse or will) the decision will ultimately be granted to the eldest child.
NTA. Your fiancée is being an idiot.
It looks like it is very dependent on Country obviously and in my case province, from what I am reading in my province remains do not fall under common law regulations, it states the law does not distinguish between the difference between disposing of a body vs remains. They are considered one and the same and the trustee has exclusive decision making for both. So while who gets to be trustee can be hashed out in court, the way I read my local law is that the ashes would not be divided.
I do not think it would be as black and white as that, it would be an interesting case. There are cultural and religions factors to take into account. I see it similar to divorced parents fighting over medical decisions, one persons whishes will be followed. The issue becomes by separating them now he is imposing his will is he not? Her desire is to keep them whole. Whether you or I see them as whole is irrelevant.
I was thinking from more of an ethical and moral stand point but legally it would be an interesting case. If I was going to bet, I would bet a judge would side with the parent wanting the remains to stay intact.
You can’t see the desire to want the ashes to remain whole? What about her desire to mourn her way and have the ashes remain intact?
When it comes to some things, like separating ashes either both people want them separated or they stay whole. It is not a let’s divide this 50/50 situation.
She said she was open to revisiting the conversation at a later date, there is no reason a young kid should be given ashes to lose.
What an inconsiderate thing to say to a grieving mom. Just because you seem them as ‘just ashes’ doesn’t mean she does.
You hit the nail on the head.
Ashes are a big deal to many people, religions, and cultures and many believe they should be kept whole. Just because you don’t think it’s a big deal means it isn’t a big deal to others.
Not everyone plans on burying ashes.
Why? Is it unreasonable to think one’s remains should be kept together?
NTA. This is beyond comprehension, I completely understand where you are coming from and your husband knew your stance. What he did is unforgivable.
Yes. Your landlord owns your unit, what goes on in other units is between those tenants/landlords.
YTA. Her reaction was more appropriate than the two of you ‘freaking out’
ESH. She should be cleaning up after herself and helping in general but to think she should take over all the house work is not right.
I think the majority of people have zero problems grasping the point of the shows you have listed.
NTA. What were you supposed to do? Beg your parents to come to your wedding?
You are 100% wrong. Like I said we have exemptions to martial law but if you cant grasp that then there is no point continuing this.
Clearification: Aitah for leaving after my husband gave away some of my babies ashes?
AITAH