I have both an older Tacoma and a 4runner. They are both very reliable and safe. I hear the ones built in the last few years have more quality issues, but my 10 year old ones do just fine.

Just to the tire store? How far are we talking? Are you out in BFE or just down the street? Do you have a good spare just in case it doesn’t make it?

I would take it to the tire store, and ASAP. That is some serious dry rot. If it isn’t too far I would probably chance it, but have a towing company programmed into my phone contacts. Tire shop should be able to recommend a tow company.

If you are really worried and have time you can either go ahead and have it towed or bring the rims in for new tires, then bring the whole car back for alignment.

Not an A, but maybe you should have a convo over why you laughed (really, giving up hopes and dreams?). Also, make sure he is on board with offering the kind of support to the child and household that is needed to raise a kid. Might be he wants someone to care for him and the child, rather than stepping up.

And if a girl (and I was still single) asked me to get and std test before we had sex? I’d totally be down, because I would know there was a high likelyhood of having sex after I got tested! Woo Hoo!

If he is ghosting you after you asked for a std test he would also ghost you after sex. Find a better quality partner, even for fwb. A person who refuses STD tests is either lazy or hiding something.

The old US Air Force (captain America) star in a circle.

I am only 6’1 and occasionally pay the extra for leg room on longer flights. I imagine it would be even worse if I were 3” taller.

You are in no way the asshole

I understand how you would feel guilty. Putting you into that situation is the airlines fault. I have switched comparable seats now and again so groups could sit together. The airline trying to make everyone happy is understandable, but the pregnant woman should not have been in that convo and hearing answers. Her trying to guilt you into giving up your seat because of her lack of planning and sense of entitlement is just a big fat no, and the airline should not have put you in that position.

If you are irked enough write to the airline, explain the situation, ask why they put you into that situation, and demand a response. Be sure to include your flight information / number etc. You should get an apology and perhapd something more tangible in the way of a voucher/points.

You have already done much of the writing posting it on here, the airline should hear about it too.

I didn’t advocate for violence or property destruction in any of my scenarios. I don’t think any of them are protected speech. I believe political statements are done to draw attention to a situation, with the intent of creating a change to the status quo. I don’t think begging on a street is done for political reasons. Rolling Coal likely is. I don’t agree with either activity.

I am not a lawyer. All I am trying to say is that our city government makes a lot of laws but without any intention of enforcing them in a meaningful way. Creating special city laws banning rolling coal will be just as effective as the ban on street corner begging that was passed a couple of years ago.

I would argue that rolling coal is in fact a political statement, a disdain for climate science and support for the fossil fuel industry. I don’t agree with it, either in the statement or its presentation, but it is a political statement.

Begging for money, especially by able bodied, is just looking for a handout, not a political statement. Camping on city councilor’s front lawns would be a political statement.

Either way, my comment was about the pointlessness of passing laws in Albuquerque, it is political theater without any real intention of creating change.

It will be enforced just as much as the “no begging on street corners” ordinance. Our city councilors pass a lot of laws but put no effort into enforcing them.

I drive in the right or center lane, usually going 5-10 over, and I am tailgated every single day. I have had people tailgate me and then race ahead to get in front of me and slam on the brakes because (I assume) I didn’t get out of their way in the freaking slow lane. I have had people move to the left side to pass and throw garbage at me as they pass.

I very deliberately do not carry a gun with me when I drive.

Albuquerque needs traffic enforcement very badly. Just like all the other public safety issues APD can’t be bothered to enforce.

I have heard that APD is deliberately quiet quitting, and I believe it.

I have hung on just because I want to see what happens next, and suicidal is the bottom of a hole. Painful and unrelenting for what seems like a long time, but at this point there is nowhere to go but up. It will happen.

I don’t have any issues with the delete, at all at all.

Sitting with my ex after the break up, letting her go through my phone? Not happening.

Hiking Food The cultural diversity The amount of social activities, festivals, events etc.

Hmmm, It isn’t whether they have had partners or how many, it is the circumstances and treatment during the last relationship and breakup that matter. In my situation it would be a no.

I have someone else now, but even if I didn’t, no. I am friends with most of my exes, very friendly with some, we have shared an important bit of past together but ultimately things didn’t work out. However, my last great love treated me like garbage, something I didn’t deserve and cannot reconcile. The break up hurt, badly, we were engaged. For a while I would have done anything to have her back. Now, no, I have respect for myself. We still see each other at social events, but rarely speak, and I am good with that.

Your daughter is old enough to be able to deal with being parented in two households. Nobody “wins” financially in a divorce but a lower personal standard of living may be a good trade to get out of a loveless relationship. Bear in mind what you are willing to accept and do and the boundaries you set are modeling future relationship behavior for your daughter.

And it’s not how the girl acts during her period, this is how she is going to act all of the time if she isn’t reined in. This is just one excuse, there will be plenty of others, all of them “not her fault because…”

Single dad here. Not perfect, but I have a good person I helped shape doing well as an adult now.

Yes, your son watched you showing zero tolerance towards someone being a bully and drawing solid boundaries that protect him and you. That is being a great role model.

This may serve as an example for the young girl/woman as well. Maybe the BF as well, or ex-BF. If his response is empty promises trying to wheedle his way back in, good riddance.

If he is trying to learn from the situation, hmmmm. He is a younger man trying to sole custody raise a daughter, he may be good hearted but absolutely clueless. Up to you whether you want that burden or not.

Regardless, NTA. More like a hero

It varies. Some daters are just looking for a good time and soon. Some want relationships to develop and will take it slower. Some want both.

The question isn’t what you are willing to do dating, but what do you want from it?

I think we resolved that in New Mexico repelling the rebel invasion from Texas at Glorieta Pass. Those colors do run.

Maybe she works FT and you become a SAHD?

Well, I’ve lived in a motel for months, which was luxury compared to living in barracks or dorms during military service or contracting.

Who is “everyone”? You need to surround yourself with a better class of “everyone”

Get out of that relationship. Poly/ENM is only for people who are honest and upfront about it right from the start. And still is often the source of a lot of unhappiness and drama.

OMG, I am on the other side of this. Redheads make me weak in the knees!

Instead of being a “useless” medical assistant be an awesome one! Even poor status jobs need to be done competently with a smile. You will be noticed over time and opportunities will ensue.

I have had some really low status jobs (picking up other people’s trash, washing dishes, retail) and I took pride in doing what I did well, and recognized it needed to be done, even if some people looked down on it.