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Is it okay for me (24F) to message an old friend/situation-ship while in a happy relationship ? (26M)
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Do you think your boyfriend would be happy if he knew everything you posted here?
That should answer your question. If he'd be okay with it. Perfect. If he wouldn't be happy, that's a no. If he'd be indifferent. Then it's a risk.
"Okay" is subjective and largely depends on who you are dating and how you want the relationship to work.
Say he was in a similar position. Would you be happy he reached out to an old situationship?
He would be okay with the last convo we had as it was literally nothing. He’s a lot more relaxed than me, I wouldn’t be happy probably because I’d be anxious about it as I’m an anxious attachment!! But he would be a lot more relaxed and always has been in the past.
I feel like I want our relationship to be open of course but I don’t feel like everything needs to be shared if the intentions behind it aren’t bad. Like I’ve had guys message me before which I’ve not told him about as I didn’t reply etc. I know the intentions aren’t bad behind this or the last happy birthday that’s why it doesn’t feel necessary to me. I’d question my own intentions if they were bad yknow
I didn't ask about just the last conversation, though. I asked if he would be okay with all the context you've posted.