What's something nice you done for someone and it back fired on you?
I took my people out for lunch. Covered everyone’s bill, bought a round of drinks plus desserts, and I took care of the recreational activities. Everyone seemed to be having a great time, but I had an upcoming appointment and suggested we leave after a couple of hours.
They threw a fit. I’m talking an army of Karens screaming up the wazoo.
My people were my children and the round of drinks was a bunch of juice boxes, but still. This is why mom always says, “We HavE FoOd At HoMe” and I have since learned my lesson. Sort of.
This is why I'll never own an orphanage.
It's hard to make the business model work unless you're creating an army of pickpockets...and the paperwork for that kind of thing is a major hassle.
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😂😂 this is so cute
I used to work for MacDernals. A homeless lady asked me for some sauce, she began to count her coins. I told her she could just have some for free. She told my manager. I got fired.
This sounds like a comedy skit 😂 it's poetic in a way. Lol.
Undercover agent
I'm about to take a bite out of my burger. I'm not really hungry, but it's lunch time.
I look out the window and see a homeless guy going through the trash and eating what he finds.
I decided to give him my burger.
Got out there and tried to hand it to him, and he just stared at it for a long time. Then he looked me in the eyes and said
"I don't need your fucking charity."
So, I said "Look, if you don't take it from me, I'm going to throw it into the trash can right in front of you because I'm not going to eat it. Then I'm going to go back inside, sit down, and watch you dig it out and eat it from that window over there. So, what do you want to do?"
He snatched it out of my hand and wandered off mumbling that I was a motherfucker.
Ended up feeling like a bully trying to be kind.
What I’ve found when encountering homeless people is that most of them are mentally ill.
Could very well be. In hindsight, I could have handled the situation better. The last thing I expected was hostility. I always rationalized it in my mind because I got him a hot meal he didn't have to pull out of the trash. Maybe I could have got him to accept it another way instead of matching his energy.
Your heart is in the right place, you are a compassionate person. Don’t stop what you do.
And some are those people that are such huge assholes that society completely ostracized and can't hold any kind of job.
Buddy probably wants to be treated with respect (like we all do) and your approach may have made him feel less-than. Good on you for sharing your sandwich, regardless.
Aye. He didn't spoil a good thing. I did.
Just a week or so ago my husband saw a homeless man so he bought him some fried chicken from the store he was shopping. When he handed it to the guy after saying he got him some fried chicken the man told him he was a vegetarian and wouldn’t take it.
And? Buddy didn't ask your husband for anything. Dude's entitled to decide what he's willing to eat without judgment from others. Sounds like you and your husband were expecting a ticker tape parade and are blaming homeless dude for not building a statue in your husband's honor.
People have never been homeless and it shows. They are still people, they still have things they won't or can't eat just like everyone else. After being vegetarian for so long it literally makes you sick to eat meat. Idk about you but I don't want to be homeless and not have a toilet to sit on when I have the shits. I've even seen people mess with another homeless person's food by spitting in it. When I was homeless I was warned about taking food from someone that was open or could have been otherwise messed with. It's like they think homeless people are animals and should be happy for scraps
Ya saying that last part was a pretty dick move.
Agreed. Not a great moment for me.
Probably would have said the same tbh
I let a former coworker move in with me when he got out of county jail because he was homeless. The guy never even bought a roll of toilet paper to help with household expenses. He came home from his roofing job, smelling to high heaven, and would lie on my couch in his work clothes. He ate up all my food and then SOLD his food stamps to buy weed... All kinds of shit like that. When I finally had enough and was kicking him out, he threatened to be violent. Never again. Not in my home. That's my sanctuary. My refuge. My peace. I don't care HOW down and out someone I consider a pal is, I'm NEVER letting ANYONE to move in my house again, with the exception of family, but they don't talk to me anymore, so I don't have to worry about that.
family, but they don't talk to me anymore
WIN!
I had a similar experience when I let my friend move in. She was receiving Social Security disability benefits for her borderline personality disorder. She had limited funds, so I rented her a room. She was a complete asshole, leaving messes, mean to my dogs and creating drama with me. Then she stopped paying rent. I wanted to kick her out and I wanted law enforcement to help. The problem with that is that because I owned the house and had accepted rent payments, this made me a landlord, and I had to go through the process of evicting her. This means a 30 day notice, warnings, etc. Only then could I change my locks and kick her out. I forget exactly what the laws were but I believe she had to be 10 days (maybe 30?) late, after she’d been given notice. Basically, the time she didn’t pay rent didn’t count because she hadn’t been given notice yet. Meanwhile, as I went through the process, her behavior got even worse.
I apparently don’t have any common sense because I let an ex move in and I had to get the sheriff kick her ass out too. And I did it again by letting my sister move in. I told her to gtfo and she packed her shit and left right away.
I now own a house that was formerly Ann AirBnb. It would be perfect for renting out a room. But I’d rather work two jobs then take the chance of this happening again.
My god. How many hours do you have? What I learned is that I keep to myself and don't go out of my way to help anyone professionally. It WILL come back to bite you in the ass.
It WILL come back to bite you in the ass.
Every once in a while, I have to re-learn this lesson.
Me too. People at work are not your friends .
Bad work environments suck
I seen this happen man times
I wish my mom would learn this lesson. Sigh. Old dogs and new tricks and all that
I know that's right. I'm sorry it backfired on you.
Got a buddy to apply where I was working at the time (trades job). He had blown thru his 50k savings after he got out of the Marines, 4 years after i got out. Got him a job, paid for his 400$ worth of tools (non union before I knew better). I was a foreman and had him on my crew. Apparently since he was a "brother" from the Marines he could do what he wanted. He didn't have to try, didn't have be on time, could basically hang out. I protected him from being fired (stupidly) so many times. His GF then kicked him out and he wanted to live in my shop. When I told him no I was "a horrible friend who haven't ever helped him at all." I gave my blessing if they wanted to fire him. Have not talked to him since (13 years).
I'm sorry you went through that. I have somewhat a similar story. Had a childhood friend, helped them with work in our country,helped them move into a new country,helped them with more work opportunities,saved them from being homeless,let them sleep in my bed while I was on the floor for months on multiple times, helped them mentally,had many sleepless nights because they had trouble with partners they chose and I was their anker... I got thanked with them telling everyone my secrets I trusted them with,I gave them grace multiple times until they said something to someone that I really didn't want to know. On that I was called names,told I was greedy and that all I do is take,that I always ask them for so many things... Last thing I asked them for was 3 months before the fight,a can of mushrooms for a pizza I was making them so they could have something home made to eat to feel cared for due to having problems with housing again. Its been 2 or 3 years,I still miss them and think of reaching out but I swore to myself that I will not be the first one,they need to apologise.
I had a pretty established garden at my house when I bought it. For mothers day I cut a whole bunch of flowers from the garden including these massive purple lilly looking things. On the drive to my Mums place my wife and I suddenly noticed a pungent stench of poo. I checked my shoes but couldn't see anything. By the time we arrived we had figured out it was the purple flower. It absolutely stank. Happy Mothers day Mum, hope you enjoy your poo flowers.
Yay.
People who co-sign for family members with bad credit…
I had a relative that desperately wanted me to co-sign for the trailer she was living in so she wouldn’t get evicted. I wasn’t going to allow her to wreck my credit because she didn’t want to pay her own bills. Long story short, she got evicted, was homeless for a few months until she managed to sweet talk her way into section 8
It’s better to stay away as much as you want to help them do so without killing your credit, because they will take you down with them if credit is all you have and not to cover what ever they need credit for …. My own young children absolutely, bother, sister uncle probably not…
It’s one thing when it’s your kids starting out with financial responsibility, absolutely do that. It’s another thing when they are old enough to have their own kids and ask for a co-signer, err on the side of caution. The same relative really wanted to take advantage of my mom. I’m thankful that my mom asked me questions about them after I had met them in person so that no one would’ve taken advantage of my mom
Peeps like them have no boundaries, my adult brother and sister did my mom dirty that way, my mom didn’t ask me because she knew what I would say and wanted to help them regardless, when she was going through the bad moments, she then told me, I said mom you knew that they would default and you were going to have the problem. She said she knew, but what was I to do, they took advantage of her, we don’t get along well …
You’re right, people like that don’t have boundaries and they certainly don’t have any qualms about stabbing family in the back. That’s awesome that you look after your mom. There way too many people that are willing to take advantage of others, including family, in order to get ahead
I was a teacher for seven years. I worked for weeks on a grant for the school totaling to $62,000. It would pay for field trips for the kids to visit state parks and go camping and also set up a fishing club. The head of school contacted me after the grant was submitted and informed me that my salary would be cut by $1700 per month because she was paying per prep versus per class (I taught multiple sections of biology). I quit and got another job and the grant got awarded to the school. Fuck admin.
“ no good deed goes unpunished” that saying sumes it up.
My husband gave his old motorbike to a co-worker.
He didn’t want it anymore, it needed a lot of work, and he didn’t have the time nor inclination to do it.
He could have sold it, but it meant a lot to him and he wanted it to go to someone who’d look after it, have fun fixing it up, and bring it back to life.
The guy he gave it to took it. He told him all the problems, told him how much it would cost to fix it. The guy said “no problem, I’ve been working on bikes since I was a teenager, there’s nothing I can’t fix, and I’ve got a mate who owns a wreckers. I need a project.”
Fine.
This guy isn’t the mechanical genius he thinks he is, and after a few months proceeds to tell everyone who’ll listen that my husband sold him a lemon.
He tells my husband he wants compensation for how much money he put into the bike, or he wants my husband to fix it for him.
Needless to say, that did not go down very well with my husband.
What did husband do once he heard the load of shit?
Thankfully, this guy had been so obnoxious about it that no one believed his story anyway. People like my husband, this dude burnt a lot of bridges by being a dick.
It was just so awkward because it was our workplace (I worked there too) and every day he’d complain that he had to drive his car because the bike wasn’t working. It was meant to be his project, he was going to do it up and sell it blah blah blah
So my husband told the him he’d take it back, and gave him $200 or so for the parts he’d bought.
He took a week off work, worked on the bike getting it back up and running. Then he rode it to work every day and parked as close as he could get to the guy’s car.
When the guy quit (unrelated) he sold it for $25’000 to someone who was really into the bike’s heritage and would look after it properly, and I tagged the guy on Facebook in a photo of the sale.
Good grief. Does this belong in r/ProRevenge? Fantastic!
Lol
And it didn’t need that much work, most of it was cosmetic because it had been sitting in a yard for a decade exposed to the elements.
I don’t know a whole lot about motorbikes (and he’s asleep, so I can’t ask him) but I know it was a BMW Paris Dakar from the 80s.
Sick ass Bike!
Nicely done
Oh man. Where do I start? Me being a people pleaser to people in my real life really bites me in the ass. I need to put me first.
Do it! You're talking about it and thinking about it now. That's good :)
Me too! I’ve helped at least a dozen people in my life and I’ve been burned by every single one of them. I just don’t help people anymore.
A friend that I hadn't seen in years announced that they had a baby, even posted some pictures of themselves and their husband with the baby, and dropped a link with her Cash app information just in case anyone wanted to help them along at the start of their new journey.
It had been a good year, I had just gotten a decent bonus, and I knew how expensive babies could be after watching my sisters all raise theirs (I'm the only member of the family that values birth control I guess) I dropped them $450 with a note wishing them well.
A few weeks later they asked me directly if I could send them anything more. This should have raised some red flags but, you know, the price of baby formula and all... I dropped another $250.
In the spirit of generosity my wife and I offered to take them out to lunch to catch up and my wife was also excited to get to meet the baby. They showed up without the baby in tow stating that he had gotten sick and had to be left with her mother. Again, probably should have raised a red flag but I knew first hand that babies can get sick a lot, whatever.
We had a nice lunch, I talked about what the guy was doing for work. He explained that he was doing everything he could to support the new addition to their family and was working 3 jobs for less than half of what I was making for a fairly simple 9-5 that required no experience. I gave him a business card for the company I work for, told him to reach out, and I planned to see if I could pull some strings to get him an interview once he applied.
He never applied or reached out.
After the day of the lunch date, however, their requests for financial assistance got more frequent and more aggressive. After a couple weeks they were demanding $10-$50 a day. My wife was very much done with it at this point but we still went along with it for a few days because I'm a huge softie. Eventually my wife made me realize that we were being taken advantage of and I agreed that we should break off contact.
Not too long after I learned from another friend, who had tried to show up at their house by surprise with a gift basket to congratulate them, that they didn't even have a baby. They were apparently just milking their Facebook friend list.
It was an expensive way to learn that people don't always grow into better people as they age but I didn't let it sour me on the idea of helping the people close to me when they need it. My other attempts to help the people in my life have always come back to me positively in one way or another.
I hope you replied to their FB posts letting everyone on the friend list know they were lying about having a baby and taking peoples money.
Probably would have been the call but they must have anticipated that. After I noticed that I wasn't seeing their Facebook posts anymore I realized they had blocked us once the money stopped flowing.
That's just all kinds of messed up. We have 3 kids and my husband and I never asked anyone for that kind of money no matter how tight it got.
Befriended a classmate who ended up putting me through years of narcissistic abuse. I kept being too nice to tell them to go away until about 2 years ago. I am so much happier now but that was a hard lesson.
To cut a long story short.
I get my first vacation EVER by choice.
Decided to buy hotel rooms for the family since coincidentally we had a family reunion.
I pick a VERY NICE hotel outside of town, sea views, beach access, 24/7 buffet (because casino)
Mom decides to inform me her niece is coming.
cancel the nice hotel for a nice cabin houses 6 allows dogs etc.
she said she isn't coming and I can cancel the cabin.
Nice hotel is booked, find a cabin only park kind of place (renting 2 units for 4 people) mom changes mind says her niece is coming.
Freaking out as hotel after hotel closes, find a good hotel, get 3 rooms.
Mom says niece canceled and she might cancel.
OK cancel hotel rooms.
next morning she and her boyfriend are coming I HAVE TO FIND A HOTEL Find one, it's a chain hotel, moms pissed because she was hinting this entire time she wanted me to book at the overbooked hotel.
I'm puking from stress and ripping my hair out.
my brother steps in tells her "This place or you get the shit motel across town.
Day of everyone shows up, mom decides to immediately complain about the hotel despite she had her own room by the door where she could easily get in or out. She begins complaining about how I didn't get the one SHE wanted and I began melting down. my brother tells her again "TAKE IT OR LEAVE IT HE IS PAYING FOR YOUR ROOM!" she didn't want to stay at the sketch hotel so instead she stays but not before going "it's okay I GUESS!"
btw this was on a holiday weekend.
BUT there is a good ending.
Later my family is asking about my job, I travel for work and I began talking when she cut me off and started basically lying about the place I been to since she NEVER had been there. For once in my life I stood up "I WENT THERE NOT YOU! I WENT ACROSS THE DEADLIDST PARTS OF THE OCEAN IN NORTH AMERICA NOT YOU, I WENT TO (famous town) NOT YOU PLEASE LET ME FINISH MY STORY AND BTW (known to show) IS HORSE SHIT I KNOW BECAUSE I TRAINED WITH ONE OF THE CREW!" She never had me stand up to her.
That really sucks! Ungrateful people are the worst
Someone once told me all people suck, some more than others!
"Long story short" proceeds to write the entire LOTR series
There is a saying, “ no good deed goes unpunished”.
I say that to my husband on a MONTHLY basis. Every time we are nice to someone they seem to take our kindness as a weakness. We just don’t help people anymore.
Never a truer word has been spoken.
I put a turbo kit on my friends car for his birthday, and he nearly died the next day after crashing into a telegraph pole.
I once baked cookies for a new neighbor to welcome them to the neighborhood, but it turned out they were allergic to nuts, which were in the cookies. It was an awkward start, but we laughed about it later!
I Tried to be nice to a person who is completely and utterly obssessed with a certain thing. I tried to say hi, thinking that we could avoid an argument. It immediately came up. I tried to find some common ground, but he sensed I was uncomfortable and started cussing at me, and accusing me of purposely messing with his mind. He was like, "YOU CAME TO ME!"
Let one of my staff leave 15 minutes early from a nightshift. She put a complaint in about me for letting her go home early. Full on meditation with the higher ups. 2 weeks later she asked if she could leave 15 minutes early.
What was your reaction to her when she asked again?
Why would she complain about you letting her leave early? ... Or was it an 'anonymous' complaint about you letting 'someone' leave early because she has it out for you or something? I'm confused by this.
Oh no, she complained to my boss who thought a mediation was the best line of defence (wanker) and she complained to my face that I made her feel worthless and that her job was in jeopardy. I made her so nervous, she "but her nails to the bone". I looked at her nails, they were perfectly manicured. I later found out she had applied for my job and didn't get it. I didn't apply, I was simply told that I was taking on the role with 2 days notice. Funnily enough, my boss uploaded the file note of the mediation so i could see it. It stared " x stated she let her leave early as y has complained that she struggles with nightshift, x has a personality clash with y" Y was later pushed out the door after putting in complaints when she chose to work at one of our other locations about almost all of the other staff. Including my boss who was "bullying" her. Personality clash my arse. I'm still filthy about it 5 years later.
Told a friend about how her husband asked me for dirty pictures. Sent her screenshots of his messages and me telling him to get lost....
She freaked out and started telling everyone I was a crackhead who abandoned my baby.
She was embarrassed and took it out on you rather than her husband. I had a similar situation
Roses on Mother’s Day 2024
How?
It was assumed that another woman received roses as well. Vday 2023 played out the same way
Ugh fuck that relationship in general
Eh
About 20 years ago, a co worker of my dad enquired about getting his car interior redone by me, I was doing cash jobs at home at the time, I know how to do it, was trained unofficially with a good auto trimmer. Anyway, my dad says call my son and talk to him, heres his number. Guy calls me, we talk about the job, a car 45 years old, supposedly done 2 years prior. I told him bring the car around so I can do a proper quote. Take a look at car, interior was 10 years old atleast, but no problem. I quoted him the base figure, and wrote that costs would increase if I found more damage/work to be done. I say I'll call and advise of findings before moving forward. He agrees, signs work order with all conditions written on it. Long story short, car seats were bad down to seat frames, needed full rebuild, was going to cost double the initial quote, advised customer, he said ok go ahead. So I did. On completion (at reduced cost due to wanting to keep him happy, and possible future wore from word of mouth), he was visibly happy with the job, paid the cash with no issues, went away smiling. I hear from my dad a few days later that the guy is flat out bad mouthing me, my work, and how much it cost, and threatened legal action against me for at least a partial refund to my dad. Dad tells me all this. So I rang guy and said WTF is the problem? you were happy with the job, and left smiling. He just repied Oh nah It just cost me a bit more than expected thats all. I said so whats with the threat of legal action?? He said he never said anything of the sort. I said if he has an issue to come to me, otherwise shut up or I'll have him up for litigation of slander.
I lent a friend & co-worker money. I think she asked for like $150, and I suggested $200. I'd like for friends to be comfortable, not run out when they're already low.
She forgot. She did give me some blank media (Zip disks), which I think were worth maybe half of it. She asked again maybe a year or so later, and I brought up the first loan. Which she had again forgotten. I gave her the second loan. Never saw a penny. It was hard to really like her after that. So those kind of backfired, because I hadn't meant to give those as gifts. I could have used that money later, too.
The reverse was my dear friend who made a bit more money than I did but didn't manage it well. I loaned him money now and then. Once was $3,000 for part of his condominium down payment. He prepared a contract with annualized interest and paid me every single month. He suggested the interest. I think I gave him one extension on that low-interest loan. He paid me back without fail, every time, every loan. There was once when we both forgot a loan; that was pretty funny. "Hey, didn't I loan you $200?" "Did you?" [Both] "I don't know." Later he found the receipt for the clothes he'd bought with the money, we both remembered, and he paid me back.
Never loan money never give advise never gossip
Just being genuinely nice to someone or going out of the way to help them, 65% time people take my niceness for granted, and it always backfires
My best mates wife was really horny whilst he was at work. I went round to shag her because I knew that he'd be too tired to do it after his shift at work. Can you believe he fell out with me? That's the last time I try and do a guy a favour.
Lent a buddy my Suburban and boat trailer so he could get a new boat to his lake place 4 hours away. Trailer came back with $100 of damage and the Suburban with 1/4 tank less gas in it. No acknowledgement of either. Thanks pal.
Spoke to a site manager about a guy whose with had been fucking around behind his back, had kicked him out of his house, was up the duff by another bloke, wouldn't let him see his daughter and was drinking daily. Basically he turned in pissed as a fart, turned out he's slept on site, and at some point had been on the roof in the middle of the night.
I had a genuine concern for this blokes well-being, plenty of us would contemplate jumping. So that's why I spoke to the site manager, he's got a duty of care. Anyway, site manager calls a meeting, "Mikey says that Steve came in pissed at the weekend, it won't be tolerated". My jaw dropped to the floor. Fucking thanks. I got so much shit for the next three months for being "a grass".
And Steve never told anyone that I gave him a goody (it was the dead of winter), nor did he tell anyone I bought him a wash kit so he could brush his teeth and have a shave. Nor did he tell anyone that had it not been for me he wouldn't have had a hot meal all weekend.
Gave a fuck?
Got my wife pregnant.
No good deed goes unpunished
Lending people money who never pay it back. Has happened plenty of times by different people. They were all like, "I swear I'll pay you back!" 😂
defending my friend just for her to turn on me
Got a friend a job at the dealership I worked for, he later fucked the receptionist and tried to pull a scam on the owner.
I let my stepdaughter move back in with her boyfriend and my 2 grandsons... I got into a fight with her she's very very disrespectful...so now we don't talk at all and I'm not allowed to see my grandsons....she threw the kids right in the middle of it and she did it on purpose cause she knows it hurts me
I gave them the benefit of the doubt and chose to ignore my reservations about them to give them a chance. That resulted in lies, betrayal, feeling embarrassed, not liking physical attributes about myself bc they were lowkey negging me and 8 months out still crying myself to sleep from time to time bc of the trauma. Yeah.
Pretty much anything. It really sucks.
I posted a response on r/questions
Being nice to the new kid in middle school. Turns out there was a reason everyone was either ignoring or picking on him...
Moved away from my family out of state to be with them
Found a guys phone. Called emergency contacts in it and talked to his sister. Didn’t want to leave it anywhere because I had my phone left at a bar and “no one there received it” (unlocked iPhone 11).
Told his sister what area I was in. I went into a store and the phone rang didn’t realize it was the phone. A minute later it rings again I go to answer it and all of a sudden I’m getting pushed and threatened.
Push the guy back and realize what’s going on. Tell him I talked to his sister and even gave her name. He calls me a thief and liar. Finally his girl friend realized that he’s being crazy.
Told him I hope it happens again to him and it gets sold.
Never said sorry or thankyou
I often believe ppl. I advise them based upon what they say. It often turns out to be a lie what they say. Then they complain about the advice. I am working on not believing ppl so quickly.
Helped a coworker friend with some money for moving. He wrote me a hot check as repayment. Never lent a cent again after that. I'll give people money but learn never to lend money to friends or family.
Not me but my husband. He was at a bar with his buddies and this girl was being harassed by some drunk guy. He stepped in and told the guy to back off because he wasn't taking "no" for an answer, and then she accused him of white-knighting 😒
Tried to give a homeless man food. I guess he wanted drugs instead and denied the food.
I once let a guy merge into my lane during an accident or construction (I don't remember specifically, both happen basically daily where I live) and he flipped me off and tried claiming I hit him, fml lmao
Pretty much every nice thing I ever tried to do for my ex-wife. It was literally never good enough. She'd call all my attempts the "bare minimum." My current gf asks nothing but my company, and fawns over any extra thing I do for her 🖤
I used to work for a build materials supplier I used to to the occasional nice thing for those who were willing to work with me. One thing I did was goodie bags full of fasteners, including “the good ones”, I would make bulk bags to hand out to those folks. Another customer who was an arrogant piece of work that I not so kindly referred to as “Big Pussy” or BP came to my work area and demanded not only that I give him all 8 bags that I had put together, he also wanted me to sort every fastener out. I told him no and he cried like a baby not only to my boss but also called corporate that I wasn’t accommodating his specific needs and that he was the only person selling our products in the eastern half of Montana and that he spends a lot of money there. My boss made me give him all of my bags and gave him a bunch of other stuff for free to shut him up. Now for my petty revenge. I would get advance warning when BP was showing up so I would wait until he was loaded and gone back to Montana before I made more goodie bags. He went as far as trying to search my work area for the extra fasteners I had but I hid those in a different work area. It was satisfying hearing him cry “I remember when you used to have the parts I wanted and your boss used to make you give me what I wanted”
My mom was once held by the police for questioning for a long time because she held the door open for someone walking into an Aaron's furniture store. Apparently because she "talked to him" then he robbed the store she had to be working with him or know him. Like it was just common pleasantries like "thanks" & "have a nice day" shit but the police wouldn't believe her. Was so stupid.
Helped my mother when she was in hospital, I fed the cats and the fishes when my brother didn't want to do it then get it thrown back in my face saying I don't help and that I'm better off dead.
I took in a family. The husband was my neighbor growing up, and he found his way out to the city we moved to. It was husband, wife, and 8yr son sharing a 20x10 bedroom with a dog. We let them rent out our basement(2 bedrooms, a bathroom, and a living room with full access to laundry and kitchen) for $400 a month and told them to just save up and get on their feet.
Well, as soon as they moved in she quit her brand fucking new job and just never left my basement. We had ONE rule, do not smoke tobacco inside my home. We didn't care about marijuana, just tobacco. This cunt completely ignored the rule and packed her 'bong' with a mix of tobacco and weed, it made a nasty sickly sweet smell that came up through the vents into the main floor. I say 'bong' because it was made from a gaitoraid bottle, and they never once cleaned it or replaced it. No exaggeration.
She refused to do anything. I didn't ask them to do any chores or anything, I mean, literally nothing. Not even for her kid. He would ask her for food, and she would say, "I'm not cooking for you, grab a snack." And point to the processed snack cabinet. She didn't buy him anything actually healthy to eat, so I taught him how to make eggs and hashbrowns. He made a plate for his mom, too.
The poor kid was being bullied for being overweight and because of his hygiene. They never made sure he brushed his teeth or showered, so this kid smelled. He also didn't know how to read, so I took him to the library, and we picked up a couple of books. The husband came home when I was teaching him to read and ripped into his wife for being a lazy sack of shit and a terrible mother. They fought for a couple of weeks and then made a united front against me because I was the devil for making her look bad.
I would be doing laundry(in the basement) and would hear her telling her son I didn't want him up there and was tired of him. They kept doing fucked up shit, like the poured motor oil over the fence into my neighbors yard onto a juniper bush. Their dogs chewed up the bush and got REALLY sick. Eventually, we asked them to leave. Thankfully, they were on the same page and left easily.
Then after they left the people who sold them their car showed up looking for them. These people were so kind, they sold them a car and let them make low payments instead of a lump sum. They just stopped paying them and went MIA. So, I gave them the address to the people they were staying with. I'm glad their out of my life. Fuck you Kris and Xaxior, you guys disgust me.
Edit: Their stupid little beagle kept attacking my German shephard until my dog decided to try and kill him. We caught it in time but it became a huge issue and the bitch who was always there wouldn't stop her dog for months until the incident.
Anything I ever did for my spouse's family. No good deed escaped punishment.
Anything.
I invited a friend to stay with me for the holidays, he ended up having an affair with my girlfriend.
When I was a kid riding the bus home from school I noticed a bug in some guys hair sitting in front of me, told him and he screamed at me.
Loaned a "friend" $20 a couple years ago. She passive-aggressively asks me and my cousin for money now, at random and unbidden. We're afraid she's gonna do it to others in our friend group.
My wife and I inherited some money and wanted to take a ski vacation. We lived in Ohio and decided to go to Mt. Tremblant near Montreal. There were 2 couples who we had skied with that were mutual friends. They had kids and not a lot of money so we said if they can get to the resort we would pay for a 5-bedroom condo for us all to use for a week.
Well, they get there on a rainy day so we stay inside, get things organized, and play cards. Just before bedtime they get a call that a sick, elderly uncle had died. They wanted to stay but felt that the family needed them to rerturn. They took their kids in the morning to a smaller, less expensive ski hill and left for home right after lunch. We rambled around in that condo in a depressed state for a couple days. We did eventually get over it and enjoy ourselves; we had access to a hottub so that helped. But we spent far too much on that trip for what we got out of it.
I have always been there for people whenever they need support, despite my own problems. I've always been betrayed and screamed at for being honest, like stating that I'm not the right person to talk to about certain things and to look for a professional
While I was in college, I was hanging at a beer & burger joint that I also worked at, and a guy came in with a sob story about being short on cash and needing to feed himself and his daughter. I don't recall what he was actually asking for, or if he was even asking for anything, but he seemed genuine and I believed him so I gave him a twenty. I see him a short while later sitting in a booth in the corner drinking on a quart bottle of beer. I go over and ask him why he bought that with the money I gave him to help feed his daughter, and he said he felt he had to buy something to hang out there a while (to warm up maybe, I dunno), and I was like, ok, but why the largest damn beer you can get here instead of a can of soda or something?! I demanded he give me back what was left of my twenty and he did.
Gave a shit.
Just loan someone money. Then you won’t have to listen to them trying to borrow money from you for a while. When they do remind them they still owe you money.
Wife and I were friends with a tattoo artist who broke up with her girlfriend and needed a place to crash to get away from the abusive relationship.
My wife, then girlfriend, wasn't living in her apartment but we were paying for it, so we let the tattooist stay there for months.
My wife is bisexual, so was the tattooist. We were young and a few threesomes took place. A few before she had moved in, one or two after.
We didn't charge her rent, I got her a job at my families construction business when she quit tattooing, we gave her money all the time, even going so far as to buy her whole family Xmas gifts.
She snuck the abusive ex into my wife's place which broke the one rule we set. The ex had been stalking and harassing my wife for months.
We argue, kick the tattooist out. But in the time we had gotten close to her whole family.
She lied. Told the family we were trading her rent for sex, which was almost funny given that we had sex 5 times, 3 of those were before we let her move in, and she lived there for about 6 months. 2 nights of passion wasn't worth 6 months of rent.
Her brother showed up to our place and jumped me. I walked away mostly unscathed save for a black eye, but I got screwed on a $3k job she took the money and ran on, plus she owed me about $2k on other loans.
So for the help I got a handful of great sexual encounters, a black eye, and screwed out of at least $5k.
Oh and get ex stole a bunch of jewelry from my wife while she was in the apartment she wasn't allowed in.
simping on a girl who I thought was single, only to find out she was using my money to pay off her somewhat bf debts...
One of the worst-
When I was 19 I had a best friend whose mother was diagnosed with cancer. I was actually moving out of state at the time because there was nothing in my hometown to do and I was going no where fast staying there. I make the move and 2 months later my friend asks me to move back to help with her mother and her son because she’s losing it and can’t keep up.
So I move back, within about a month she’s taking off for days at a time to go party, got all wrapped up in drugs. Her mother lived for another 14 months or so, I was essentially raising her kid and taking care of her mother. I found her when she fell, which led to her last trip to the hospital where she passed. Once the funeral was over my friend came home and said “Get out, I don’t need you anymore”
I really wasn’t surprised when she said it because things had been continuously declining for a while, but it was still really fucked up.
That was 22 years ago. I haven’t spoken to her in years, but I stay in touch with her son and am happy I got to turn him into a musician at an early age!
After that…..I thought marrying my ex-wife would be a good thing to do, but that backfired on me considerably.
Yes. It's really sad when you discover there's a reason some people are homeless.
I let a friend stay at my place for awhile and on day one he clogged the toilet and didn't know how turn off the water or how to use a plunger. so he leaves the bathroom and casually tells me the toilet is spilling. lol, so there was a lesson learned by both of us that day.
Said I love you
Let someone stay at my house when they fell on hard times.
They stole my guitar and a bunch of other shit to sell.
Where do I even begin. I’ve been screwed over so much in my 20’s and 30’s. I stopped helping people out in my 40’s.
Gave a coworker money so she could pay to get lawyer so she could claim bankruptcy. She did pay me half but I never saw the other half.
Let my best friend (at the time) to stay in my rental property for free and she broke a window and my electric bill went from $30 to 100. She never gave me money to fix the window or electric bill. I asked her why she did this and she said because I make more money than her.
My husband and I stayed an AirBnb and invited his friends to come along because I had never met them before and he wanted them to meet me (we had just gotten married). I bought $400 worth of food and wine and the wife drank all 3 bottles the first night because she’s an alcoholic. They never offered to pay for any meals out (we ate out 3 times a day). We went horseback riding and they were supposed to chip in but never did. The wife was so rude to me the entire time and neither one of them asked me 1 single question about myself. I asked them 100’s of questions to get to know them. The entire trip was about getting to know each other. There were a lot of other things that went wrong but I don’t want to write a novel on Reddit. All I can say is my husband told them to never ever call him again and he permanently lost some friends.
Recently, a neighbor had a herniated lung. His wife left him around the holidays and I felt bad. I offered him a ride to his doctor appointment, which was 2 hours away in each direction. My husband took him to his pre-op appointment, then his surgery appointment, then a few days later picked him up after his surgery. THEN he asked if we could take him to his follow up appointment. My husband said, we would love to but we are busy.
I’m so fricken done with helping people.
We had a competition at work. To clock in right at 8:55. It was hard to do with 6 people. As a manager I said as long as you guys are here BEFORE 8:55, I could change the time clock since they were early. That was because 6 people don’t really have 60 seconds to clock in. It would be 10 seconds a person and most people are too clumsy to be that precise. It wasn’t a big room. If we did this for 8 weeks straight. All of us got $2 raises on our hourly.
Well one of the guys was hell bent on taking my position and reported me to HR for time clock violation, even though it shot us all in the foot for our raises. He didn’t care. MISERABLE bastard that guy was. Everyone hated him and then he got fired months after I left the company.
Most of mine involve my parents.
As a working college student, I lived closer to some elderly relatives than the rest of my family. When one of my elderly relatives began to have serious health issues, I offered to be a primary contact/caregiver for the time being because I was closer and could often get to them sooner. My parents -- who were the children/nieces/nephews of these relatives -- took advantage of this and the job of caring for multiple elderly relatives fell to me from then on. Despite me already working two jobs to put myself through school at night, they were the ones who were "too busy" to care for their own elderly parents and aunts/uncles.
Don't get me wrong; I wanted to help my elders. I love them all dearly, and would've made time to help and visit them regardless of whether my parents had been helping or not. But I should not have been the sole family member responsible for them while I was also struggling to keep myself afloat. I should not have had to quit one job and cut hours on the other, I shouldn't have had to drop down to a single class a semester to be a parent to my grandparents/great aunts & uncles. I shouldn't have been the one to burn myself out so bad trying to balance it all that I wound up in the hospital on a psychiatric hold.
For some reason people dump cats and kittens where I live( apartment complex). An elderly neighbor always feeds them and I had a veterinarian friend come and take a litter of kittens( yes the neighbor knew and said ok). It’s was just drama after, the neighbor coming to my mom’s house to demand where the veterinarian lived and it was this whole fiasco. I’m NEVER helping a neighbor again
I walked up to the new kids in school, boy and girl twins, introduced myself, immediately received a kick to the groin.
Everything
my wife had an internet friend she had chatted with for years who became homeless so we bought her a bus ticket and let her move in with us for a couple months to get a job and a place.
My wife was a teacher and was off for the summer and took her around putting in applications all over town, weeks went by with no job and my wife having to drag her out looking for a job.
Finally one week we were having a yard sale and had to leave for one of the days and asked her to watch it for the day.
She threw a fit, saying she shouldn't have to work '12 hours in the hot sun while we went shopping"
we gave her a one week notice to find another place, week went by and nothing, we wound up renting her a weekly for one week and dropping her off.
when we started cleaning out her room we found dozens of applacations under her bed, not one had been filled out. To top it all off she stole our knives, forks and spoons ..... all of them.
a few weeks later she had found another idiot and moved in with them, then started posting online about how we abused her.
lesson learned
No good deed goes unpunished.
Asked my wife to marry me and she said yes
Hahaha I'm fucking joking!!! Just thought reddit might appreciate a quick joke
Never had anything backfire. I doubt I ever will.
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