Confused? New? Not new? Have questions?

I've been taught (poly 44F for 5+ years) that implementing rules is an attempt to control someone else's behavior. There's a place for rules, but relationships aren't that place. Instead, I set boundaries.

I'm genuinely shocked by the number of people who say "no rules in a relationship is a huge red flag." In my mind, HAVING rules is a red flag.

Anyone else agree here? It may just be semantics, but grown people shouldn't be implementing rules for other grown people.

Agreements and boundaries.